My honest opinion...
Posted By: Keystrokes has an ad here, I think on 2009-04-01
In Reply to: Why is it doing the right thing makes you - the bad guy? sm
After learning this, my husband talked to the security office at his job and was advised that he should request our child be transferred to another team b/c it was considered a breach of ethics for my husband to fraternize with an ex-inmate.
Why did your husband run to his job and tell? Did he not want the ex-inmate working with the team or what? What's done is done. Sounds like you'd better switch leagues or build a bridge and get over it. JMO.
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I think you should be more honest with him.
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Be honest with him and
upfront with your feelings. It's not fair to you if there is no attraction and it is not fair to him thinking you are interested. Who knows, a great friendship might evolve. Just be honest with him right away before things get out of hand. Good luck with dating!!
There is an honest way of doing it as well.
H went to a farm sale and they were practically giving away scrap iron. He bought me an exercise bike for $2 and they threw in a bunch of it in with that exercise bike. Someone came by and asked if they can have it for scrap and H gave it to them. A person can find stuff on the side of the road like hub caps, car batteries, copper wire. I saw a mattress laying out on the side to the road as well. H has a lot of scrap in the backyard he needs to take down.
Unfortunately, there are some that make this a dishonest business. It has been rumored that the city has had missing sewer caps. Someone took that down to the scrap yard. Gosh, what people won't do. 
to be honest
I would just stand there with the hose when the were out and bust up the fight. I am totally serious. If you don't want a fence, get 100 foot hose.
Be honest about it. I really don't think it will be as bad
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You have to be honest with him, but you do sound a bit. SM
codependent on him. Something to think about. I've been married twice (once for 10 years and to my current husband for 4 years) and you cannot change people. You have to work on things together and try to change things together. I man will never read your mind and do what you want. You have to be very blunt with the male species and tell them what you want and need, but be careful about being too needy as that could be a turn off.
You must love him for who he is.
Good luck! I wish someone would have told me some of this stuff 15 years ago, but I'm in my mid 30s and still learning.
Both fixed and he is gay, honest!
He just does not try to mount, goes further than that. He is my youngest son and I still love him although his brother has to run from him sometimes. He is unlike his big brother, very sensitive, coy, tries to keep his weight down (for the other guys, in case he meets some) and I thought maybe seeing about getting him in some decorating classes.
To be honest, that was 100% lies...or was it? nm
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To be honest, I think I had cable when my little ones were
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how about being honest and telling him the truth..sm
imagine how he will react when (and he will) he finds out you have been lying to him. Just tell him. His reaction may be less than when he finds out about a total lie!
To be honest, when I was pregnant with my 3rd child, ,sm
I developed, around the 7th month, a nesting instinct where I could NOT sit still. I went from a couch potato to cleaning freak. I also began to drink tons of water for the first time and cut my cola consumption in half and then went completely to diet drinks, which I will have 3-4 per week now (no more colas). I found that just moving, piddling around, bending and stooping over picking up toys and clothes A LOT during the day has helped greatly to tighten up my stomach muscles. We live on a hill and I like to walk it 5 or 6 times a day.
The key to my weight loss was not sitting in front of the t.v. for long periods of time. I know that 99% of the people on this website work many hours a week and spend a lot of time sitting down in front of the computer. To you I say, get up, get moving all throughout the day, even if it is just 5 minute intervals at a time. It took me years (4 or 5), to keep my weight down like this, but I'm not a size 6 anymore. I am very comfortable with my weight, but it is the daily disciplines that will help you. Start now. Drink plenty of water, walk, take care of yourself and know that you are worth it!
Oh, one more thing! As soon as I get up in the morning I put my socks and tennis shoes on. Always. This helps me to move around a lot quicker and motivates me to do so much around the house. Good luck. Baby steps.
HMMM, I would...Be HONEST and pay in full...nm
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Here's a compassionate but honest answer
You are *not* in love with him.
Please don't dismiss this: You need counseling to undertand the dynamics here. How could other strangers (on this board) possibly help you with a "relationship" you have developed with another stranger? I belive you are looking for someone to say this is OK, and perhaps even give you hope things will work out. It is not OK, and it is unhealthy.
He is *not* interested in continuing your relationship, or else he would not say "you are strong, you will make it..."
He has made you NO promises at all - and you are hurting yourself if you choose to continue to believe otherwise.
I truly can feel your pain, but you have the power to control it - please consider getting help right away.
Good luck to you.
to be honest...all my posts have been 100% lies -nm
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love it. to be honest, I wish we were way back in -
the days where people gave things like a made from scratch pie and the recipe, a promise on a piece of paper, donated hours devoted to a project of your choice, etc., and kids made crafts.
Not being able to post your honest opinon and
experience speaks volumes about the place. The way the economy is and how hard it is to save money for a vacation, I certainly wouldn't want to waste it on a glassy beach and rude employees. TY.
Pssttt....locks are for honest people
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It is Lent so I am being honest - potty mouth without the kids.....sm
in private, I let RIP at times, it just feels good and releases a lot of tension, and of course right after I say a "forgive me god," which is so hypocritical, but he made me Latin and with a simmering temper, so what else can I say. Never in front of kids, my elders, mainly alone.
This was simply an honest post/poll made by a regular poster.
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My opinion
I think your husband is probably innocent in this case, but knew that some of the staring people might say something to you. There are two big reasons you need to keep your cool: 1) If he really is completely innocent, you don't want to make a big deal out of nothing. 2) If she is trying to get something started up, you need to pretend to be oblivious or you will never find out. He may have told you just to let you know that other women are still attracted to him, kind of an ego boost for himself. I don't think it sounds like anything he intends to pursue - but like the other poster said, you do need to keep an eye on her.
my opinion
She really sounds like a control freak and a person you should avoid. Tell her to find playmates for her son his own age. She has no right to reprimand your son. I knew a mom like this once - she followed her son around constantly since he was a toddler on up, and he actually grew up with mental deficiencies because she was so over-protective. Now he's an outcast. Kids need a little freedom to play and usually they work things out amongst themselves.
I think you should tell your son to stay away from her and her boy and forget about this woman. She sounds like a nightmare !
Wah, wah, wah! So, I have my opinion, so what?
I just can't bring myself to watch a movie where the girl playing Mary got knocked up at only 16 years old by her 19 year old boyfriend. I gave my opinion, you gave yours. There's no need to jump up my butt about it! Sheesh!
Again, everyone has a right to their opinion.
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Just my opinion...
A 12-year-old NO, but a 17-year-old I don't see a problem with it. By that age, it gets hard to keep them in a bubble! And I agree with your husband, they hear it in school and on the streets and more often than not in the home. I am just saying it is out there and it is really hard to keep our kids innocent, although I do try as long as I can, too.
Just my opinion
My parents divorced when I was 13, my dad basically put his new wife ahead and my brother and I and put other women ahead of us after the divorce, extremely hurtful. Every man my mother dated I could not stand. There are times when I do not care for my step dad either, they married when I was 16. It is a very touchy situation and if you are not going to be long term with this guy I would definately not take my daughter on trips with him, this is just from personal experience.
Thank you all so much for your opinion!
get a THIRD opinion.........always.....
My opinion
The thoroughbred racehorse is a genetic mistake. It runs too fast, its frame is too large and its legs are far too small. As long as mankind demands that it run at high speeds under stressful conditions, horses will die at racetracks." (And don't forget that whip in the jockey's hand.) Racehorses are overbred. Those that don't make the cut go straight to auction - a disgusting, heartless place where these beautiful animals are treated like disposable garbage. The immigrant issue is controversial enough without aligning it with a "sport" that should be banned.
well in my opinion
A pretty hot scottish guy! Stars in the new movie coming out soon called 300!!!
in my opinion, i would go to a
board certified plastic surgeon. It's your face, so be careful who you trust. susan
This is just my opinion but I think (sm)
He's being kept on the show, regardless of how the voting turns out (we all know this has GOT to be rigged on the inside SOMEHOW), because of all the buzz he's creating. This is just my opinion, by I bet we see him stick around until there are only 5 or six left. They won't let him actually win but they'll keep him long enough to keep everybody tuning in to see what he'll do next week or how bad he'll be. This is going to be the same scenario as on Dancing With the Stars when P. Miller made it to the final five or six couples. He, also, was creating buzz for the show. JMHO
You have your own opinion
I responded since there were so many replies to my original message I thought I would fill you in on the wonderful world of breastfeeding. I am finished, though, because I have other things to take up my time - since my sister fell and broke her hip. Thanks for reading them, and it matters not to me that anyone thinks I am a sicko - I know that my children are the most stable that you would ever meet in this day and time and I will never apologize for that.
In your opinion...
What's the difference between pleasure and happiness?
opinion
I would call the nearest police department to your grandparents and ask them to do a wellfare check - explain that you have not been able to make contact with them. Show your family that you aren't going to stoop to their level and be childish over something so petty.
Another opinion
Why would you name the kid after your stepdad? Why not give it a neutral name? Sounds like you are getting what you deserve. If you didn't do this intentionally to make trouble, you are at the very least superficial and completely discounted their feelings.
My opinion
is go ahead and talk to one another. It is good to have friends and if the people on this board don't want to read it they should not read it. Some people have nothing better to do than put other people down. My mother says some people aren't happy unless they have something to complain about. Have a good day! Hope you have lots to talk about ;-)
my opinion
My husband was acting very similarly and I finally gave him an ultimatum to go talk to his doctor about going on antidepressants. I think men act aggressively when depressed when women tend to withdraw...Long story short, my husband is back and life is so much better!
opinion
Someone wrote in to Dear Abby or someone similar and had a situation exactly like you describe. The answer was that the husband should stand up to defend his wife and not let you be humiliated and hurt by this cruelty. This is really mental abuse on their part. Shame on your husband for not protecting you from these wenches. Have you ever spoken to your husband about his lack of action i regard to this?
Opinion - HELP! :)
Okay - I have a dilemma concerning Christmas. My parents live 4 hours away. Normally they come down Christmas Day, spend a few hours, and then head back home (can't leave the horses and dog for very long). Received an email today from my mom that her and dad are coming down Christmas Eve and heading back home Christmas Day. Here's the dilemma - my husband's family always has their big Christmas on Christmas Eve - huge gathering with food, presents, music, pictures, nieces, nephews, etc. I have told my parents they are welcome to come with us. They won't - so now I'm stuck between having my parents sit at home alone while we go to my in-laws, or I stay with them and my husband and kids go without me (and not too happy about it either). HELP! 
My opinion
I was in a very similar situation. I've realized over time that my spirit had been broken by that man and my children's spirits were broken as well. We divorced 10 years ago and it's been very difficult. My children have told me recently how glad they were we divorced. Children know what's going on and understand much more than we realize.
Please see a lawyer and get your children and yourself into counseling. It won't be easy, but believe me, you'll never regret it.
JMHO.
Here is my opinion! sm
Paddling, smacking, etc. is for humiliation purposes to make those feel less of a person, tactics used to get kids, teens or others to obey! I, personally, would not want my child humiliated or their self esteem taken away from them by an adult trying to discipline them. Teens have enough peer issues to do that......I would not let my child be "paddled or take swats" by anyone.
Not to say, I wouldn't want to smack my own in the mouth once in a while for talking back....but I choose another route for discipline, like punishing and taking things away that they enjoy.
For what it is worth.....that is my 2 cents!
Need opinion
We have new neighbors, I have not met them. They work weird schedules according to some other neighbors. Well they live right next door to us, they just put up a dog pen right on the line of their property and put a really sweet dog in it. I heard him howling and I went out and talked to him and gave him a piece of bread. I started thinking I probably should not have given him the bread. Would that make you mad if it was your dog? I was really just trying to make the dog feel better but I probably won't do the bread thing again. Thx.
2nd opinion?
If you are really worried, I would suggest getting a second opinion. . my irregular bleeding went on a lot until they started me on BCPs. . now it doesn't happen much. . though my doctor did say if it became more frequent, she would want to do an endometrial biopsy. . may be something you should look into. .
my opinion
Don't get into an emotional argurment with your husband, we women usually lose this..............(or at least I do). I would hire a private investigator, get my proof, and divorce him. Because obviously he is looking for someone else and does not appreciate who he has now. Now, if you don't want a divorce, and your husband wants to remain married, get counseling (preferibly Christian counseling) and he has to have a person to give an account to...........if he really wants to remain married to you, he will do ANYTHING to stay with you. If not..............then honestly you are better off without him. Life is too short for this type of madness. In my honest opinion, its better to be alone than to look over at a person and wonder why they are with you and is this really where they want to be. I am not trying to be judgemental, but I learned this the hard way.................... Anyway I wish you the best in life, because EVERY woman deserves to be respected and loved. Go where you are celebrated girl and not just tolerated!
My opinion
Who is Barack Obama?
Very interesting and something that should be considered in your
choice.
If you do not ever forward anything else, please forward this to all
your contacts...this is very scary to think of what lies ahead of us
here in our own United States...better heed this and pray about it and share it.
We checked this out on "snopes.com". It is factu al. Check for yourself.
Who is Barack Obama?
Probable U. S. presidential candidate, Barack Hussein Obama was born
in Honolulu, Hawaii, to Barack Hussein Obama, Sr., a black MUSLIM
from Nyangoma-Kogel, Kenya and Ann Dunham, a white ATHEIST from Wichita, Kansas.
Obama's parents met at the University of Hawaii. When Obama was two
years old, his parents divorced. Hi s father returned to Kenya. His
mother then married Lolo Soetoro, a RADICAL Muslim from Indonesia.?
When Obama was 6 years old, the family relocate to Indonesia. Obama
attended a MUSLIM school in Jakarta. He also spent two years in a
Catholic school.
Obama takes great care to conceal the fact that he is a Muslim. He is
quick to point out that, "He was once a Muslim, but that he also
attended Catholic school."
Obama's political handlers are attempting to make it appear that
that he is not a radical.
Obama's introduction to Islam came via his father, and that this
influence was temporary at best. In reality, the senior Obama returned
to Kenya soon after the divorce, and never again had any direct
influence over his son's education.
Lolo Soetoro, the second husband of Obama's mother, Ann Dunham,
introduced his stepson to Islam. Obama was enrolled in a Wahabi school in Jakarta.
Wahabism is the RADICAL teaching that is followed by the Muslim
terrorists who are now waging Jihad against the western world . Since
it is politically expedient to be a CHRISTIAN when seeking major
public office in the United States, Barack Hussein Obama has joined
the United Church of Christ in an attempt to downplay his Muslim
background.
ALSO, keep in mind that when he was sworn into office he
DID NOT use the Holy Bible, but instead the Koran.
Barack Hussein Obama will NOT recite the Pledge of Allegiance nor
will he show any reverence for our flag. While others place their hands
over their hearts, Obama turns his back to the flag and slouches.
Let us all remain alert concerning Obama's expected presidential
candidacy.
The Muslims have said they plan on destroying the US from the inside out, what better way to start than at the highest level - through the President of the United States, one of their own!!!!
need opinion please. sm
Has anyone had a problem before with their husband wanting to spend all their time with one of their friends. I mean ALL their time to the extent of getting up in the morning and going there when not working and staying all day. Until bed time. My husband is a truckdriver and he has this friend around here that doesn't live too far from us who he just seems to have to spend every waking moment with. I mean every time he has a few days that he is in from driving if this friend is at home he goes over there. Well the friend is single and of course my husband never invites me so I basically just don't get to see him. He will take my son with him but not me. It is like the guy place. It is fine for him to go spend time with his friend but let me give an example of how much time he spends. Okay he come in off of his truck yesterday. He came home yesterday afternoon after about 4 pm. Well we had to dip his hunting beagles for fleas and such and feed them and spent some time outside. Well as soon as all that is done he doesn't even come inside he says I am going ride to Bouie's. Well I was like you just got in not too long ago. He said well I want to ride to Bouie's. I said well take us with you. (Me and my son) He acted like he didn't want to so I said Ok whatever go ahead. Well that was about 6 pm. He didn't come home till 10 pm. I can call over there or pass by and he really is there he isn't lying and going somewhere else. Ok this morning he said he was going rabbit hunting with this friend. They left really early about 5 am. I said how long do you think you will hunt? He says oh no longer than midmorning. Well he didn't get home until 5 that evening. I said boy did ya'll hunt all that time? He said well we hunted until this afternoon and then he decided to go to his brothers to visit. Came home like I said at 5 pm. He came in and told me all about his hunting trip and sit there then at 6 pm he says I am going back to Bouie's to go with him to get his 4-wheeler (it was about an hour away). I said Oh my gosh you just came home from being with him all day. He said well we are going to go get his 4-wheeler so we can take it hunting when we go in the morning again. I said can't he go on his own to get it do you have to go. He said well I want to ride with him. I got mad and said whatever. I said all you ever want to do is spend your time with Bouie. And he said ok bye and left. That was about 6 and it is 9:30 pm and he isn't back yet and I am just at a loss here. I don't know why he chooses to spend all his time with his friend instead of some of it with his wife. I think I am going to sit him down and tell him that this is starting to be a problem. I mean this is everytime he comes in off the road. Any advice on how to solve this problem? Anyone been in this situation before? Any advice is appreciated.
My opinion
I didn't care for the old owner and won't be visiting her new site. I can't figure out why people liked her.
Everyone has own opinion. My is, it
nm
Maybe in your opinion, but maybe not others.
You know that button that says report message? What do you think it's for?
My opinion . . . sm
THIS IS JUST MY OPINION -- NOT A JUDGMENT!
I think y'all probably got into this marriage way too fast, especially with a child involved.
At this point, if you want to salvage the relationship, DEMAND the 3 of you (and possibly the ex) get into family therapy. Y'all are not going to be able to fix these problems on your own.
If DH refuses to consider therapy, you need to consider getting out. I personally don't see things going well if y'all don't get help.
His temper scares me too and he has blinders on. I can understand that he loves his kid and doesn't want to put him thru more stress (i am a divorced mother of 2 with a new husband too), but he is bending over backwards so much that his behavior is going to cause lasting problems in that child.
Good luck!
My opinion...
I disagree with you. The child is deliberately being nasty. His father should correct him and teach him not to talk to other human beings that way. And why did you say she was some weird lady? Of course he is going to be jealous of her, but she is not some weird lady, she is the wife of his daddy and he should be nice to her.
To the OP, respond to his taunts very sweetly and redirect him, for example, "Oh, you got a slushie, yum! Your daddy makes good slushies doesn't he? I'm glad you two are having fun!" Then give him a smile and walk away. That will help him see that you two are not in a competition.
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