My husband does the same types of things
Posted By: ERMT on 2007-12-15
In Reply to: The love of my life does all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, shopping etc.. - BlessedQueenMT
He does almost all of the cooking (he is a much better cook than me), helps me clean, and does ALL of the grocery shopping! He also helps me with the laundry and makes me coffee every morning. Since he works outside of the house and I work from home, he usually goes grocery shopping on his way to work. I mean, he even does "tampon runs" for me! LOL! I feel so lucky!
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You know sometimes my husband doesn't want to go to my family things either...
and I have learned that if he doesn't want to go, don't be mad, just go without him...It is better to go alone then have to sit there with him while he is moping about being there. I understand your frustration and maybe your husband knows something will set him off and start a fight and he doesn't want to do that to you. Maybe he is really thinking of your feelings.
I got two different types of ivy--sm
and some white flowering plants that look like white jasmine, but I don't think they are. They are combined in a planter with some blue colored plants that look like baby's breath, but are not. (I don't know plants well), and some red coleus.
I had thought about putting just the planters inside the box too, but the box is too deep and they would have to stand on something else inside. I would rather just add the dirt so their roots have room to grow.
Thanks for your input! I appreciate all the help I can get.
Types of headphones
What types of headphones are you all using? Has anyone tried the noise-cancelling headphones or the transcription gear insight headphones? If so, how do they rate? I transcribed for seven years and used the Lanier brand and liked them. I've been a respiratory therapist for the past 5 years and am now getting back into transcription, so I'm looking for decent pair of headphones to work from home. Thanks for the help.
I have learned that in these types
of situations, it is impossible to get all the information you need to figure out exactly what is going on. Too many people gossip and pass on bad information.
On the other hand, maybe I am missing something, but it sounds like you are saying that your son broke up with this girl because he couldn't be alone with her. If that is what you mean, then I can see why she would be upset and hurt. That would look like he tossed her aside because of what he was not getting.
Spitz types
Even though they have long hair, spitz type dogs are often better for people with allergies than an oily coated breed like a lab. He's really going to have to meet the dog and see if he reacts to it.
all types of gods, yes, but 1 God Almighty.
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Snotty QA types are just as obnoxious on
Ya'll have certainly proven the original poster's point.
Amen to that! These people are the types
who think everyone owes them something. Like the money for any of this comes out of their pockets.
I guess the government should implement a "change of life circumstances" form so we have to have approval from these people before something bad happens in our lives. They have such attitudes, don't they?
These are the type of people who carry their attitudes into their jobs and cause other people problems.
Misery loves company.
It should not matter who types it - as an MT we are bound
by rules and regulation, HIPPA, etc. If I ended up typing their report I would not tell anyone (not even DH) because that is against rules (maybe they are my own, but if word leaked out that I typed their reports it would be by my own mouth). Besides...I don't think the press can find out the name of the Transcriptionist who types the reports. If so, then it would be because the supervisor gave them your name and then she/he could get in trouble. There are just some things nobody should know, and even though they are Hollywood legends their bodies function the same way ours do and they are no different than Sam, Joe, Judy or Bob when typing a report for them.
please excuse all those types - i know i didn't type them that way, LOL!! nm
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On animal planet they were featuring types of SM
animals and snakes, etc. with two heads. I know in some cultuers these animals are felt to be holy and a gift from God. I felt sorry for them when I saw them.
I feel for this dear child and family.
Why would anyone dump on you for that? I love those types of stores nm
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Now, that's just silly. Those are types of animals that can be harmful. Big difference.
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There are all types of gods, not just yours, guess it depends on which one you prefer to believe in.
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I'm sure a lot of people at the hospital are selling these types of stories
to the tabloid shows and the tabloids. Unfortunately, stories like this sell. Yes, whoever the source is should be fired.
Important to check source before posting/forwarding these types of emails and misinformation
Please, actually GO to www.snopes.com and read what they have to say about this negative e-email that has been circulating for months now. Right there at snopes, they debunk/clarify all of these mean-spirited accusations.
Specifically about it being factual and verified by snopes, it is NOT verified by them. Below I copied one paragraph from snopes.com but please go there read it in full so that you can hopefully choose not to pass on this Internet e-mail full of misinformation.
FROM snopes.com -
Variations: One version of the e-mail in circulation claims "We were told this was checked out on 'snopes.com'. It is factual. Check for yourself." and includes a link to this web site. It's our guess that whoever included that bit was counting on folks to not check, as our article says the opposite: that the polemic is not factual but rather is false.
Me again - Even if you do not care for Barack Obama, surely you do not wish to pass on lies or misinformation and engage in or extend the negative campaigning we all hope to NOT see much of... at least, I hope this is true, especially of people who talk about being Christian.
At least open your mind enough to read what Obama has to say about all of this misinformation. Between snopes.com and his own website, then make a decision whether or not to engage in actively passing on misinformation. Snopes is a great place to verify information that comes to all of us in these emails.
http://www.barackobama.com/factcheck/2007/11/12/obama_has_never_been_a_muslim_1.php
http://www.barackobama.com/factcheck/2007/11/12/obama_is_a_patriot.php
I sure hope all the good hearted folks on here won't flame me for encouraging us all to check things out before we post them or hit that FORWARD button.
Peace to ALL.
I've heard good things and about things about taking prednisone. My mom was on it for SM
for awhile and it made her look so swollen. I sympathize with you.
Does your husband or significant other do this? Just now, at 7:30, my husband came home from sm
playing sports with a friend. After showering he comes downstairs naked and tries to start a conversation with me. My "office" is in the living room and he is standing in back of the couch so I can't see any private parts, just him without his shirt, but I can see enough to know he clearly is naked! I think he wants me to be amused or get turned on or something, but I'm not amused one bit. In fact, I keep working and basically ignore him.
Poor guy. I swear he thinks he's Vince Vaughn or something. I should at least smile at him but all I want to tell him is to put some clothes on! ugh!
Things you're afraid of vs. things you're not
I didn't used to be afraid of spiders, but I seem to have developed a fear of those little beasties. I also can't stand boats, water deeper than my hot tub and bridges. I'm also fairly convinced that UFOs, if not aliens (well, isn't anything driving those things?) are real, so that kinda scares me, yet it is strangely fascinating. I'm also afraid of El Chupacabra, though I'm very certain that's not real. It's one of those "hahahahaha" fears.
Things other people fear that I do not include snakes (awwww, they so cute! they look like they're smiling!), rats, gangbangers (except Mara Salvatrucha, move them up to my "scary" list), poverty, death, traveling at high rates of speed with almost anyone sober, bats (CUTE!!!!!), homeless people, Sasquatch, most of my male friends, bears, mountain lions.
Fear is such an odd thing, don't you think? So much of it is relative to our own experiences in life, yet at the same time some of them are downright irrational.
So, how 'bout you? What will send you running screaming in the other direction, and what things can you take care of when someone else goes running screaming in the other direction?
Oh, just a few things : )
http://www.wakeupwalmart.com/facts/
my take on things
I went through a similar situation with my (now ex-) husband's family during the ten years we were married.
Your husband is NOT the problem, his parents are. You said that your husband tried (albeit unsuccessfully) to get along with his father. So, it seems to me that he *DID* try as best as he could. But, sometimes, no matter how hard you try, things don't work out. So you do what the song says, "You have to know when to hold up; know when to fold up ..."
Now, it seems to me that his parents are treating your children like "holiday turkeys," ... bring them to be brought to the table once or twice a year, but ignore them the rest of the year. Yes, that's pretty much what it sounds like, and my heart goes out to your children 'cause I know the pain they are suffering ... because of their grandparents.
I also suspect that the ONLY reason your husband's parents went to the event was to "stick it" to your husband, and not because of the grandchildren. When you love someone and are truly proud of them, you do everything you can to be part of their life.
The ONLY people who matter in all of this are your immediate family ... You, your husband, and your children. Do not let his parents tear you all apart. I think you all need to get into therapy (you, your husband, and the children), so you can work through this problem AS A FAMILY UNIT, 'cause you're the only family that truly matters. You're all in pain and all of your feelings need to be counted, by each other.
Take it from someone who lived it.
Try these things...
Have your husband do special things with that kitty such as giving him treats, having a catnip party, playing with interactive toys, talking gently, getting down on the floor with him at his level...Does your hubby have a big booming voice or thud through the house? One of my cats took a LONG time to love my husband because my husband tends to talk loudly and make more noise than I do. Fourteen years later, that cat still perfers me over hubby and still likes the house quiet, but there has been LOTS of improvement over the years. Be patient. All kitties, even when raised together, can have totally different purrsonalities! Good luck to you. :-)
Been there and things will get better.
Your writing my store. I too went to court over 20 times due to custody battle with a dud. After 4 years of being dragged in and out of court, I ended up the what I had before I started $100 a week. I did get sole custody of my son though. I spent probably about $20,000 on lawyers (4 of them). I wrote a credit check for $5000 to hold is escrow because I had to sell my house and was planning on paying it after the sale of my house. Well, the lawyer cashed my check and ended up in jail after he ripped off about $75,000 from clients. I was out $5000.
I also had a warrant out for my arrest becuse my ex took a notice I had to go to court out of my mail box. Being that he was good friends with the neighbors from h&#%, I did get arrested and put in jail for about 4 hours which cost me another $250 for the bail.
Keep your head up. It will get better. I haven't gone to court since 8/05 because both judges, the one in family court and the one in municipal court both told my ex to leave me alone. Everytime I get the mail I'm expecting to get a notice to go to court. Believe it or not, it wasn't so bad being in jail, a cell to myself, and away from the h$&% he put me through.
So here I am, had to sell my house, broke as anything, living in a condo, but my kid is all mine. The ex moved 2 minutes away from me "to keep an eye on me" but what goes around comes around and I'm just waiting for the day he gets what he deserves. My son refuses to go to his house because his girlfriend also took me to court a few times. He is supposed to pick him up on Saturday morning and bring him home Sunday night every weekend. So guess who has to give the kid money for the weekend - me. That comes out of the $100 a week along with lunch money, clothing, food, etc. I literally ended up having a nervous breakdown, 6 days in the looney bin.
Keep your head up, I know exactly what you're going through and somehow it does get better. ');>![](http://forum.mtstars.com/smileys/smirlove2.gif")
Yes, know all the things that cause
and mine is thyroid related and menopausal so have those things linked with that. I am trying- maybe just have not "scrubbed" my head hard enough. Nerves not a problem here but well aware of lots of causes, probably been working on it longer than most.
odd cat things
my cat likes to eat toilet paper, either off the roll or from your hand. She also wags her tail constantly like a dog...with no dog in the house. She also will only eat 1 brand of food and no treats or tuna; she will eat french fries though
could be so many things
go to a doctor. but where I live, the first thing I think is Lyme disease.
Thanks everyone. Gives me some things to think about
Hayseed said, "No more breads, pastas, rice, or taters....all the things we really loved." That could be part of my problem. We've been eating a lot of pasta, rice and taters because hubby can't have dark greens, which includes salads, green beans, etc. because of gout and on Coumadin for AVR. Don't know what else to make anymore.
We gave up coffee, now, too, because both of us were having stomach problems with it. Two cups a day was our limit. He can survive with it, I can't seem to do that. LOL
Dinosaur said, " I had undiagnosed diabetes and would just "poop" out when my blood sugar was too low (or even too high!)." Diabetes runs in my family and I've been watching my counts for the past 10 years. So far, so good. I don't eat sugary stuff like pies,cakes, candy, soda. Don't like sweets that much.
I was checked for Lyme disease a couple years ago because I had 2 tick bites. That was negative.
The only allergy I have is my home. Ever since we moved to this house, I've had the flu, colds, runny nose, sneezing, coughing, etc.
Guess I'll have to make an appointment with a doctor and try to find out. Usually I'm one of those people who has something wrong that no one can figure it out. When I was 40, I had mono (rare for my age group) and was told I was "borderline Epstein-Barr and Guillame-Barre [sic]."
I was also checked for B12 deficiency (borderline), Anemia (borderline), rheumatoid arthritis, etc. You name it, I had the test over a 2 year period. The answer? Nada. I'm beginning to think all these "borderline" tests are coming back to bite me.
Thanks for your help. I think I will make an appointment to get checked out again.
Some things to think about...
1. Your house payment probably also has your taxes and insurance added in. If paid off, you'll still have to pay these. Mine account for about 1/2 of my total house payment. Plus, 6% is low compared to the other interest rates.
2. Debt to credit ratio: I've had all of my credit cards increase their rates to "default" rates just because my debt was a high percentage of all my credit (no missed payments, no late pays, etc.) This will affect the teaser rates as well.
3. Your 401k is also probably earning some type of interest. Take that "lost" interest from money you've borrowed into account. That will help you better compare the interest rates.
If you feel you have to talk to a debt counselor, there is no shame in that! Just make sure it's a reputable company. As with most things, there are a lot of scams out there. Good Luck!
Try these 2 things perhaps
Some cats need more than one litter pan. I have 2 like that. One started having this problem and the addition of an extra solved it. But even before that, I would take her in to check for UTI. Some cats, particularly kittens, will not cry or behave oddly otherwise when they have a UTI. They will, however, start peeing in noticable places outside the litter pan. She may have also been bullied by a more agressive cat or kitten while in the litter pan. Some get territorial about them. In which case the 2nd one should help. Good luck and hope that helps.
It could be a lot of things, however... (sm)
This is heavy on my mind right now, so I will tell you the first thing that I thought of.
My little 3-year-old girl is being worked up for pheochromocytoma, which I know is very rare but could be a consideration for you. She has paroxysms of profuse sweating that come out of nowhere with pallor. She looks and feels terrible when it happens. She sacks out on the couch or mommy or daddy to wait it out. These episodes are done in about 5-10 minutes and she's fine. I have a documented blood sugar stress reaction (per the pediatrician) during an episode, so something's happening to her. She bounces up like nothing ever happened. We have yet to get her blood pressure during one, though.
If you look up pheochromocytoma, there are usually multiple links or references to other conditions that may fit your symptoms as well. Pheo is pretty rare, and I'd be surprised if my daughter was positive for it because it is, but her symptoms are quite like it.
A simple blood test rules you in or rules you out.
It's an off-the-wall idea of mine, but it may get you looking in the right place if you start your research in that area.
Good luck to you.
2 things
I always bring stuffing. We call it "outdoor" because whomever makes the turkey had already made "indoor" to stuff the bird with. Then I make cinnamon bread. My 2 specialities for the main course. Man, I'm getting hungry!
Have you ever tried the little things
you put in your gloves or socks to keep you warm - I've seen them pretty cheap - and I think they are reusable at least several times- could use them when you are really cold. I keep one of those bed buddys that you warm in the microwave on my lap - my hands get cold and I warm them every so often. you could put one under your heels or the foot not on the foot pedal.
A few things - sm
Absolutely nothing with alcohol in it, candy and cookies included.
No pornographic material or anything that might be considered pornographic by their "host" country.
No glass containers.
Chocolate or anything that could melt is not a good idea either.
Think that is about it.
things not like they used to be
in the old days, the store could have had him do work there to pay for what he took.. things have changed. . it seems like nobody wants to take time with kids (or anybody) any more. . have you heard the saying "it takes a village" . . I will pray for your family and hope everything works out. . I know how much stress you must be under.
Things are different-
the kids have taken over. I think you are not supposed to beat the kids but I be darn if I will raise my kid or a g'child and not have the upper hand- I will not be walked over like lots of people are letting their kids do now. If I did not switch, I would take everything humanly possible away from them with the exception of a necessity, that being a bed or a coat or maybe food. Families have done this to themselves for coddling, pampering, talking to and now what?
When things get that bad
around here, I go on a mini-strike. I wash my own plate and dish and only do my own laundry. Family has to do laundry/dishes when no clean towels or glasses. They shape up after that. For a little while anyway!
Any GI things going around right now. nm
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Two things...
One, she's a cleaning lady, not a housekeeper...
Two, you didn't catch her "red handed", you don't even know 100% for sure that she took your drawers. Red handed is when you catch someone in the act, which in this case you did not...
Things to try - sm
Go get those huge bags of ice they sell at gas stations and fit in as many of those as you can into the freezer and fridge, then DO NOT keep opening them to check on things. I personally would not eat fish that had thawed out...Best of luck to you! 
There are things to be said for being an IC - sm
Yeah, I know there's no PTO, but having complete control over my work schedule - well, there's nothing like it! I've been doing this, with my own schedule for five years now and I wouldn't have it any other way. Yes, I do try to maintain my own regular schedule - otherwise my work bleeds all the way from 8:00 a.m. to 11:00 p.m. I try to get everything done between 8:00 a.m. and suppertime. But that still leaves room for kids' doctor appointments, chaperoning field trips when the kids were younger, or even a little "special one on one time" with my husband while the kids were in school. Then, come vacation or sick days from school I can tailor my schedule to fit without having to ask anyone permission. Love it!
Oh, yes - I do get "Mom, can I just check something quick on the computer?", etc., and have to be firm about the boundaries that I do set because you're right - They never do completely get it!
Several things
Ectopic pregnancies are possible in this situation--the babies can grow on an organ. However, this creates a very high-risk situation. Babies have been carried to term this way.
In this case, though, if she has been 13 years without a period, I would wonder about a tumor, especially if she found out about her pregnancy with a home pregnancy test. HCG (what the home pregnancy test measures) can be produced by tumors, which also may correlate with a growing abdomen, giving one the false idea she is pregnant.
How did she determine she was pregnant with twins?
Things to do
1. Find a trainer.
2. Yelp like a puppy whenever the dog is rough housing as that is what its littermates or pack mates would do.
3. If you yelp and it continues, play ends and they go into their kennel. You control the play and that usually helps teach them what behavior is acceptable. No words because that is giving attention..simply stop playing and put into a kennel for a time out.
My oldest did this biting nonsense when he was little and we got a trainer immediately who let me see so many things on how I was reacting that made him think not only he was boss but that his behavior got him payback with negative or positive attention. I trained with her and even worked with her in her dog business for a while and learned a lotas
There is no reason that a dog should need to be "gotten rid of" if the owner is responsible and takes care of behavior problems in a responsible, caring and teaching way.
No such thing as bad dogs... only bad packleaders/owners.
think I'd think things through...nm
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One of two things
Either your an i d i o t for putting up with it time and time again or your husband is an i d i o t for throwing away perfectly good items! Either way.....
These 10 things definitely ain't right:
1) MTSOs who want people with top-notch skills and experience, but don't want to pay them what that skill is worth.
2) HMO's: So-called *health-maintenance-organizations* --yet they spend every minute and every dime of their far-too-large profits on denying healthcare, meds and procedures to their patients. These organizations have ruined American healthcare, and many American lives. HMO's have been a con-game since their inception.
3) The Bailouts: Giving money to companies who can't cut the mustard, who spent what money they did have rewarding their inept CEOs with huge bonuses. What part of *business* do these people not understand? Their ethics are nothing more than, *I've got mine; too bad for the rest of you.* Then the Big Three show up in DC to beg for a handout, and fly there in private Lear jets. My answer to them would be, *I've got my Toyota; too bad for the rest of you.*
4) Apartment managers that won't allow even a single quiet, well-behaved pet, but will rent to people with continually screaming small children, and out-of-control older children and teens. Give me the pets for neighbors, ANY day.
5) Businesses that give an age-discount to absolutely everything that walks, runs or flies, but not to the middle-aged middle-class, who need it the most. Take the ski-industry: Young children ski for next-to-nothing, and sometimes nothing. There is a Teen Discount. There is a Student Discount for college kids. There's a single, share-able ticket for 2 parents taking turns skiing or staying in the lodge to watch their babies who don't yet ski. There are senior discounts (though the starting age on that keeps going up; I'll probably never be old enough - it's a carrot-on-a-stick, always just out of reach.) There are even corporate (UGH) discounts. But for those in my age group, who barely make ends meet but like to go up once a year for a couple days of bliss, there is NOTHING.
6) Travel-lodging deals that are always based on double or quadruple occupancy. What about singles? NOTHING.
7) TV commercials that are about a million decibels louder than the regular shows. Why can't it all be the same volume? Same with online newscasts. THEIR commercials will blow your eardrums out if you aren't quick enough turning down the volume before they start.
8) Surround-sound: Everything is too loud, already! Why do we need it coming at us from 4 directions? Why do people living in tiny apartments feel they need it? I've lost count of how many fights I've had with neighbors over this issue. Same with movies and music concerts. Why do they feel we need to feel the music in our SPLEENS? I went to Universal Amphitheater last week. (Now named something else). There is actually a sign outside warning that the decibel level inside might damage your hearing! (?!?!?!) Why do they need this? (To avoid lawsuits, obviously). If it's so loud you have to post a warning sign outside the entrance, then DUH.... it's TOO LOUD!
9) Banks that charge you a fee to use their ATM. They're saving millions by hiring fewer live tellers; (I haven't actually been INSIDE a bank in YEARS).... and they want to charge US for using the machines instead of the tellers? Forget it. I won't give those banks my business.
10) The Post Office: Talk about rewarding slow, inept performance! The worse their employees are, the longer they seem to stay there. I'd rather have a root canal than go to a P.O. during the holiday season.
Things that never did seem quite right
Pet rocks
Hummers
Suburban sprawl
7 year car payments
$5 coffees
Please add more!
Things that are better NOW........
Cell Phones: If I'd had one of those as a teenager, I wouldn't have gotten into so much trouble for always forgetting to call my parents and tell them where I was, or that I'd be late. 
ATM Machines: I remember running out of gas on a weekend when the banks were closed back in the 70's, had no credit cards, and would my car would be running on fumes to get home 'cause I couldn't buy gas. 
The Internet: About 12 years ago, I remember asking someone what the Internet was, and why we needed it. Now, I'm 100% hooked on it. Remember the HARD way of doing things in the past? Like buying theater or plane tickets? Looking up directions? Comparing different brands of something you wanted to buy? Selling something you no longer wanted? Looking for a house or an apartment? Getting the latest news? The list is endless.  Long Live The Internet!!!!
Google: Who can live without it? Especially Google Earth & Google Maps? Now I'm armed with driving directions, maps, even photos if needed, of where I'm going. Back in the day when I had to rely on someone's verbal directions, following them and actually getting to your destination was like Russian roulette. 
Digital Cameras: When I think of all the money I spent on film, and then developing said film, and all the film wasted on bad shots in my lifetime, it makes me cringe. I love the freedom and flexibility digital cameras give me to take as many photos as I want, and to experiment with them, as well.
MP3 Players/CD Players: Think of all the fights you've had in the car over which radio station to listen to listen to, and how loud. Then think how they never would've occurred if Mom & Dad could've handed each of us our own music source and headphones. 
Solar Lights: I love solar lights! Garden lights! Floodlights! Christmas lights! You can fill your yard with them, and the power source is FREE!!! 
Hair-straightening and Curling Irons: Remember the 60's, and trying to smooth frizzy or too-curly hair with an IRON on your mom's ironing-board? Or sleeping with HAIR CURLERS? UGH!!! 
You can probably think of a million more great things than I did. Let's hear 'em!
First things first...sm
The first thing you should do is take her to the vet to have her looked at medically as far as eliminating on the bed. So many things could be in play here. Secondly, kittens often try to play rough. Pull your hand away and refuse to let her do it. I also make a loud meow sound at the same time and they will usually let go immediately. The kitty will get the idea before long. I would make every effort to engage this kitten and get her to like you again. Have plenty of toys available, make sure there is a scratching post, buy her some catnip. They are like kids at this age and need positive reinforcement, not you being mad at them. Best wishes.
2 things
Since I only woke up about an hour ago...
1. I woke up (still alive).
2. I fed my cat and she then came over and rubbed her head all over me purring loudly while I rubbed her belly thanking me for her breakfast.
But the day is still new, am sure it will go downhill from here on.
other things to try
"Extended stay" motels. These have a refrigerator, 2-burner range, sink, dishes, pots, etc. They are slightly larger than a motel room. Google "extended stay motels." You can get a great deal on monthly rates, & you don't have to pay hotel tax on anything over 30 days.
Check to see if there is some kind of roommate referral or service where the people are screened. I read an article recently that said matching seniors & younger people is a growing trend, & there are community agencies who will facilitate this.
Two things - SM
1) TALK IT OUT:
Get a professional to work through your feelings about this.
AND
2) WORK IT OUT:
Sew the sheets around him to the bed as he sleeps, and go get the baseball bat.
(Seriously - wade through those emotions with a trained listener. Take care of you first, and you'll know what you need to do. And give it time.)
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