My husband is a truck driver too. . .
Posted By: sleepy on 2008-02-22
In Reply to: need opinion please. sm - blondie
We got married when he was in his early 30s, so he had a hard time changing his lifestyle. He spent all of his free time with his single friend. I never, ever worried about the two of them going to bars or anything. Their idea of a good time was having a couple beers and talking about tractors. His friend is a farmer, so he has a lot of free time in the winter. Sometimes I think my husband felt bad because they spent so much time together before I came along and then all of the sudden, things changed. His friend is in his late 30s and had never been married or had kids. After I had been dating my husband for about a year, his friend went to an online dating service and found a girlfriend. He was very shy, so that was a big deal! That was 3 years ago, and they are engaged now. My husband doesn't see him so much now, but they talk daily on the phone. We also moved about 30 minutes away. We have neighbors that he likes to spend time with, but he tries to keep it to just the weekend. Also, my husband gets very stressed driving in the winter and needs to relax once in a while. Does your husband's friend have a girlfriend? If he doesn't, maybe you could introduce him to some of your girl friends. He might just be lonely. I know it's hard for you to be sitting home when your husband is hanging out with his friend. I told my husband once that I felt like a single mom! I think you do need to let your husband know how you feel. Good luck to you!
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Here is another truck driver's wife's view
My husband was older than yours when he (and I) married. He was 49, first marriage. We spend a tremendous amount of time together, he even has his computer setup in my workroom. When he wants downtime, he has his own room for his guitar strumming and then a real stay-around type person. I love the time we are together so don’t know what to say to the original poster but not much of a marriage there if no time left over for wife.
Clarifying bus driver... Our bus driver is a
single mom with 2 girls - one the same age as my son.
Is the truck necessary for his job?? If not,
then I would think about selling it and getting something a little more reasonable in the line of a car payment. If it is for work, then why can't he deduct a portion of the cost?
You can take the truck to get tires yourself you know - sm
so from a safety standpoint I would just go and do it since you say you have the money. Tell him it would not pass inspection so you had to get new tires, or a cop stopped you and gave you a warning, whatever it takes. I did that last year, my DH was not too pleased as he wants me to get rid of my truck and I don't want car payments again and it runs great so I just maintain it as necessary and don't tell him basically. I have a $600 repair I need done; will he know about it, NO. Granted I am going to have it done for about $300- getting a used part, then having a neighbor put it in because my DH is too lazy to work on the truck other than to change the oil. I want it to run for at least 2 more years (207K miles)--250 is our goal mark before we get a new/used truck; unless I win the lottery before then. So take matters into your own hands, try to make more money, and if you ever get serious about divorce then consult a lawyer and find out your rights- you are entitled to half the house equity (or sale profits); half any retirement fund from the point you married, etc., child support, 3 kids that is easily $800 a month; spousal support if you have been married for some time (I think usually 10 years, but I am sure every circumstance is different). So don't martyr yourself. Take control.
Ditto......our truck tag is $600....
When we lived in Florida, I paid $60 for a tag on a brand new car, and we are paying $600 for a truck about 3 years old now. One county over it is much cheaper. This county is ripping people off. Even property taxes are ridiculous here.
It's a construction truck and
yes, necessary for his job. He helps to build highways.
You'd have loved the ice cream truck
that used to play Christmas tunes all summer. I take it he's not from around here, LOL.
He finally changed the tune - to LA Cucaracha! I take it he doesn't speak Spanish if he thinks that song is going to sell ice cream! Ha!
My neighbor is addicted to QVC. The UPS truck
every single day. Her apartment is just as small as mine, and she doesn't make that much more money than I do. I've looked at QVC, and the stuff on it is nice, but expensive! I don't know where she's putting it all. Sometimes she over-buys, and ends up giving some really nice things to me because she has no room. Of course I appreciate the gifts, but I do worry about her sometimes. She's told me her credit card debt is pretty high, too. (She should know better - she works for a bank!)
Maybe with a pair of plyers and a pick-up truck?
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When I asked why it was ok for him to pick out a truck and a boat without me (sm)
he blamed it on the fact that I had bought the kids a $300 plastic pool last summer. He used that same excuse again about the shed. "you picked out a pool!" How dare I pick out anything?
He may be....but $300 pool versus a $30,000 truck, and a boat, etc., etc.? nm
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I cried when they put that woman in the truck and said she died 2 days later
One 2006 german VW and one 2008 chevy truck. nm
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Oh no! Not THAT bus driver again!!
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I don't think it's a driver... sm
I think the BP may stand for the gas (fuel) associated with NASCAR.
bus driver
The bus driver could be some freak who wants to do something bad. We get our mail delivered by the same person every day, seems nice enough but I don't REALLY know him. I wouldn't trust him to know my child was home alone, same with bus driver, or neighbors unless I knew them extremely well or did the same for their kids. You can't trust anyone these days. Look how many people KNOW the person who does something horrible to them or their family members.
I blew the engine in my truck 7 days after the warranty expired! $7,000 to replace. :( -n/m
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Well, as an ex-school bus driver...
Shut Up and Hold On!
New teenage driver
I am getting ready to add my 15 year old daughter to my car insurance, can anyone give me a ball park figure of how much my insurance will go up, has anyone done this recently that can tell me how much yours increased? Thanks in advance. The car she will be driving is about 7 years old but I think I have to also add my van?
Teen driver
I made my son pay his own tickets as well. He might have had a couple, total, but he soon learned. He's 21 now.
Wow! Did you know that your driver's license is sm
on the web? Thanks to homeland security. Check to see if yours is uploaded and on the net! You will not believe this!!!
http://www.license.shorturl.com/
Your regular bus driver
desires a poinsetta or something. It's good to reward good service.
teen driver
When my daughter got her license I gave her my older vehicle and she was responsible for gas and insurance. She paid for her repairs, but I helped if they were very high. My insurance agent told me to put her on her own policy so I would not get sued if she had an accident and my rates would not be affected by her driving record. By her living in my home she was able to get my discounts, ie., two car discount, different safety features on her vehicle, and home being insured. This was a wise choice as she had two small accidents within a year and is now paying high risk and my rates didn't change, but my insurance would have gone from $300 to $2600 every six months if she were on my policy. She hated having to pay since all her friends' parents were footing the whole bill, but now in college she appreciates it because she knows how to pay bills and budget her money while her friends are always bouncing checks or calling mom and dad for money.
Taxi Driver...
"You talkin' to me? You talkin' to me? You talkin' to me?"
I was curious about the driver saying
I have them both in the car. I understand the mob wanting to get rid of David but why Sabrina. Wonder if further on down the road there will be a twist and she won't really be dead, Like after Vic and Niki get back together. Hmmmmmm! Makes you think!
What does the bus driver knowing have to do with this? nm
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Yes the bus driver could be a molester - sm
but doubtful. If your school is anything like mine ALL employees are carefully screened. I am a substitute bus driver and talk about red tape. I had to get finger-printed with the local police, have a criminal background check, drug and alcohol tested, as well as a very long application and a physical exam in order to get hired for the school. (as well as a 48-hour training course and of course had to pass my bus driving test at the DMV). So in theory the driver is a "safe" person, unless they just have never been caught. The group I work with are all great women (30+ of us), there are no male bus drivers here except the mechanics who sub when they have too. Just educate your child to tell you if their caregiver does anything strange , or touches them, etc, I have drilled it into my kids heads as my DH is convinced that whenever they stay over a friends house that the father/boyfriend is a child molester. It is a wonder my kids ever get to go anywhere.
The MC driver was not to bright to be - sm
driving with headphones/ear buds on is not responsible driving on a motorcycle. He is lucky he got his money back at all.....you'd think you would be more careful wtih that kind of cash on you.
Considered being the driver instead of the passenger?
I too have RLS. I have found that for some reason I do much better as the driver than as a passenger. Can't explain it but it's true.
Question about uninsured driver?
If you know that someone is driving without insurance, has been for several years, and doesn't plan to change any time soon.....
And, they are an alcoholic who makes runs while under the influence to pick up more whiskey.....
Is there anyone an average citizen can report the uninsured (insurance is required in this state) to?
Or, do we have to wait until they hit someone or something and it is discovered?
In California, it comes from driver's licenses...
because they don't want to discourage people from registering to vote.
Sounds to me like you need to reinstall the sound DRIVER. (sm)
If you need help on where to locate the link to do this, email me.
Obviously you've never had a family member killed by a drunk driver.
Long ago? Time has nothing to do with it. The man has an alcohol problem and left the scene of a homicide. Sounds like you're ok with that. I'm not. It speaks volumes about his character.
Does your husband or significant other do this? Just now, at 7:30, my husband came home from sm
playing sports with a friend. After showering he comes downstairs naked and tries to start a conversation with me. My "office" is in the living room and he is standing in back of the couch so I can't see any private parts, just him without his shirt, but I can see enough to know he clearly is naked! I think he wants me to be amused or get turned on or something, but I'm not amused one bit. In fact, I keep working and basically ignore him.
Poor guy. I swear he thinks he's Vince Vaughn or something. I should at least smile at him but all I want to tell him is to put some clothes on! ugh!
My husband is the same way
Something about guys and their cars. I have no kids though and recently married so we still do some of our banking and bills separately by my choice. I thought he was being selfish too. So I got myself a 2nd part time job and I recently went out and bought a newer, bigger, fully loaded SUV and I don't let him use it! lol
My husband and I are doing it right now
and it is working, slowly but surely. After the first couple of things are paid off, its gets better and faster. We have a poster board with all our debt and we redo it every three months, and I must say that you see the debt going away. My hubbie cut all my credit cards up, and I was upset but in the scheme of things, it was the best. We only have one income and its working. Give it a try, I think you'll be surprised that it actually does work. My friend is also doing it, and their debt is disappearing also.
My husband and I did think of it. NM
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What is your husband's take on that? nm
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Go for it! I met my husband .....sm
2 months after his wife died from a 3 year bout with cancer and we're very happily married.
Good luck!!!
My husband always tries, although he just
doesn't necessarily have the same taste as me. It is a hit and miss with him, but he always tries. This year we did not exchange gifts (agreed upon ahead of time) because I got a new house and he got a new truck. We concentrated on the kids. The only gripe I really have is that he doesn't do much in the way of getting me gifts from the kids on Mother's Day, and he's not much of a card person, although I am.
He helped me clean all week though, did anything I asked pretty much, cleaned up all day today, etc.
Honestly though, I do not agree with the posts below about making a list. I think that a gift should come from the heart and that some thought should be put into it. Things that I just want, I go get them myself.
My husband and I have 2
roundtrip airfare tickets for anywhere in the US. I'm looking for an all-inclusive resort (room, meals, activities), but am having a hard time finding one. Can you help me out with this? Thanks!
My husband
used this for his leg pain due to fibromyalgia but had a very bad reaction to it so was not able to continue to use it. He found a natural supplement online that has helped. Best of luck!!
So, you would be okay with your husband
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This is what my husband (sm)
told me last night. I really hope that isn't what is going on. I am going to talk to her again about it again today. She has a cell phone (very near and dear to her heart!) I like for her to have it, so that I know she is okay when she isn't home, but since I now know that she is still smoking, I think I have very good reason to ground her. Hence, she won't be needing the cell phone.
Thanks for the input everyone.
My husband only uses
regular lotion, but he does like to take baths sometimes. He was glad when we moved and got a garden tub so he could soak. He doesn't go out of his way to use bubbles, but he will take one with me with bubbles.
Met my first husband when I was 5, LOL - sm
First crush was Greg. I met him when I was 5. We played together at church. We started "going together" when I was 13. We got married when I was 18. We got divorced when I was 32. Tried again several times. Finally called it quits when I was 37...sigh.
Then there was Stacy....we were together for two years.
Then there is Tommy, we have been together for three years - married for two years.
My husband was the one who
donated the sperm and had it washed, the doctor performed the IUI, and nature created twins. It was a WE effort in my case.
This is your husband
If there's one person in the world you should be honest with, it's your husband. Don't lie about this, this is BIG...just explain to him your feelings and if he loves you and you love him, you can work it out and make both of you happy. But lying WILL come back to bite you in the a$$...trust me, I know...good luck!
My husband was gay
We've been divorced for a while now, but it still hurts like crazy. I don't know anyone who has been through this. Is there anyone out there who's spouse came out to them?
My husband did!
He had to have surgery because otherwise the muscles would have atrophied. Because lifting was required for his job, he was out on disability for 4 months. However, soon afterward a radiologist I knew had it done, and he only took 1 day off and then was back at work, not complaining, and not taking strong pain killers. My hubby is a big guy, and it was hard on him, but he's able to work fine now. He has also had cervical spinal fusion, and the rotator cuff was worse for him, oddly enough.
Husband and I have dog and cat instead!
Kids...no thank you! Decided at around 12-13 or so that I didn't want any. I'm 30 now and haven't changed my mind and don't plan to.
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