My married daughter is wanting us to move real close to them. (sm)
Posted By: MTgrammy on 2009-05-05
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Right now we live about 3 hours away. She has been married 4 years and just bought a house in a beautiful mountain area. We had always talked about retiring in the mountains but have another 10 years to work. I have 3 other married kids. Just wondered if anyone moved next door to their kids and how everything worked out.
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Have been married to close to 10 years
and what in the world are you talking about that a relationship requires work? My hubby and I really mesh together wonderfully and I work at my job, but at my marriage?? We love each other, respect each other, care about each other and I am puzzled by the having to work at a marriage....What is hard about a marriage?
My daughter was married...sm
my married daughter is only
45 min away, and she wants us to move closer. I'd really like to as well, but at our age, and the economic times, it may not be a sound idea. my gramma lived 2 doors down from her daughter and it didn't work out well because in part she monitored everything she could see going on. it no doubt depends upon the people too.
My daughter married in 2001
She was in charge, she did it all, I bought a dress and showed up. I would not put my 2 cents in - if she had wanted she would have asked for it but her deal, her show. I got back from vacation the day before to join in the rehearsal dinner that night and the next day the wedding. When my present husband and I got married, we did it the right way, married just the 2 of us and the minister in Las Vegas.
kids like your daughter are real and decent; I know many just like her.
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My daughter married in Jan 09. She is begging me to live with them when sm
he gets back from Iraq next year. He and I don't know each other well yet, but he loves what he knows of me. I feel the same. We both love my daughter, so it pays to get along with him. He said to me when they married and I was getting to know him...he would never come between my daughter and me, but said that I could not move in without talking to him about it. Good enough for me.
She is still in college for a couple of more years. He is in the service and will be gone for a year and then have to finish his college plans. They want kids when she is out of school since she will be out first. They both have said to me, when the grandbabies come, you have to live with us. Read LIVE IN THEIR HOME. Mmm I am not really up for that. I am up for being closer than the current 4 hours from her as I am now.
Having had a gramma I was very close with, I think grandkids need their grandmothers in a very big way. I would not be here if it weren't for mine. I'll have to figure this out and move when the time comes.
We are close in that we live about five miles from each other, but we aren't close like good frie
By husband and BIL WERE pretty good friends, though.
If you are set on closing, do not close the old ones, close a newer account first.
Your credit is based on a mix of things like history, types of accounts, mix of credit (revolving vs installment), usage/utilization of credit available, and payment history. Where closing could hurt your score is the part of the score that averages history of accounts/length of credit. If you decide to close, close out a newer account first.
The best way to protect from ID theft as far as credit is to freeze your credit reports. It's around $10 per agency to freeze them. Each credit reporting agency tries to sell your their own monitoring plan when you get to the how to freeze information, so make
sure you are freezing it.
You can't freeze it over the net they each require a letter by registered mail. It takes about 1 month to freeze it.
Right now you can place a fraud alert on your reports for free. The credit *should* not extend credit or do a credit line increase without calling the phone # on your credit report first. You only need to do it at one credit reporting agency and the other ones will be notfied. The number for equifax fraud alert 1-888-766-0008. It's automated.
If you are concerned about ID theft try one of the monitoring plans. I've tried a few of them and Equifax has the best one. Their Score Watch is great, you set the limits to be notified and any change they send an email literaly the next day. I used it after I discovered ID theft. It might be a waste of money for you. I would place the fraud alerts, then the freeze, and check your reports 2x per year.
I've had ID theft as far as my name/social but what concerns me more than credit ID theft is bank account theft. I don't know how we can fight that. It seems like consumers get the raw end of the deal as far rights when deposit accounts are stolen.
he's not a real person, but that feeling is real - the magic. nm
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I have been wanting to do this, but may I ask...sm
Is the measurment taken over your existing bra or other clothing? Being shy, not sure I could go through with it otherwise. It seems like a really good idea, though.
Should have been NOT wanting to work
NM
I have been wanting to try nutrisystem
and like you said it seems to be a no brainer but I was afraid of the expense and someone told me that the food was horrible. Is this true?
I understand you not wanting
to make excuses for his bad behavior...BUT, think of what message that would be sending to the daughter. It would be saying, you don't matter all that much around here. We don't respect you or any of your friends. Would you then expect her to have respect for others? The husband is an adult and should know how to conduct himself properly, if not, learn. I would have pulled out my own money and said, "Buy her what she would like to drink" and then I would have layed into him when the friend was gone. No, I wouldn't let him pull that cr*p around me again and treat my son or daughter with such disregard.
I can't imagine anyone wanting
to be contacted by you.
Wanting to invest but what to do
I would like to get input from others who have money in stocks, bonds and such. have some money that I would like to invest. I would like to find something that is not in any way financially unsound. I know I could put in the bank in a CD but do not think I would make as much on it if I used in other ways. Does anyone have any savings that are more or less safe proof and can you tell me what kind of investing you do. Thanks.
i concur, as far as you said as wanting her as my own doc; however,
I think with all the medical information we are bombarded with everynight on the evening and morning news, she is definitely one to listen to with at least one ear.
I think you are an inspiration for wanting to do this....sm
 I guess a lot of us can relate; I have 2 or 3 people from my past that have moved far away and I have no way of finding them right now, but please believe me, I truly want to do the same thing, go to them and make peace, to say be able to forgive each other and leave things on good terms. Regrets and guilts can slowly eat away, and it is good for your own personal health to do this, you must feel so much better. WE all mess up, we all need forgiveness now and then, or to grant forgiveness. You are a lovely person with integrity, honor, and caring to do this, such a lovely post to read!!!
I've been wanting one of those every since they came out.(nm)
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we almost never eat out. re not wanting to cook,
when i just don't feel like or don't have time to cook, we have something quick, ie soup or sandwich or breakfast, ie eggs or waffles.
Wanting a vacation now
My husband never wanted to go on any vacations. So, when the kids were young, my kids and I went on a vacation every year. We either drove or one time took the train to the Grand Canyon from Chicago. Not once did my husband go with us. We went twice to Disney and had such a wonderful time. My kids are now grown, and I really miss those vacations. My husband missed out a lot.
Let me tell you what is up with not wanting to see that long lost
A lot of times people feel maybe someone will take their place. I am so thankful I had a stepmom that I truly loved and got along with. I would think most of the time just the opposite. Having said that, the spouse comes FIRST regardless of a long lost child wanting to come into a persons life that they may not be welcomed in the first place. If I had any inkling that someone did not want to see/know me, I would NEVER think another thought about them.
There is a difference in not wanting to be in the limelight and
your spouse not knowing the details of your life. I don't particularly care about being in the limelight, either, but telling my spouse about my education (or anything else for that matter) is not the limelight. That's simply communication with the person who should be my best friend, my confidante, the one person I can always count on. I agree, your tax lady was wrong to imply that he was slow. I'm afraid if my husband hedged about something, it would throw a red flag for me and I've known him since 1977. He might not willingly tell everything that he did in his past, but where he went and how long he went to school is nothing to be secretive about. JMO. 
Good job! For anyone still wanting to guess
I just learned today of the second, similar answer. So, keep trying if you like!
I don't blame you for not wanting a woman
I am a massage therapist (not practicing right now), and I know how it can affect guys (when doing normal professional work ... nothing funky). - I doubt your hubby would be too keen on a male working on him though. : )
Maybe you could do a bit of a strip tease for him or even just whisper in his ear about how hot he is.
I'm just doing a simple, sweet card and a $5.00 scratch-off lottery ticket with a big heart on it ... and probably a bit of hanky-panky. Not to promote drinking, but if you are a bit inhibited, you could drink just a bit to take the edge off (a shot or so). We seem to have extra fun when I do that.
of course it's real!!! It's all real, hence the title
gross
Not wanting to stop for gas and then driving on fumes SM
in hopes of reaching the pumps in time! 
While you wait, not wanting to give meds, he is
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Sounds familiar with hubs not wanting any more
cats around. I had an older girl and hubs brought home 2 young guys (he thought when the older one died the 2 younger would take her place, not true of course but he thought that). The older girl died and before long I spoke with him about another kitty. I have loads of room, work is ideal for pets around, he travels so they are loads of company for me but he said absolutely not. Ok, my housekeeper called me 1 day, said kitty up a tree, she would be over when she got it down and I asked her to bring with her as she could not keep. Instant love, not only with me but hubs. I told him the cat had shown up at my house meowing and running from the dog. Well, that was true- she had shown up at the door and had been running from the dog, just not at my home. Gina, my kitty, is now his best friend, follows him around the home, comes for petting and stays in whichever room he is in. It is kitty love for him now.
I married the same man 3 times and still married to him.
Together for almost 29 years now.
very common for anyone wanting a life, LOL! i have one and my DH is kinda jealous of me using it so
agree, sex toy parties are great fun and there are actually a lot of things for men there too for themselves or to use on you also. tell him he ought to be thankful it is a toy to enjoy and you are out playing the field, lol. but FYI, get a brief case and lock it up!!! i have had my kids find mine too and it was a double header so it was really, really embarrassing. DH bought it years ago and i only used one end but it was still great.
All this food had me wanting to share something quick for you for a spread. sm
A GREAT sandwich spread. I was at my local deli the other day and they were making ham and swiss sandwiches on whole grain with a sweet, perfectly tasting spread on it. I asked the lady behind the counter what that "spread" on the bread was and she said she just mixed honey mustard and mayo (equal amounts), stirred it up in a bowl, and spread it on the bread. I've been using that recipe all week. I immediately came home, made me a batch, stored it and now use it. My 5 year old son LOVES his sandwiches now. It's a different taste, a little sweet, and wonderful!
I am in total agreement. 13 years old and wanting to date - no way!!..
One of the problems is, as a previous poster write, is DRAMA. Some girls live for the DRAMA (i come from a family of six girls). These kids (but not all) want to and in some ways are forced to grow up too danged fast and it can lead to life-long problems if they do not have a strong mom/dad or just an extended strong family support system. The media has played and contuinues to play a role in the evolution of our teenagers as well (MTV, etc). That is why it is important to keep these kids busy and involved in activities because it is helpful,. JMO..
Daughter's phone is daughter's responsibility. Valuable lesson learned.
It should be between the daughter and the friend if the friend is going to pay any of the fees. They are teenagers, not preschoolers.
Wanting to suggest a few movies this season. Right now the kids are watching sm
The Chronicles of Narnia and it is such a GOOD movie. Highly suggest this. Also, Elf with Will Ferrell is cute.
Polar Express is great also. With 3 little ones at home, anyone have any suggestions on good "holiday" type movies that won't bore a 4 year old? Thanks!
If wanting to teach my son our own family values makes me a bigot..then so be it. sm
I will gladly wear that label. Flame away if you want.
I will NEVER let some school teacher try to foist her own opinions on my child. And to do this on school time??
The bible flat out says that man should not lie with man or woman with woman. If that school district is an example of what passes for family values in SF, no wonder Michael Savage calls it San Fran Sicko. I have to agree with him. Pretty dress or no pretty dress.
Ladies, are you wanting long, lush lashes, listen up
I just heard on our local news channel yesterday about what people found out when they used Lumigan (used for glaucoma) was that their eyelashes got longer and longer and lusher (is that a word??) the more they used. They said when applied to the base of the eyelashes, tops and bottoms, they grow so long that people think you have extensions, even going up to the eyebrows if continuing with the applications. Now, this is not inexpensive- saying 100-125 dollars a month but if you can afford and you have straggly looking eyelashes, how many would go for that? Ah, the price of beauty.
Oh, it's not a matter of wanting to pick and choose the data I "like" - if I want (sm)
to see that being done I need only drop down one forum in the list. ;-) Plenty of opportunities to fill that void there, if one chooses to.
No, I'm just not blindly accepting of whatever is proffered as valid data, and must -- as should we all -- consider the possible bias of those presenting same.
Hubs did window cleaning as a teen & always got swamped w/folks wanting them
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Move to TX
Then come June if they are on your property - well let's just say that the law will be on your side in whatever you choose to do to them. Right now you can't do much unless you are threatened, but come June - with the new gun law - well, I think you get the point. I think some mace or pepper spray would be in order for them - or maybe just get the waterhose and spray them with that - it would probably teach them to walk to school by another route.
...and move on. nm
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Please get over this guy and move on. You need to end
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Move on...you said yourself...
you don't feel anything for him. Also, anger management is a joke, a bunch of (mostly) guys sitting around discussing their feelings about women and just getting angrier! I had a boyfriend who had to go also, quit after 3 sessions, said he didn't need it either. Took me 8 years to finally say enough was enough. Move on, your life is too short and you deserve to be happy and fulfilled. Let him be a problem for someone else to fret about.
I think you have to move them
I'd make a little nest out of an old towel, handle them as little as possible, put them in the towel and move the towel nest some place more suitable. I've moved a litter already, but the mother cat moved them again, so don't be surprised if where you put them doesn't suit her. Make sure she watches where you put them and try to pet her so your smell is on her as well as the kittens.
Why did she move? Don't tell me she got
NC move
Moved to NC about 10 years ago from Orlando, FL. I love it here but have found the taxes to be awful. I'm wishing now I would have moved to Tennessee or Texas. I live in a small town 40 miles from Charlotte and close to the SC border. Gas in SC is usually 8 to 10 cents per gallon cheaper. I know that most of the graduates from the colleges in Raleigh stay in the area so it must be a nice place to live.
I used that when looking to move
It's a great tool to virtually scope out a neighborhood before bothering oneself to go check out a listing!
Are you sure the roommate wants you to move?
Maybe it is just an idea that his boyfriend had. He really is not the one to tell you the news, it should have been the roommate. So I'm wondering if the roommate even even knows about it, or if the boyfriend is trying to make arrangements to move in on his own.
Some folks just can't stand any confrontation, even what it would have taken for your roommate to tell you about these future plans. If he has never done anything to hurt you before, I would think you could just accept it, and try to maintain your friendship. If he knows about it, and if he agreed to have the boyfriend tell you, he probably just could not think of any other solution to the problem, other than having his boyfriend tell you, because he did not want to be the one to hurt you. He probably wasn't thinking about "friendship etiquette" (i.e. being the one to give you the bad news himself) at all.
I hope you find a nice place to live.
I would not move back, either--sm
It is nice to help and it sounds as though FIL may need it, but with the others there, you would be *caring* for more than just your FIL and that would be too much stress. Perhaps, if it can be afforded, a home care nurse for a while, until he is back up to caring for his own needs. It is up to him to remove the others from his house, but I surely would not move in there...until they were gone...JMO. Good luck
I wish they would move ALL the messages.
Basically, I said try getting an OT to evaluate your work area. I did and it helped a lot.
We had new neighbors move in who
had a similar theory about what was acceptable.
They had a habit walking into their neighbors houses without knocking. My parents were too polite to say anything, so they were clueless that they found it appalling. We didn't normally lock the doors when we were home, but to keep them out, we kids started locking them when everybody was inside, just to befuddle the barging-in neighbors. One time my dad had been working in the yard, and he was doing his usual change out of his work pants at the back door. He had privacy because he would announce he was changing, and close the door at the top of the stairs so that he had closed doors on 3 sides (door to garage, closed back door, closed door into rest of house, and open doorway into the unfinished basement. The clueless new neighborgirl decided to have a visit, came thru the open (big) garage door and opened the door into the house, where my dad stood, crouching with pants around his ankles. Oh the bellow that came out of him!
That new neighborgirl did drop by and barge in quite so often after that ...
Will probably move a few times
I get bored easily and do not like being in the same place for a long time. Been here for 10 years and just waiting for youngest to go to college in 3 years so I can move. I want to move to NYC area for a few years because right now I live in a rural area and am going crazy. After NYC would like to maybe move out West for a while and then maybe back to Eastern seaboard.
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