My husband did the same thing one year, except it
Posted By: Wannie on 2006-12-26
In Reply to: Need to Vent. - before I explode
was blue with big white clouds on it. I was very angry, exchanged it, and still wasn't happy because I thought he just didn't care. My kids have always been great about gifts, even when not having a lot of money to spend. Anyway, I had my big pout session that year and didn't feel one bit better. I have since come to realize how wonderful it is to have a husband and family just to spend time with. I love him dearly whether he gets me anything or not. This year I got a very nice jewelry box for which I had absolutely no need, but he tried. He loves me and that's enough. I am so blessed. I could have been spending Christmas all alone, but instead, I got to spend the day with my family. DH had to work, so we had to celebrate later, but I still knew he was coming home that afternoon and I had that to look forward to.
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One thing I know about a year around tan
is the link with Addison's disease. You might read up on that.
My husband was a contractor over there for a year - his suggestions -
He told me people went nuts over homemade goodies of any kind (cookies travel very well in those tubular oatmeal containers from Quaker Oats). Also, you can send chocolate things this time of here because the temps are much lower. He also said people adored magazines and books, things to do to help pass the time during slow periods. My husband liked when I sent those Crystal Light singles drink mixes. He would add one packet per bottle of water for a nice change from plain old water. Itemize your list as you pack each box because the post office wants to know what you are sending. He also said people really enjoyed receiving cards and notes. Lots of them feel forgotten in this war many people do not support, and depression really sets in this time of year. He said anything you send will be very, very much appreciated.! 
My experience when my husband died last year
My husband died suddenly last year. I was devastated and not thinking really clear, but my family was very supportive and the funeral director was very helpful. My husband wanted to be cremated. The biggest single expense is the casket and when cremating, it gets burned with you. If you're being cremated, they now "rent" you a casket for the viewing. It's totally sanitary. There is a removable liner that is put in and the usual silk/taffetta liner is put over that. It's no different other than buying a casket, other than you don't pay the high price and no one knows the difference. It was a beautiful, very expensive wood casket. We had a very nice viewing and service with all the amenities, prayer cards, notices, music, flowers, etc. The total cost was around 4000.00. I have his ashes, they are going to be spread this summer in a place he had always said he wanted them to be. I wasn't trying to do it as cheap as possible, but it was nice to not have to spend a small fortune.
I am the same age and decided the same thing last year.
Though, I fall back into old doormat habits, but I try to keep myself in check on a daily basis. You know people pleasing is a habit difficult to get out of. And by people pleasing, I seem to attract the wrong kind of people... I think the users of the world can smell a person who is willing to overlook users so they can help to feel useful.
I am trying to boost self-esteem and as I do little things for myself, I find I can use my judgement of character better. Instead of helping everyone, I help myself and still feeling guilty. This is something to get over. Once we do for ourselves we have enough inside to do for others in a healthy way.. and it will be reciprocal. How is it that so many MTs are such givers? The old saying "if I would have known then what I know now..." etc.
this year at our e.school they started a new thing...
the principal is a young hip guy...his new idea is called the "blue team", when a child is caught doing something "excellent", could be anything from getting along, teamwork, perfect paper..anything...the teacher writes a happy gram, sends him to the principal and he draws blue dots on one of their fingernails and is now "in the BLUE TEAM" ..its so corny, but eventually every child in the school is slowly recognized...its corny for sure but it gives them something to work towards. my little kindergarten boy..who can be so difficult just thought it was the coolest thing ever. my 3rd grade daughter got in at the beginning of the year and i really didnt think my son would, but just 2 weeks ago he did...he was so proud. wouldnt let me wash his finger that whole night...its just simple things.....
Last year I said same thing, Christmas is for children. SM
And I got clobbered on this board. Practically called un-Amreican.
I believe Christmas is for children. Up to age 18. After that, perhaps a check is in order, but that's about it. As far as gifts for aunts, uncles, cousins, second cousins, postman, WHOMEVER, forget it. Bake cookies. Have a party and invite friends and neighbors.
Say you are sending check to charity of choice and ask family and friends to do same. That is charity of their choice, since I know my family doesn't agree on anything.
But presents? Presents most of the people would not even want? Forget it.
You did the right thing. A year and a half ago 5 girls, sm
from a town that I used to live in, (1 had been in preschool with my daughter), just graduated from high school, were on their way to the family cottage of one of the girls, and they were all killed in a crash. There had been a text message sent from the driver's phone just before the crash. Everyone left behind was devastated.
Hopefully your actions will save her life.
My husband had the EXACT same thing (sm)
and yes, it was a fungal infection. I tried treating it with OTC cream but it just didn't work. Finally our NP gave us a prescription for cream called clotrimazole and betamethasone diproprionate 1%/0.05% (Lotrisone) and within 4-5 days it was completely cleared up. She did recommend Gold Bond as a preventative but he never used it. He's a diabetic to boot, so is always going to be prone to various skin issues I guess...bummer.
My husband usually gets a 12,000 bonus every year in March and then takes home around 7 or 8. It IS
sickening - that the Govt. gets that much out of taxes. I hate it. WE are standing behind the Fair Tax for this very reason. Somethings gottah happen. Remember the Boston Tea Party? This govt is just out of control in its spendind. 39% How is one supposed to live when we only bring home 70% of our actual pay? Doesn't that anger some of you?????????????????????????????????????????
Sure thing! I make them every year. Easy, fun, and yummy!
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Ex-husband had it. Same thing..out of nowhere, even at rest, his heart would just take off, up
over 200 beats a minutes. It was very scary. I think his was caused by congenitally having an extra vein or artery on his heart on the underside to which electrical currents travels and no way to slow it down. Evidently, he went to a cardiac electrophysiologist who did an ablation. Basically, put an electric wire up through the femoral artery to the problem and zapping it with an electrical current which shorted it out, much like if you would stick a wire or key into an electrical outlet. It cured him, but up until that point, he was having to stay on medication to control his heart beat so they wouldnt go out of control.
Husband did a bizarre thing - may be offensive so
Everyone was getting ready for school and work this morning, hustle and bustle about the house....I open the door to our room and my husband is right there, door unlocked, using my underwear as a catcher's mitt! He had gotten my clean underwear out of the drawer. We have been having some marital problems and have talked of divorce. I am kind of freaked out. Does this mean he misses me? Does it mean he likes getting away with something right under my nose? Why would he do it at that time of the morning with everyone walking around and the door unlocked? Am I just being naive?
First thing my husband asked when I told him was...sm
Did she get married before it happened?
That is either the sweetest or saddest thing I have ever heard.
Charla Muller gives husband a year's worth of sex for his 40th birthday
A US woman has written a book about the unusual gift she gave her husband for his 40th birthday - 365 nights of sex.
High-flying PR exec Charla Muller, from North Carolina, hit upon the idea for her salesman husband Brad, now 42, and has written a book about the year.
"When I offered my husband sex every day for a year to celebrate his 40th birthday he literally fell over. After hearing the words, Brad slipped on a toy on the floor and landed with a thud. As I had spent so long thinking about an exciting present that I thought he would love, I was confident he would say yes. But to my astonishment, Brad refused my offer. He said: “It’s a great idea, I just don’t think you really mean it.”
Being intimate at night meant we worked better as a couple during the day. Our house ran better because we were more agreeable. Having sex regularly made me start looking around, wondering who else was getting good loving. Is it the good-looking women or the regular mums — like me?
Sometimes I don’t shave my legs and have stinky breath, but Brad still finds me sexy.
I worried our sex every day arrangement may become a routine, like brushing my teeth or having a shower. On the third month, Brad had to call it a day during one session. “We’ve been doing it for 88 days straight,” he said. “I don’t think I have it in me. After all, there’s always tomorrow.”
After six months of the gift, we both worried whether it was possible to keep things new and exciting. I didn’t have the energy to constantly spice things up. Before, just having sex was new and exciting. Now we had to turn it up a notch to get out of the land of run-of-the-mill sex, to the kingdom of earth-shattering, wake-the-neighbours sex.
But we were nearing the end of our agreement, and although all I wanted to do was crawl under the covers and go to sleep, I realised: Sometimes you gotta do it when you just don’t want to. It was just like spending Christmas with your in-laws or cheering on a football team you couldn’t care less about. “Let’s get on with it,” I muttered to Brad. “Just close your eyes.” Brad sighed, and did just that.
The day after Brad’s 41st birthday I was giddy with excitement, relieved and ebullient that I didn’t have to have sex every day. I bounced around the house, singing: “I did it, I did it,” under my breath. I was deeply satisfied that I had carried the present through."
Bigger issue - a 16 year old living withi a 29 year old and liability
Are you still not responsible for him until he is 18, how can he tell you where he will live? Unless he emancipates himself and he does something wrong, can they go against you since you are his mother and legally responsible for him? I worry more about him living with a 29 year old sister rather than returning a house key to me that is a bigger issue.
My 14-year-old is going to be a mother-in-law (so funny) if you google it and 11-year-old daughter
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Won $2,000 on slot machine on New Year's Eve. What a way to start the year. nm
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Set my budget a year in advance, save all year and
nm
What a difference a year makes! Last year, sm
we had the same problem. Fines everywhere for watering.
Paid $60,000 on principal last year and this year
planning on another $30,000 after my taxes paid for the year. We are getting our house paid down very quickly.
55-year old woman has birthday sex with 12-year old
DAYTON - Gloria Murphy gave children celebrating her 55th birthday alcohol and then had sex with a 12-year-old boy at the party on Thursday, Jan. 29, according to police.
The boy got into Murphy’s bed at 5440 Rawlings Drive, where the married woman had sex with her adolescent neighbor, according to police and Montgomery County prosecutors.
Two of the children at the party ran home at about 6 a.m. Jan. 30 and told a parent they saw the boy and woman having sex, according to 911 audio.
The parent then called police at about 6:15 a.m., according to a police report and 911 audio.
Murphy did not force the boy to have sex, but since he is younger than 13, it is considered rape, Lt. Patrick Welsh said. No other children were involved in the sexual encounter, but some other children at the party consumed alcohol, according to police.
Happiness is a heart thing; pleasure is a head thing.nm
Does your husband or significant other do this? Just now, at 7:30, my husband came home from sm
playing sports with a friend. After showering he comes downstairs naked and tries to start a conversation with me. My "office" is in the living room and he is standing in back of the couch so I can't see any private parts, just him without his shirt, but I can see enough to know he clearly is naked! I think he wants me to be amused or get turned on or something, but I'm not amused one bit. In fact, I keep working and basically ignore him.
Poor guy. I swear he thinks he's Vince Vaughn or something. I should at least smile at him but all I want to tell him is to put some clothes on! ugh!
A 17-year-old would have the same goals as a 20 year old (sm)
Only the 20 year old is hopefully more responsible and based on what you say about his character, would be a better choice than someone her own age.
I have a 9-year-old son that sounds just like your 10 year old...
Lately he has been so negative about everything...trying to make him have a good summer and whenever I take him somewhere, he is just a brat when we get home...I think they are called tweens at this age...not quite teenagers but have the attitude like one---LOL
We skipped it entirely last year, and THIS year?
This 40-year-old got dumped for a 30-year-old
http://www.gqmagazine.co.uk/CoolNewStuff/Photos.aspx?StoryID=53859
This year will be our 35th year
The first couple years it was literally 5 or 6 times a day every day (more on the weekends). Over time it gradually slowed down (once a day) and over the past few years its been 2 or 3 times a week. Not sure that is average or not. There were times were I felt it was too much and him not enough, then there were times where I wanted it more and he didn't. Guess everyone goes through a phase. I guess because of how long we've been together, now it's just comfortable - nothing exciting about it. Just a routine. I have to make it exciting in my mind and pretend I'm someone else.
I don't know what it is, but you are correct...after awhile the lust and infatuation wears off and you get in a routine. I guess for us it was that we really didn't know each other when we married (we dated for 3 weeks then eloped). Once I got to know him it was too late. Now 35 years later it is just comfort (and amazingly we never once used birth control and never had any kids). My mom still tells me she's amazed at the frequency of our encounters that not even once did I even have a "close call" with getting pregnant.
But 35 years once or twice a week and 3 or 4 times on weekends. Not sure if that is normal.
My 7-year-old dog is very ill.
One of my two huskies started getting sick Saturday or Sunday. Her symptoms suggest poisoning or a brain tumor. She has always been sensitive to airborn allergens. Her eyes itch terribly if she the dog bed has cedar, and we avoid foods with wheat or corn or too many carbs, trying to keep her healthy. Anyway, it seems the slip cover I put on the dogs' chair may have been treated with something like formaldehyde and she is reacting to that. But I removed it when I started suspecting it on Monday night, and left the window open all night. She seems to get better and then gets worse, even though I'm not letting her back up on that chair. We have ordered an air filter for the living room. But symptoms wax and wane, and they are mostly neurological: squints eyes, acts like she can't see, walks in circles, breathing is slowed, she's very lethargic, presses her head on me for comfort (she's done this for years, but now I read head-pressing is a neurological sign), drooling, forgets to to outside to urinate and has incontience in the house.
Please pray that the Creator has mercy and heals her for us. Misha is sweet.
We are getting my son the PS2 this year,
and that in itself is around $140, around $40 for his leggo set (on sale at that). It adds up.
How about over $500 this year
for your tax return? That is through one of the biggest places we have, not some fly-by-night. Mine are more in depth because of rental, selling a home this past year and my working from home but this year am getting back over $6,000.00 but guess what? I am always just glad to get back any amount rather than paying!!
I go through it every year, though last year - sm
they did surprise me after saying it was delayed a month, I ended up getting it about 10 days later. When it has been delayed it has taken about 5 weeks. The website should give you a date of when to expect it, and that is generally right on the money. As for the date, contact the courts and have him arrested, maybe jail will teach him to pay on time. Good luck.
This is such a bad year
that my allergies are acting up, and I've had very little trouble for the past 10 years or so. Interestingly, my allergies decreased to near nothing after I was on an antifungal medication for an extended period. There are theories that all the increased allergies and asthma are related to they heavy-duty antibiotics we are able to use now for bacterial infections. Maybe these are messing up our airway flora and increasing problems with allergies?
When you say you've been on nasal sprays, what about the asthma ones, like albuterol nad Atrovent? That's what they had to put my sister on.
Hope you get some relief. Allergies are miserable.
What year is your car? sm
My husband works at an auto parts store, and I'll ask him what he thinks, but I think he needs to know the year.
My 17-year-old DD
has been wearing a size 10 or 10 1/2 ladies for the last 3 years. She is 5Ǝ" or 5Ə". My 20-year-old DS wears a 12 mens and has since high school. I wear an 8 or 9 and my hubby only wears an 8. We have no idea where these kids get their height or those feet! Our 15-year-old DS is following in their footsteps, excuse the pun, as well. He is in a 10 mens sneaker and already a head taller than my 5ƌ". Unbelievable. 
I did this last year
If it's the one I think it is, my friend send it to my last year, and I almost had heart failure. I screamed so loud I thought I'd wake up the house. I also had the sound on really loud and never again! LOL
6-year-old
Country MT, you are not harming your son. I am almost 52 yo, have a great niece on weekends, 2-1/2 yo. It is the only stability she gets. If she wants to sleep with us until she is 15 it will be okay! Her only requests as she comes in the door are "I want my bottle, blankie and rock-a-bye." She lives in a horribly unstable household and we are like heaven on earth to her. Before anyone blasts me, I have called DSFS - they are short on foster parents, so no help there. Her mom is too selfish to let us keep her all the time, is pregnant with her 4th. We also keep the 14-month-old baby boy one night during the week. New baby is due 12/18. Baby boy prefers the crib unless he is suffering with teething. My mom has an ongoing fit about me giving Sarah a bottle at all. Sarah drinks the bottle while we rock, hands it to me when finished and life goes on. Sleeping with us comes from her being sick as a tiny infant and not sleeping much at all. I slept with my grandparents when little and grew up to get married, have 2 kids, and am not sick or perverted. Listen to your heart, not negative people. Your son will love you for it forever.
I was there this year, last year, the year
before, etc. etc. From what I see in the casino as you walk in, the place is just below where I would stay, say the smoke filled place versus to I personally saw a person walking into the Bellagio being asked to put his cigarette out by security. I like that. The Flamingo is 1 of the older places - the location is good but it is right across from Cesear's and catty-corner to the Bellagio so I just love staying in a little classy place.
Doing it again either New Year's Day or New Year's Eve
:)
Not a fan of New Year's eve
I guess I'm a party pooper. I just stayed home and didn't even stay up to see the ball drop. Boring, I know . . .
Me too. Maybe that's what the new year is about...
I have been sitting here thinking my resolution needs to be to have more fun this year and worry less. But then again I am not in the party mode either...maybe it's all about taking care of ourselves and celebrating by going to bed early is a good thing! Hope your day goes well. I'm gonna type til my fingers fall off today so I can make extra money to go to Disney (see if that ever happens LOL). :)
New Year's Eve
We celebrated at our friend's house across the street. We go there every year. We played Deal or No Deal on a television computer game and ate a lot. We watched New Year's Rockin' Eve and got home at about 12:30 a.m. Today is a day of relaxation before work tomorrow. I've been off for a week and a half so I'm not looking forward to it.
New Year's Eve
Our two teenaged kids had previous plans to spend the night at friends' homes, and we would be communicating with them via text or phone call at midnight. My husband and I together made a romantic dinner with candlelight and wine. We had a fabulously fun and romantic night together (details left out - lol). We also tuned in for a brief time to a Twilight Zone marathon. Getting in touch with past phenomenon such as that really brings to mind our youth, memories, and awareness of such. A great night, especially with everyone safe.
I hope everyone here had a great holiday and will have a healthy, happy 2008!
17-year-old
My 17-year-old cat, Cyrus, died one year ago. . He always wanted a lot of attention - loved people - but toward the end, he seemed to want attention/being held, even more. . I am so sorry you are going through this - it is not easy. . I miss my Cyrus every day - he was a true friend.. we went through A LOT together...
You have been with him for over a year and have
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Had one about a year ago -
needle for local anesthesia, then very quick - left barely a little scab. Takes several layers but not deep. No pain and nothing afterwards - didn't even require any bandage after initial band-aid. On my breastbone area so probably one of the most tender places.
My 12-year-old goes to bed at 9 and gets up at 6:30
It sounds like right now your child actually goes to bed at 10, so if you extend until 10 it'll really be more like 10:30.
Mine started complaining a bit last year about bedtime, but this year started realizing how much better you feel/look when you get plenty of sleep. This year has been the easiest time...with child actually wanting to go to sleep. Of course, summer is coming and that throws a wrench in everone's schedule:-)
I was on it for about year ago and after
you find the things you like it isn't that bad. You just have to pick and choose, and I did lose almost 20 lbs., just have to be careful when you go off if it.
i would never allow my 5 and 9 year old
a few years back on his. He was with his children on it, he threw them off and they lived but he didn't.
My 11-year-old *man*
is also more emotional of late. I think a lot of it just depends on the kid. My guy has always been a little more sensitive than his brothers. He's about 10 pounds overweight and it bothers him that the kids call him fat. He's not fat. I told him if they didn't pick on him about that, it would be something else. Kids are cruel and they definitely find the ones that are most vulnerable. I would speak with the youth director and see if there might be ways to build up his self-esteem. I think more than anything he's suffering from a low self-esteem.
Some kids are just naturally confident and that makes them popular. He'll grow into himself soon enough. I've found that by inviting his friends over really helps to build his self-confidence. We just had his 11th birthday party at one of those party places with laser tag, arcades, jungle gym and we allowed him to invite 7 friends (that's all our 2 vehicles would hold). Although I guided him in who to pick, ultimately the decision was his. Not one of the kids he asked was in the "popular crowd", more on the outskirts like him. They all said it was the best birthday party they'd ever been to. They're still talking about it at school a week later. I think a couple of the more popular kids were upset they didn't get invited, but I hope it taught them a lesson and maybe even brought them down a peg or 2.
The kids change, but the attitudes don't. It was the same thing when I was in school. There will always be someone who gets off on making you feel bad. You just have to teach your kids how to cope with it and let them know how important they are. I said about inviting his friends over because usually kids are more confident in their own home. Letting his friends see his self-confidence at home will probably help him be more like that in school. Good luck with your guy.
almost 10 year old son
My almost 10 y/o son gets emotional like that also. If he is trying to explain something and cannot find the words, he tears up. Any frustration and he tears. He does have some anxiety, but his doctor said this is not abnormal. If we have complaints from school then we need to think about doing something, but for now we just try to nip it before he gets too upset. Unless he starts to tear over something reasonable (heck, even I can tear up if I get frustrated enough!). These kids have so much pressure on them now days. Just keep supporting him and helping him through.
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