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My husband and I both smoke!

Posted By: It's a horrible habit from our teenage years. on 2008-12-03
In Reply to: quitting smoking - the truth

This January we have decided will be it.  It is no longer socially acceptable.  My excuse has always been that I am afraid to gain a lot of weight. 


My brother quit after 15 years (early 30s) and he used Chantix.  He was a 3-pack a day smoker.  Let me tell you, he is so much better.  No coughing.  After 6 years of trying to have a baby and failing in vitro; they have just had a baby this November.  They both smoked/him worse.  They are now both nonsmokers for over a year, have gained weight, but have such a blessing.  He swears it was the smoking that caused the infertility.  This pregnancy was the natural way and she's beautiful/such a blessing for them.  We are all elated. 


I am especially proud of him and feel like such a wimp to continue to smoke knowing it is killing me.  It makes me feel inferior to others.  Thank God my brother is an encouraging soul and not one of those horrible ex-smokers who just won't let up or are worse than just plain nonsmokers.


To the OP:  These poster above is absolutely correct.  My brother will vouge that everything in life is better now that he is a nonsmoker (i'm assuming including the sex since they now have the baby).  He says the Chantix worked and he is by no means a pill-taker at all. 


To the OP again:  If you'd like to quit when I do in January, e-mail me, and we can support one another.  You are worth it!  You can still smoke the first week on Chantix, but then the cravings will disappear.  Believe me, I also enjoy the cigarette especially after eating but smoke a lot more when I'm stressed to the point that I wheeze.  I'm only 38 and have 2 kids.  I hate the habit, but I love the cigarettes.  See what I mean?  It's a hard habit to break, but I think together we can do it!  Whaddya say?  E-mail me! 


To the Poster Above:  Thank you for your kind comments as you've also just made me decide that quitting is the best and only option at this point.


I had an aunt that died of ovarian cancer and never smoked or drank a day in her life.  She was thin, always health conscious.  Not all cancers including lung come from smoking.  Keep that in mind as you strive to quit. 




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I can't figure out why you posted that you are thin and have always been thin.  How is that supportive a person who would like to lose weight?  I'm guess I am missing something.


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Someone said consider the source.  So let's consider the source...


You don't know her and she doesn't know you.  Why would she seek you out to lie to you?


Apparently your husband does know her and was going to warn you beforehand that she might try to stir up trouble.  Why would she pick your marriage to stir up trouble in?  What bone of contention does she have with your husband?  What is his relationship with her? 


And if there is nothing to what she says as your husband suggests and that she is just trying to "stir up trouble" then why did he feel he needed to warn you? 


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