My goodness, I am so past worrying
Posted By: Lula on 2007-02-03
In Reply to: Lula - I would hope that most people...sm - remember the thalidomide babies?...sm
I have a mixed daughter who is 32 years of age. I lived in Atlanta proper for 29 years. I have NEVER had a problem with a mixed marriage. None. My daughter has told me she has the best of both worlds. She has all kinds of friends, white, black, Asian. I was sooooo kidding when I wrote that. I was first married in the early 70s to her father here in the DEEP south so if I were afraid, it would have been years ago. I was just getting a social lesson when the person referring to how things are in the south. Oh by the way, you know Florida is not really, for whatever reasons, considered a southern state. My BIL lives in Tampa and his daughter lives in a house that is outta sight. Folks do not have to just live in Atlanta (talking blacks) in order to have the better things in life.
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Quit worrying about what everyone else got or gets their kids. sm
MOST of it is on credit, trust me. Credit, credit, credit. Most Americans don't even have a savings acct (from something I read on line), so you know they aren't paying cash. Who cares what all the other kids get? I hate trying to keep up with the Joneses. It's so dumb.
I think it was late, and she was tired and worrying (sm)
Things always seem worse in the middle of the night to me!
I never said anything about what I have done in my past
heavens, I had premarital sex, had several abortions, drank until in a drunken state, smoked like a house of fire, cursed, had lots of sexual partners in the past, rode a motorcycle without a helmet, ate fast food, indulged in Burger Kings especially, drove way over the speed limits, cheated on my first husband but...... that was in my past. I never said I was angel, never. I changed as I aged and hopefully gained some wisdom over the years. I obey most of the laws now although living in Atlanta I still speed. All the above things of the past. I am saying and will continue to say, rules are made by the people voted into office. If you don't like them, vote and change things. Oh, something else, after marrying this last husband I even stopped drinking Cokes. I did it because I wanted to, not because I had to. And answer to another post, they have stopped selling Cokes in a lot of the schools because the kids are becoming so obese and that is just another way for them to indulge in meaningless calories. All the things listed in my previous post stand as I told them. And by the way, chickee dee, never mentioned I did unsafe or unhealthy, just came to my senses and stopped a lot of stuff.
I have something in my past
That I haven't told my husband and I don't plan on it. No one but me and one other person knows about it and the other person is long gone. It was something medical, and no it wasn't an unwanted pregnancy or anything like that. There's no need for him to know since I didn't know my husband back then and it doesn't have any bearing on anything in our relationship now.
I think in the past...
it used to be that way, but not anymore. So many boys now are not circumcised, it's quite normal. As far as I know, it is not recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics, so it is not a routine procedure in most hospitals and parents need to specifically ask for it. I have heard that some hospitals do not even perform it in-house. Also, are insurance companies even paying for this procedure anymore? I think many do not cover it.
Thank goodness!
Oy.
Oh my goodness...
Can nothing be said on this board without having someone saying something uncalled for??? What is wrong with you? The original poster came here with an honest question and you attacked. Sometimes things happen in life that we honestly have no control over and that includes with our children, as unfair as that may be. I know several people who don't have their kids living with them for one reason or another and the last thing they need is someone saying "what is wrong with you." I'm sure you're perfect but the rest of us aren't so I guess you should probably learn to live with it and maybe take some life advice from Thumper, if you can't say something nice don't say nothing at all...
Thank goodness for that! sm
I am so glad to hear it was not a spider bite and definitely not the brown recluse. You are so lucky. I am happy to hear you have a better prognosis. I am also glad you went to the doc!!! Have a good day!
oh! thanks goodness! I do not have tv on--sm
so this is great news!!! Thanks for sharing.
Thank goodness!
Now maybe it can be an actual competition instead of a freakshow! Let's see what Vote for the Worst has to say now!
Thank goodness!!!
I use to love her on her old talk show she was so funny, now she is just a bitter woman.
Oh, my goodness!
I was told about the boogie man, mother was sorta mystic type person and she wrote a book 1 time about the demons in her home, had priest to come and shake the holy water all over. Guess what? I am fine, ok, never been in trouble with the law, have good marriage, grown kids. Oh, by the way, I also got whippings (so did my husband) and we have turned out alright. I saw the other day where Billy Grahams wife also disciplined her children by spanking. Good for her!! Your mother probably also heard the child calling them worms- each side deserves respect, not just the kids. I am so sick and tired of what went wrong in years past when the kids now days are basically out of control. Thank goodness I do not have any more to raise. People now letting the kids get the upper hand and just look around you to see what is happening. There has never been a time in history as bad as it is now with the kids running the show. Sad.
Oh Goodness, it would
take forever, I really should write a book. Just a little for now. I started with Squeaky, a black and white kitten I adopted in front of a supermarket from a kid with a box of kittens. She was the last one left and rather ugly and I thought who would adopt this ugly little critter, and then decided I would. Once I made the decision, she suddenly became gorgeous. I worked at home at the time, she was a tiny thing and became very attached to me, definitely a one person cat. When I started working in the office, she didn't like that and was bored alone at home and get into mischief. I would come home and find kitchen cabinets and drawers all opened up and the toilet paper unrolled all over the apartment. I thought of a getting her a buddy, and wound up getting Button, a blue and white kitten with gorgeous aqua eyes. I lost Button at 13 from Lymphosarcoma, and Squeaky to old age at 17.5 years. I still miss them both. Button was my first cat I ever showed, she did very well. I still do rescue, and also breed the Somali cat and show them also. Made a lot of friends in the cat fancy and it is fun just to get away from the house/office here and there and socialize. Right now, my shows cats in Somali's are Cutey, Lwaxana, Arwen and mixed breeds Sisko, Kasidy, Julian, and lela Dax, but I don't show them all at the same time, too expensive. In fact, we have a show in NJ next weekend, I am looking forward to it.
Oh, my goodness...sm
it's still running pretty close to 100 here in Tucson, AZ!
Well, then that changes everything! My goodness.
I may have gotten into my car and chased her down! :D
Wow.
oh goodness!
Such a nasty kitty! I guess he is kinda grumpy in his old age!
Thank Goodness
I knew it was going to happen sooner or later. Hopefully she'll get the help she needs. I actually think Kevin is a better parent from what I've heard. Of course I don't kown him or what may go on, but he's gone on the record saying that he doesn't go out dragging the kids around for photo ops and keep they out until the early morning hours. Brittany's parents from what I've seen recently on keeping close tabs on the children and have been seen at Kevin's house (boy do I watch too many tabloid reports LOL). In any event, I hope those poor kids can start having somewhat of a settled life (as settled as it can be in this situation)
Thank goodness!
You must have used that name to sign off on another post at one time and somehow it came back when you wrote this latest post. This has happened to me before and I don't know how/why it happens. I'm just glad to know you didn't mean to be mean-spirited. This poor lady needs all our sympathy and care right now.
Thank goodness -
I asked DH (he reads everything news about 16 hours out of the day) if he has heard of japanese people eating babies in the news and he started laughing and said its a hoax. Talk about feeling stupid for believing something like this. Why would anyone start such a disgusting hoax anyway! There are some truly sick minds out there. These are probably the same people who create computer viruses. I just don't get it.
Thank goodness!!! nm
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OH MY GOODNESS!!!...sm
He is so beautiful!!! I love his color and his face is just gorgeous!
Thank goodness
I thought we were the ones losing it. Like we were just big eaters or something, which I know in my head isn't the case. It's nice to know others go through these things. Hard boiled eggs are another good idea. I could just say it's something my mom makes and I can't have a Thanksgiving without them.
Goodness!
That is great that you animal rescue! I rescued a full-grown PITBULL that is just my big baby. Nothing mean about him at all. It is a shame you feel that way about pitbulls because they are honestly what people make them. You can see my beautiful rescued pitbull and read his story here: http://www.dogster.com/dogs/600278
It's bad enough, but then when you see the pic, oh my goodness!!! nm
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Oh my goodness!
Watching tonight, not going to give away any secrets but so far there have been 4 performers and usually 1 sticks out far. I seriously am having trouble finding a bad 1 out of the 4. Well, how many more to go tonight, 13 total, 4 already.
Oh my goodness! I am sorry you sm
have to make this decision whatever it is! I couldn't watch it but would if I could, YES! I just know for myself I would never make it through it. If you can stand it and you think it will bring you some kind of.........whatever...closure isn't the right word, I don't know what the right word is, then by all means you do what you think you have to do and can do. I don't think there is any right or wrong to this.
Oh my goodness! I am sorry you sm
have to make this decision whatever it is! I couldn't watch it but would if I could, YES! I just know for myself I would never make it through it. If you can stand it and you think it will bring you some kind of.........whatever...closure isn't the right word, I don't know what the right word is, then by all means you do what you think you have to do and can do. I don't think there is any right or wrong to this.
For my own self, because I know I couldn't do it, I might try to find someone to "stand in" for me.
Oh my goodness
I rescued a cat last year out from under a office house at a park and brought her home and she licks plastic bags too. I thought what weird abberant behavior. I have had lots of cats and never seen this happen before, glad to know she is not alone. Minute plastic bags come in, she runs over to lick them.
oh my goodness.....
I just watched Marley & Me a few days ago and I recommend NEVER to watch that movie when you're missing your doggy who has disappeared! I was BAWLING...
anyway, but they said that in the movie, that sometimes a dog will "know" and leave. He just happened to break free of his confines, which he does at least once every year, he's a husky and its in him to run I guess, lol...but yes, the uncertainty is definitely the hardest. I check out by his fave laying spot in the shade every day, because in the past when he's gotten out, he's usually gone late at night and back by afternoon the next day sleeping in his fave spot, but nothing. :(
One of the women who saw him the first day he was gone said he looked hurt, but I think that's more from his limp from his arthritis in the hips. She said she gave him water and tried to feed him, but he just drank some water and didn't want the food. I was so greatful that someone tried to help him, but she said when she returned from her son's sport game my doggy was gone and never touched the food. Again, that was over a month ago, on Saturday it will be 5 weeks that he has been gone.
:(
Well thank goodness...sm
 I was wondering what to do with all the bee droppings lying around my house.
Thank Goodness
So glad to hear he's okay.
What I have experienced in that past -
I agree with the other poster. That money is really *good faith money.* The buyer puts that money up in order to show you they want the house and for you to hold it for them until closing. You will not see any money of any kind until closing. If the deal falls through you can often collect that money or a portion of it. You really need to keep in close contact with your real estate agent. After all, they are getting paid mighty well to sell your home! :-)
I don't know how women in the past did that - sm
I mean for me it hurt like the dickens (unfortunately did "it" twice that fateful evening) and I couldn't walk without incredible pain for days afterwards. Who would want to deal with that on their honeymoon? Certain would kill the urge.... Now maybe that is not the norm, but I swear childbirth was easier.
Past retirement age.
NM
She's graduated past the age
where you should feel an obligation of any kind.
You are her godparent, so she is supposed to give you a gift, right? Is she?
Sharing your past
I have an 18 yo son and a 16 yo daughter and this subject comes up occasionally. So far we haven't had to worry about their drinking or drugging, and it may have something to do with how both our pasts have been part of our teachings, age-appropriate, of course. We both come from alcoholic families though were blessed never to become alcoholic ourselves, but we've shared some of our expeirences from the standpoint of how they made our lives more complicated. We strive for simplicity in our family, and they can see how immoral behavior almost always makes for a more complicated life. At 18 and 16 they both just tasted wine for the first time (other than church) this Christmas and none of their friends drink, or even smoke. They know their grandmother died of emphysema.
They also know that my life changed drastically when their oldest brother was born 37 years ago when I was 18, and also that both their father and I have struggled hard all our lives because of not going to college. For every "but you came out okay" there's the answer that it could have been so much easier to get here had we made different choices, and making the right choices is what it's all about, isn't it?
No...but just can't get past this one - still ROFL!
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Way past childbearing age..
NM
Just how often has he abused you in the past.If you
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what is something you have bought in the past you will NEVER
Mine is Little Critters Omega-3 Gummy Fish. Cute concept but the berry, lemon and strawberry flavoried gummies somehow manage to taste like fruity flavored fish ![Shocked](http://www.thedailyplate.com/forum/images/smiles/icon_eek.gif") When I got them, my kids gagged with the first one and wouldn't even touch the second one for the recommended 2 a day. So guess who is choking down 2 of those suckers every day now?
We just got WII fit this past week
I'm waiting for school to start so I can do it with no one home!!! Glad to hear there is a password so you can hide your weight and BMI. ;)
We bought this WII for my son last Christmas and I can honestly say it was money well spent. They have a blast with it and they aren't constantly sitting. We don't have the Guitar Hero but maybe that will be next on the list.
A lot of us have things in our past........ sm
that we are not proud of, and while we do not deliberately try to hide them, sometimes it is just easier not to talk about them as it is painful and very often misunderstood by those around us, even our spouses.
It is not my business what this "secret" is that your husband has, but it sounds as if it is something that he has learned a lesson from and probably will not end up repeating in the future.
My own personal opinion is that if this is not something that is threatening your marriage or your children right now, I would let the past stay in the past. In other words, what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.
WOW! I will try this but sure hope I can get past
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If I could change the past
I would either change my parents to parents who wanted me and loved me like I do my children. Or I would have my mother put me up for adoption like she did one of my sisters....she was the lucky one. I envy her. A mother who does not love you will affect your whole life, but it made me want to be a loving mother.
Thanks everyone. I have had mono in the past so (sm)
that is why they did not think that is the problem now. I didn't try the pepper yet...kind of chicken I think. But I will try that and if I am not better in the next day or two I will go and ask about my thyroid. I have been borderline hypothyroid for a long time so it wouldn't be a big surprise.
Thanks again
Where were you the past 8 years? LOL. nm
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Goodness, I didn't mean to indicate
it was the end of the world, a lot worse things happen, as evidenced by the VA incident yesterday, and worse things have happened to me and my family.
I realize that lice can be picked up anywhere, I just thought there was a good chance that she got it from the girl she sat next to who had it and who my daughter hugged and exchanged hats with, and as I found out, the kids from that family had been sent home numerous times and told to deal with the problem. No biggie, just had a confidential conversation with the principal and teacher, and evidently he agreed. Probably not a good idea to have to close down a school for a week because all the students, the teacher's and everybody's families have lice, as a school in the same state had to do. Good thing they all probably had PTO to cover it. I did have to keep her home for a couple of days to get the live ones cleared out because her hair is so thick. No, I didn't go screaming insanely down the street to the world, didn't tell anyone except those I thought needed to know, like the friend's mother, and didn't even act upset in front of my daughter, just said it's okay, we'll get through it. And as I said, the teachers gave out instructions on coats, hats, etc., and then began to send home a note when they knew it was around, which I think is appropriate, just as they did when the flu bug was going around heavily and even had to close the school a couple of times. I know the administration has better things to do, I grew up with a father who was a school administrator, and I know what headaches he had to deal with, but yes I would have pulled my daughter out of school if I thought it was going to be an ongoing issue. Thanks, was just trying to join in the conversation with my experience and tips.
My goodness, kudos to you and tell me
how did you achieve this weight loss?
Oh, thank goodness I did not get the other that really works
because I used on my child at a young age, they do not even produce it any more, first name Glovers Mange Medicationhe and then Glovers medication. My daughter had what looked to be cradle cap but she was older, toddler. Being elderly does not excuse a person for being nice. I could not get what I volunteered to get on my own, she owed me zilch for buying it and I told her that when I gave it to her and if she did not want throw it AWAY. I never go through her medicines to see what she has or does not have. You can no longer buy the Glovers but the pharmacist suggested a green tea type solution- his choice, not mine but from now on I will know just not to be available to buy anything. Looking to be offended, by my aunt?? No, always there to try to assist and I can be offended each and every day if I wanted to have that done by calling someone here in town, say city hall, the telephone company, cable. Loads of others who work in the offending business. By the way, I am also considered elderly and I have aches and ailments like the next person but that does not mean I can be rude just because my neuropathy kicks in.
P.S. Also than goodness for hubby
That's why I can work less than full-time.
Now if I could just control my spending!
Thank goodness don’t have to worry about
things like this but really have heard about it. Ladies, I am telling you now- you have no idea how fast your life will go by- one of these days you will wake up and wonder where the years went. It makes absolutely NO sense to stay with anyone and I mean anyone unless you want to be there- love or lack of, children, family, job security or benefits, etc. etc. Your will be getting older and believe you me when I say I wish I could go back to about 40 and redo things a little. I wasted years. I never worried about making it on my own, in fact I was the money earner in the family so was in a rut and stayed there, not anymore and I will say again, even if there are loads of children, you do yourself a disservice staying in an unloving marriage.
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