My husband is 7.5 years younger. Been together almost 20 happy years...nm
Posted By: casey on 2007-02-27
In Reply to: How do you feel about older women dating younger men (sm) - OlderWoman
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Poll here- my husband is 10 years younger but would you date
someone who is about the same age as your child or have you ever? Watching Dr.. Phil today and seeing 38-year-old woman going with a friend of her sons who is 18. As for me until I married my husband, the only younger guy I had ever dated was only a year younger.
Been with a man 13 years older, now with a man 4 years younger.
Younger is better, at least in my case ;)
Although I'm several years younger than you (47) I would
say that you are already working at your marriage. You keep the little spats from becoming big arguments, you have a good relationship with your husband, you trust each other, you enjoy his company and he enjoys yours. All of these things are what I consider working at marriage. Those who don't "work" on these things often end up divorced or miserable. Just thank God that you have a wonderful husband and a good marriage. I wouldn't worry too much about "working" on your marriage. Sounds like you're doing a good job of that already. 
24.... 10 years younger!!! nm
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How many years younger?
Mine is 10 and the best thing I have run across.
13 years younger and....
FABULOUS. I never thought I'd have so much in common with someone so much younger but he's turned out to be a definite keeper.
I think younger guys are the best thing around...They're definitely the best angi-aging remedy around, lol!!!
GO COUGARS!!! :)
I am 6.5 years younger than my DH - sm
I have a friend who was about 8 years younger, she warned me not to do it as her DH never wanted to go anywhere or so anything. My DH likes to stay home but likes to go out and do stuff too, so that is not an issue for us. My dad is 12 years older than my step-mom, so for it is working for them, will see what happens when he gets infirm. (74/62)
My son married girl 18 years younger..and
it's his third marriage and her second. He is around 18 years older than her. The problems you described started to show up in the second or third year, but they have gotten through that stage and they both now get along good and enjoy each other's differences...each one understanding and respecting the ways of the other and each one changing for the better. THis has been his longest relationship...six years. And they have similar interests and have fun together and are fun to be around.
5 years younger than DH, although have to act older because he's like a d#@n child...nm
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Happy 20 years to you! nm
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Off until Monday afternoon -- Happy New Years
Off until Monday afternoon, have a friend coming in on Saturday (female) and for the first time since I have been single, over five years, going out dancing and having fun on New Years Eve. See if this old lady still has it in her to have a night of fun. Not sure if I remember how to dance. Hope you all have a Happy New Years. 2007 is going to be a good one for me.
Patti
Happy birthday! You are 40 years young.
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Happy Birthday to us! I wish you well and abundant blessings in the coming years...
Because my husband did it once many years ago and has
never done it again. Decided it wasn't worth losing his family over. That was 26 years ago and we've both done a lot of growing up since then.
My husband has been doing it for about 5 years!
I don't know that much about it, but he has gotten a ton of free gifts from doing it!
my husband had them a few years ago
He was in a lot of pain. Had to keep them covered at all times because we have small children who have not chickenpox yet. He took Vicodin like they were candy. He couldn't sleep, couldn't get comfortable even sitting. He has them front and back on the same side. They usually do not cross over. If you work with food, make sure you wear gloves to avoid contamination, especially if you are cooking for more than yourself. Good luck. I hope they heal quickly and that you have minimal pain. I will keep you in my prayers.
Husband should have put a stop to this years ago.
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Husband had affair 13-14 years ago
It was with a co-worker. He told me about it in the fall 1993. He moved out. A couple of months later he moved back home and said it was over. Our kids were young then, 6 and 9, and the holidays were coming up which is probably why he moved back. Fast forward to the fall 1994. He comes out with that he never stopped seeing her, but now she was moving out of state and it really is over. In 1999, we moved to a different state (not the one she's in... I know where she went). Things seemed to be okay, at least the way they always have been. We even had a baby girl in late 2000. Husband switched jobs last year and I was finally getting around to cleaning out some boxes that he brought from the office. I found an envelope in there from the low life he cheated with with a Christmas card and some pictures postmarked 2006. The message said hope you and your family are fine. I finally found some pictures for you. I hope you like them, etc. They are mostly of her with her husband with family friends. I think it's her husband ... at least it was her husband's name back then I remember, because he had called me a couple of times back when it all went on.
Okay, so it's like 14 years after the fact. I thought it was something we had gotten past. The thing is, I had never seen what she looked like and now out of the blue I'm putting a face to the whole thing. Besides that it's bringing the whole thing back, the feelings, the betrayal, all of it, I'm also shocked that one or way another they have stayed in touch, even with us moving. Now I wonder again, is he really where he says he is when he's out?
Just wanted some opinions here. I'm just a mess right now and don't know whether to say anything or not.
Midnight shift husband for 18 years now......sm
It will get better....eventually. It took about 8 years for my hubby to realize I can't work midnights like him because we have two kids to raise.
Believe me, it is very difficult at times, but it does get better.
It might help if you have a calendar in full view for him to look at, so he knows what type of schedule you are on regarding work, kids activities, etc. Once he sees it in writing and realizes all the pressure that is on you, he may begin to understand.
Believe me, night shift is not easy for the marriage.
It takes great patience and understanding of both parties for it to succeed!
I sleep with my golden retriever at night now!
Do you LOVE your husband? Want to spend your golden years with him?? Drop this fantasy at
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My feelings; people shacking up together for years and years
and then all of a sudden deciding to get married don't need a thing, obviously. A shower should not even be given. I lived with my now husband a while (nowadays who doesn't!) before we married and I also had been married before years ago but he was not....so of course HIS mom wanted a shower. I told her absolutely not unless it was just the immediate family, his mom, sisters, etc, more like a celebration/get together. And so that's what we did. Showers are tacky, period. Unless it's a couple of young kids getting married straight out of the house and that doesn't happen much anymore.
Sorry, meant 75 cents. Still, that was years and years ago.
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I studied to be a scopist years and years ago
Back in the early 1990s I took a course called Note reader Scopist. They read court reporter notes (those long skinny papers that looks like a cash receipt) and types them into documents. I had found the course through something called At Home Professions but just didn't finish it because it was too expensive for me. But I am familiar with them and even found my book from the first course I took. Looking back I think it would have been a blast if I had kept up with it.
It is definitely legitimate. A lot has changed since the early 90s, so I'm not too familiar with the industry now. I do remember what was really weird was it didn't take a lot for me to learn it. For instance I could look at a line of court notes and see something that looked like: NV p srn - and I seemed to know exactly what it said. Just weird. My DH used to say that I understood it because I was an alien and my ship crashed in Roswell. HA HA HA Anyway...that's what I know about it. But if you Google note reader scopist or at home professions i'm sure you could probably find a lot of info.
I have been vegetarian on/off for 35 years, was vegan for about 5 years sm
not that hard. Right now, I am having so many issues with food allergies and celiac disease, having to give up nightshade veggies...nothing left to eat. I am eating some meat now, but not when the gastroparesis sets in!
Being vegan is not hard...unless you are a celiac. This is how I figured out the celiac part because so many of the meat analogs and vegan packaged foods use gluten for the protein and I got really sick from it. I gave up all the premade things and the whole grains with gluten and I was fine.
There is vegan and then there is VE-GAN. By definition, vegans don't wear, use or consume anything that is derived of animals...no leather shoes, most shampoos and toothpastes are off the list, as are deodorants. No wool or silk. Anything with soap usually has animal byproducts. It is very involved and rather difficult to do.
Giving up meat, eggs and dairy is no big deal, except for cheese. You hear that ad about "comfort proteins" in a baby formula and there is such a thing. Mother's milk, be it human, cow, goat, whatever...contains a chemical that triggers the release of endorphins in the brain so that feeding feels good in more ways than one. The purpose of this is ensure that the nursed young want to nurse and thrive. Human milk has a lot of these, so does cow's milk and cow juice triggers the same reaction in the adult human brain. Cheese is concentrated milk and therefore these chemicals are also concentrated. As a result, cheese is an addictive substance. This is the hardest thing to give up when going vegan. Vegan cheese substitutes are nasty and they don't melt. If a dairy-free cheese melts, it contains casein, an animal protein and not vegan.
I studied this years and years and years ago
Most definitely is legitimate. In the late 1980s I studied to be a note reader scopist through a group called At Home Professions. I loved it, but unfortunately could not continue due to no funds. It was reading the court reporters notes which looked like a grocery receipt with a bunch of letters scattered on it. The weird thing was I found it extremely easy. For instance I would see a line that looked like: av e cr, and for some reason I would know what it said. My DH told me that's because I'm an alien and my ship landed in Roswell. HA HA. Well I know that a lot has changed, after all it's been over 20 years since I took the first course and know a lot of it is computerized now, but it is most definitely legitimate and I've heard people like to do it. I think I remember one of the courses was in medical terminology and another course was in legal terminology. Should be able to find a lot of it on google, or maybe go to your local college if they offer it and talk to an instructor.
This has happened for years and years, where have you been?
Frank Sinatra, Elvis, the Beatles, and on and on. This person is acting very normal like the age she is. You would have to have been under a rock to think differently, like this was an abnormal behavior....
Lost my mom 23 years ago and dad 18 years ago.
My son was not even 1 when my mom died....she was only 50. My dad died at age 59. So even though I feel your pain....I would have been very grateful to have them into their 80's. I guess we take what we get and be thankful. Sometimes it is hard though.
I was married for 13 years and 2 years
after my divorce I met the most incredible man. He was also divorced, we both have 2 kids, and though we are not married, we have been together for 9 years. They are still out there, you may have to go through a few marginal ones before you find him, but they are out there and available.
I said already that I was much prettier and younger than my husband..nm
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I am very happy for you and your husband
I wish all marriages were like yours. But the divorce rate says they aren't, unfortunately.
You two are very lucky to have found each other. It is very nice to hear about a happy marriage for a change . 
Was your kid almost THREE years old?
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I am and have been for 3-1/2 years....sm
feel free to e-mail me any questions you may have and I'll answer the best I can. For me, foster parenting has been a very rewarding experience.
this years
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I had it done 5 years ago.
The good: Surgery went well. Lost from 420 pounds down to 175.
The bad: Became depressed, lost my hair, damaged a kidney, and eventually gained the weight back. Weight 350 pounds now.
If you can't change your habits now, you probably won't change it then either.
Only 5% of those who lose weight (even with surgery) keep it off.
DH had one about 5 years ago....
It was a breeze for him, and only a $10 copay! He tried to be macho though and lift something pretty heavy 2 days later, ended up home for about 4 days and pretty sore! All in all everything has been A-OK, he has never had a problem. Didn't slow him down any either, he is still quite the man, if you know what I mean! LOL! Good luck, hope it works out for you.
We do...even after 21 years.
About 17 years ago,
I had an ex-boyfriend that owed them money. Don't know if he was buying it or selling it, and never had heard of them before that, or since then.
WW as of 2 years
I did WW 2 years ago. They have 2 plans, the core and flex. I did the flex. It is a point system. Basically you eat anything you want. You keep a diary of what you eat and add up the points at the end of the day. The points was based on the number of calories, amount of fat and fiber I think too. I don't know anything about the core plan. I did loose weight the 3 weeks I was there. I went from 196 to 189. I quit when I got pregnant and never went back. I would love to go back but I don't think I would get much out of a meeting anymore. I have a 5 year old that gets bored and a 16 month-old that won't sit still. I think the cost back then was $11 a week.
Had it when I was 11 years old. sm
I really cannot remember how long I had it before I was diagnosed, seemed to last a looong time though. Mine started out with one lesion on my torso, which itched but would feel like someone was stabbing me if I touched it... even if my SHIRT touched it! All of the lesions were very painful, but I remember that one most because it got infected. Turned a grayish green and oozed. I still have a large scar from it. Hope you feel better soon. It is very painful.
I took it for about 10 years.
I just changed to Effexor. Ten mg is an extremely low dose. To keep migraines and neck/shoulder tightness under control I needed 20. But 50 mg, even though that's still a pretty low dose, could cause daytime drowsiness for me. Other people might take 100 mg, I believe. And at 50 mg there was a little weight gain, also. If you still have trouble, you might try melatonin also. I hope you're feeling better soon.
I don't think 8 years is all that much, I think it would be a lot of fun!
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My SIL had it done about 1 1/2 years ago; had no ...
real problems; lost about 125 pounds. I also know a guy who had it about 2 years ago and has lost about 175 pounds. He really has not had problems either. You really have to research the doctor, though, and a lot of people have had problems with it.
BF for 6 years
Also does not make me a crazed lunatic, either - as many of you have alluded to - you would be very surprised if you met me on the street - I look just as normal as any of you - only probably slimmer and with larger natural breasts - and remember large areolas (LOL)
Yes you can. I have done it for 20+ years, my mom
did it for 40+ years. I usually use parchment paper now, but before I knew about it I always used wax paper. I have never had a problem with wax on cookies or cakes and there has been no taste difference. Even some of the pre-modern cooking shows used to tell you to use wax paper on the bottom of your ringed cake pan.
The Wonder Years
I remember them well! Great suggestions above. What a great mom, and what a great son! Enjoy it!
When it comes to digging a bit deeper in those pockets, that's your cue: time for son to get a job and start pitching in!
I had them when I was 45 years old.
I had the Invisaligns, though, and those were great. You could eat anything because you took them out while eating, then brushed your teeth and popped them back in.
They were more expensive than conventional braces, but not by that much...and LOTS less noticeable.
Thanks, but I already get those. Been going for 4 years now.
:-)
Ten years old nm
She turned 10 on 06/03
The cat is about 3 years old sm
and is considerably overweight. We are working wtih the vet on that. I don't know if he just can't or has ever even tried. Our other cat goes over the fence all the time.
9 YEARS?!!!
Wow, my dear, you are dedicated.
I went through this sort of thing with my husband about 3 years ago. He was over-reacting, taking everything out on us, constantly talking down to me and screaming at the kids over every single little thing. After being utterly miserable for at least a year while things went from bad to worse, I kicked him out.
Now, three years later, he is a completely different man. Losing his entire family (we moved 600 miles away within a week of me telling him to leave) really impacted him, and, honestly, he hit complete rock-bottom - drinking, flaking on the kids for visitation, just being an all-around mess. And, you know what? One day he woke up and decided he needed to make a change or kill himself. So he changed.
We got back together in November, and I'm currently 6 months pregnant with our third child. There are times when he does slip back into old behavior patterns, but he recognizes it and stops and apologizes. They need to realize that it IS just a trained reaction, and it is possible to retrain your reactions, but he HAS to want it. Are you willing to wait for him to make that decision on his own? Can your mental health and/or your children's mental health handle it?
I know people are too quick to jump into divorce nowadays, but you have to ask yourself if staying is ultimately more harmful to both you and your kids - think about the role model you're being. I didn't want my kids growing up to think it's okay to walk all over their families because they've had a bad day, so I took action. I loved him desperately, so it was probably the hardest thing I'd ever done, but, in the long run, everything worked out like it should. 
I was 13 years old
and playing Monopoly with my best friend when her mother came into the room sobbing and told us that Elvis was dead. Of course, being insensitive 13 year olds, we thought it was funny she was so upset and just laughed at her.
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