My kids knew no work , no money
Posted By: Johnnie on 2007-05-15
In Reply to: Kids at home while you work? How do you (sm) - Lisa
I did not have to beg, plead, cajole, swear, swat or promise the kids anything. They had a room over their head, food to eat, bills paid- I told them from a very early age the necessity of my working. I do not believe you have to give prizes to a child for doing what they should- and that would be leave you alone while at work. Too many things kids can entertain their own self- at (after a certain age, of course) so you do not wind up having to entertain them.
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I always knew kids were not for me - sm
I have never been a kid person. I never babysat to make money as many girls my age did, nor did I play with dolls. Now animals...that is an entirely different story. I was always interested in animals, wanted to walk dogs for the neighbors, knew the names of the animals better than those of people, etc. My husband knew going into our marriage that I would most likely never want to have a child. He was okay with that. Been married 25 years now and no regrets. Do I ever wonder what a child from us might have been like? Every once in awhile, but definitely no regret about it. It can and does work for many people. The worst part? Total strangers asking "why" we have no kids or looking at us like we are from another planet when we tell them kids are not for us.
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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We have had one since August - kids pooled their money - sm
and bought it (we refused to buy it for them); my DH tried to teach his dad pool on Christmas, boy was his dad bad, couldn't even score, when he finally did he scratched. My DH won 36-0. His mom loved the bowling game though and did very well (she bowled in a league years ago and was/is quite good at it). My girls love it and it is getting my one a bit more physical as she moves around more with this than with the Gamecube or her DS lite. They got the dancing game for Christmas and are having a lot of fun with it. They even have Wii's in nursing homes now since it gets the residents up and moving about, a sort of therapy.
Kids and money for school things...sm
Here is it is.... January 30th and since January 1st I've been asked by my 16-year-old for:
$90 for a graphing calculator for the calculus class
$85 for school yearbook (and price goes up 2/1 by $15..she didn't tell me any of this until now)
$30 for hoodie for yearbook club
$15 for drama t-shirt for spring production... which she has exactly 2 lines in and will not be on the stage any other time.
Total: $220.
I bought the calculator as it was necessary and I know she'll use it again in college. I've offered to pay half of the yearbook if she'll raise the other half. For the shirts I've told her to raise the money herself. The drama team is also looking to possibly go to New York for a few days to take in shows in May and gosh only knows what that would cost... if it gets approved.
She doesn't work and says if she gets a part-time job then she can't do the drama production as they practice 3 days a week until 8 p.m. .... well hello she has only 2 lines in it and isn't even in any other scenes.
I told her to get a job or start offering to babysit for money. I'm tired of being nickel-and-dimed to death for fru-fru non-essential expenses.... especially since we just spent $700 on car repairs and $250 for surgery on the dog (abscess on foot - she stepped on something at some point and messed herself up) and medical bills are coming in from my husband's numerous medical tests he had in November. I'm not going to pay for her to go to New York either when that would probably take out entire family vacation money for the summer. Once those numbers come in we'll offer to pay a portion of the cost but that's it.
She also insists she wants to go to college out of state, and her dad and I have also told her she has to figure out how to pay for that because we're not going in debt for that when she can get a free education from the lottery in our state by going to a state school. She doesn't do any volunteer work, play sports or have any special talents that would qualify her for scholarships.
I told her that it's time to grow up and realize there is no money tree in our back yard, and I'm not going to bust my butt working extra jobs to buy these things for her.
Actually the people with money buy all the nonsense items for their kids
and the others without money are all trying to keep up with the Joneses and of course getting in debt because of it because heaven-forbid their kid doesn't have what everyone else has. How could they ever be seen in public without the gel french manicure nails, cell phone, ipod, blackberry, brand name jeans, etc., etc., etc. What a world we live in where the children now rule! lol Pathetic. The other day I saw a woman and her maybe 15 year old, all highlighted hair and all, at the nail place, and unfortunatley I got stuck in the seat between the two of them. Well the kids nails alone cost her 65.00. lol! But the best was the kid must have not liked something and was mouthing something to her mom, and then the mom was like whispering, what, honey, what is it, what is wrong, do you not like something, honey, do you want a design, tell me, what is wrong? what is it? And I'm in between them, right? I wanted to say please excuse me while I get up to throw up. LOL. It is just amazing to me.
Kids at home while you work? How do you (sm)
make sure they know you are "at work" even though you are right there? I have worked at home in the past but had issues with this. Mine are old enough now to be home while I work (10 & 7), but I would love any ideas of how to make sure they respect my work hours. Any ideas?
I used to work at night when kids
were little so he could watch them while I worked and also do some stuff around the house. Fair is fair. He learned very quickly how hard it is to get things done while watching a couple of children and holding down a job.
I agree! Many kids are overweight, lazy and don't want to work hard for anything!
Good luck to them in the working world...how many do you think will actually do well? It's a scary thought.
Help! Pushy parents think I work from home and can drive their kids etc
I am constantly being asked to watch people's kids because I work from home. The latest is a friend of my son attending the same camp in another town. The friend I will call Scotty. Scotty has two parents. His father works from home as a computer consultant. My friends and I have called Scotty's dad to work on our computers and he never even returns the call or shows up. Scotty's mom recently asked me if I could drive her son home from them because the dad gets busy and doesn't like to leave clients. I told her that I too am working from home and have to minimize my time in the car. Scotty does not live close to us. I feel like a big meanie but they have pushed me before. Last year our kids were not even in the same camp but the mom called and asked if I would drive and pick up her son every day because i live in the same town as the camp. I was like ??? no way.
They used to drop Scotty off at my house on school holidays. They would drop him off at 7 AM and then once the mom called me at 5 PM and said she wanted to get an oil change and asked me if I could keep scotty until 7:30 PM. I said NO and then she came to pick him up earlier but stayed at my house uninvited until 9:30 when I just said I HAVE TO GO TAKE A SHOWER.
Anyone have clever ways to handle these situations?
Rainy, cool, dark. Home working with plenty of work. Hubby and kids are sm
picking up toys, taking them to Goodwill. LOVE days like this.
How much money rasied for Katrina, how much money for the diasters due to the tidal waves and what?
Every single one of them have had some smoke around it with the money not getting to where it was supposed to go. I did not contribute, I hardly watched, was not caught up again as I have seen things like this before. They should give a all you can give benefit for Darfur where people are being massacared each and every day. Genocide going on there each and every day. I have not seen any benefits to help them out yet.
But her money is her money to spend as she pleases -
I don't understand how you can think it is wrong for her to spend whatever she wants to on whatever she buys. It is their personal money they spend. It is not like they are saying give me those shoes and add it to the taxpayer's bill.
And in all actuality, they are saying spend, spend, spend to get the economy going.
I am sorry, I am jealous that some people still have plenty of money to spend and I don't, but I don't expect those people to quit spending just because I had to.
Yes - does not work! Hoax if you ask me. MetaboLife doesn't work either.
The only thing that works for me is exercise and eating correctly! No quick fix, unfortunately.
If you only knew!
I'm not a pagan, just simply educated on many different religions and other things of interest to me.
I knew when I saw what was going on,
simple. He was having wrecks and letting me know about them. His wife was deceased and I tried to get help for him and even telling him he was being taken, did not think so. Red flags flying all around- 1 lady who cared for his wife before her death, married, younger than me, all of a sudden taking interest in a 90 year old man who did not use deodorant? No way. I was out of town, bottom line after his death the person I spoke had got $60,000.00 from him, had him set up an account in her name and his social security check and other monies going directly into that account. I knew what I saw. She went to the bank the day after his death and pulled all out. I have been there.
see, I knew you all (most) would come through
for me. Sounds like a good alternative. You guys have given me great ideas.
Knew you could do it.
Didn't take long at all once your Realtor knew you meant business. Better for him, anyway.
And to think I knew all of these
guess not, have so many of those sayings and yet had never heard of this.
I wish I knew
I have one in the house now that keeps landing on my computer screen. I can't get rid of him. Even my cat is no help this evening.
They say she knew nothing - I don't see how though (nm)
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That is when I knew that...
...it was over in my first marriage When I was glad to see his a** go out that door and say to myself *good*, then I knew I had really lost that lovin' feeling.
THanks so much, knew there was a way nm
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maybe you took him b/c you knew
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I never knew that
But with the large refund we got it's paying a credit card that we've been trying to pay off forever so I'll take the refund anyway I can.
I knew someone who did this too
I think this is a wonderful idea - of course, it wouldn't work for everyone but I can see a lot of benefits if it could work for you...
No...I never knew that either
Not that I care either way, I like her, just never knew that
Yes, and this is how I knew as well. sm
When you get to I don't give $ ___ you are there!
I wish I knew what to say but I am
65 now and have yet to have a midlife crisis. What is going on in your life that you just want to sleep and nothing else. You have no joys in life, just work alone? I have been in what I call ruts before but eventually snapped out of those. One thing is with my work if I would ever just get so fed up with working a lot and burned out basically, would find some time to take off from work and do other things I might enjoy, such as an escape to a movie, the zoo, etc.
Hey thanx, I never knew that! :) sm
About only adjectives with three or more syllables getting the comparative/superlative form of "more" and "most".
I've ALWAYS said "more stupid", but "stupidest" or "most stupid". Why, I don't know. But I usually avoid that word in any form.....
if you knew you were about to die
A friend of ours was a heavy smoker and drinker. He had an heart attack and quit smoking because of it. He has a bad liver and had to quit drinking. Now he found out he has about 9 months to live if he is lucky. He has cancer and it is in all his organs. He had started back to smoking and drinking heavy. Would you do the same thing?
We knew that - we won't dock your pay for it! LOL
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thanks Jon-but I knew difference between the 2.
Gee. I knew that would happen! LOL!
Thanks so much to you all. I KNEW I needed help! :-)
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Where are you? Wish I knew how to send
pictures so I could show you what our place looks like. I live in suburb of Atlanta and even the bigger homes in my neighborhood, say the 2-3 story places do not run, say over 400-500$$. I could not imagine paying huge price for a home to have a cracker box. I think lot of people paying huge amounts for homes would be surprised if they went on line and checked for homes say in Henry County or Fayette County, both just right outside Atlanta. You really get a bang for your buck here. Not only the cost but wonderful place, clean, quiet, really nice. What are the costs of your homes there?
I never knew they had that! Thanks for giving
me JUST ONE MORE snack to try!!! LOL. 
The last I knew they were about to wrap and that was some
strike would make any difference.
I knew what you meant
You know I did not even notice that, and I knew what you meant! I work third shift so believe me, I was in tune with what you were thinking...I get up too early every day. 
HOW DARE YOU! She said she DID before she knew this (sm)
How rude of you to tell her to get a clue!! Very mean!! Why does somebody have to be mean in every thread?????
oh - I thought maybe you knew something
different and I was ready to go get it! Mine has attempted to get peanuts out of my peanut feeder when the squirrels let him.
If you knew me personally you would know that I do sm
not try to keep up with the Jones'. Far from it, to be honest. This post all started when I was really shocked to see that others had to leave certain areas in the ward whenever she wanted to visit the common area, etc. And then to suspend 2 docs for checking out her chart. I just found all of this odd to me. I am not obessessed with celebs. And when Di died? I really could have cared less. I mean, I was sad, but I didn't watch or read anything about it!
It certainly is! If you knew this family and this SM
young man! He used to have the lead in high school musicals with such a wonderful voice, is such a good musician and an all around good guy. It makes me so happy. He left for his tour of duty about 2 weeks before Thanksgiving, a very hard time to leave his new wife and family.
Thanks for your post.
Probably knew you'd be complaining about it
I'd say he expected you to carp on him about it, maybe because he really wanted it and figured you wouldn't, and that you'd complain about it, about the price, not really needing it, whatever. I'd love it if my hubby brought home a nice new TV.
As I stated before, if you knew what
the emails said, you would think differently about the whole situation. I have told her to not contact me if she isn't getting the kind of response she thinks she deserves or wants. It is not my place to give her any info about her bio dad. If she found me, she can find him. I have no right to allow her to disrupt his life, just as she has no right to disrupt mine if I don't want her to. Again, so sorry if I don't come across as the loving, nurturing mommy type to you. Is your life unfulfilled, because if so, I'll give you her number!
I never knew there were books
I had never heard of the books, although then again we don't have any books stores in our town (except the section in Wal-Mart and Fred Meyer). I have heard a lot of times people like books better.
I knew Dr. Oz would come in handy for something
He was on Oprah one day last season when they were taking questions from the audience and a woman stood up and asked about this. She said she gets a funky odor and some fluid in her belly button. (Standing up and admitting that had to take guts)
Anyway, Dr. Oz said it was caused by some type of cyst under the naval and, while it isn't dangerous, needs to be checked by a doctor to confirm the diagnosis. I can't remember what he said about getting rid of it.
Whoo hoo. I knew having a cat would pay off.
A cat come up here stray and I made friends with it. I started feeding it, giving it milk and when I knew it was okay I started letting it in the house. H really did not like it in the house but I would win by playing on his sympathy and the cat would meow at the door; it was just too cold outside and that cat was obviously someone's house cat at one time. Well, unfortunately we have a mouse problem. Mice have ruined our stove to the point we need a new one but no $$$. We set traps and plugged up holes but obviously they are still getting in. Well, when I walked in from taking the kids to school, low and behold did I see my cat killing a mouse. Go cat GO. I know it is gross but when they ruin your expensive appliances. ...
My dad had all his senses- he knew exactly what he was doing and yes
he was a dirty old man, thought the ladies still liked/loved him at his age. I know for a fact- we used to go out for lunch (at same age) and he watched to see where a particular blonde would seat people - she worked at the restaurant. Nope, I made no excuses for him and no one else should either. You call what you know and I knew this. He gave away thousands of dollars after his wife died to a ditzy blonde in his neightborhood because he thought she "cared for him." Yeh, right. I hate for people to try to make excuses for this- he was a dirty old man. That was not out of character for him- mother told me the reason for their breakup was he went to a whor.. for sex and she did not want to come down with disease. Gone on for years- he did not change his spots.
time you knew
Don't know how long you have been married, but when this happens to me I visualize myself doing a jig at her funeral. Confronting her will not help because she does not like you! Why doesn't she like you? Who knows, who cares! Some women like being mean to other women and once they get a taste for it....they are hooked for life. You might be better educated, a better housekeeper, a better cook, prettier, funnier, anything. I have lived like this for 20 years and now she is getting dementia and she is really getting mean now, but to everybody and not just me anymore so I don't get ganged up on as much, thank God. It has been a long, long road to hoe. But that was my husband's mother and saying bad stuff about her makes him uncomfortable. If you are going to stay married, you are trapped. Let all slights go, don't lose your temper, don't stew or plot revenge, just visualize doing that jig at the graveyard and kicking a little dirt into the hole and laugh.
I never saw the policy, never knew he had
He could have made it out to his second wife (who died before my father) but I have no idea. I was contacted saying I had insurance money coming to me. I had to furnish a death certificate of my brother, my stepmom and then they asked for names of kids of my brother, last known address. An insurance company is pretty thorough when getting information. They do not take just at face value. They do their work before paying out the $$$$.
I see nothing wrong with it. She knew what she was doing.
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