My now deceased husband brought his friend home, now my hubby
Posted By: Loveyone on 2009-02-18
In Reply to: How did you meet your significant other? - GabbyChick
Was it love at first sight? Not for me but years later after the death of the previous one, my now husband (he never married, no kids) told me he had loved me from the very first day he saw me. I did not even know he saw me. We are talking 30 more years and the weight, well I will just leave at the 30+ years.
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Married good friend of my deceased husband
I knew him for over 30 years and yet didn't know him. He is very quiet, reserved, shy and when husband died called after 12 days to invite me to the zoo- I had no idea he had ever seen me to tell the truth. Bottom line months later he told me had loved me since the first day he saw me and "just waited."
Have a friend who used her husband's sticker. He really was disabled and stayed at home (sm)
so therefore she gladly took over use of his tags for her purposes. When he died she was aggravated when they wouldn't renew them a year or so after his death. Guess she thought they were survivor's benefits.
um, what about deceased hubby family and $millions she was fighting for?
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My deceased husband visits in dreams and
I am remarried, to one of his best friends.
Reminds me of a story about my deceased husband
We had his grandchildren staying at our home and what a handful, 3 of them, ages 13, 8 and 10. The 10 year old was acting out and threatened to call the police on his g'father (my hubby) when the g'father had done nothing for him to say that. The g'father told him go ahead but he would make the kid wish 1000 times he had never picked up the phone to call in the first place. That seemed to work pretty well as the kid just looked at the phone and did not make that call.
DH brought home a pink Bobo and
a blue Bobo and presented them to the Siberians. Sasha took hers with glee and checked out the squeeker and crackly part. She then proceeded to show us the poor stitching workmanship as she eviscerated the poor pink doggy all over my office. Meanwhile CJ didn't know what to do with blue Bobo, so Sasha snatched it and ran off.
No more Bobos for the Siberians.
Hubby called - didn't get one but his friend did
They are going out again next weekend. I know what you mean about the jerky - I love it!! In fact, we are hoping he gets a deer because we were going to make jerky for Christmas gifts!
Hubby's friend is a jerk - period!
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I agree my hubby's friend is getting disability for his back
lifts equipment, helps transport it, etc. He also doesn't pay child support. what a waste of space.
Bra till hubby gets home, then I flash him!
 Of course, other than his palms for support!!!!!!   - LOL
If SHE (the teacher) brought it up then it is very, very wrong. If a child brought it up
it is still wrong for her to answer with the truth -- but lying wouldn't really be acceptable either. In the case of the child asking her she should tell the child to ask their parents.
I would assume the scenario was something like one child telling another child that there was no Santa and that child then asking the teacher. Not wanting to lie about it the teacher told the truth. Anyone teaching children that age, at this time of year, should have a prepared statement for that type of situation. "You need to ask your Mommy or Daddy that question."
To all you married moms with kids and hubby at home,
do you ever dream about living by yourself? Not just with no kids, but with no hubby either? I love my family, but when I feel overwhelmed, when life gets too stressful, I can't help but think how peaceful that kind of life would be, with just myself to take care of. Of course I know in my heart that if I was by myself I would be bored and lonely, but right now it sounds really good! It has been one of those days...
Does your husband or significant other do this? Just now, at 7:30, my husband came home from sm
playing sports with a friend. After showering he comes downstairs naked and tries to start a conversation with me. My "office" is in the living room and he is standing in back of the couch so I can't see any private parts, just him without his shirt, but I can see enough to know he clearly is naked! I think he wants me to be amused or get turned on or something, but I'm not amused one bit. In fact, I keep working and basically ignore him.
Poor guy. I swear he thinks he's Vince Vaughn or something. I should at least smile at him but all I want to tell him is to put some clothes on! ugh!
but as far as home care, olive oil. I have a friend who uses it (sm)
and her skin always looks great. You can add fragrance to it so it doesn't smell so oily. Can also use oil and sugar to make a good scrub.
Rainy, cool, dark. Home working with plenty of work. Hubby and kids are sm
picking up toys, taking them to Goodwill. LOVE days like this.
My husband's best friend is
They've known each other since they were 7 and he's definitely the most trusted person and vice versa. I trust him too, actually.
they don't hang out all the time though. They're in different states.
Having had several friends who turned out to be "fair weather", I don't trust anybody that much. (Of my friends.)
My husband is my best friend.
Everyone else is wonderful, and I love them, but I prefer to rely on my sweetheart for tried and true companionship, and everyone else for fun times through shared interests.
Had a friend whose husband died
and she had grown children but I know she was not able to collect his social security at 50 - she had to wait til at least 60 before collecting on his. She had never really worked at job where she could make her own living and she was in a mess, had to take sales position in a dress shop and nearly went under waiting.
Husband asked my friend to sew something for him (sm)
He is very old fashioned and feels that all women should know how to sew. I don't know how, but of course can patch holes and replace buttons. So last night she told me she had something to give my husband for Christmas - a hunting vest he asked her to sew a bullet holder on for him. He often takes things to his mother and grandmother to sew but now even to my friend? I told her she should have just told him no but she said, No, I love doing things like that. About a week ago he had taken my sewing machine out of the attic and was going to give it away. I told him he couldn't give it away, it was a gift from my aunt and uncle. He said I never use it so why shouldn't HE give it away. I told him it wasn't his. Anyway, I'm just really aggravated right now.
My best friend was MURDERED by her husband, sm
and someone I worked with was shot in the head by her significant other. You must take his threat 100% seriously. Please, please call the police and have him committed. He is now officially a danger to self AND OTHERS. Take action now and do not depend on the situation to "work its way out." I implore you to take action while you can.
You had every right to be upset. Your husband should have told his friend
and then would get back to him. Now, if you don't feel comfortable going on a long trip with your small children and their practically grown children, tell your husband you don't want to go and that since it's your money your earning as well that you want to have some say in planning a vacation and that it should be done together as a couple, even as a family, and not just by one person.
A friend of mine has a husband with myasthenia gravis
and it affects his eyelids. He can't hold them open and had special glasses made witih a wire that he puts under both eyelids for support. I hope it's not that, and certainly may be something else, but I think an ophthalmology exam is in order and then maybe referral to a neurologist. Good luck. Keep us posted.
Working at home/husband issues - do you think(sm)
Do you think they are jealous because we work at home or that they somehow picture us at home having the day off every day and getting pad for it - so they wonder why the house isn't perfect, etc.? Because I am constantly extremely busy between work and my kids and trying to get things done around the house but I think my husband thinks I should be able to get everything done since I am here. I don't think he was as bad when I worked in an office.
LOL! My husband came home from work and put that one on immediately! sm
I have to admit, I don't remember too many of these. But, to refresh your memory, let me tell you what's on this 2-disc set:
Three is a magic number.
Conjunction Junction
Lolly, Lolly, Lolly get your adverbs here!
Interjections!
Electricity! Electricity!
The Preamble
Interplanet Janet
A Noun is a person, place, or thing
The Shout heard round the world
There is 283 minutes of this stuff! I'm excited my kids are into this.
Husband for sale - harder to work with him home than the grandkids. (sm)
He is cleaning our furnace and muttering, muttering, hollering where is this, I bet I have got up and went in there 4 times this morning to just have him mutter never mind I found it.
You gotta love them, but he of all people should know my money comes from my butt being in that chair.
My husband usually gets a 12,000 bonus every year in March and then takes home around 7 or 8. It IS
sickening - that the Govt. gets that much out of taxes. I hate it. WE are standing behind the Fair Tax for this very reason. Somethings gottah happen. Remember the Boston Tea Party? This govt is just out of control in its spendind. 39% How is one supposed to live when we only bring home 70% of our actual pay? Doesn't that anger some of you?????????????????????????????????????????
Unfortunately, Nancy is deceased. nm
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The family of the deceased...
I have a strange question. To be quite honest, I have experienced very little death throughout my life. I know as I get older that will change, but I have been to 2 funerals. We recently had a very close friend die in a traumatic accident. He was 45 and left behind 5 children. The obituary states that "contributions can be made to the church." Where do these contributions go? Do they go to the family? toward funeral expenses?
Also, does anyone have any tips of what I can do for the family? I know sending cards is a good thing. Should I send one to each of the children as well as the wife? what about his siblings and parents? I live fairly far away from this family now and will not be able to make it back "home" for the funeral and I feel that I must do something! I would appreciate any suggestions.
Thanks in advance.
Why was the insurance to go to your deceased
brother's children? Was there a stipulation somewhere? Don't know everything about all the ins and outs, but beneficiaries listed on life insurance, CDs, etc. take precedence over a will. You can Google it. Unless there was some language 'if a child predeceases me, that child's shares of such and such will be equally divided between his/her surviving children and this is intended to supercede any listed beneficiaries on life insurance, etc. that may not have been changed on such' in the will, then I would think you would be the only beneficiary left anyway, and even if that language was in a will, still very difficult to override documented beneficiaries on that kind of stuff in a will. That is why it is SO important to be sure beneficiaries on life insurance, CDs, etc. are correct and updated if you want to spare people confusion and grief after you're gone.
No sisters, 1 brother deceased, just me
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I might add that grandparents on paternal side are deceased so
only ones around are mine but that doesn't seem to matter to them.
How to split insurance with a deceased person?
My brother was dead. First I knew nothing of the insurance money. They got in touch with me. They gave me half and spent a year trying to find the children (2) of my deceased brother. After a year and they could not locate, they got in touch with me again and sent me the remainder. Any more questions?
Her mother is a selfish woman who wants nothing but her deceased daughter's money....
she was booed at her daugther's funeral because she tried to stop the whole thing, once again, while they were in the procession of going to the chapel...she is a horrid woman as far as i am concerned...i feel bad that she lost her daugther and grandson but other than that she can crawl back under the rock that she came out of...
a friend's b/friend died last year, drank, took vicodin...
how does it get like this? I mean, what brought you two together
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I was brought up with the saying that
if you rent you might as well be throwing money out the window. If at all possible, buy. (That is what I did when I was divorced.) Just make sure that the house is properly inspected and any problems found are fixed, per your contract BEFORE you buy it, per the seller's expense. That way, at least you start out with everything in good condition. Check roof, plumbing, electrical wiring, etc.
Sure wish I'd brought a newspaper! nm
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You brought it up, ya goof!
The truth is painful sometimes.
I do understand but my cat has brought up
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I was brought to tears
by his singing but especially by his story.
That child would have been brought up with nannies whether she was
alive or not. Given Anna Nicole's usual state of mind, she was not fit to take care of her little girl by herself and her overuse of drugs I am sure has somehow played into her death. God may have given that child a blessing by giving her the chance to be raised in a proper environment not have to deal with a mother influenced by drugs. Everything happens for a reason.
What in the world brought that about, your post
talking about black culture? I do not consider her a role model any more than I consider Britany, Lindsay, Paris, Nichole- they are entertainers period. A role model is someone you should look up to and being an entertainer, for the most part, is not someone I would protray as one. I think Beyonce is pretty, sorta half way talented but the others listed above, their talents seem to be in how much media they can gather. None of these posts have been racially motivated, I do not believe. We are talking talent (Jennifer Hudson) versus non....
Oooh, I am SO glad someone brought this up. I was sm
watching this for the first time in years last Friday. I had a break and there was nothing on t.v. The last time I saw it, Nick and Sharon were married. I think I saw it around the time Cassie died??
Anyways, is Nick married to Phyllis now?
When he woke up Fri. Sharon had to break some terrible news to him - what was the news? I missed it! Thanks......
I think you brought in issue when you said biracial.
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It brought tears to my eyes as well. You have
reason to be proud!!
Ah, you just brought back memories...sm
I am mid-40s. My dad also taught me home and car repair--usually against my will, but grateful for it now. Whenever I bought a car, he made me change a tire and the oil in front of him. Loved shop class in school. Mmm, power tools! I still do a lot of maintaince and repairs, but I actually enjoy doing that stuff now! As for sewing, I was born into a family of handicrafters, and since I was a kid have enjoyed sewing non-clothing things and especially yarn projects, and can do most sewing repairs. Just not very good at sewing my own clothes from patterns because I poke myself with the pins too much. Such a klutz.
So you protest about politics being brought
proceed to participate in the very behavior you are objecting so stridently to. You are entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to share your opinion. I am not saying that you aren't. I just find it rather interesting that you choose to actively participate in the very behavior you're protesting so loudly against.
I really don't care to argue with you, just as I don't really care for the politics board. As far as tomorrow, for my kids it is historic event. Only one of them was old enough to remember Bush being sworn in the second time, and he was still to young for it to hold a great deal of significance. I would like to foster in my children a respect for the process of our government and why our founding fathers designed it the way they did. This is part of that process. It is not about race for my younger children, although my 8-yo still doesn't understand why a black person, or anyone else not Caucasian for that matter, had never been president. My 6-yo thought nothing of the fact that a white woman or a black woman or a black man or a Hispanic man could run for president. In fact, she was a Hillary supporter and then a McKinney supporter because, "boys are yucky."
For some people, tomorrow is a catharsis on many levels, for the past 8 years to the past 200+. If you can't see and appreciate the significance of the event, then I feel very sorry for you.
Buy a home of my own - not a palace, but more of a smallish home on a large piece of land. (nm)
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That was awesome sodiepop! Last one brought tears
:)
My physician never brought up about hysterectomy, I told him
I wanted to see about this but this situation different. I had ongoing bleding that could not be controlled and then another person in medical field told me how their friend almost hemorrhaged and not being able to stop the bleeding in the nighttime. I immediately called my physician and asked for a hysterectomy. So glad I did. This was in 1986 and loads of typing then on AIDS patients and how blood could be responsible. I did not want a transfusion at that particular time. My view only. No problem with the surgery at all. Now there are other means of controlling but past childbearing, saw no reason to just have the periods.
Down here, everybody kisses everybody on the cheek. We're brought up to do it!
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