My mom started working again when -sm
Posted By: on 2008-12-30
In Reply to: Latchkey kids - Silly Girl
I was 10. But I had two older brothers, 13 and 15, so that really was not a problem, and my walk off the bus was the corner of my yard to the front door. I was about 15 I guess before I was actually alone afterschool. I have a similar dilemma, but mine are 8 and 10 and IF I get this job I am applying to will probably pay a neighbor down the road to watch them for the 90 minutes I need them watched. They get off the bus with another boy (also 10) but don't think the mom will also want to watch mine until I get home, though I guess I could ask, she is always looking for extra cash. What to do for Spring break, X-mas break, Summer is my big problem. But all in all I think a 3rd grader is a bit young to have alone, the youngest I would consider I think for a short period of time is 10. Most states are 12 though. Good luck.
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I started working around 6 a.m.
It's just about 8 now. If it weren't my weekend to work, I would still be in bed, no doubt about it! Not a morning person. Need my ZZZZZZZZs.
I have to agree. Just started Chantix 2 weeks ago and is working great!!! nm
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Haven't started shopping yet, but have started saving $$$
Don't have an awful lot yet, but both hubby and I are doing it (separate accounts) so we should have a good amount when we combine. My goal is to start shopping in September after my daughter's birthday and finish by Thanksgiving. That's my goal. I have never reached it! Maybe this year!
And FYI, the thread we are posting in right now was one I started, you started the earlier one. nm
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I haven't started yet, but have started my lists.
The only reason I haven't started yet is because of $$$. But I have started some good lists for the kids and the DH. I actually have some good ideas for him this year (he is hard to buy for).
I'm like you, I love Christmas but hate the commercialism of it. We were at Costco a while back looking for Halloween costumes and they already had their Christmas stuff out. They always make me feel like I'm already late on my shopping!
I may do a lot of online shopping this year. It's easier with little ones. My 2yo is more aware this year so taking him with me to buy his own presents is out. Darn!
It always seems that Halloween (my favorite) takes forever to get here, but once it's over, then the holiday rush is on.
Happy Holidays everyone!
My DD started at age 4, with sm
combo ballet and tap lessons, I think it was twice a week. The teacher was great, very encouraging, and did not give them more than they could handle. She loved practicing her steps at home. And, my heart be still, the recitals were just, well, thrilling. Adorable girls, in adorable outfits. Flowers galore from all the parents. It was so much fun for everyone. Of course, there were missteps, but they were absolutely charming. She continued until about 11, when she got interested in other things.
I just started again...
I used to do some kind of activity every day a few years ago and then got away from it and the wait has just packed on. So, I am back at it again. I have several Walk Away the Pounds DVDs (if you can ignore Leslie's annoying commentary, they are great) and if it's nice like it was last week here in central PA, I walk about a mile or so. One day last week, I did both. I want to get back into some light weights and also have a beginning yoga DVD.
Don't get me started :)
I have theories on the Jack/Claire connection too.
That was me until I started new job!
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OMG don't get me started!
Even my local newspaper gives me headaches. They're suppose to have proofreaders and have supposedly won awards and such but they definitely didn't get it for spelling. Maybe the ones giving them the awards can't spell either LOL
For example one year during the basketball season they misspelled "guard" the entire year. They would spell it "gaurd". Typos are certainly acceptable once in a while, I even had a typo once (ha ha) but this is an ongoing thing and not just with my newspaper, I see it on ABCnews.com all the time.
Why don't they Spellcheck? It won't catch all errors but it'll certainly catch all the obviously mispelled ones! 
Oh don't even get me started.
Your story sounds sooooo much like mine. My husband and I married when his son was 5 or 6 and it was/has been a nightmare being his step-parent. I know my stepson was just a child when his parents divorced and he was probably hurting inside (his mom is a piece of work, that's for sure; she had little to no contact with him all these years).
I think my husband always felt sorry for his son because he was just like your husband--didn't discipline him. He always would justify why his son did something wrong or fix whatever it was himself so that his son didn't have to. His son called me horrible names (mostly when he was a teen), ignored me, said cruel things to me, destroyed things in our house, stole, started a fire from carelessness, and so on. He would lie to you without a second thought.
I had him in counseling for a while hoping it would help. I was at my wit's end. I knew we needed help. My husband never drove his son to the appointments, only I did. Husband never attended. It got to where my stepson was angry at ME for making him go, and eventually I gave up the fight and we stopped (it didn't seem to help anyway).
At one of the counseling appointments he told the counselor out right that *I* was the reason his parents divorced!!! HEllo! I didn't meet his dad until AFTER the divorce was final and his mother had already been re-married! I don't know what dream world he was living in, but it certainly wasn't reality!
Long story short, this kid hated me, and I didn't know how to deal with him. I had kids of my own with his dad and then had to protect them from my stepson because he would act out and hurt them if I wasn't careful.
This kid is now 18, dropped out of high school, and has been arrested. He doesn't get along with anyone, few friends, and still hates me. He still lives in our house and his father STILL protects him, treating him as a "buddy" instead of a parent.
I wish I had advice for you. My only real advice I suppose is NOT to have kids with your husband until you're sure you can make it work, or else you're in for a LOT of years of anguish. This is honestly the biggest issue my husband and I have--his son. It has caused me to run off to my parent's house a couple of times, huge screaming matches, my threatening to leave, and so on.
Lord knows I've tried with this kid, but without the husband's help, it's meaningless.
OH sigh......I could go on all night. Just, well, good luck.
So, I started
the new job today. Drove to my new place of employment. DH also worked today. Got home to DH glaring at the ottoman that Bear ATE.
Bear is not big on my working outside the house, apparently. I wish duct tape came in dark brown ...
that's what started it all
I tried to explain to her that I couldn't get off for a shower up there - and reminded her of what I am up against in terms of money - get this - my gutter is duct taped to my house. SIL accused me of making her cry and making her miserable. Heck - my daughter and I cry at commercials!. I've been crying all morning because of the poster below's cat remembering my cats. After he berated me in a way I don't think any son/daughter or in-law should to a mother I decided I needed an apology before I made any more contact with them. I was even going to take my vacation when the baby came to help cook and clean and do whatever they needed and they knew that. Not like I wasn't giving them everything I could.
The one that SS started.
FURTHERMORE (I should NOT have started . . .)
The cardiologists and hospitalists that took care of my mother quite appreciated that I knew her baseline EF, that she had chf, and could give a very detailed medical history to them and knew what they were talking about when my mother could not give them that info last summer . . . AND when I mentioned to my doc one time that I thought I had restless leg syndrome (which yea, I did) during my pregnancy he said, "how'd you hear about that already? Oh yea, I forgot you're an MT." So it just depends on who ya talk to.
That's what I started doing, too
I had 3 kids in school in various activities at any time of the school year and they were always selling stuff. I finally just started writing a check for $20 or whatever and sending it in. Much easier.
So sorry about your working but
I was asked if I would, my regular day off but since no small kids and celebrating later in the day anyway, really made no difference this morning. Am also not employee so could have turned them down but I realized years ago that with children you want to be able to spend Christmas morning with them so think most of the time I was off. I read on these posts supposedly you make your own hours not being an employee, right?
Working??
And just what exactly is it that you are doing, if you don't mind my asking??? Ever hear of the saying, "the pot calling the kettle black"?
working out
Don't worry so much about what the scale says but go by how your clothes fit. I've worked out most of my adult life and threw my scale away. I weigh myself once per week at the gym. If you continue your working out as you describe, you will find that you will weigh more than you think you should, but you will fit into a smaller size. For ex, I'm 5ƈ". In my head I would think my ideal weight should be about 125 but have found my ideal work-out weight is 142 which puts me in a size 10...which is ok with me. Good luck!
Who's working anyway?
The population of this country is 300 million.
160 million are retired.
That leaves 140 million to do the work.
There are 85 million in school.
Which leaves 55 million to do the work.
Of this there are 35 million employed by the federal government.
Leaving 15 million to do the work.
2.8 million are in the armed forces preoccupied with killing Osama Bin-Laden.
Which leaves 12.2 million to do the work.
Take from that total the 10.8 million people who work! for state and city governments.
And that leaves 1.4 million to do the work.
At any given time there are 188,000 people in hospitals.
Leaving 1,212,000 to do the work.
Now, there are 1,211,998 people in prisons.
That leaves just two people to do the work.
You and me.
And there you are,
sitting at your computer, reading jokes.
Nice. Real nice.
Have fun - I''m working......nm
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another working here too
going to fireworks tonight though and to a free movie in the morning...getting up early to work, cookout...swim...happy 4th and GOD BLESS AMERICA!!!
Is it only when you are working?
Or does it happen other times? My daughter's friend has some weird thing where she cannot drive because she starts to fall asleep, but it only happens when she is driving. Or maybe your job has just gotten too boring! LOL.
You might be working too much
When you exercise, they always have you alternate days between aerobics and strength training because the muscles you use need a rest between uses. Without the proper rest between, you're not allowing the muscles to recover, which leads to chronic overuse and ultimately, pain.
Ha, just working. I am used
to every time I get up to get a drink or go to the bathromo, I always light a cigarette. That's the part I'm really fighting, but haven't given in. I really have to quit; tired of coughing all night long! Have been smoking for about 25 years adn figure it's way past time!
what's working for me
My biggest problem is that the strands of my hair are very, very fine. Had a hair stylist tell me that was caused by hollow follicles and poor diet. (well, I KNOW I eat awful but am trying to at least get in more water and less caffeine now). I have no idea if she's right or not about the hollow follicle thing, but -- I went to Sally Beauty and found Folicure vitamins for hair. I'm sure there are plenty of other brands out there. I figured if it was a root problem it might take a while to see a difference (my hair is about 2 inches past my shoulders). I have been taking the vitamins for a little over 2 months. Hair is not thicker yet but seems stronger and healthier in appearance.
I also suffer from dry, brittle, frizzy hair - especially in winter. The wonderfully helpful lady at Sally Beauty also recommended several months ago Excelsior's Millennia Mudd. You use it after shampooing instead of conditioner, let it sit for several minutes, and then rinse out. It has DRASTICALLY improved my hair. I used it every day (she said this was safe to do) for a couple weeks and really noticed a difference. Once I felt my hair was improving I cut back to 3-4 times a week now. It has eliminated my split ends and makes my hair feel incredibly soft.
Lastly, the same hair stylist gave me this recommendation - of course, she was trying to sell me the pricy salon product but I said no and went to Walmart for a product that fit my budget better. She said to apply a thick, creamy, leave-in conditioner on the "ends" - meaning about half the length of my hair. Not to the roots as then it would look oily or greasy. This you leave in and do not rinse out. I have been using Nexxus Humectress Ultimate Moisturizing Conditioner. Now, my hair is also naturally curly so if I brush my hair out after drying it still fluffs up considerably (kids say I'm a poodle) BUT, it is not brittle feeling and it not breaking off when I try to comb it. (I got a free sample of Fruictese -- sp?? -- version of leave-in cream conditioner - it fells kinda sticky or tacky or something. Did not like it as well.)
Sorry, that was a little long-winded. This combination seems to be working well for me. Hope it helps you too.
um, then why are you working and he is not?
and why so many cruises, they are disgusting, food poisoning, people germs, body odor all crammed together, and someone thinks it's fun.
What is working for me
Sorry to butt in, just thought I'd share what has been working for me. I have ankle/foot pain from a bad break, so walking a lot is difficult. So, I bought a recumbent stationary bike. I've been 'riding' that for about 30 minutes a day (started out at 5 and worked my way up). I've lost about 12 pounds since Thanksgiving and that's with all the holiday eating! Not sure if it will work for you because of your knee pain, but for me it's better than walking.
I have been working
a non-MT job for about 3 weeks now.
I decided after 5 years of MT that I was becoming very anti-social and depressed. I couldn't take being home alone all day long anymore, so I went to a staffing agency and asked what they could do for me.
I wanted a position in a hospital or doctor's office, but was so eager to get out that I told them I would take anything.
I am an administrative assistant now at a non-medical place of business and I LOVE it. When I look back on my days of feeling like a hermit, I almost cry. I have become a completely different person in a matter of weeks.
Good luck to you! It's amazing what a little socialization can do for the mind, body, and spirit.
working, working, working!
My stepson will not be with us for Christmas morning so we celebrated early. I will be working tonight and all day tomorrow. Kinda nice to be done with the shopping, etc. while everyone else is hustling and bustling for last minute things. We were invited to the in-laws for Christmas dinner tomorrow night and I was asked (yesterday) to bring sweet potatoes so I will be running to the store this afternoon to get those but that's it. Hubs and I may go see a movie tomorrow afternoon as a treat to ourselves.
Try working with her-
I myself got a very young kitten from my housekeeper and she is like the Tasmanian devil but I love her with a passion. Maybe you should have gotten an older cat if you wanted 1 like Garfield, 1 that sleeps and sorta stays out of the way. My kitten has just reached the age of spaying but she has been into everything here in the home. I have had to kitten proof everything- she gets up on everything from the living room table to end tables. I have bought scatmats that I have on my kitchen table and countertops. I have tried the water bottles, 2 sided tape, chicken wire on some tables to keep her off. She is a rascal but - I love her and know she will grow out of this and plan on keeping. My bedroom door stays closed when I am out of there to keep my cats out. I will work with my girl because just too many unwanted animals out there - I do not consider them throw aways. I would just say to keep the bedroom door shut. I have not found anything really that deters mine yet- I know 1 day she is going to be that beautiful grown up tabby and well past the kitten stage.
I'm working it -
I am currently working full time at home, which is not giving me much work, part time in a hospital, and going to school full time. I do not have time to add anything else and guess what - my bills are not getting paid!
I am a month behind on my rent and my check this time is a third of what I need to pay to just pay that one thing. I am behind on my power bill and because the unit was tore up last month and the company kept telling me it was not, I just got a $300 power bill for last month that I do not know how I am going to pay...
My husband is out of work due to a WC injury and barely gets enough money to pay anything besides buy some food and put gas in the car to make sure that I can get back and forth to work at that second job...
We have lost everything we had last summer, just started getting things back on track, and now this all hits again. I've done everything responsibly that I can do. The only thing left to let go is the vehicle, then how am I supposed to get to work?
And, by the way, that second job in house only pays me a third of what I make at home when there is work available, but I continue to go there because it is guaranteed hourly income and not production based.
I have no insurance. Have not been to the doctor in over 3 years (even though after my last serious GYN procedure, I was told that I had to have regular visits every 3 months).
Now what else exactly do you think I should do? There are no more hours left to do anything else!
I started WW 4 weeks ago...
I actually NEVER cook. My kids are picky eaters, and they both are picky about different things, so we eat mostly TV dinners.
With WW, you can eat anything. You calculate "points" based on calories, fiber, and fat grams. You get a certain amount of points each day based on your weight. You also get 35 cheat points per week. If you are still hungry, you can earn points by exercising.
In 4 weeks, I've lost 6.6 pounds and I haven't felt like I was dieting even once. I wish I would have done their program years ago.
If you do cook, you can go on their website and use E-Tools to calculate points. You can enter your own recipe into the online calculator, and it will tell you how many points it is.
Right now they have a special where you don't have to pay the initial start-up fee and you get free E-Tools for $40 a month. That's what I'm doing now, and I plan to stay at it until I lose all the weight.
Good luck with whichever program you decide.
Just started Atkins
I started Atkins 2 weeks ago and have lost 9 lbs. Now before someone tries to burst my bubble I know it is mostly water weight. Is anyone else on here using atkins? By the way my starting weight is 390 I am 6ƈ''. Everyone have a great day.
Started to google but when I saw going here and going there
just decided not gonna read all that. First of all I think you and only you make your life happy or sad, good or bad. I do good for others and it comes back to me, always but I do because I want to, not have to. Life is in our hands and ours alone, not our husband, children, other family members.
I'm not the one who started the thread but
I posted a reply on another thread about infidelity. I told the poster that what she was doing was wrong, to take a cold shower and pray about what was doing.
Regina (yeah, she uses her name in her entire email address) emailed me about how wrong I was, don't have a conscience, and stuff.
I saw her name here on this thread.
I'm just telling her to STOP EMAILING ME.
My son started having migraines by 4..........sm
We didn't know that's what was going on at the time, but realized migraines were the problem. He played sports and these things would hit him out of the blue, sometimes brought on by being out in the bright light and just running a lot. We would put him in a dark dark room with no sounds. A cold pack really helped to shrink the vessels and would have to wait it out. An anti-inflammatory like Aleve might work better, but I would check with doc first because of her age. He's 20 now, but still gets one from time to time, mostly brought on by being out in the bright light for a long time, like when he's playing soccer or anything that keeps him outdoors in the light for long periods of time. Stress can bring them on also, even though there are docs out there that still say stress doesn't play a part.......yea, right!!! Obviously, they've never had a migraine. So sorry she's having to deal with this.
to each his/her own...started w/Lexmark 12 yrs ago
and different HP types, first was inkjet, deskjet, and now a laser of theirs (which I love and was very affordable but I chose no color this time as I only need black-white).
Like I said, to each his or her own regarding technical equipment; nobody's right and nobody's wrong. Being online 12+ years, I simply prefer Hewlett Packard printers (only). I would not buy their computer systems though.
Have a GREAT week!
I just started watching B&B
ever since Constantine joined the cast. The writers seem to like these storylines. Something similar happened on Days of Our Lives.
Well, the publicity started before her
and just continues on an apparently nontalented made up Hollywood celebrity. Her grandfather married Zaa-Zaa Gabor and Elizabeth Taylor was married to her paternal uncle so the swirl continues, and to not know Paris I would think is just another person being kept too sheltered.
I have no problems at all getting started
It's the middle and end I have difficulty with. After about half a day, I'm mentally exhausted and can't concentrate. This just started a couple of months ago and been working in MT field for years, but now at home for about the last 2 years. I agree with burnout and boredom. It has to be up there in the top ten list of most boring jobs, don't you think?
Melatonin - just started using (sm)
I just started using melatonin for sleep - had been using Benadryl every night. Guess what? I have had unrefreshing sleep for so long - this stuff has helped me so much. I think I have had a deficiency. I have felt so good two days in a row after using this stuff for sleep. I only slept about 6 hours last night but it was the best sleep I've had in years so I feel great. There are tons of web sites about the deficiency symptoms if anyone thinks they may need it. I just can't believe after all this time a $5 bottle of melatonin from the grocery store has helped me this much!
Any new medications started?
Blood pressure meds can cause all kinds of weird things.
Effexor and others can cause some weird things too for some people. And so can getting off some medications, even if you tapered off at a rate that should have been reasonable.
I hope it doesn't take long before they track down some benign culprit that they can correct.
If it is anxiety, I learned a lot from relaxation training using biofeedback. It was very helpful, so even that can be overcome in a systematic way.
Hubba started also here on Gab
If she is on the other, did not know. Yes, I know the names above, not new to this board, see it frequently, way past schooling for this lady. Thanks anyway.
My mom told us when we started to ask - sm
I was 8 and my older brother 10. My other brother was 13 but he never sat in on these talks, presume he already knew. I remember sitting in the kitchen with her and her telling us how babies were made. I did not fully comprehend until I was about 10 but had the gist of things. I say if they are asking, tell them, it does not mean they are going to run out and try to do it, they are just curious. My 2 know that you have to have sex to make a baby, though they are still not too sure what that is (they are 7 and 9) I have explained in basics to them already though they don't quite grasp it yet, but in time they will understand just as I did. I am doing more the "period" talk now as my 9-year-old is wondering a lot about that.
Even if I started out small
do you think I would need all that legal stuff - licenses, health inspections? At first I was hoping to make money "under the table" so to speak. I don't want to be a large corporation because it would be just me baking so don't think I could handle that much.
No I havent started it yet.
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Just started a few months ago
And I love it. It's very easy to deal with, since you brush on such a tiny bit at a time. I start with the big brush, then use the middle one to go over where I need more coverage. If you have very dry skin, I can see where it might be a problem, but that's not me. I do try to avoid putting it on heavily where I have crow's feet around my eyes, because I think maybe it does make them more prominent.
And don't let that video scare you - they make it look like you'd be putting on 40 coats of this stuff or something. I just use the basic color, some of the warmth and then the mineral veil. I don't think you need anything more.
I had started thinking
after telling my husband about it, he said that he would have smarted off at her. And obviously after reading what everyone has said, something should be done. I don't know that she is necessarily picking on my daughter, but they had homework the other day to draw a gingerbread man to put up at the school as posters. Well, my daughter worked diligently on hers and it turned out adorable, and the day it was to be turned in, I checked her folder, and there it was. Her homework. I took her to school today and there were other posters up everywhere that other children had done. It is THEIR JOB to double-check her folder IMO. Being only 5, she could have forgotten that it was there! I am definitely going to send a warning letter to the teacher in the morning, before it gets any more ridiculous than it has.
agreed. He's probably the one that got her started
on whatever crap she's been taking. He seems like an enabler, taping her while she was enbriated (huh???...I love the Soup)
I quilt, or I did before started MT.
I made a full size quilt and am hand quilting it. Have PVC frame and love to quilt, but not like I have time now. It is sooo relaxing. I do know people that send them out, however. Would think quilt shop could refer you to someone. You also have the option of tying the quilt, with the little knots of yarn or floss. You can Google this to get an idea how they look. As far as hand quilting, I use the stab method but most use the rocking method. Again google if unclear what these are. A baby quilt is a good size to start on. Machine quilting is tricky cause can end up with a bunch of material at the end of a line of machine quilting. A walking foot helps with this problem. My second mother was a prodigious quilter and was a huge help. If you can find someone to mentor you, maybe through the quilt shop, it would help. Oh yeah, and a quilt quild or club would be a big help. Again, quilt shop should be able to help you find one.
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