My so-call "friend" is always standing me up - SM
Posted By: ERMT on 2007-12-29
In Reply to: Good friends sm - anon
My husband and I have, or should I say HAD this really good friend that we have known for about 6 or 7 years. We used to do almost everything together (go shopping, go to movies, out to dinner, etc.) For the past several months, we have invited her over to our house on MULTIPLE occasions for dinner, coffee, etc., and she usually tells us that she will be coming over, and even gives us an approximate time frame as to what time she will be here (it's always the same time in the evening). She has stood us up EVERY TIME for the past several months! We try calling and text messaging her when it gets to be a little after the time when she said she would be here, but she never answers her phone or returns any text messages, EVER! We never even hear from her the next day explaining why she was a no show. On a few of the occasions, we have even made dinner for all of us because she said that she would be over for dinner, but just completely blows us off! I am so tired of this! I am done with her. She obviously is not nearly as good of a friend as we are. She even forgot my birthday this year! I don't know what's going on with her. She never used to be this bad. I mean, she has blown us off a few times in the past few years, but never this many times in a row! I'm definitely not giving this so-called "friend" the time of day anymore as we have given her multiple chances to not blow us off for once and show us that she is a true friend, but obviously she is not anymore. I just had to get that off my chest as she blew us off again last night!
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The department you deal with in Michigan for things like this is called "Friend of the Court".
You need to get in touch with your version of this in your state and tell them what is going on and file a form for re-do the visitation agreement. You may even have to see your original divorce attorney. We went through this with my husband's ex-wife and he filed papers to amend the visitation and what they call an "in pro per" form. Which basically is a DIY form. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but you need to get started now to get your ducks in a row.
Have you thought about talking to somebody at the local VA office in your state or city? Those guys are a wealth of information.
Good luck to you.
I think the last two standing will be
Melinda Doolittle and Jordin Sparks.
And I think Phil will wind up in the country music field after he is done with the Navy.
JMO!
Standing up for myself.
I had to live with an aunt during my high school years. She always loved to keep kids but always had a problem with the mothers because she claimed they never disciplined their children. She is a firm believer in spankings and tries to enforce it into other young mothers. I always rolled my eyes ignored it because I figured the mothers would eventually find another babysitter. She also kept foster kids but got them taken away for some reason. She said a kid claimed she was beating them too much and the blank blank State believed the kid over her. I was already in high school when I lived with her so she never touched me, just yelled at me a lot and I kept in my room until I was able to move out on my own.
Anyway, H likes to talk to her husband and seems to like to go visit. We visit maybe once a month. We have 2 children ages 2 and 6. If they are talking loudly or laughing loudly she threatens them with a flyswatter. She has gotten the flyswatter out and gave it to me to spank them, which I did not. She also gets offended and threatens them if they sit on the couch too close together. She tells me that her kids never acted as bad as mine because she carried a hairbrush or a flyswatter everywhere they went and spanked them with it all the time. She also claims that her DILs are lazy, wimpy and stoopid because their kids misbehave and they don't spank them enough or hard enough, just barely pats them. Lazy, wimpy and stoopid is actually a nicer way of putting it then what she actually said. She started in on one of her DILs at a family gathering and got a whole plate of food her face. She is so proud of herself because she raised 3 boys and spanked them all the time. Maybe they behaved well as children but the are now adults with issues. One is an alcoholic and never comes to visit, one is dead (car accident drunk), the other drinks a lot and cannot seem to wipe his own tail. What if the next time she hands me a flyswatter, can I swat her with it? Just tell her that she was the one who taught me how to handle people who get out of line. Seriously, I really should say something when it happens but I just leave, then go home and stew. I am way too much of a pushover and don't know how to get out of that.
Maybe I am out of line but I cannot understand why someone would take it upon themselves to decide how and when to discipline someone else's kid and try to enforce their method parenting on someone else. H and I take full responsibility for our children financially, getting them to school, babysitters (which makes her mad, why pay someone else, she needs the money). We never depend on her for anything with the girls.
My 6-year-old does not really get in trouble in school that much except for talking. The teachers say she at the top of her class and an advanced student. The daycare has yet to say anything negative about my 2-year-old's behavior and she has been in there since she was 6 weeks old. They cannot be as bad as she is insinuating they are. H just says, well if it bothers you that much we won't go over there anymore but he doesn't understand why I am so upset, he thinks I should just let it go.
it also bothers me that she is going around town telling everyone how my kids are unruly and I don't do anything to discipline them. My boss has told me how derogatory she has been toward us, her children and grandchildren that she does not even like to talk to her.
Has he ever been on last comic standing?
His name sounds so familiar. Not sure what CMT is though.
Just have him standing close would
tell me if he were smoking, it would be obvious. I don’t think I would probably buy the friend story. I probably would have spoke up and said well let me have his number and I will call him so he can come and get…
Who do you predict will be the last three standing sm.
I think it will be Adam, Allison and Danny in that order. I think Adam will win , but Allison is my favorite. What do you think? I also think Anoop and Matt will go home next week but I am hoping maybe Lil and Matt.
I have a standing breakfast date...
every Thursday morning with 3 friends. Weekends are mostly family time. My oldest son always comes home from school on Friday night, so we Netflix. This weekend, we were supposed to play paintball, but it doesn't look like the weather is going to cooperate.
It is NEVER okay to fail standing up for your kids.
Get some kind of back bone about yourself, will ya.
I'm still standing - Elton John
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Or when standing at the scale, say, "After you!"
nm
I thought she did that standing on her head thing...nm
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Beyonce usually doesn't get standing ovation..sm
although Beyonce certainly does get standing ovations when she performs NOT at awards shows....when she performs elsewhere
No about Last Comic Standing. CMT is country music television.
!
I having a standing appt to view YouTube every Sunday. Best part is
the enjoyment of forwarding them to my friends for their listening pleasure. MUSIC IS THE BEST MEDICINE, AND AS FAR AS I KNOW, NO ONE EVER COMPLAINS OF ADVERSE SIDE EFFECTS OR ALLERGIC REACTIONS. 
You should call....sm
an attorney that deals with bankruptcies and ask them what you can do in this situation and they should be able to help you for a minimal cost.
In most states, if your husband's name is not on the credit card account they cannot go after his credit or try to force him to pay your bill... and vice versa.
For a reality check - the credit card company can seize your bank account and incoming deposits to one, force your employer/clients to turn over money designated for you to them for the debt. If you don't present some sort of offer to pay them a reasonable amount every month then they may choose to do the above things to you and legally can. However, if you can show the courts you can pay "x" a month and the judge thinks it's OK then they wouldn't be able to garnish any monies due to you.
Since you mentioned that you only work part-time, they'll probably suggest that you take on a full-time job to pay this debt.
Call them
Your best bet is to call and tell them what your situation is, that you want to work out a solution with them. Even if you have to refinance with them to get payments lower to a level you can afford, it will be worth it - don't default if you can help it. Nowadays, it can raise your car insurance rates, affect new employment opportunities, etc.
Besides, paying it back is the right thing to do. It will let you keep your self respect.
My dog does it too..but we call them
"kitty biscuits," LOL. Either way it's gross. He's been doing it forever, and we can't seem to break him of this habit. 
call
I would definitely call them as well. Had this happen and reversed as well. I know there is one cc company that refuses to do that and it happens to be Discover. Many other companies have reversed this for me. Please call and say you thought you paid it off so whats this!
call that b*tch!!
just kidding! :) This is such normal behavior for teenagers, I always told my girls that I coached that college is completely different than high school and there would be MANY changes, no matter how "in love" they thought they were... It is a sad reality, and unfortunately I am not a mom yet but know that when I am I will be dealing with this. I think the only thing you can tell him is the old saying "time heals all wounds" although it doesnot SEEM like he will EVER get over it by the way he is feeling right now, promise him he will. there are better things out there and everything happens for a reason!!! And you said they haven't officially "broken up" yet... you know what's coming obviously... and this is in no way a way to treat someone you love. She is just trying to get out of it easy. good luck, heartbreak is hard. I'm 27 and still go through it :)
Call the guy and ask nm
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Thanks .. will just call them and see
if I can remove some of the extra charges and go forward. I did not owe much of anything to anyone and then changed jobs and the fun began! I really don't have that much faith in a third party and I learned that from transcription!
sorry- not what I would call fun either
If I get the chance mine will have a fun time at my house!
Can I just call them?
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Just call me
 Simon!!
Call someone now.
I went through the same situation with my father for 8 years (bedridden, dementia, strokes, etc.) and grandfather during those same 8 years and 1 year after that. I got help from my doctor, general practitioner. She is a good listener and knew exactly the direction to guide me for help. I was neglecting my health while taking care of others. I remember one time taking my grandfather to a doctor appointment and asked them to check my blood pressure. It was extremely high and they did not want to let me leave the office. I had to sign a waiver stating that I knew the risks but I also promised to see my physician, which I did immediately. I am now on medications for hypertension, hypothyroidism, depression, and cholesterol. Please take care of yourself now.
I would call.
They might be waiting to see what applicants show a true interest in the job. Doesn't hurt to have your name out there to be noticed and remembered...better than being lost in the shuffle. I wouldn't call again after that though.
God says to call sin for what it is.
Please call someone!
Call your local suicide prevention hotline. Even if you are not suicidal at the moment, with all that is going on in your life, that could change at any moment. At the very least they will point you to some resources that will help you. The most difficult thing to do is ask for help, but you really need to. If you don't want to call the hotline, try your local United Way office, they have many solutions that could possibly help you through the emergency until you can get back on your feet. You are in my heart and in my prayers. Reach out and let someone help you... please....
And what do you call yourself in
a marriage where the love is gone, the happiness is gone and you want out? I call it loneliness. I do not need a man to make me happy or to take care of me. My life is very happy because I got out of a loveless marriage.
Your statement makes no sense to be but then again, I am very secure in myself.
and they call that...
insurance fraud. If ever found out that you have withheld information, they will cancel your policy anyway. They are like the IRS. They have ways of finding things out. They can check your prescription records and find that docs name if he prescribed something. Once they find out a doc's name, that's it. Sorry to keep contradicting you, but insurance companies are ruthless. They want your money, but they don't want to pay out. If they find just one thing that was concealed from them, that's it. It's all over.
ok, well whatever you want to call him...but I think sm
feeling up a 8 or 9 year old and a 12 or 13 year old is a form of molestation. My mother's stepfather didn't actually rape her until she was 15. But he felt her up from the time he married her mother, when she was 7. My stepfather never did anything like that to me at all. But my creepy neighbor did. He spent a lot of time helping me learn to walk on my hands when I was 11 or 12 - I realized later it was so he could look up my shorts and so when my shirt would flop up, he could see my barely growing boobies. He moved away. Five years later he showed up at my house acting like a crazy maniac, in love with me. they get obsessed with young girls. Call him a scumbag, a pervert, a molester, or whatever. It's wrong.
Call CPS. Everybody knows they
do a terrific job and always show good judgment. Wrong. Oftentimes they yank kids out of stable homes because the enlightened and politically correct think that spanking is barbaric, make a quick phone call, and loving parents who are trying to discipline their children get sent to jail. Beating is one thing and spanking is another. I very much doubt that if the kid pulls the kind of antics you have described that his father is beating him. Also, if the father was beating him, do you think he would have chosen "the stick" over losing hockey? You most probably don't know what you are talking about and you should just butt out. Different people parent differently. Some kids need spanked, some don't. Be thankful that your kid has a disposition such that it is not required. Mind your own business unless you know he is being ABUSED. The trouble you cause could be not easily undone.
Think a bit before you call CPS. You might want
to ask the kid exactly what the "stick" is before you jump to conclusions. He picked it, maybe he can handle it.
My daughter has some friends who have a son. The child, while very young, had a medical condition that was hard to diagnose, resulted in bruising of the body, some failure to thrive, etc. A neighbor thought the child was being abused, called the authorities and because at the time (10 years ago) the couple wasn't as responsible as they are now (some partying, not that great housekeeping) the child was taken away because of neglect. He and his wife were put in jail; once the other prisoners found out why he was in there they literally beat him to a pulp for supposed child abuse. He has plates in his head and face and is on permanent disability. Come to find out the child had some medical condition that was so very rare and caused the bruising and FTT. After about 6 months of a living h*ll, the authorities apologized to this guy and his wife and their child was given back to them.
Get as many facts as you can before making that call.
Call them
If your apartment is individually metered, it probably is something as simple as they read the meter wrong. I had that happen at a job one time and the meter was 1000 and they read it as 10,000. They corrected it quite quickly for me.
This should be something that is fairly easily corrected once you get them on the phone.
I don't think I would call it
So much as I would call it in love with one's spouse...
I do feel that if my husband and I divorced or were otherwise separated, I'd be completely lost, like I were missing a part of my body...a very important part. He is honestly my other half, I know no matter what happens, he will be there. It's wonderful to have someone that you know is coming home to you every day after work. To have someone to hash things out with, bounce ideas off of...and it's even better cause you're both on the same page, wanting the same things out of life.
It's funny cause my husband and I talked about the "what ifs" this weekend...what if we got divorced? what if one of us died? I couldn't imagine living my life without my husband. I love him and wouldn't want to go on without him...
What else would you call them
Making up cutesy little names for body parts is just silly. Especially since we don't do it for other parts of the body like the arms, legs, etc. Tell it like it is. So what if the girls goes up and says I have a vagina or I have a penis, their kids and their learning. Calling it anything else is almost like your hiding it and embarrassed that you have one. As MTs we should not be embarrassed when the word vagina or penis is mentioned.
call the
I would contact cesar milan from that show because he has a whole compound of pit bulls and likes to rescue them.
That 911 call
Umm.... I need some firefighters...
Dispatch: Why? What seems to be the problem?
Unlucky One: Umm.... My 'cat's' up his tree....
you need to call AA
If he is sick enough you could take him to ER and have him request treatment and they can handle it from there.
Al-Anon for your sister since she was raised by an alcoholic and married one, so she is going to need some help adjusting to everything also.
Keep the little kids away from the AA clubs. Really super duper nice people DO NOT attend AA. Don't be too trusting to the eager babysitters you will find there!
If he ever feels better again, healthy, or happy, it will be a miracle, and more than likely he will always be somewhat miserable on some level because of his illness. It can be incredibly difficult to live with someone recovering from addiction because as much as he was "away drinking" physically or emotionally, he will be "away recovering" physically or emotionally.
Her kids are her future and my advice would be to make sure that they have everything they need emotionally and physically and NOT to neglect them because Dad is sick. She should invest as as much as possible in her kids to terminate this cycle, so they grow up healthy and happy and not marry alcoholics or become alcoholics themselves.
Call Waiting
Hi everyone...does anyone know the code to turn off call waiting before making a call? I forget...it's been a while. TIA!
Call me not intelligent
In September I cosigned on an apartment for my niece and her friend. At the time I had been to the ER three times with 102+ temp, then went in the hospital for about 2 weeks (know that is no excuse). I actually do not remember signing the lease and believe me if I had read it I never would have let her sign because it has so any restrictions.. To make a long story short, they have now moved out and the lease says in order to break it, they must pay 893 plus 2 months rent (another 1200 total). Well guess who the sucker is left holding the bill on this one? My niece says she has no money and won't even ask the other girl for her half. Just a warning do not ever cosign anything unless you want to pay in the long run - I either pay or it goes on my credit - anybody have any suggestions or any ideas if I can do anything else without going broke?
Thanks
Phone call of the day ....sm
ME: Hello?
CALLER: Hello, does anyone at your home speak English?
ME: What? Of course I speak English. I was born and raised in the US and speak no other language. Why do you ask?
CALLER: I'm so sorry ma'am. This is Jody with the Police Benevelance fund and we'd like to ask for a contribution for.....
ME (immediately cutting her off): Ma'am, how dare you have the audacity to call my home, ask me if I speak English and then want to ask me for a donation? Donkeys would fly before I'd give your organization a penny as you have now totally insulted me, a bona-fide English speaking American Citizen - one without an accent other than being Southern.
Can you believe it? My husband stood there shaking his head as I let into this lady. It's bad enough to call somewhere and hear "press 1 for English, 2 for Spanish...." but to have someone call you and ask if you speak English is absurd.
PEOPLE WHO CALL ME HON!!!!
That gets soooo under my skin and I realize that people don't mean a thing by it but one day (must have been pms'ing) I went to a convenience store and the gal working was all, "How are you today H O N ???"
Well it was just one too many hons and granted, it was not very tactful on my part either, but my response was, "My day would be a whole lot better if people would not call me hon".
She never did call me that again when I went in there but my guess is she probably had a few choice words for me when I left. :O
call your phone co and ask if they have....
I have privacy director from bellsouth and also am on the donotcall.gov list and phone#. However, I continually get a call with no one speaking from a SEBELL - I looked up SEBELL and it's a telecommunications company that once got into big trouble - with telemarketing - and now it *looks* as though they are back. The only thing I could do with that number was STAR (*) 60 which blocks only 6 telephone numbers via bellsouth.
They may call it the off season,
Was there mid Nov and it was really busy. All fast track tickets gone by noon, didn't get on hardly any rides, waits were 2+ hours for each ride. It was kind of a disappointment for the kids. Had a decent time, but could have been much better. Didn't expect the crowds in Nov.
Do not call list
 There is a national "Do Not Call List" that you can put not only your home land line on but also your cell phone number on. You sign up on-line via the Internet and you remain on the list for 5 years at which time you have to re-enroll your phone numbers. It is not enough to "ask" to be put on the "do not call list" you must go to the national website and sign yourself up. If you are called by a company after you have put your number on the national "do not call list" you can call the Attorney General and the company will be fined $1,500.00. Hope this helps! We have all our numbers on the list home phone/cell phones and our numbers are unlisted as well.
Do not call list
There is a national "Do Not Call List" that you can put not only your home land line on but also your cell phone number on. You sign up on-line via the Internet and you remain on the list for 5 years at which time you have to re-enroll your phone numbers. It is not enough to "ask" to be put on the "do not call list" you must go to the national website and sign yourself up. If you are called by a company after you have put your number on the national "do not call list" you can call the Attorney General and the company will be fined $1,500.00. Hope this helps! We have all our numbers on the list home phone/cell phones and our numbers are unlisted as well.
In the south we would call that
trailer folk trash- just not accepted
I am in hopes to call CPS
It is family and if they find out what I did there will be a big to do. I hate standing by watching kids and the handicapped get treated so shamefully and it has taken a tole on them over the years. The 12 yo and 9 yo definitelly has psychiatric problems. I hope it can be undone. I hope the 2 yo can get out of it before it grows up with so many problems. Bad part is, it is the parents that are paying for the crap that aunt has done. They even admitted that it was aunt that messed up the 12 year old.
Before you call the realtors...
Check at the link below and find out what similar houses in your area are going for. If there are houses in your area with "for sale" signs with the name of a realtor, look up that realtor's listings and see what they are asking.
That way, when you do contact the realtors and they come out and give you an estimate, you will know if they are being honest with you or not. Some realtors will give you a low-ball figure because they want a quick sale and a quick commission. Some will price property too high and when it doesn't sell, then they will hit you for the lower price for a quick sale.
That is not to say all realtors are dishonest - there are lots of good folks out there. But, like any other profession, there are a few bad apples, too.
We just sold our house last year, so I do have some recent experience in that area. Here is where I found my realtor: http://www.daveramsey.com/sa/realestate/ . You can also find some very good financial advice on that site.
Good luck!
definitely call a good vet!
Something that starts out minor can turn nasty pretty fast. Best of luck! :-)
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