My youngest step son was killed ........ sm
Posted By: m on 2008-12-10
In Reply to: This may seem gross or morbid...sm - curious
in a motorcycle accident and was almost decapitated. The mortician did a very good job with him, but there was still some evidence of the trauma he suffered. His mother chose to have an open casket because I doubt she could have dealt with it any other way. It was a very hard funeral, and hard for me as I had not seen him in quite some time and it was hard seeing him lying in a casket, but I think, hard as it was, it did help bring closure for me and for his family. I think it is a very personal decision that only the family can make at a time like this.
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Youngest DD graduates HS 5/21 :))
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My youngest daughter...sm
won't have anything to do with me - no letter, just hung up on me the last time I tried to call her. I sent her an e-card for her birthday, which I know she picked up, but no response at all from her.
My youngest will be a freshman in
highschool in NJ, starting September 5th. Second year of college for my oldest, community college in NJ, September 4th. He went away to college last year and he would have been starting back today if he went back there.
He should take some lessons from my BF. His youngest
brother was getting married, only invited his parents and 1 sibling (there are 5). He later decided to invite all the other siblings, my BF said no, if I wasn't wanted in teh beginning I'm not going now. Even with his mother getting on his case, he didn't go, even though it was only an hour drive. Your DH needs to develop a backbone. You shouldn't have to be the one to say no. I do agree, it is better to give notice than to wait to last minute. Tell him to pick up the phone and call her.
I would love for my youngest to see it
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Youngest has activities
My youngest is going to summer camp at her school for two weeks (it's pretty expensive and that was all we could afford) and then the rest of the time she'll be outside playing with friends and swimming in our pool. My oldest is going to be swimming, having friends over and watching her sister for me while I work. We also have a vacation planned and her friend is visiting for a week from Florida. The summer usually flies by no matter what the kids are doing. It doesn't always have to be so structured.
it just about killed me ;)
actually I just ran out of $. Keep it up - it is a fantastic way to exercise. Be careful not to let the instructor/yoursel push you too hard.
Today our youngest finally got her first car
Today our youngest finally got her first car. DH and I bought it for her a few months ago and have been slowly fixing it up in anticipation of her getting her license. So today we finally gave it to her. Hubby went and got it insured and titled before he left for the week. He stopped in at the bank to tell me he'd gotten it all taken care of, and mentioned he was going to take the extra set of keys with him so they'd be safe. I said "No, you know she's going to lock the keys IN her car and need us to rescue her! Please leave them home where I can find them."
So he did.
A couple hours ago DD called "Mom, is there another set of keys for my car?"
"Yes, why?"
"I locked my set in the car and I'm stranded... please help me!"
How did I know?
My youngest is Kristina Renae nm
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My youngest has acute gastroenteritis - very ill. Been up with him sm
giving fluids, tylenol/ibu., a clean bucket. Went to church this morning to teach a class, and now I'm working.
But, it's not all bad...He's finally sleeping soundly. I normally work on my company desktop, but today, hooked up my laptop and sitting outside by the pool, overlooking the gorgeous water, working away doing ASR with my candles nearby....
Now, who can complain about going to work after a long night when you can work like tihs? Not me. 
Youngest DD had two starts and stops sm
before she got really started. Don't think I would worry.
Cider? Something other than hot dogs for the youngest
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My youngest is much easier than the older 2 were...
With my oldest 2, it was easy before they turned 18 - they HAD to be in by 11:00 because of junior licenses. After they turned 18, I think it was 10 on school nights and midnight on weekends unless they were spending the night somewhere. DD was the one to argue at every turn. Drove us crazy. Now my youngest DS on the other hand, is such a homebody. He got his license in October and he doesn't go further than a mile or so to hang out with his friends or his cousin. That might all change some day, so we'll see.
My daughter (the youngest) figured it out
at about age 12 or 13 when she was awake when I put a quarter under her pillow for a tooth. She didn't let on to me, but says now (she's 17) that she extrapolated on her own that if the Tooth Fairy didn't exist, probably Santa didn't either. She says she never felt lied to, and cherishes the magic she felt back then.
I had an issue like that with my youngest a while back.
Turns out he was super constipated and the liquid from above was seeping around it. Probably a good idea to get that checked.
I almost killed my cat with tunafish!
Go figure that one out! He was a Maine Coon cat...just HUGE with a huge appetite and I ran out of food, so I grabbed a can of tuna until I could get to the store. That night I woke up to SCREAMING like I have never heard an animal scream before and his whole body was spasming. Oh it was the most horrible thing I had ever witnessed! I called an emergency vet clinic who took him in right away. He had a complete blockage of his urethra and couldn't pee...he was a heartbeat away from blowing his bladder and dying. They had to catheterize him and the bag was full of bloody urine and he spent 3 days in the hospital. I was a wreck but he was ultimately fine. Holy crap did that vet bill nearly cripple me! ICU for a cat...why oh why do I keep on with these friggin' animals?!
You never know what will cause something to go wrong with these things. Never blame yourself...ever. We are all doing the best we can with what we have.
I once had a dream that my dog got killed - sm
and a week later to the day, she did. And it happened exactly like in my dream.
not the ones who end up being killed or prostitutes - sm
no, they don't always come back, there would be no missing persons if that was the case.
Yes, she most definitely killed her...I have no doubts...
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Back in the 70s my youngest sister looked like
Kate Jackson from Charlie's Angels. Not intentionally, she just did. Same hair, facial features, etc. Even more weird was she drove the exact same car as Kate J. did on the show too. So she'd go to the gas station and such, and people would think that's who she was.
I, on the other hand, have never looked like anybody. Except once a 3-year-old that visited our home thought I looked like Juice Newton. (Wasn't that a singer?) Anyway, she kept calling me 'Juice'. It was kind of cute that a baby would think something like that.
Back in the 70s my youngest sister looked like
Kate Jackson from Charlie's Angels. Not intentionally, she just did. Same hair, facial features, etc. Even more weird was she drove the exact same car as Kate J. did on the show too. So she'd go to the gas station and such, and people would think that's who she was.
I, on the other hand, have never looked like anybody. Except once a 3-year-old that visited our home thought I looked like Juice Newton. (Wasn't that a singer?) Anyway, she kept calling me 'Juice'. It was kind of cute that a baby would think something like that.
If her dogs killed my cats
I would probably just tar and feather her, that seems like a good remedy for me.
Yesterday's headlines killed me.
"Dr. Melfi quits treating Tony Soprano to start treating Paris Hilton!"
Too funny.
She said on The View that "Paris called and needed me so I had to make all my time available for Paris and her family!"
How not to get killed?!?!?! How about leave the idi0t!!!
I am very independent and I don't care if I have to go get a one bedroom apartment so my two small kids and I can have a place to go. I would not live in fear of my life over anything! I would figure it all out once I got a restraining order and filed a divorce! Wow, I could say a lot, but I am going to keep my comments to myself. That is what I would do. You asked for advice, there you have it!
Kinda like asking if OJ killed Nicole or not NM
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Or they want to raise them so they can be killed in a senseless war!!
Not that I think it is good to kill fetuses either ... but why don't these people see their lack of logic!
And as far as the stem cells and embryos ... why don't they fight to stop allowing people to fertilize and freeze them to begin with (or more than they will surely use)?!!
I read about a 6yo that killed his classmate
I know this doesn't pertain to you because some kid killed his father after he saw his father committing violence, but I just thought this was interesting article. It's called Why little kids kill. I just cannot fatham anyone at 6 years old doing that. What happened to young innocense....
If I were you and the family seems non-challant I would definitely talk to a police officer and state your concerns. Especially in today's day and age - nothing surprises me.
http://life.familyeducation.com/early-learning/violence/36442.html
nah -- we killed too many brain cells
snorting the crack OUR parents didn't teach us about!
Geesh -- why always so quick to blame the parents? This kid is 14 years old and knew better than to do this. She chose to do it anyway, just like so many others before her time chose to get up knocked up, strung out on drugs, become an alcoholic, etc.
Yes, the kid screwed up, but that's what kids do. Didn't you ever have a friend who stole a car in high school or got caught cheating and ended up expelled? It's not the end of the world, but spreading it all over the media could very well push this kid over the edge and cause her to hurt herself. She obviously is looking for attention or affection. This is certainly not going to help her.
FBI would not step-in sm
without justifiable cause, you wouldn't think... oh the gossip..... I worked with a lady that her husband was molesting the grandchildren, and he served like 20 years. She was in denial, and when he got out she took him back, and there were more grandchildren by then. What a world we live in! 
yes, that is my (our)next step.
we have 14 little kids from ages 5 to 9 in 6 different houses on my street. (2 are mine). when we bought this house 6 years ago, right before my second child was born, we were the only family with kids....this has become too too too much.
It's a serious step, but.... (sm)
if you are firmly committed to the animal it's sometimes for the best for peaceful coexistence. I had to have my first cat declawed at my mother's insistence (I still lived at home). I took a day off work and babied him as he recovered from this major surgery. After I was married, our second cat we had to have done because she couldn't understand why the other cat could scratch everything and she couldn't! I couldn't get her to stick with the scratching post, of course! We had those two for many years and after the first one died, we got a kitten, and since the second cat was never much of a "scratcher," he was easier to train and is intact. The second cat later passed away of old age and we adopted an older cat who seems to like my couch, but given that he is an escape artist, I've decided I have to live with it in case he gets out.
Another option is those little rubber caps that they have in the pet store that glue onto the claws; sometimes they can buy you some time while you work on training.
Good luck!
Step up
You need to step up here and be the parent. . Tell your husband. . Do not let your child bully/scare you into allowing her to continue this behavior. . Make her stick to your rules.. When she is staying with approved friends, call the parents and make sure she is there. . Where would she go if she left home? I doubt there is anywhere else she would be treated as well or have things as nice as she does in her own home with her loving parents. . She is a smart girl and will realize that - she is just playing you.. It is your duty to raise her in the way YOU konw is right.
Her name was Meredith Emerson, and it was just last January that she was killed.
I know the story very well, and even hiked in memory of her a few weeks after she was killed. Her murder caused great grief along the entire 2100+ miles of the trail, and all of us who love the trail know full well what can happen out there.
The trail community is very difficult to explain to people who haven't experienced it. Yes, people have been killed on the Appalachian Trail, probably about a dozen or so in the over 70 years that the trail has been open. Given the thousands who walk all or part of the trail each year, it is statistically safer on the trail than in "civilization". You are correct, however, that hikers are more in danger than the people who pick them up. The most dangerous places on the trail are at the trailheads and near roads where people pretend to help hikers and then do harm. That is why I pick up hikers, because they are more afraid of me than I am of them. Also, there's quite a bit of communication that goes up and down the trail, and we do keep track of people as they travel. It's very likely that when I pick someone up near the trail, I've heard about their trip. In hiker slang, people who help hikers are called trail angels. It's a different situation. It's not 100% safe, but I choose not to cower at home. I hike the A.T. and other trails, usually with friends, sometimes alone. I tell my family, that if harm should come to me, either through accident or evil, they should remember that I go into the woods because I love it, and should I die there, they should remember that I loved it too much to stay away.
The Appalachian Trail is not the lawless, dangerous passageway that so many people think it is. More times than I can count, I've been asked about the dangers of the trail. Usually I just shrug and smile. It's not worth the argument, because I can't change the minds of people who don't know. On the other hand, I don't want to change minds. If I did, there'd be traffic jams on the trail, and it wouldn't be fun anymore.
Or if you step on a crack
you break your mother's back. To this day I have an OCD thing where I can't step on cracks. I wonder if this is why.
Well you just described my Step-mom, even though I love her. nm
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To: Think you should step back sm
Nah, you are not worth a reply! You get back what you put in... nothing!!!! Zilch - Hey, next time step up -- leave a REAL NAME!!! Coward!
HA! Me too. My son is using my step machine
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She has a step-father who can be
somewhat of a tyrant. I hope he is not the cause. 
Well, Step-One: Get it appraised by an outside
on TODAY's market, which in most areas is anywhere from 40%-50% lower than it would've appraised for 3 years ago, when home values were obscenely inflated.
Then see about the loan at the current appraisal rate, NOT what it was worth 3 years ago. Maybe you'll have better luck that way.
Friend or not, I would shy away from having the house appraised by someone who is a friend of the current owner's. That would be a conflict of interest that's better steered clear of.
Good luck!
The only thing that works for my youngest daughter is Prell shampoo. nm
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Two youngest grandchildren here tonight. They love breakfast for supper. (sm)
Will do bacon, hashbrowns, a frittata, biscuits and juice. If their mom gets here in time for supper will do gravy for her biscuits. The kids and my husband don't care for biscuits and gravy. (Go Figure).
Women with restraining orders are killed by their abuser
Don't get a false sense of security. There have been good advances in the past 20 years but it's still a man's world.
Stay in contact with your friends and family and make sure to give a few of them a code word. Something like the sky is blue or I really want chinese food and they will know to call the police if you are in trouble. Do what you need to do to protect yourself. Do not count on the police. I was attacked in my home 2 hours after leaving the courthouse. I even called 911 when I got home because I was scared. They were on their way but he got there faster.
I was young and nieve and had a newborn I was thinking about. I wish someone would have told me not to go home. Please don't be nieve like I was and trust the system and that piece of paper. It's hard to imagine your home isn't safe or that someone is going to be 100x more aggressive then you have ever seen them be.
I would move and change your numbers and make sure if you work outside your home you alert EVERYONE including the receptionist and your boss/manager and security.
If she doesn't care about the fact that her dog killed your 2 cats
I don't understand why you are so afraid of offending her??!!! I don't know how much time has passed, but I would have been rip roaring FURIOUS at her, SIL or not, that she allowed her dog to do that not once but twice. She sounds pretty self-centered and uncaring to me.
UNC Student Killed, now WBC protestors plan to picket
I live in NC and the news of the murdered student body president (out of respect will not list her name here) has upset all of us in this area, of all religions and non-religious as well. The WBC is a radical group calling themselves "Christians" who plan to protest at UNC during the memorial service for this beloved young woman. The group is listed as a "hate group" but call themselves Christians and wear shirts and bear signs saying "God hates you" and God hates colleges, etc. Their website proclaims "thank God another college student is dead." This is so horrible and unspeakable. For those who are not Christian, please do not believe for one moment that this represents common Christian viewpoints. It definitely does not. The vast majority of Christians are horrified at what these people believe and proclaim.
Personally, I do not see this as a step backwards--sm
as MOST of the women seeking abortion are children themselves and only want to rid themselves of a situation they created, being oblivious and not wanting to face any consequences of..getting pregnant. In other words, they want to be able to have sex without paying any price for that, i.e. having a baby. A lot of these *children* seeking abortion should be made to see that what they are seeking to terminate is human life and if that child were born, it would be considered murder. This human life is not a *tumor* or *cyst* that must be excised to save ones own life, but is a human life all its own. Viewing an ultrasound of that baby prior to having an abortion may deter some *children* from going through with that procedure. Other than the *forcing* aspect of it, I really think it would eliminate a lot of needless abortions. More strenuous parental control on these *children* having sex in the first place would be a better alternative. JMO
Still, one needs to step back and be objective
This kid came to the US at age 8, probably not speaking English. His parents probably did not speak English, so he has to learn English at school. He was no surrounding by a Korean community. He was put in the middle of an English speaking neighborhood. Info coming out about his parents certainly seem that they were also loaners, so to speak, without a support system. Can you just imagine what this kid felt? If his parents have no real friends, they speak Korean, he is supposed to speak English and he, according to others, had no real friends, never socialized. So, before someone says this had nothing to do with where he came from, we have to think in this case it may had.
When a child that age is taken from his community (and he does have friends at that point), without a good support system around him, they do not flourish. The kids that had to be uprooted at that age with hurricane Katrina found themselves in other schools, other communities, no one they know. My daughter taught several of those children and I can say that they really do have resentment, bitterness, withdrawn, scared, isolated, and it comes out. Many of their parents are not coping, so how do they cope? This kid went all through school not fittng in. With that hateful play of a child killing his stepfather, I can't help but wonder if he lived with his father or stepfather, and if he didn't feel all these things after being taken from his homeland. He lived in an affluent area, which is far different than he lived in. If he never fit in, and not knowing his home life, one could open their minds to how he finally cracked.
Your husband needs to step up to the plate, no one else can do it!!
He needs to do it at the next opportunity. You teach people how to treat you. His silence speaks volumes to them. I feel for you. Went through something a little like this with my MIL for YEARS. She had nothing against me, just the fact that her dear son had married anyone. He finally told her to watch what she said to me or to anyone else about me because word was getting back to me or he would have no contact with her. She turned overnight into the best friend I have ever had. I have never heard her saying another bad word about me. Your husband needs to put these people on *notice* and NOW. Best of luck to you.
How wonderful to know someone like your step-uncle!
Have a great weekend with your family!
There are 6 of us, 3 boys and 3 girls, some of us are even step
We all get along fairly well actually, its some of the sistes-in-law and brothers-in-law that we cannot stand ! LOL. Thankfully, (not to be mean), but everyone, except 1 is divorced from the ones we couldnt stand and now they have found others that we get along with. My one brother is still single after his divorce.
We used to kid around "what is wrong with so-and-so? - Oh yeah, they are not like us!!"
Step up and be the parent! If he decides he wants
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Why a mini-strike? Keep it up and they will step up
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