My point exactly. He can afford it
Posted By: They said what on 2008-12-02
In Reply to: SURE he can afford to work for a dollar -- - he has millions more where that came from!
and he should afford it. All the CEOs of all of these companies that are begging for handouts...this is what they should have to do.
All these CEOs for these companies that aren't doing good...I think they should jump on the bandwagon here. They cut our pay or pay us next to nothing, because they say the companies are not doing well...but they are not taking paycuts or cutting bonuses for upper management.
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YOU can't afford to, your creditors can afford to.
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and even if you can't afford it, still better!!!..nm
When you can afford it.
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You CAN'T afford it
If you are charging things and then paying only the minimum payment, you CAN'T afford it. You are paying interest charges and that's money down the toilet. You don't say how much you owe, but you owe too much if you are carrying over charges from month to month. You are deluding yourself if you think you can afford to spend.
What does afford mean?
When you can afford something, you have the money to buy it. You don't have the money to buy it or you wouldn't be racking up credit card debt. You can only afford it if you can totally pay off your credit card every month. You seem to be living in la-la land financially, based on your posts here. This would be a really good time to get a financial education before you find yourself in big trouble.
Please, nowadays many can't *afford* them
And not talking about people on welfare here. But they all still have them, sometimes many! Selfish, IMO. Today you better be making at least 100,000 a year or at least a very high credit card limit if you want a truly happy fulfilled child who can keep up with the Joneses and have everything everyone else has these days or at least a very high credit limit. ;)
I would LOVE to be able to afford a
I'd think I had died and gone to heaven! :)
I have preteen children at home and I would NEVER have been able to do this with infants or toddlers. I try to schedule my work when my kids are at school or asleep and, on the rare occasion they are home when I am working, I have very little disruption from them. They understand mom is working.
I have recently started doing IC and although I don't have to adhere to an actual "schedule", I do what is needed in order to be the best MT I can be AND I also do what is needed in order to be the best mother/wife I can be.
Bottom line for me is professional or not, inhouse or home, if my family doesn't come first, then I feel my priorities would be greatly misdirected. :)
I do understand your point about children and disruption though. Like I said, if my children were infants/toddlers, there is no way I could do MT work in even a semi-professional (is that possible? semi-professional??? lol) way at home, unless I had someone here to take care of them while I was working.
I couldn't afford the gas - nm
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I think I would tell here you just could not afford it, and state what
you can do, i.e., the week after. He is not obligated to go, especially if it is a $2000 trip with all things considered. If she cannot accept that, that is her problem. Be gracious, but just tell here there is no way to afford the trip. Or, why not just move your trip up a week, go for the entire week, and if there are not enough tickets for everyone, then your DH can go to the ceremony and the rest of you meet them afterwards.
I would give them what you can afford
and if they don't like it, it's their problem. It's the thought that counts. A teenager should enjoy a gift certificate to the movies or to his/her favorite clothing store. As for the adults, my husband and I have been giving our parents gift cards to their local grocery store. Everyone needs to eat. I'm glad we don't run into these problems with our families. Everyone is happy to get something no matter how inexpensive. Try not to stress too much about it.
If anyone can really afford 14 kids, ok but
a single parent, living with her parents, breeding 14 kids and I would almost bet we are the ones really taking care of the kids, not her. I remember some time ago when my housekeeper remarked to me about her cousin having a brood, about 7 and I asked what kind of work did the mother do and when told I said, she cannot possibly take care of all those on that salary. I was told not only did she receive welfare but also section 8 for the house and my housekeeper wanted to strongly argue that this woman "takes care of her own." You don’t do that when you don’t pay for your own. I don’t know but I never got any money for raising my own kids and I resent strongly taking care of others. I think the government should do some kind of reduction on this family.
If you buy from a catelogue, then you can afford
QVC or HSN either one. I have bought from Catherine's but they are a little higher. You can get clothing all day long reasonable from the channels and no one has to complain about wearing mumus or the like. I buy almost exclusively and even have an account with HSN but like QVC better, I think.
I can only afford a Ford! LOL! (Afford a Ford?)
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I cannot afford the Gevalia, but
my mother gets it - it is SO expensive but she can afford it - and from time to time she gives me a box. It is wonderful, wonderful stuff. We both drink our coffee very strong, which makes it even more expensive. I can't imagine there is any better coffee anywhere.
Oxymoron indeed! LOL. Single is definitely best if you can afford it : )
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I love it. I wish I could afford someone every week.
It is just a huge relief when I don't have to do that heavy cleaning once a week. We have 2 dogs too and the dog hair drives me nuts!
Can you afford to have a mother's helper SM
Come into your home for 2 to 3 hours a day? Maybe she could play with your son and do "school" with him (art, puzzles, colors, shapes). It would be similar to having a 1:1 aide like some children require in public school. Maybe she could let him be her helper baking cookies. She can praise him for being such a big helper.
He might feel really special having extra attention. Then, if he got too out of hand, she could take him for a walk or take him to a safe room where he could play (or throw a fit) where it won't interrupt your time with your other children.
Having a high-strung child is very exhausting. You love them but find yourself resenting them a lot of the time too. It would be doubly hard from someone like yourself who is with them 24/7. You need a break from him, and he needs a break from you too.
Big hugs...I'm sorry you're going through this. Next time he acts up, give him a hug and tell him you love him. Maybe try cuddling with him for a few minutes until he calms down. It's worth a shot! LOL...although that might train him to want to throw fits so mama will cuddle with him.
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How can anyone afford a luxury like a facial
I can't even keep food in my fridge or gas in my tank!
SURE he can afford to work for a dollar --
What a load of manure.
Can't afford to be hooked to anything, except typing right now!!!
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Owning a pet is a privilege, not a right. If you can't afford health
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Can you afford at least a 50% paycut? Here in the SE, our teacher's aides don't sm
make more than 10.00 per hour and that is for experienced TAs. You will probably start out at 7.50 to 8.00 an hour.
But, if you just need a little spending money and think that your peace of mind is worth that much in pay, then you should go for it.
I'm a great advocate in doing what you love most in order to be happy in life. Have a dream or vision and then go after it no matter what it takes. Those kind of people live the healthiest, happiest lives. Good luck to you!
I say go for it. If I could afford to work outside somewhere making less than $10 per hour
I'd get out of this field in a second :)
Well, if ya can't afford a nanny,don't be looking into time shares!
I am just shocked that people actually set out to do this with no intention or interest whatsoever for a measly 50.00 or tickets to SeaWorld! Guess desperate times call for desperate measures? Yikes.
Can't afford fancy concrete statuary..
so in my flower beds I have a collection of rusty junk, old andirons, the decorative ends from a metal park bench, old birdcage, buckets, wagon wheels.. the crowing object is a handmade birdhouse that looks like an outhouse that my brother in law made with a rusty tin roof... I call it country classy...
Vari kennel crate if you can afford sm
Used this instead of wire, chew toys, water cup on front gate, they grow to love it as their "home" and you will wonder why you didn't buy one before, it more than pays for itself and you don't have to worry while away. I had several dogs who did hundreds of dollars worth of damage. I did not know about crating. Used sour apple spray for one dog, another like it! Talk to the pet supply store and look for ads, trainers buy crates up fast in the paper, I drove 100 mi. round trip for my Vari Kennel, plastic with wire front gate, not as ugly as the wire ones. If it's too big, put a cardboard separator until the dog gets bigger, then the bigger, the better they like it. They feel protected and actually want to go in there as time goes on. Good for when you have company who doesn't like animals as well. They also have fancier ones online that look like furniture but expensive.
Tell you dentist to put 'veneers' over your teeth, if you can afford it nm
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Here is an idea to find out if you can afford 2700 a month.
Start putting $2700 a month in a savings account now. Do this for 6 months. By then, you would have saved at least $16,200 plus any interest that would acumulate. Or just do it for 3 months if you cannot wait. Think about it. If you can't do that, then you cannot afford $2700 house payments. There will also be more expenses with a baby on the way, like daycare, diapers and formula but I would start with making a "house payment" to a savings account first.
Frankly, I would rather do without then have to depend on my family. But they are the types that think just because I need them for something, they can control my life. Maybe yours is not like that, I don't know. Also, I don't think working 2 or 3 jobs just to pay a house would work out for me. I could not enjoy that house if I had to work all the time. I'd never be home to enjoy it!!!!
Dh and i make a combined income of 70k. our house very small, only 820 sq foot. we only paid 29k for it. We only owe 8K now. We have two girls, one is 5 the other is 20 months. We are crowded but we are closer than most families. Our girls are both happy, healthy have lots of friends. My oldest is the smartest in her class, accoridng to her teacher. They both wear nice clothes, have nice toys to play with, have plenty to eat, get excellent medical care. I don't think they would have turned out any better in a fancier house. Maybe mroe spoiled though, Oh my, they are spoiled enough as it is.
Congrats on the baby and happy father's day. I think it includes fathers to be too.
Because I gained weight quickly and can't afford to replace all my clothes at once (sm)
plus I am trying to lose weight and hope that they will fit again and I won't have to replace them all.
and yer point? - many MTs are 55+...in the USA....
However, to the Jean Stapleton responder, Jean isn't Jewish *lol*
E-Bay will never help at this point. Way too
soon. Most sellers do not write and let you know its shipped - the old days, perhaps, but not now. E-Bay and Paypal both use 10 days out, I believe, as the earliest you should start to fret at all - its only up to the seller to ship immediately and/or let the buyer know. I've been dealing with E-Bay since its inception, and we are also Power Sellers - unless the seller has a lot of negatives, I would just chill. If they did have negatives, you should not have dealt with them. I am assuming the seller didn't have negatives, and just is not going to be rushed. Its really lost the personal touch of the old days, and you are nothing more than an invisible entity buying something thru the mail. Not the way we do business, but the way most business is done now on E-Bay. Good luck!
And your point would be??
Any drug company whether Merck or another making the drug would, duh, naturally make a profit. I think that is why pharmaceutical companies are in the business or am I missing something here?
I think his point was that
for things like STD's or perhaps a vaccine for boys to keep them from giving girls STD's in the first place, MAYBE keep them from getting prostate cancer. He just wondered if the drug companies are working as hard on these things for young boys or if, once again, they are putting the burden on females.
She's got a point though!
You cannot hold a job down and have a child on one knee. You need both hands to type. Time and time again, these posters get on here and ask how to do it? I don't think Minnie is too way off track here. I mean, you have to set boundaries. You can't expect to coddle a toddler or infant all day and type at the same time. She'll have to make some changes if she's not getting the support from her hubby. Not everyone has family to fall back on for babysitting needs, but the OP sounds like she'd be better off getting a job on-site and taking her children to daycare as they may receive better treatment. Sounds like a lot of hostility in that household, which cannot be very good for the children. Some changes need to be made and quick before it escalates into something worse. It is not fair to the children.
I think you do have a point, but sm
the same goes for married people. When I got married my coworkers wanted to know when we planned to start a "family". So once we started the "family" they wanted to know if we planned on having an only child or having more children? It never ends. Some people are, well. "nosey". They like to know everyone's business. It gives them something to fill the voids in their lives I would guess. I wouldn't worry to much about mixing with this crowd too much. Sometimes I wonder if being single isn't more "hip" now than it was in the past. Have fun and enjoy. Life is too short!
my point exactly--sm
by the way this person keeps pushing this stuff about koreans teaching anti-americanism, it makes you think that this was the reason this kid did this, which is just not the case. I'm glad to know there are others that feel the way I do!
my point exactly! nm
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You have to look at it from their point of
If you loan out money/credit and someone promises to pay, and this happens with several borrowers, you cannot afford to give much in the way of leniency.
They are in the business to make money.
I feel for you. Unfortunately, too many people live check to check or beyond their means and it only takes 1 foul up to do this to them.
Your best bet is to work hard to put yourself into a place where you don't have to worry about it.
My point exactly!
It is the craziest thing- I will never understand it. Do they not realize that they are not only encouraging people to declare bankruptcy but in a sense actually rewarding them for it?!?
But you know, I think it comes back to what I was saying earlier- they just write it all off so they really don't care if the money comes from you or not. They always get their money one way or another. Grrrrrr!!!
What is your point? nm
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yep, my point exactly (OP)
Teaching them in life they will always be rewarded for something...NOT! I think an award should genuinely be earned and I'm sorry if all the kids don't get one...they just need to work harder and earn it...
That's my point (sm)
If it's backwoodsy, so what? This is the gab board. People chat. You don't think asking if somebody's young and calling her dearie is being the grammar police or a little hateful first thing in the morning? She *was* referring to a childhood event, and yeah, children itch their itches sometimes where I'm from.
Odd turns of phrase are still to be found in all parts of the country and on a board like this are going to turn up in "casual conversation." Some of us still have our "work vocabulary" and our "casual vocabulary," and they're not always the same.
Did you have to point it out to her? - LOL
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Cat gets his point across
A cat has needs and he won't be denied. See link.
you have a point....
I was just under the assumption that they didn't have children together and thought the "what ifs" might be getting to her. But if she does have children with him, hopefully he is the kind of father who will include his children in all aspects of his life and not try to hide them from his "new" family. It is just a really tough situation when kids are involved. It is so sad in my own circumstance. But I totally see this side of things now.
YES I HAVE, and that was exactly my point. sm
I KNEW what i was talking about. HE had no clue, SHE had no clue, I was being REALISTIC. She didn't want to accept that maybe just maybe he had gotten himself into something more than he could handle. Did ANYBODY read her original post??????
I have it. Your point?
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You do have a point
I really do not want to work outside of the home now and there just aren't many options where I live anyway but maybe I can find something with a little more responsibility and use other skills I have like leadership, etc. I actually got spark there inside when I thought about it.  Thanks!
Point taken....
however, you can be retired and taking care of yourself and still not think of your kids as burdens. They are grown with lives of their own. That is great, but when you get annoyed by their phone call to the point where you consider having the answering machine pick up and maybe even disconnecting the phone.......that is just extreme. She really needs to stand back and count her blessings and enjoy her retirement as well as her kids.
What point...that they don't have to put up
with insults and lies from people like you.
You contracticted yourself so many times...i used to post good about the moderators then later say this is the first and last post I'll ever do...ya ya, troll elsewhere.
Mod, just want to point out it is not me with the
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