My understanding is that both parties involved are black. nm
Posted By: clhmt on 2007-09-10
In Reply to: and this happened in GA - probably a racist cop - nm
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We did not do parties except on special
occasion birthdays, normally just took the kids to see their grandparents as they did want to see them on their birthday. However, it is your tradition and if your in-laws do not want to participate leave it up to them. Invite them and they can choose what to do. Don't change your traditions because they don't "approve."
Birthday parties
My oldest daughter stopped having elaborate parties when she was 12. When she was 13 I took her and one friend to NYC to see a play, when she turned 14 I took her to a concert just the two of us, and this past year when she turned 15, we just had family and really good friends (4) and then I dropped them off at the movies. It just got too be too expensive. My youngest daughter has been having parties for her friends for the past few years (she's 5), but her birthday is in the summer, so we just have a pool party for her. On the other spectrum, I have a friend who lives across the street, and her two children have never had a birthday party (13 and 8) with anybody but their immediate family.
Imagination is when all parties know it's just a game.
If you were fine with finding out Santa was just a myth, fine, hopefully your kids will be the same. But don't have a cow just because some people aren't into the Santa thing. And I don't have kids, so you don't have to worry about my "poor kids." And it's not necessary to e-mail me to express your anger over my opinion.
Just another work day here. No parties, No BBQs. What
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We usually go to house parties in our neighborhood. - NM
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legal as long as both parties are 18+
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Birthday parties. What do ya'll do? I have a son turning 6 sm
and it's like we know everyone in the world! We are booking this place that can hold a lot of kids, so it's not like I'm paying by head count. He's turning 6, so I wasn't going to invite "girls" but ended up inviting both because I know that some parents would get their feelings hurt. Do you tend to do that? Like invite so and so because so and so knows so and so and if you don't invite so and so, so and so might get offended? LOL
I just sent out the invites and 5 families are invited who have kids that don't really play with my son but I know that if they "found out" we had a party and their kids weren't invited they would be hurt.....
Ahh, the trial and relationships of life! Okay, so why did I do it? Because I hate hurting people's feelings and I don't do it if it is in my power not to do it. So there.
Next door neighbor's teen having parties
I am sooo sick of the next door neighbors. It is a mom and 2 teenage daughters. They have been having a party going on 5 days now. Tons of cars over partially blocking our driveway, loud talking and laughter, underage drinking, throwing their litter (beer cans) onto our side of the yard...etc. I just want to sit out on my porch and not have a gang of teens a few feet away. What kind of mom lets this kind of thing go on and these kids (boys and girls) have spent the night every night. I am sick of it. I thought it would end with today being Monday and the holiday weekend being over. But they continue to hang out over there. I just want peace and quiet like it is usually here. What would you guys do? I would love to call the cops on them but have never done anything like that before. I just feel like this is ridiculous especially since we live in apartment homes and not houses so our duplexes are very close together. 
I STILL Give my Kids B-day parties, my baby is 17!
Nothing elaborate, but I make them their favorite dinner, buy them a nice gift and have the rest of the family over. It is a nice time for everyone to get together and visit.
I could not imagine letting one of my childrens' birthdays go by uncelebrated.
I would tell my MIL that you are never going to stop giving your sons birthday parties but if she does not want to attend she is excused.
I wouldn't let her stop you from having that special day with you and your child.
Volunteering. Church. Political parties.
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What are you not understanding? lol
See link: :)
http://www.answers.com/topic/scrapple
Thanks for understanding..sm
I don't really know what statement Tom Cruise had made. It was late last night when I posted about anti-depressants and I did not want to get into a big long drawn out explanation of why I felt that way. I shouldn't have to, as it is just my own opinion. But now I have explained why I feel about anti-depressants as the way I do. I don't want any arguments either. Time is way too short to bicker about things that really don't matter any. Everybody has their own opinions about things and that should be respected. Unfortunately, that does not happen much on this board.
thanks again.
my understanding
it is my understanding that a spouse can receive SS benefits off of their retired spouse, I'm not sure how much, it's not as much as the working spouse; I read "up to half", but I believe that is further reduced if the non-working spouse begins receiving benefits before full retirement age and will remain at that rate even after reaching retiement age.
as far as Medicare goes; it is available to all individuals meeting the age (and in some cases health) requirements.
thanks for your understanding
and your opinion. I am hoping you are wrong, but I am taking what you say into consideration. I think we will ultimately see a counselor because we do want it to work, but I am aware of the fact that it may not, even if we want it to...
I don't think it's wrong to want to have friends over for casual dinners and theme parties... :( or even GO out for the occasional dance! When I start a family I will not be planning on going out dancing... just thought I'd add that...
I need help understanding ...
I did not grow up wealthy, but solidly middle class. We had a city house, and a country house (10 weeks every summer) my father was a business man, my mother a teacher. In my adult life, I have been rich and I have been poor, but with a friends and family safety net, mostly in between. Not everyone is so fortunate, and I feel it is our responsibilty as citizens to help each other. Why should someone be able to have life saving surgery simply because they are wealthy, as opposed to someone with no insurance OR someone whose insurance won't pay? Why should someone in this country, who works full time, go hungry and without dental and medical care?
Please, explain it to me, I need to learn about this very self absorbed kind of thinking. I need to understand how those who claim to be on "the religious right" couldn't care less about a starving, poorly educated born child, but get all hissy about a fetus.
Please, tell me.
Sorry am not understanding
pirate in his sites- did the President go somewhere?
I am not understanding of what you are saying
The person above saying she thought we both were spoiled. I in no way am making her or anyone else pay for that, just don’t understand where you get my being spoiled has anything to do with the issues we have between us. I am far from miserable, have wonderful marriage, travel a lot, have most I strive for, just don’t have to struggle like in earlier years. I would be the first to admit spoiled but that does not play into the relationship. Cannot figure your answer out???
Wow! Unusually understanding cop! - sm
When I had only had my license for about a year, I got stopped north of L.A. for slowing down in the left-hand lane of traffic on an older fwy. that had only 2 lanes in each direction. What that dipstick didn't understand was, the offramp I was exiting on the old-style, on the left side. It also had a very sharp curved marked ཕ MPH' on it, so I had slowed from 65 to about 55 as I was easing off the fwy., and he gave me a ticket once I'd stopped at the bottom. He said I got the ticket because 'a car passed me on the right'. Only thing is, I later checked the Calif. driver's handbook, and according to that, passing on the right was legal on freeways. Of course back then I was too young & too much of a chicken to fight the ticket in court. And, I had all my friends with me that day, who usually preferred to ride with me 'cause I was a safe driver! So, of course I was mortified..........
Sometimes I'm also the only one out there who slows down in the rain, too. I don't get these guys who still try to drive 75 when there's an inch and a half of water on the roadway. I've hydroplaned in a downpour, pulling a TRAILER, no less, at only 32 mph. So I have a very healthy respect for bad weather!
Driving in the Sierras during a snowstorm can be entertaining. On interstate 80 there is usually a spot where, if you don't have 4WD and snow tires, you're required to stop and chain up. A large percentage of the drivers on that road in winter aren't going up to ski, they're on their way to Reno, often for the first time in winter. They'll stop at the checkpoint, pay some guy $10 to put their chains on, and then as soon as they've gone a short ways, and they think no one's watching them, they stop and take the chains OFF! Further up the moutain, as you're going over Donner Pass, there are often cars everywhere; on the center divide, in snowbanks on the side, etc. And of course then there are the teenagers that think 4WD = invincibility. They think the extra traction that gets them moving in the snow will also stop them faster. NOT!! What I worry about the most when I go up skiing in a storm is one of those bozos skidding into me....
Understanding how you feel
really I am but when the diagnosis came thru on my child, that was devastating for her and me both. That was much, much worse than ever knowing the fact she had engaged in premarital sex. I did not worry about babies but having been thru all the reports on people dying right and left I was a basket case. She is now 10 plus years since and get this, another shocker for me-she tells me stopped taking her antiretrovirals some time ago as they are so poisonious for your system. She is now grown (30+) so I cannot make her decisions. That is certainly 1 I would not have made but I do not delve into her life, only here for backup.
It is my understanding that the owner of the --sm
property has the right to ask anyone to leave. It is their property and they do not OWE you to live there, even if you have been there all your life. If you are paying less rent than the average renter, I can see why he is doing this. You may be a good tenant, but everything, these days, comes down to dollars and cents. He may not have to do too much to "renovate," but he can get a much bigger price in rent. I really don't think you have a leg to stand on and I am sorry for your situation, but the owner can do anything they want to with their property.
Thank you for your kindness and understanding. I SM
will make a call in the next few days to find some help. I don't usually think of myself, but this has been so terribly difficult.
you mentioned innate understanding.... sm
I do believe that God instills in each of us a connection to him. I believe that this is why so many people who are constantly searching and seeking fulfillment in anything but God and his holy word are having a problem finding that peace and fulfillment that they so desparately crave.
Thanks, you are a real understanding person....nm
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You are not understanding me. It doesn't matter how he gets the info. sm
If he works for the police department he most certainly can go into the archives or whatever you want to call it and pull up this guy's history or past. I'm telling you, they can do that. It is not a secret. Someone's police records are NOT a secret at all. Nothing like a medical record. All records are public knowledge. You can obtain them. You can obtain a rap sheet on ANYONE if they have one and you ask for one. If a business were to do a criminal background check you are given one on that person if they have a background. These records are not protected. The paper can run your history, anyone can run your criminal history and I think it's great.
It was my understanding, the checks are mailed out on Fridays, and
delivered..provided the mailing address was correct!
How much are stamps these days???
Be patient, kind, loving and understanding . . .
sounds to me like he is missing you and your mom/family life. He is probably hurting right now and needs you and for some reason he finds great comfort in being with you. My dad died 13 years ago and I loved having him around. I know your situation is different, but be the comfort he needs right now and I am sure this will end in time. He is looking for reassurance for something. Who divorced who? He is probably hurting a great deal right now even though he does have a new girlfriend. You won't regret being there for your father. Trust me.
My understanding from my attorney is that during the divorce process,
from the time I file until the time it is final, the judge can issue an order forcing him to leave until it is final and a decision is made about splitting the property.
He takes lithium for his bipolar disorder, but yesterday when he was released from jail, he went to the ER because he was apparently vomiting profusely and was found to have lithium toxicity. So now he's not taking his lithium and I'm sure he will use this as an excuse to not take it anymore.
I'm having a hard time understanding having a baby for selfish reasons...
My older sister feels the same way and doesn't want kids.
As I pointed out above, I'm being selfish by wanting my alone time and doing my own thing and not having to care for someone else.
but watching my little sister be a mother, it is one of the most SELFLESS acts I've ever seen.
So I guess I'm confused at how come you point out that it is selfish... just because you love babies doesn't make you selfish to have them. and of course it's "necessary" or we as a human race would be over ;)
I just feel like being a mother is the toughest job in the world... so I don't know how to combine selfish with that. I do see your point in a way that we want something to love, but I just look at it as being a family... I want a family. I know there are people who are content on their own... but I guess your point would be "WHY" do i want that family? I can't answer that in specific terms.
I guess it's to share the love that me and him have with a child or children some day... to expand our happiness. well i guess that is selfish. ha.
I'm glad you are such a good mom. I don't know what I'd do without mine.
Not involved
NM
I would have never ever gotten involved with my
I only did because he accepts my biracial son and is a father to him. I guess you can say I settled. He loves me totally and completely but I cannot love him and will not marry him. ever.
And I was involved with a CASA
before for stepgchildren and personally I did not find them to be that hot. They actually played a part in giving back the children to a strung-out mother who lived off the welfare system, never worked, lazy, good for nothing but they feel like "kids should be with their mothers." Ok, so they went back and last I heard the mother was gone and the kids out on the streets, oh well you live and learn. Mothers around not always the best.
Has anyone been involved with Meetup.com?
I've been thinking about starting a meetup group to get my daughter together with other girls her age who enjoy art and crafting. But I'm a little hesitant to start one because I don't have any experience with being involved in a group this way. I really wouldn't want to hold anything at my house right away with complete strangers, that would be something that could happen later on as we all got to know each other better. I would love to hear about experiences that people have had with any type of group that has met this way. Thanks!
There's a landlord involved here?
You have rights - if he is violating the rules and/or the law with respect to noise violations he either fixes the problem or moves. Check out the law in your state.
I didn't say I was getting involved - sm
I simply told the background and asked for positive thoughts for her and her son. That's it. I'm not going to tell her what to do.
Right now I am involved in about 15 things and I'm trying to sm
find a way to cut it down to half. If you are older and you don't have small kids, then I suggest getting involved in church more. I have 3 young sons so we are constantly going from ball practice to ball practice. In between that I teach 2 Sunday School classes, attend a mid-week Bible study, have lunch with husband every Friday, work out 4 days a week, work 25+ hours a week at MQ, visit friends and family out of town quarterly, PLUS I am involved heavily in 2 other major ministries at church - Pastor prayer partners and the Invitation Team.
If that isn't enough, I scrapbook like crazy and take lots of pictures.
I also write notes to people I haven't seen in a while, or I'll just write cards to people in general and tell them I'm praying for them and that takes an hour or so.
Oh, did I also mention that I am a freelance writer for a Christian publication?
I also write material and Bible studies for our church.
I used to bowl every Thur. morning, but quit that. May take up an evening league one night a week. I love to bowl.
I am up LATE every single night and hit the ground running early in the morning to start homeschooling. The only time I have to myself every single day is after 10 o'clock every night. If I need 2 hours I take 2 hours. If I need more sleep, then I'm in bed by 10:30. I take whatever time I need for myself every single day.
Find something you enjoy and just do it. Take a class at the library. Learn to quilt. Learn to sew. Learn to play an instrument. The key is doing something you enjoy doing: cooking, reading, etc.
Life is too short to waste doing nothing or sitting around wasting time. There's work to be done!!!!!!!
guess you'd say I'm really involved!
I was close to my mother's parents as a child. They were my second parents and I probably lived half the year on their farm. I see it as being a good thing for me. My GP lived way out in the woods and never drove "to town," so they only left home to attend weddings and funerals, otherwise my parent(s) took me there.
When my daughter was pregnant, I lived 1000 miles away, but we talked on the phone almost daily. When my GD was born, I was able to visit when she was 2 weeks old and I knew I had to move back to the area. She is a manipulative person and I had long ago set limits that I would do anything for her out of love that didn't involve money, so I kept my GD every other weekend and more if asked. I supported my daughter emotionally in every way I could. If she asked my opinion, I always tried to give a balanced opinion and never interfered when my opinion was not asked, although if something came up later I would try to offer options for a situation. When things fell apart for her, I am glad I was there to catch my GD so she was not lost to CPS. I am now adopting her.
I am blessed to be a grandmother...although I hope this is the only one :)
Grandparents are not involved much. . sm
It's funny you should ask this question today. My mom, who lives 90 minutes away, came for a visit. We haven't seen her in about 4 months. My 2-year-old didn't know who the heck she was and was scared of her for the first day she was here. We only see her 3 to 4 times a year. I wish we could see her more. My dad died when my oldest was one. He had never even met him.
My husband's parents have little to do with the kids. They live 20 minutes away, and we hardly see them. It really hurts because they always have my SIL's kids. They are the same age as my kids and spend almost every weekend at their house. During the summer, they spend even more time with them. After a couple of years of this, I finally asked them why they don't ever have my kids over. They said they will try to spend more time with them. Last summer, they invited the oldest to spend one night, and the SIL's kids were there. I am giving up. Sorry this got so long. I am really sad about this right now.
Involved with grandsons
age 15 and 8.... My DH & I sold our home as did my daughter and SIL. We bought one together. My daughter could not "bear" it if something happened to us so she pretty much decided this four years ago. So far it has worked out pretty well except I can't be involved with the grandsons spiritually as they are into another "type" of spiritual organization than I. That has been and probably always will be the most difficult task I have ever encountered to share my beliefs with them. I just continue to pray that everyone will be on the right path TOGETHER in the end.
CPS does tell if lawyer gets involved. have had every detail given to me before sm
when they were called in me for my kids riding their bikes in the neighborhood streets like every kid in the neighborhood did. we hired lawyer, refused the one on one investigation at school with the kids, and had the "meeting" at the laywers office. never allowed them in our home, but our lawyer got every detail of the report, which was passed onto us. we had the date, the name of the person who called, their address, everything.
I did try to get a consumer advocate involved
but no luck. Called 1 day and would not take my call, guess he had more important ones that day. I agree totally with you about getting a news channel involved, I just decided maybe if I went the court way might would stand a chance, knew I could go after their banking acct or garnishment if the courts on my side and it turned out that way. The price they owe me has gone up over $100 just for my court costs and now they owe those in addition to what it was in the first place. The courthouse steps is the way the county does where I purchased the furniture. We could have it at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, just as long as I retrieve what is owed.
How is it not a big deal when there are kids involved? (sm)
He has a choice - I have given him 10 years and he just does not care about my opinion. Why can he not change at all to keep his family together?
You talk like the only ones involved with big taxes
My father got killed in an accident, left me his property, I sold and for upcoming year MY taxes on that ALONE over $13,000.00. I did not fuss, I did not oh woe me- just put that money in the bank to draw interest until tax time. Know I owe and have that set aside. That does not count all the other taxes DH and I pay for the year and I sound like a grinch? Sure don’t get that remark. I am as much into keeping all that I can but EVERYONE (unless on welfare) has to pay their share, until and if they change the laws. I would be glad for any bonus he or I either one got but not happening here, so where does grinch come in?
Unless your son was involved in the incident, they probably would not inform you.
If the schools had to inform all parents of every single incident that occured between students, that could be a full-time job unto itself for 2 or 3 people in some schools. It sounds like the school took proper measures in disciplining the students involved in the incident.
As far as the post below regarding the 4th grade girl and her lies, I am sure that the boy in question knew what she was saying and may or may not have told his parent(s). At any rate, that would be a matter for the families of the children involved.
Illegal and all involved should be prosecuted.
NM
apologies heal all involved --
acknowledged or not.
I am inspired.
If you care about your kids, you will be involved sm
in the drama of high school life! I am very involved with my kids and their "drama" because I am a good listener and care about what my kids have going on in their life. I am there to listen to them and give them advice. Isn't that what parents are for?
I would throw the son a b-day party and if girls came, they came. If not, you can still have fun with just the boys. Do a campout for them. Sounds like the girl needs to get a life and get over it! She is just jealous.
Does not really matter why, especially if there are children involved
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Since there are kids involved, I'd think long and hard (sm)
about leaving him. It's quite easy for others to tell you he needs to be dumped, but they sure won't live with the aftermath.
Take the 100k and remodel the house. Forget adding on. Spend the money on creating a fabuous kitchen with hearth room, fix structural defects, redo the kids' rooms; totally redecorate exactly the way you want with no regard to his taste, and get a nice new minivan to haul the kids around to play dates.
Oh, spare a little money to build a bedroom in the barn. He loves the yard and barn so much, he can live there.
See, this way if you stay and work on your marriage, you'll have a beautiful home you can live with. If his selfish ways finally push you beyond tolerance and love for him, you'll have a great house to put on the market. With your half of the sale, you'll finally be able to have the home you've always dreamed of. It's a win-win for you.
That is precious. It really is. Too many husbands not involved these days! nm
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For the sake of her family. There are children involved.
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I don't understand the ethics of the doctors involved
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