My heart goes out to you Hayseed - sm
Posted By: Kim - Mione's Mama on 2007-12-07
In Reply to: Another animal crossed Rainbow Bridge today (pic). - Hayseed
I know you loved him, and I am sure he loved you too. I am thankful your paths crossed before his journey over Rainbow Bridge. I know without a doubt in my mind that you made a difference in his life. My thoughts and prayers are with all of Buck's "family" who have heavy hearts tonight.
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Let your heart heal. I love Hayseed, but I am the same sm
exact situation you are in right now. Someone in my family did the same thing - then I found out it was extreme jealousy on her part, but she tore into me out of blue and for no reason when I've always been kind and sweet with her. The first time I forgave her, 3 years later she did it again! It was like a rabid dog that I didn't know was rabid. It's just pure hatred on her part. I've done nothing wrong to deserve this kind of treatment.
But then there are birthdays and holidays and this past year I haven't gone to any of them because of her. My stomach cannot bear to see her or be near her. Everyone is upset over this broken relationship - Some say that I should suck it up and go to functions where she is at and be sweet so she doesn't have the upper hand. I can't even do that. I apologized via email a few months back because I am a Christian and felt that was the right thing to do. I got no response.
I really don't care that my mom and mother in law are upset over our relationship. I can't help it. It sounds like this person who did you wrong is a fool, just like this other family member, and we need to guard our hearts. Don't go. If you don't feel in your spirit that you need to go,then don't. I avoid this woman like the plague. I don't care what anyone says because I hear a lot about this like, "Oh, just ignore her." or "When you don't go she wins." Well, my life isn't a game and this isn't a game. she hurt me beyond words, I don't want to see her or ever be close to her again. I can't allow that. I must protect my heart. It isn't that I don't forgive her, but like my pastor says about a guy who stabbed him in the neck 20 years ago and lived to tell about it, "Hey, I'll never ask that guy out for a steak dinner but I do wish him well."
Good luck, hon. I feel for you. I truly do.....
Hayseed, I think you should write your own advice column, kinda like "Dear Hayseed"....you cra
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Time for a long, uninterrupted heart to heart. Sorry to hear
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Thanks Hayseed
Nick Nolte was having a bad hair day . . . 
ER MT or Hayseed....
How did you guys get your avatar pic on this profile here on MT stars? I cannot seem to locate a way to "edit my profile" so to speak. Hubby says I can get those from yahoo, but I do not know where to go here on this site (MTstars) to add it. Any help would be great! 
Hayseed
how would you know what an IUD from 30 years ago looked like? But I am with you. They offered me an IUD after I had my second child and I declined. I thought I had enough put up there LOL.
WELL SAID, Hayseed! (sm)
The people behind this whole right-to-life movement are quite deft at camouflaging their more sinister long-term ulterior motives under the guise of morality, religion, human life, and yada yada yada. It's an ingeniously orchestrated plot to gain control of this country, and the best way to do that is to find a highly emotional, hot-button issue that will DIVIDE them. It's truly appalling that some women seem to actually WANT their personal healthcare and body choices to be dictated to them by a bunch of ancient, narrow-minded old MEN.
Hayseed, thank you so much for sm
posting those links to pix of your family. Kathie and Ellie, sittin' in a tree. LOL. What great pix. I love them all. Your animals, and you, are gorgeous.
Thanks, Hayseed
Love your posts too!! You really have a great sense of humor!
Yay! Hayseed, you did it!
And you are adorable!! 
Thanks Hayseed!
I have the same problem as the OP and I'm going to try the Pine Sol! Then I'm going to start using Gain like the poster below suggested. Cool! :-)
I had to lol at your use of the word grody! As an 80s girl I absolutely LOVED it!!!!
Hayseed! (nm)
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Hayseed
Just looked at your web site (from under your MT Stars name). What a dream your place is! Congrats for making such a dream come true for you. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks Hayseed!
I recently checked out your website - how awesome! Buck is a beauty! Loved the pictures with the subtitles of all your animals. Also, how cute were you as a little girl! I think that pic should be your Avatar! 
Hayseed !!!
You were just too precious as a baby hayseed not to have that as an Avator! You have just made my day/week/month!! Too cute! 
Hayseed look!
Hi Everyone!
Just wanted you all to see the pic of my kitty that Hayseed helped me crop so I could put it on here! I'm gonna learn this, it was just easier this morning to send it to her !!!
Her name is Tigger and she THINKS she is the queen of my house....I've got news for her....hehe
Jan
Hayseed now I know
what you do in your spare time when you aren't MT'ing and tending to your farm . . .
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kd_tSRsxzvI
Hayseed and ER MT
You guys are hilarious!!  You always make me smile, and let me tell you, I need it today! I need to figure out this avatar thingy....
Many thanks, Hayseed!
I'm going to work on becoming a little more savvy with this stuff, really appreciate your time! Most days, this board is my main source of entertainment (except for Jake now, of course) or consternation depending on the subject, and you are always a bright spot in the day...
For anyone interested in another puppy story, we adopted him from a shelter, had been put there by a family who decided they didn't want him, had a little kid, but I think the truth is, and the people at the shelter thought, that the family just didn't know what having a puppy was like, so their loss, our happiness! He's a labradoodle and found him through an internet rescue site that came up when I was searching on it. We had seen a tan one at a house for sale that we were looking at (I thought it was some kind of terrier or something), and my DH fell in love with that dog, so I did some searching...and there he was. About dropped my teeth when I found on searching what breeders are getting for these dogs... as somebody pointed out to me, they are just mutts, after all...But I was happy to find him at the shelter, have always adopted dogs like that, am always amazed at the wonderful animals that get dropped off. My wonderful Boxer had been rescued from a puppy mill situation and many moons ago I had a little German short-hair pointer/Brittany mix that was very ill at first, didn't think she was going to make it, but she lived to 17. I don't usually do all the little doggie accoutrements, like scarves and such, but he was pretty matted and dirty so had to have a professional trim the first time (dang thing cost more than my haircuts!! so I guess the scarf was part of the doggie-do package.) Wish I could find the pic that stole our hearts at the shelter, like Misha's pic of Cedric. Anyway, thanks again Hayseed, you rock!
Hayseed
Are you a Steeler fan??????
Thanks, Hayseed. You are right. I don't think it is
fair either, to me or the dog. I appreciate just hearing your comments and understanding that I am in a bad situation. I certainly thank everyone who has commented. So many of us have a deep connection to God's magnificent creatures. There is nothing like it in the world.
Hey, Hayseed!
I just 4 Advil an hour or so ago, so it's not too bad. The Anbesol works for about 15 minutes and then it's like I never used it. Just hanging in there until I can call the dentist tomorrow first thing. I think I'll live.
Thanks for asking!
Where have you been, Hayseed? - nm
Hayseed...
Can someone email her just to ask how she is and to make sure she's ok?
Where is Hayseed? nm
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I'm so sorry Hayseed
I went through this in March of this year. My 16 year old cat died at home. I'm still not completely over it. I still think about her all the time. Just know that he led a wonderful life and that you took great care of him.
Where is Hayseed?...I
I miss her, and her posts!! Hope you are okay Hayseed. Please post. This board is not the same without you.
Hayseed - see msg
The snow finally stopped and now comes the rain. This combination always make such a mess!
I was watching the WSDOT cam yesterday and that road is a four lane road where the cam is set. If you watched that particular camera you would notice that there were maybe 3 lanes of traffic and ALL of them were heading in one direction. The folks going the opposite direction were getting the squeeze. Of course, it was hard to tell where the lanes were because it was all compact snow and ice but dang!
The winner of the biggest snow driving dingbat (apparently MTStars says i*iot is a bad word) goes to the person who actually stopped and let the kids OUT of the car in the middle of the road to play in the snow while the adult cleaned off the windshield. I am not kidding! Lots of people were stopping in the middle of the road to clean off their windshields but this one let the kids out to play in the snow! Geesh! 
Here ya go Hayseed..sm
Just a clip to crack you up...They were a phenomenal team in that movie!~ I couldn't stop laughing either. It really was hard to pick a couple favorites...I coulda gone all the way back to Duck Soup (Marx Brothers).  Cat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K2x_sp3Ehvk
Thanks Hayseed! Let us know if you get one. nm
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Thanks, Hayseed!
For figuring out what they were called. Melted Plastic Popcorn would have not been the first thing that came to mind, and I never knew there was anything other than the snowman, BUT!!!! Now that I know, I am determined to get the whole set!
Hayseed, how are you doing?
Did you post back about the results of your lupus tests? Was just thinking about you and wondering how you are doing. Hope things turned out okay and got some help for the pain...
Hey Hayseed
Aren't you about ready to get another cat. You could get an adult cat that you would meet at the shelter and know its personality and get a little cuddle bug this time around, can't beat a cuddle bug.
Ha, Hayseed...
I used to love liver & onions until I became an MT and learned the function of the liver... Don't eat that no more.... Slim always bringing back a deer, I use a lot of red wine in cooking, fooled my daughter-in-law who refuses to eat "Bambi" She thought it was swiss steak. But she doesn't trust me anymore, when I say, anything, Is not that silly?
anyone seen hayseed around?
You may see Hayseed again
the topics that she saw here and they are all laughing it up including the owner of the other board. You can tell the topics that no one wants to talk about or be "for real" about because the OP will go unanswered. This board is way better, believe me!!!
P/S: If that's all they have to laugh about is an inquiry in this board, does that tell you what kind of board they have going over there?
What's a hayseed??
oh, never mind, the answer is in your post.
doesn't do the porker justice, tho.
(?) kisskiss
I think that is entirely up to you. I wish I had followed my heart on that one - sm.
When I was pregnant with my first baby, I worked in a hospital and my co-workers kept telling me don't tell anybody until you know for sure nothing is going to happen and until you start to show. Then everyone said to not buy anything for the baby until you are past 6 months. For the record, I NEVER did start to show, my baby was born at 27 weeks. I bought my baby bed on Friday, and he was born on Sunday. He lived 3 weeks and 6 days. Since his death, I went on to have three more children, and I told the whole world as soon as I knew, and we celebrated from day one. So....please follow your heart.
More so than heart, seems to be
the ribs. I am gonna tell them they have to get to the bottom. Just pain medicine alone not doing it.
My heart goes out to you
and your daughter. Reading your post brought tears to my eyes, as right now my first cat I ever had is suffering from cancer. She is getting so skinny and I know it won't be long before we have to put her down. It makes me cry every time I look at her. She had surgery, but the cancer is already back, so there's nothing else to do for her. That has to be the worst thing about having pets, having to say goodbye. Just keep the memories in your heart and know that you gave her a wonderful life.
Thank you, and my heart wants
to bring in another, but the timing isn't right with me in school and expenses tight after all the vet bills. Besides, Sasha seems to enjoy being the center of attention. I'm thankful we still have her.
my heart goes out to you.
What it means (IMO) is at the least that he has a short fuse, no control of his tongue and not much opinion of himself. Its probably hard for him to hold you or anyone one else in high esteem because he thinks so little of himself. There's no doubt more at play too, but this behavior doesn't mean he hates you. I've been in this similar environment. Learn to love and respect yourself enough that those kind of comments don't devastate you. It takes time and effort. A person of this kind needs to change from the inside out. How long have you been married? I can't help but wonder if there is anything spiritual that you share with him. You can't change him, so concentrate on what you can change (yourself, your means of coping, how you treat your job, relationship etc). It's hard not to be depressed in these situations. I'm sorry he hasn't learned to appreciate you. Stay safe. There are people who care about you! e/m me if you like.
I am so very sorry, my heart is with you.
Sending all kinds of warm fuzzies to you. So sorry this is happening and you have to go through it. Please do one thing. Look in the phone book when he is around BTW for the local domestic violence hotline. It is an 800 number, it is confidential, and you don't even have to give your name. Tell them these stories. They are open 24/7 just to listen. They will make you feel better. Also, please make sure you are safe. Keep a cell phone with you at all times, and your important papers and the childrens' all in one place in case you need them. Do not let him know any of this at all. Also if you don't have your own bank account open one just for you and the children. Dont let him know. Also, please have a safe place to go. The hotline will describe all these things to you. They also will suggest a local center you can go just to talk someone, as often as you would like to go for free. He does not have to know that either. I am not saying this so that you should be secretive. I am saying so that it will not trigger his anger and the circle of control. Like I said, stay safe, call that hotline ASAP and listen to them and the outpatient counselor. I have been through it. You need people to love you and make you feel worthwhile again and soon you will have the strength to see why this is happening and how to stop it. Please call them and let us know here you are okay.
My heart goes out to you . .
and your husband. Best to get professional care as soon as possible. Get to the PCP and then a thorough workup and mental assessment. This could be any number of things - stress, a medical condition, a mental condition. Just the other day I read something that was fascinating. I read about a woman who was having trouble with her husband who was 60. His behavior was getting odd, and strange. After much workup he was diagnosed as having Asperger's, this coming after a full functioning life. I found this quite interesting. Get help and keep us posted. You are in my prayers.
My heart goes out to you.
They give such unconditional love, even those moody cats darn it! So sorry about Sixer. :(
My heart goes out to you.
It sure sounds like you are doing the best you can do. This economy right now is the pits, and it makes everything so much harder. Have you checked to see if any medical insurance is available through your state? Here in my state, Washington, we have an insurance program that you can qualify for if you meet income guidelines. I would sure check into that. If you don't keep your health, then you will have a much worse situation than you have now.
My heart really goes out to you...
When my 2nd son was in school, he was misdiagnosed with a learning disability and placed in an inappropriate classroom. I know what you are going through there.
Do you live in the South? The reason I ask is because my kids were all born and raised until early teens in New England. They had wonderful schools and understood ADD (which is what my son has). He was not put into a special classroom, he was just taken out occasionally for extra help. Nobody he was in class with knew where he went or what his "diagnosis" was.
Then my husband was transferred to Florida and what a HUGE difference in schools! The people in Florida, just wanted to label my son and put him in exclusive "special ed" classes only! There is nothing wrong with my son other than he has short term memory problems. But this school system created more problems for him than you can imagine! He was devastated and has really never been the same since that horrible experience.
My 3rd son has ADHD and when we moved to Texas a few years later, he had an even WORSE experience. Not only did they label him, but the teachers openly taunted him in class. He got "written up" for typical childish behavior, nothing out of the ordinary, they just stayed on his back constantly. They treated him like he was retarded.
I wish they could see him now - he is ready to graduate in May at the top of his class. He has completed 4 years of the Air Force junior ROTC and has already been accepted into a very difficult school to get into. I would just love to go back and show them how he turned out - in spite of their labels.
I don't think your school district can prohibit you from accompanying your child to school if you want to. I don't think that's legal, but I would check into it.
Good luck to you and if you just need someone to talk to who has been through the same things, feel free to e-mail me.
My heart goes out to you
I cannot imagine surviving through what you just described. Joel was very lucky to have such loving parents who obviously did everything within their power for him.
~Blessed Be~
Agreed Hayseed!
I think is about manners. These things happen, sometimes kids cannot get to the bathroom in time, but they can say excuse me. Still not sure they should be punished if it cannot be helped.
Exactly, Hayseed. Just look at the comments
on here. I feel sorry for her. People go through things like this all the time in life and do some of the things she has done, but they don't have to read about it in the paper the next morning. I think she needs some help and her family really needs to step in. I read an article that the guy she was seeing last said she would curl into a ball after they had s** and would say, why can't they just leave me alone. It's really sad. I don't think she is a bad person, but that she needs help. She's obviously crying out for help and is going through a lot right now. Everyone on here that has been divorced, just imagine everything about your divorce being front page...it's already painful enough without all that. People are cut throat.
Hi Hayseed...sent you an e-mail...nm
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