My solution to your stress
Posted By: would be on 2007-01-04
In Reply to: INCOMPETENCE....AARRGGHH - just ventin'...sm
just BEAT HIM. LOL. J/K of course.
I would be upset too. Look for another company to go through. Unreal.
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Boy, if stress is the trigger, I'm surprised I'm not one big blister. Stress is my middle name
and MT-ing is my game..
Stress when is enough enough?
Wanted to gab to get some feedback. Right now, it seems like everywhere this MT turns there's stress. DH going through final hearing for child support his ex won't pay for years, she threatening to take the kids away so he has to pay child support, etc. I just switched jobs within the last year, and although I am doing well the one I chose, it has been really stressful trying different MTSOs out to find the right one, or the fairest one. Top it off, my 2nd computer in 6 months just died today and my lovebird cage just fell down from the ceiling wrecking the living room, the cage, and scaring me and the birds half to death. Last week, when my son went for visitation, he wanted to stay home and not go with his dad, he screamed so loud the police chased his dad down in the car, and they came here to make sure he was not a kidnapper. I am not kidding! Look, I am not looking for pity. It just seems that as I sit here and write this to you (who I don't even know), that since I work at home transcribing 6 days a week, am fully involved with my son at home and step kids all the time (no life outside the house to speak of anymore) I am absolutely at a ridiculous point of stress. Any happy coping suggestions in response to this sad situation other than, go to the "mental health board," or "get a life..." etc. Thanks in advance for your kind comments. Just a sister MT trying to cope with job and home and trying to find advice from anyone who has "been there." Thanks.
STRESS
I am so sorry to hear about your friend (coworker). I cry with you. I hope and pray that you can find someone at your facility that will see what is happening and help you make changes!!!
Why can't anyone realize that the stress we face is great?
God Bless You and your other coworkers!!
My solution
I had this happen many, many years ago and it affected our credit score, etc. I finally went on line and got the names of the Chairman of the Board, members of the board, etc. very high up personnel. I sent a registered, signature and receipt required to the chairman with copies to all the members of the board and needless to say I got immediate reaction. I also cc the local mortgage company with their names, etc. on it. Be sure to get a copy of your credit report to make sure that all the payments are being reported to being "on time" or that could also mess you up and you can sue for that. Tell them you will be seeking the advice of a lawyer if this happens again. You are right, if your credit report has been damaged, you have been damaged and can receive compensation. But somehow find the President, Chairman of the Board, etc. and write to them with a cc to this local office manager and the bafoo that you talked with. Good luck. It will take your time but it is well worth it.
Solution???
Find someone who wrote them a check and have them pull it up in their statement and you will see their bank on there on the back of their check.
My solution
Sleep less, bake more. Just bite the bullet and stay up some night and make the dough and then a day or two later cut them out and bake them. I had to do that for years and years, but I had a big incentive because all those doughs at the grocery store give me massive heartburn. Of course, I eat them anyway and the stay up all night anyhow because I did. So, see you could just make your own yummy dough and avoid heartburn. Don't you love how I have "organized" you all up? See if someone you know will double their batch and share dough with you if you can't afford to lose the sleep. I have done that for friends in the past. We all need to stick together in the baking department.
One solution
Maybe all those who are offended by MERRY CHRISTMAS should just stay out of the stores and shop via catalogs during the CHRISTMAS season. Or, the store could require them to receive and sign a disclaimer/waiver at the front door. Or, the stores could post warning signs; they post warning signs about other stuff. After all, is really should not be a HUGE SURPRISE to shoppers during the CHRISTMAS season that some folks may just want to say and hear, MERRY CHRISTMAS!! DUH. If it is true that Lowes' employees are fired if they actually use the word CHRISTMAS, I will be one of those that boycotts the store.
Unfortunately, these come off. Not 100% solution,
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my solution...
i try to get the hubby to switch cars when i'm low so i never have to fill up. LOLOLOL
my solution
to hand the bills over to my husband. He doesn't like me saying "we don't have the money" so when I took a paycut to stay at home with kids (joint decision) and he couldn't get used to less money coming in, I handed him the checkbook and said "its your turn for a while." We have no extra money anyway so he can't mess things up that bad. I know he will pay the bills and all that. He just needs to see for himself that we have to cut back. It has taken about 9 months but now I crack a smile every time he tells me "we need to wait until we get paid again" or something of the like...he's finally realizing how expensive things are and that every couple dollars adds up.
i have a solution.
three would work. i have thought about this before. one would work days, one would work afternoons, one would work evenings. you could stay at hom. a living room with a tv and family room with a tv would probably be a good thing also. this way your schedule would not collide. you could get the fixing of the house stuff done, and probably have enough money to pay the bills.
My solution
This girl is evidently sick in the head. If she is going to college and all that she also knows full well what she is doing and planned this out a long time ago. This is what I think, ready...
1. The baby's and her previous children should not be made to suffer. Take care of them and let people adopt them who can give them a good home.
2. All money paid to this girl should be spent to pay off hospital bills and she should not receive one penny of it.
3. Whatever is not covered should then be sent as a bill to this wacked out person.
4. This wacko should be institutionalized. In my opinion (I say that cos I'm not qualified to say that with certainty), but in my opinion she has got some major mental problems.
5. She needs to be sued by the state. Here she is...no job, evidently going to school and she goes to BH and has this procedure done. Usually when parents are doing IVF they have planned out ahead of time whether or not they can afford it and the future baby(s). She knew she couldn't afford it and she had it done anyway...this is theft of public money, and if she was counting on welfare to foot the whole bill they should sue her.
6. Throw the doc in jail that performed the procedure and take away his license.
7. Sterilize the nut case.
Sorry if I sound harsh, but these are hard economic times and we're all listening to this whacked out lady that all she is interested in is money. She could care less about the children. Just a prop for her to receive more money that she does not deserve.
The health and welfare of these innocent children should be saved.
Oh yes, lastly sterilize her. When someone puts their own interest before their childs and knowingly has them as a way of her "making her millions" they do not deserve to have any more.
My solution...sm
You don't have to cook dinner for him and the mistress. If your husband wants to still hang with him, that's his prerogative, but you simply remove yourself from it. If he shows up at your house with her, find a reason to leave the house for a bit. If they invite you out, decline.
You don't have to give a reason to him, or her. You're not obligated to host him (and her). If your husband wants to...he can.
I understand him not wanting to upset the long work relationship, but you don't have that. It sounds like your husb will understand you not wanting to be a part of it.
Your solution is the better solution, put her into
this assisted living place you found for over $ 1,000.--a month.
Then your aunt has more freedom, you can visit her and I agree, living with relatives is always difficult and gives reaon for arguments.
my solution also
I didn't really plan on getting up at 4:00 a.m. to be able to leave by 5:00 but it seems like that is the best idea.
christmas stress . . .
Due to the high stress nature of my husband's and my parents, we no longer tell them about the children's school events ( I know, sounds horrible, doesn't it?). My husband's father, whom we see three times a year, and has absolutely NO relationship with our children, called the school and found out when their concert was. He and his wife showed up last night, sat in front of us, he said two words to my husband (his son) all night long. When we got home last night and wanted to decorate the tree, my husband blew a gasket. He cannot handle it. It bothered him SO much that his dad showed up that he screamed and yelled at us until my daughter and I were in tears and my sons wanted him to leave. My daughter, lying in bed crying while I tucked her in said "we do this every year, mom". In order to get a grip on the kind of relationship my husband and his father have I would have to go on and on. basically, he adopted my husband when he married my husband's mother years ago. They split up the year we got married. My husband tried very, very unsuccessfully to maintain a relationship with him over the years and finally came to a point where he gave up. We have awkward moments and conversation when we are together. We have nothing in common, they don't really care about the kids, because they are not there to actually spend time with them and get to know them. We prayed for my husband last night, and my daughter asked me if something happened in his childhood. How do I get my husband to deal with this so we don't have to go through this every year?????
you are in posttraumatic stress right now--sm
go to the ER. Have someone drive you, if you feel you may leave the car running again. They will be sympathetic and guide you as to what is appropriate care for you. I feel your pain! My children's father took his own life on Father's Day two years ago and a cousin of mine took his own life less than a month later. I know the feeling, believe me. You will get better though, trust me. good luck to you and keep us all informed. you need compassionate friends right now, too. {{hugs}}
stress causes it too, my child has it....
and is also on metformin which causes more problems....has been to the GI doc who is really not much help....in this case, stress causes it...child doesn't drink....26 y/o.....
hope you feel better.....google IBS - you'll learn how to cope/deal....
stress, work, stress, work, stress, work
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What do you do for stress relief?
I am having a tough time blowing off steam lately and looking for some stress relief ideas...some for in the moment and some for just routine daily/weekly life stress.
I am pregnant so moods are crazy and I am just having difficulty letting go of even the smallest of things. Looking for some pointers, ideas, suggestions.
My garden tub used to do the trick but now that I work until late at night and have a child home from school for the summer, it is difficult to find the time for that or mani/pedis which I also used to enjoy.
stress reduction
My ex-hub wrote some papers while he was doing his PhD in psychology on stress reduction. I typed his papers both before and after we were divorced. It made sense to me. One of the things he said that you work all week to make a paycheck to pay your bills. He said you have to consider yourself "a bill out of your paycheck that needs to be paid" just like any other bill that you owe. You need to pay a bill owed to yourself for hard work in the form of whatever you can afford out of each paycheck no matter what the amount that you may deem to afford meaning a new outfit, pedicure, meal out, movie, whatever makes you relaxed and feel happy. Set an amount aside even if it is just $20-$25. It gives you something to looks forward to. We have been divorced for 15 years, but I still remember this and still do this. It makes me feel good because I know I have to pay this bill to myself and it makes me feel good.
I wouldn't stress.
I had my baby natural childbirth. It really wasn't so bad. By the time it gets to where you can't stand it anymore, it's time to push. When you push through a contraction, you don't feel pain anymore just pressure. During labor I just kept thinking, this time tomorrow I will be holding my baby.
While I was pregnant, friends and family delighted in telling me their horror stories about childbirth. Don't listen to them. Everyone's experience is different. I figured if it was that bad everyone would only do it once, right?
I did take my sister's advice though. She's an RN on L&D and she said the nurses are there to help you, don't get mean and nasty with them or they will go away and only come back when they have to.
My friend had an epidural and suffered from severe headaches for months afterwards. I've heard of women having back problems, leg problems with them. I don't think I would ever advise anyone to get an epidural.
I know this is not a solution to your problem but
I couldn't help but respond to what you told your daughter about the police. Children should be taught that police are there to help them if they are ever in need and not be frightened by the thought of them. If you tell your child the police will take her away from you she will only think that police are bad. when I was younger I heard a mother tell her son that if he didn't start behaving that she would have "that police officer lock him up". I was terrified. My mother did help me through this and actucally took me to a police station and let me meet officers so I wouldn't be afraid. BTW, my son finally stopped his constant running at about age 3. Now if only I could get him to move a little faster, sigh, teenagers.
Simple solution
But of course, this what I would do - may not seem acceptable to you.
IF YOU STILL LOVE THIS MAN, you move as close by as possible into another type of home that you can afford to build/buy.
WHO SAYS you have to live under the same roof to be happily married? think outside the box!!
IF YOU FORCE him to move he will be as unhappy as you.
Use that equity you have to save your marriage - I'll bet he'd agree to this.
Then you can be together in TWO houses.
Well, I have a simple solution
My husband and I have been married 8 years now and guess what, never celebrated the first anniversary yet! No kids from this marriage and if we had, could have had 2, 3 or 4 years prior and years later they still would not know.
Have you tried this simple solution? sm
What about a DrinkWell fountain for pets? I have had them for, well, perhaps 15 years now. My cats (two of whom are Maine Coons and LOVE any kind of water source) all love it! It is not just a source of drinking water because they all play in it with their paws, so it has become a source of fun too, which is great because they are wanting to drink at the same time. There is something about the moving water that has always fascinated my cats. Give it a try!
Yes, definitely a stress point in a marriage....sm
As for taking charge, I think we have to as they simply wont. I mean someone does need to be "in charge" so to speak...it is their place to be "head" of the house, but most dont take that place, they dont want that place, the responsibility that it brings.
I often think of the fact that if I died while my children are young they would have to live with my sister....seriously. He would not be able to take care of them, and not talking just financial, he literally would not be able to take care of them. It is sad to feel like that about it. Just how it is.
You're not weird. Maybe you can stress that you'd like it to be just old
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They are big-time stress reliever!
I play what my brother calls 'girly' games - Final Fantasy, tetris, etc. I also have a couple murder mystery-type games, but I have to watch playing them when I'm home alone because I'll scare myself! I know it's pathetic but some of those games have things that jump out at you! I guess that's why I stick to the 'girly' games! LOL
Anybody have stress bother them and then get sick?
Ever since I have been stressed over a certain situation in transcription, and my family's budget I have become extremely tired and it is really hard to get my line count. Every day as the pressure builds regarding this my line count gets lower, no matter how hard I try. Anybody in this situation or ever been, I'd appreciate advice. I am trying stress busters, exercising, reading books, taking time to go outside, but nothing is working.
Every time I sit down to type, I just get more and more worried and I can't produce! It is like my heart is going on strike against the position I have because there are problems with the situation and it makes my money situation even worse. My husband is very understanding but this has got to stop. I want to feel good about my job again and my production. If you say get another job, I understand about that, but what about until the other job starts, what do I do? Arrrggggg. I know life is no picnic but it could at least provide piece of mind so I can do my job! Thanks in advance for any and every suggestion or advice. It will be well appreciated
If she's such a good kid, why stress her more by making her pay
for car/gas/insurance? I think that making good grades and having extracurricular school activities are enough. If she has to work also then something might slip, probably her grades. My girls, now 30 and 33, did theater, choir, drill team and we took care of the car. They did not turn out to be slackers. Maybe taking her siblings to school and running errands is enough of a payment.
Believe it or not, my favorite stress reliever is
SEX. Seriously.
Anyone on Lexapro for stress and anxiety?
Do you like it? Is it working for you?
I haven't found a solution
At times, the burning in my foot is bad enough I cannot stand to wear shoes. I haven't really found any one thing that helps. I have found that as long as I'm busy, I don't think about the discomforts I'm having. I've tried changing my socks during the day either footies/knee highs. I've went for walks, helps to get my mind on other things. I don't know that Montel has a book, but I've seen him talk about his MS somewhere. Terri Garr is an actress that has it too, I believe she has a book.
I'm an unusual case. Required 3 neurologists conferring between them before making a decision. Presented with tingling in both feet, which went away after 2 months. Four months later had right arm and right leg incoordination, off balance. Prednisone relieved the symptoms 95% gone. I am left with right foot neuroathy and minor incoordination of the right arm/hand. F/U MRI showed more lesions in brain and spine. I'm unusual because I've not had optic neuritis, my spinal tap was normal, visual evoke and brainstem tests were normal.
cold hands solution
I found the best solution for when your hands get too cold to type. I filled an old tube sock with rice. Pop it into the microwave for 4 minutes or so. Put the hot sock in my sweatshirt pocket. I can stick my hands in for a quick warm up most of the afternoon. It also keeps the rest of me pretty toasty. ( it is only -3 degrees here!)
Just thought I'd share my idea. Happy Friday.
A recently used solution against this group
was applied by Hells Angels. No joke.
The Hells Angels motorcycle group was nearby where a protest was being held and they showed up! Ran off every single one of the Westboro derelicts.
First time I've ever been in favor of Hells Angels.
You do know about the recall on wetting solution
that is causing blindness for contact wearers? I do not know the name of it but can probably google. By the way, I have heard using honey can alleviate allergies. I just heard that now, but worth a try if I had them.
Maine Solution to Insomnia
Shot of Allen's Coffee Flavored Brandy, AKA fat a$$ in a glass.
So you're saying there IS a problem & the solution
come up with solutions? I'm sorry, but that doesn't make sense. You also sound a bit racist and seem to have something against the poor. Maybe you should work on that. Geez.
Stress - thanks all for yesterday - got the Bach and the multi-Bs (sm)
Still stressing but feeling much better today. Didn't get out until 8 pm last night to make my purchases and still had a rough night, but this morning I am much calmer. Thanks to everyone who had any comments or suggestrions - I really needed you guys yesterday and appreciate you being there!
Emotional upset and stress. Such as reading MT
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One solution when she gets to calling, unplug your phone - sm
for 15 minutes or whatever. I used to have to do that for some crank who would call me every night (a guy I would not go out with) for months. I did it for about 6 months, when I finally pluged it back in at night he had given up by then, yeah. How about call block on her number, sure it would make her a bit angry but maybe she would get the message to leave you alone during the day.
Kim Komando's Solution for thowing out stuff
I thought this might be of interest to some...Rather than throw away junk, try this.
www.kimkomando.com
www.freecycle.org
Frustrated by Google map route? Solution
I was just playing around with a route that Google map gave for a particular To and From location, and was frustrated (as usual!) with the illogical-appearing route it chose. I never knew you could click on the map and have the option of Change Route appear, but you can! You just drag the mouse to the route you'd like, and it will reconfigure the way you want to see. NATURALLY the route you chose really does turn out to be shorter in distance and time. Problem solved!
I would say that you have every reason to have panic attacks what with all the stress you've SM
been under. I take Effexor XR for my painic attacks and atenolol to help control my BP and it keeps my heart rate down. The combination works wonderfully, although I wonder if I've become a little too dependent on it as I sometimes get a little anxious at the thought of being without my Effexor.
I would have periodic episodes of anxiousness going all the way back to my teenage years, but I would always work through it myself. Then a year ago, in the midst of marital trouble and feeling alone as I lived two states away from friends and family, I started having what I now know to be gallbladder pain while I was at work. In my mind, I knew I wasn't having a heart attack, the pain was in my right rib cage and radiated around to my right scapula. But I couldn't seem to convince my body. My heart started racing, my mind was racing. I felt dizzy and short of breath. I went to the employee health nurse who took my BP and it was sky high. She immediately rushed me to the ER which freaked me out even further.
Long story short, I was having a full blown panic attack and I hope that I never experience anything like that again. I ended up crying for three weeks straight, was afraid be left alone, was afraid to leave my house, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, would pace the house with my heart racing, not able to calm myself down.
I saw three different doctors before I found a female doctor who listened to me and told me she knew exactly what I was talking about because her daughter had panick attacks too. She started me on Effexor and set me up with a therapist who taught me breathing techniques and meditation techniques to help calm myself when I feel anxious. One technique, as simple as it sounds, is something I practice almost daily which is deep breathing: in through your nose and out through your mouth and as you exhale allow your body to relax starting from the shoulders down. It seems silly, but it really works. I noticed that I clenched my jaw a lot and so that is were I focus my mind when I'm trying to relax. I focus on the tension in my jaw and start relaxing from there down.
Exercise is another great technique for relieving anxiety and stress. All the experts say that, and it's true. Just getting outside and walking can clear the mind.
Well, I've rambled on and on. Sorry about that. Let me just add one more thing, if you decide to try medication, my advice would be to be patient. Sometimes it takes a few different trials of medication before you find the one that fits. My doctor explained to me that panick attacks are caused by an overactive fight or flight response in the brain and so SSRI antidepressants like Zoloft or Celexa won't do the trick. You have to have a NRI (norepinephrine reuptake inhibitor) to calm the response.
I'm not saying you need medicine, but I am saying that you may want to get a handle on it now so you don't have to go through what I did. I can't even explain how horrible it feels to have your mind spinning of control. I felt like I was genuinely losing my mind.
Well, anyway I feel for you and I wish you well.
I'm one of the few Grinches here who agrees with you. Enough w/the stress & extra calories in the
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I agree. Hand him the headphones to have a listen. And stress how
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I think finances and stress ALL play a huge part in this. nm
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Definitely stress. Cops said once that Xmas eve with alcohol & money
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Stress to vet office this is urgent or call emerg. vet.
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Have to agree that the biological parents are not always the best solution. But we were just discus
MTs working at home with their children. I meant to imply that I certainly didn't think it was neglect or abuse for mom to have a set of headphones in her ears.
Sorry you had a bad experience with a CASA volunteer. But afterall they are all people too and the primary intent of the children's justice system is reunification with parents if possible. Sounds like they were probably just lacking enough evidence/proof to terminate parental rights at that time.
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