My instincts are telling me you're right (sm)
Posted By: Money question on 2008-01-14
In Reply to: I think it's more IN-appropriate for a grown man to take/ask a woman for money. I know his type.. - What little I know
He seems so genuine and grateful and tells me how much he loves me all the time...but I have a feeling that when I wasn't coming through with cash he found someone else who would. I know he really does "need" the money, but I guess he will get it however he can.
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You have to follow your instincts and
A therapist ideally really should be able to adjust their style to the needs of the client. In the end, what matters is are you making progress? ... is she helping you address the issues you came to her with in a way that is meaningful to you? ... and is she challenging you emotionally? It reminds me of the movie, Girl Interrupted, where Angelina Jolie's character is lamenting that nobody cared enough to push her buttons. It's one thing to be a friend who is supportive and accepting of one as they already are. It's another to not care enough to "push the right buttons" to help someone challenge their shortcomings.
It sounds like you have examined this relationship and find it lacking. There is no shame in telling someone, even a therapist, that you are not getting out the relationship as much as you are putting into it (in this instance, a lot of money). At least you can say learning to trust your instincts is one thing you did get out of the relationship.
Follow your instincts
I had this happen years ago with my brother. I tried to make him realize I didn't do what he thought, but he wouldn't budge. I chalk it up as a lesson learned in life, you can't make another person think or believe anything they don't want to. If I dwell on it, it still burns me up, so I try to leave it behind. Anyway, trust your instincts, they will never let you down.
Use your motherly instincts and keep
your child safe. I live in Georgia and we hear of so many accidents involving children and ATVs. No one can replace your child if something should happen. You know what to do.
Use your motherly instincts
You have a right to have normal motherly instincts, and I think you know what those are with regard to this situation. A 4-wheeler is not safe enough for a child of that age, and your MIL should know that. Even adults have been killed in accidents with these vehicles, even when they are driven safely, but too much can happen. There is no real protection for children on these vehicles, and she can easily be thrown from one. Just think, you put your child in a safety restraint seat in your car for a reason, these vehicles have no protection, and she is not old enough to protect herself should something go wrong, so definitely I would not even think about putting a child on something like this.
Just tell your MIL the same things I have told you politely. If she puts up a fuss, just ignore her and think about the safety of your child first. My daughter lives on a farm and would not even let my grandson set foot on one of these until he was over 8.
Trust your instincts. nm
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You were surprised she got it? A cat's instincts for birds, especially, are sm
great. They keep their eyes on it and it's over. Especially a young one. So sad. I hate the circle of life. All of our goats were attacked and killed by neighborhood dogs a few weeks ago and people are telling me, "Oh well, that's what dogs do!" I wanted to slap them.
Thanks so much! I went and got Clairol natural instincts
sunflower medium golden blonde - the one that washes out after 28 shampoos and doesn't lift or lighten because I was a little afraid to try that right now. I will tell you it straightened this mess right up! At least now all of the highlights appear the same color and are more golden, it is just overall darker than I would like but still much more flattering than what I had. When this starts to wash out I will go to Sally's and maybe try an overall lighter color as you suggest. Hopefully when all is said and done I won't even have to go to the salons anymore for color and pay them hundreds of dollars for a lousy job. I am a little annoyed because I did put out over $200 between the highlights and cut and tip but I guess I'll get over it :(
Thank you to all who helped! I feel so much better! I really am thankful for this board!
by telling someone --sm
they are not going to heaven, you are judging that person. It is not up to you to decide whether they are or are not and it is surely not your place to say that to them. How hurtful. sorry. JMO.
telling my age!
 I was at work, a good friend came running into my office crying "he's dead, he's dead" and I thought it was a coworker! I STILL love E.P. and watched a 2 hour special on t.v. about him a couple of nights ago. What a guy!
Yes, and I'm telling my mom on you nm
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That's what I keep telling myself.
They must be good for me, right? LOL!!!
I'm telling you
It's one of the few things that's as good as I remembered it to be. Maybe the only thing. ; )
I keep telling this knucklehead,
my husband that I could foster some more animals. I have 3 furkids now but I have a really big house and bigger heart. He seems to think I have my hands full. I do not agree with him. There have been some animals rescued a few counties over and they were asking for adoptives plus fosters and saying if no one comes forward, well you get the idea, overcrowding. Just really gets next to me. Hubs says I can't rescue all. I wish I could.
re: telling kids
In our school system in 5th grade they show the boys and girls (separately) a course on maturation. We sat both of my boys down at that time when my oldest was in 5th grade and his brother was 2 years younger. We sat down with the bible, an anatomy book with pictures and we told them everything about boys and girls. Then we told them how God feels about sex using the bible. We feel we gave them balanced answers and they asked questions and we answered them in truth and honesty. They have no doubts or ideas about it now and have been taught to save themselves for marriage and that sex is a gift from God that you don't want to give anyone other than your spouse. Thats how we did it.
And you think by telling him or your daughter
not to see one another they will listen? She has not been listening to you so far. It will not stop there. There will be sneaking around, making up lies, anything for them to engage in further escapades. I laugh to myself when I see someone exposed and immediately goes to the doctor with my knowing full well how the virus works and usually at first does not even show. If people get a negative then they think, thank goodness, out of the woods so to speak- not true! You see with kids they do not think this will happen- having a blood test is really only for you- negative gives her the idea that she has missed the bullet so to speak and they, it is guaranteed, will continue on their way with sexual encounters, whether you like or not. What would you do if she defies you and absolutely refuses to stop being with him?
I had been telling MDs I thought
my husband had sleep apnea for 5 years. Finally his insurance got good enough that they would send him for a study. Sure enough, he stopped breathing 57 times an hour during testing. He tried the machine, but it caused terrible pain the first night. He showed me where it was hurting his nose, and I commented that with the shape of his short nose, it should not be hurting him there. So the second night he put it on for me and I grabbed the booklet to see if everything was in the right place, and I immediately pointed out it didn't look like the picture. Being a man, he had not read the book or even looked at the picture and a himself in a mirror. When I pointed out what I was seeing different from the picture, he realized he had it on upside down! Much more comfy now. Plus he refrigerates his distilled water to keep himself cooler. He has been using it about 2 months, and his body aches and pains are much better, especially his plantar fasciitis and his knee pain. Still some hip tenderness, but he is definitely sleeping better and now I don't get in trouble for coming to bed later than he goes to bed and waking him up.
Thanks for not telling me I'm a bad person!! (sm)
I so much wish that my kids would want to go - I would love to have her have them over as much as she wants if they were happy about it. That would be wonderful! I am kind of afraid to mention it to her because I am pretty sure she will accuse me of spoiling them or that I just don't want to share them but that is far from the truth. I want them to go - if they will go happily - but it is really hard to have them crying and begging and make them go anyway. I will try to talk to her though...we'll see what happens!
Your telling my story now..
I'm so frigging bored of this job I could scream. My former life was a medical biller/coder and at least that challenged my mind. The longer I sit here I swear my mind is become dead and I'm getting so fruity I can hardly stand myself. When I do leave the house, I feel socially retarded. Now, I can see why prisoners have such a hard time "adjusting to the outside world." I feel isolated and depressed. I've gotten a secretary's bottom and 30 pounds heavier. I am waiting any day now to hear if I got a billing job I am applied for and I'm outta this prison. I'm get PAROLED..
I agree with telling dad...
Think about if it was on the flip side, you would certainly want him to tell you. You know she is using your weak points to get to you, sounds like she won't be able to do that with him. Tough love may be called for here. Sixteen is a tough age, but one day she will thank you! Now that I am older, my sister and I both than our parents for the difficult decisions they made for us even though at the time we couldn't have hated them more. Go with your gut. Don't wait for something bad to happen. Hang in there!
Just a rumor and no telling where she may end up. nm
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maybe she is telling the truth
would you scare kids with that???? There are certain things that should not be discussed with children.
The techie not telling it all because
nearly everyone today is checking a person's credit be it for a job, a place to live, and of course to get a credit card or the like. This is old hat really and something that has been going on for quite sometime now. Next question.
Your gut is telling you something - Listen!
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how about being honest and telling him the truth..sm
imagine how he will react when (and he will) he finds out you have been lying to him. Just tell him. His reaction may be less than when he finds out about a total lie!
My mother-in-law is always telling me I'm anemic
because I like to chew ice. I don't crave ice, mind you, but I do like to chomp on it. I don't know why. It's something that I've done since I was a kid. In fact, I went to a high school reunion once, and everyone at my table started to laugh when I began to chew my ice. Apparently, it was something I was remembered for, and I had no idea!
Regarding anemia: Well, I've never been anemic, and so I always crow that to my mother-in-law when she starts up on her anemia rant.
These days I don't chew ice anymore (except to irritate my MIL), because my son's orthodontist talked to me about the damage it does to tooth enamel over time -- causing cracks and splits.
But, I've heard the anemia accusation so many times, that I guess it would be worth checking
I was telling my hubby about these posts sm
and he said we have to take a taxi, I want to get in the cash cab. So funny!
you need to stop asking him, and start telling him.
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Be sure child is telling the truth and go after her sm
Be prepared though for the fight of your life, the school will stick up for her and your kid will be so labeled that you may have to take that poor kid out of there. I have been there. Some people should not be teachers, but unfortunately, they are and we all suffer for it. Respond but don't react, think hard about it first.
I have a co-worker that insists on telling me
I'm killing myself. I told him the Dr. said my grandmother may have lived longer if she had quit. He asked how old she was - I told him 93. Now he shuts up most of the time.
I do not plan on telling my kids any of the - sm
stupid stuff I did or got away with, just asking for trouble. I think given the op they will try whatever I tried (a few things), do some of the dumb things I did (drive drunk a few times), go out with strangers to their homes within meeting them only an hour or so before, etc. I was extremely lucky and had good friends and luckily did not happen to pick up any creeps. Got away from one guy that was giving me bad vibes before anything bad happened when I was 16 but was just plain stupid to put myself in that position. I don't want them playing with fire. I will not expect them to be virgins when they marry or pure as snow but I do want them to be aware and smart about their actions and decisions. I will use my experience to help guide and advise but certainly do not expect to bare all to them. Some things they have just got to learn for themselves, all you can do is be there for them and listen, and try to give advice, not that they will listen most likely. I was not that bad actually but was very, very lucky in many ways. But if I were you I'd keep mum on your dirty deeds, they will just use it for justification later when they do the same thing.
A drug bust! Well there is no telling
what kind of life that dog had. That is very sad. You know, I had to admit but I use to be one of those people that said oh no a pitbull! They are mean, they will turn on you, but that all changed when I got a little pitbull puppy years ago that changed me. My pitbull taught me the true meaning of Don't believe everything that you hear, and only believe half of what you see.
LOL. I was thinking of them when I was telling that story
I think it's fantastic if it's doable, and I do know that it's not possible in most divorces.
haha, my boyfriend was just telling me about this....
Less than 2,000, but the cost of living and such there compared to here, wonder how much it would be if they sold it around here? But, it has no air bags, uses "adhesive" instead of welded on parts, I wonder how great and safe of a car that would really be?
Telling a funny story on myself
My foot pedal got stuck just now. I got it unstuck (and realized just how dusty my floor is!), but then it wouldn't play. I'm messing around and messing around with it and it will won't play. Crap, right? I can't afford another one until pay day on the 5th, and at that point I've lost 5 more days into the new pay period.
Well, duh. Somehow I've managed to close the browser window that my voice player is in. Of course the foot pedal won't work. There's nothing to play.
Where's the slapping the back of the head smiley when you need one??!?!
No, just telling the truth and I spend
my money on some bills monthly but mostly spend like I want as don’t have others I have to support. Buy things for my home, oh, I forgot I did not ask my association when I put the new granite counters in nor the marble in the bathroom, oh my, now I will have to report on myself I guess. To say one has to ask the association things you do for upkeep in your house is st**pid....
Just telling my husband about her post and
the parents of this child, should she drive or perhaps another child drive there, be in an accident be held responsible for any and all injuries, deaths, etc. and not only that but the parents of the other one throwing the party can be held responsible as well. If it were my child (and I did this one time when I found out my underage daughter given beer at a party) not only would she not go but I would turn in any and all parents that allowed this to go on in their homes, if they are willing participants. A disaster around the corner waiting to happen.
grrr the dr's office should not be telling her about your visit
I had the same thing happen. I went to the ER and asked to be a "no info" patient and do not let anyone know I was there including my husband who was a staff member. 30 min they showed my husband to my room!!!!!!!!!
Honestly this HIPPA stuff just goes out the window when your spouse or relative works at the hosptial.
I would speak to the office manager and physician about their breach on confidentiality.
Just do not list anyone for emergency contact information.
I'm a single mom and I have friends # listed on his car seat, in my wallet and at the hosptial record who could pick up my son if I had to have surgery or worse. My family isn't here for me now they are the last people I want around me if something really bad happened.
Been telling the govt since 1967, m'dear..sm
I'm not the least bit shy to march/speak up - been doing it since the latter 60s.
And to add to your post about the huge salaries - when we got to Iraq - the sign HALLIBURTON was put on every oil well there by US.
Nauseating, I tell ya!!
The girl in the kitchen telling her dad how awful it all is...
and then her mom gives her money in the other room. That one always cracks me up.
Thanks for coming back and telling us...please calm
We are praying that the tests are fine!!! You're talking only of liver function tests and hepatic profiles, correct? Any further blood tests take awhile to come back, the PCR viral load for example - it's sent, if I remember correctly, as a frozen sample......but that comes later after regular blood work....
Fingers crossed the kids pass all tests!!!!!  
Also, if you feel it inside that he is telling you the truth, sm
but obviously you have some doubt there or you would not be on here questioning our thoughts on the situation. Listen to your gut. A woman's intuition is usually right on when not in denial.
oh, I definitely understand - just telling you what a teacher told me... nm
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my mom is always telling me about Friday Night Lights
That is one of those that I didn't start watching from the beginning and never want to just cut in in the middle.
i saw a preview for it the other day and went wish i would have watched that one... my mom is ALWAYS like i can't believe youre not watching that one!!
must be pretty good? But is it not a high school show? i thought it was like a 90210 kind of show, and im too old for that! :)
Since when is telling the truth called bragging?
I am absolutely telling how I feel about extra money and not wanting to be taxed on additional. As far as giving away, I do that also quite a bit to people I find need it. I do not give to people I find offensive.
Your decorations sound great. He has no business telling...
you how to live or how to decorate. Comparing Halloween decorations to the Amish shootings is more bizarre than your decorations could be. I would definitely not take it down. Just because he does not celebrate Halloween is no reason to ruin yours.
I'm just telling what I found out when I looked into adopting a greyhound.
Maybe they all could do it, but maybe some are also more prone to it, and this is too risky for me. I would die if I had a dog that ended up eating my neighbor's pets.
Sounds like the daycare worker is telling you what you should notice
This is not being a busybody but a change and she is asking if something might be changed in the home. I think she is entirely in her right and should ask questions and you should not be paranoid in thinking she is asking about you. This is a crying child who is acting out of the ordinary and you ought to thank her and find out why the 3 is crying so much.
Don't go telling people they are "special enough" to enter heaven because they were "goo
Shame on you
I'm telling you after years of living with the same family - they figure things out! sm
For example, he knows that if I am going somewhere with the kids, he probably can't go, but if he sees that I am alone and pick up my keys, he heads for the door with that look in his eyes! It's like he is trying his best to convey a telepathic message - "I want to go!!"
You're not 'low-class', you're FUNNY, & a good writer!
Which is often the case then someone is the first to cast stones!
I woke up this morning to my husband telling me that we are expected to see snow today. sm
I got up and said, "what??" And there it was - on the news. In the little left hand corner of the t.v. is a sight I've never seen since living here (over 10 years). Our area covered in white!!! We are in the deep south, 2 hours north of the FL border. The forecaster says it's gonna snow today!!! It's been raining all morning, a very cold rain, but apparently there is a system coming our way and it will change to snow in the afternoon! I can't believe it. I've been planning trip after trip to take the boys (I have 3 small ones) to see snow. They've only seen snow on Nickoledeon. My 5 year old doesn't even own a winter coat, only pullovers, etc. I've been digging in the closet looking for matching gloves and made sure there are plenty of batteries in the camera (it's run dead before during a major event). Can y you tell how excited I am? I can't believe it.
I've been praying for this and asking God for it to snow. He knew my heart! Every trip I've planned to go and take my kids to see snow hasn't worked out for one reason or another. Maybe this is why......I really hope the weatherman is right.....I'm so excited!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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