My friend is doing the exact same thing!
Posted By: nopreggers on 2007-03-23
In Reply to: Anyone know what something I can make up - for not getting pregnant
She uses her age (38) a lot but if you use words like "uterine prolapse" and "fibroid tumors" they stop asking questions...LOL
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I have a friend in this exact same situation with
her mother. There were 3 of them and they all took turns staying at her house for 2 nights at a time. That way she was happy and no one was doing all the work. They were also lucky in that one of the grandkids could stay during the day with her or, when they couldn't they have a caregiver p.r.n. The only other compromise would be to sit down and talk to his doctor and have him tell your dad that he is no longer able to live by himself and that he needs to be in one of your homes or in an ECF. Maybe coming from his doctor, it would be more effective.
I was thinking the same exact thing.
The kid didn't have to go to school in Korea to have been taught those same beliefs. His parents could have had that same influence over him or perhaps his own interests in it.
Obviously a person who could do something like that is very disturbed and probably had a lot of issues at home, etcetera, but the other cannot be ruled out either as playing some small role.
No, she did not send me the exact thing,
did not know I would have to explain, she sends me rah-rah-rah all for the war type things which I delete. I choose to read other things instead of this.
My husband had the EXACT same thing (sm)
and yes, it was a fungal infection. I tried treating it with OTC cream but it just didn't work. Finally our NP gave us a prescription for cream called clotrimazole and betamethasone diproprionate 1%/0.05% (Lotrisone) and within 4-5 days it was completely cleared up. She did recommend Gold Bond as a preventative but he never used it. He's a diabetic to boot, so is always going to be prone to various skin issues I guess...bummer.
Awesome! I would have done the same exact thing!
Way to go! You did the right thing!
Exact thing happened to me .. sm
but it was not a family member, it was a coworker of my ex-husband's whose wife had just had a baby and they wanted clean carpets. He had borrowed the cleaner once previously, and all was fine, so I had no problems with letting him borrow it a second time. Well, the second time, he was really slow in returning it, but like you, I never said anything until I wanted to use it and asked for it back. Then all of a sudden, it was *broke*. He said he had broken the upright handle completely off. Well, I had paid over 300 dollars for that, so we asked him to at least pay for half of replacement. He did so, but HE wanted to choose what type of cleaner I got to replace it, which was a much cheaper model. I said no. Needless to say, we were no longer friends after that. In my opinion, you just can't let this go. Carpet shampooers are not cheap and if she broke it, she should pay for at least half of a replacement. Tell her that. She knows she is responsible for it, but she will probably become angry, so it is up to you how far you want to push it. Again, though, I do not loan out anything like that to anyone any more. If they need to clean their carpets, they can pay for a rental unit, just like I did prior to buying my own. No one takes care of your items better than you. Good luck to you.
My cockatiel does the exact same thing but
you can definitely tell she is mine cause she also loves to go for my diamond earrings. She actucally got one back into her cage once before we found it. It is hard to tell the sex of a bird like that unless you "ahem, look inside" and I told her (a her in my mind) that we if she swallowed my earring we would find out very soon the exact sex.
My daughter did the exact same thing.
and still does on occasion. (She was 4 years old the first time and is 6 years old now.) The last time, she cut a big chunk out of one side of her bangs all the way to the scalp. Luckily, she looks good in hats.
Your very best bet to disguise the damage is probably some sort of pixie style hair cut. It will also be easy to keep it looking decent while it grows back out.
I found a bunch of sites by searching for hair cutting guide. Hopefully you kind find one you like that will show you how to do a camouflaging pixie.
Here are a couple I came across:
http://www.hairfinder.com/techniques/shortpixiehaircut.htm
http://www.haircuttingguide.com/short.htm
Similar thing here about a friend keeping in touch
Over the past 40+ years one of my girlfriends had stayed in touch with me until she had a son who died about 2-3 years ago. I made the big mistake, I guess, of repeating some things she herself had said when he was alive and basically she quit talking after that. Oh, well, she was the one who always needed helping and emotional support, had 2 sons who were either alcoholic or druggies or both and ran herself silly over grown men always bending over backwards, taking money she got from social security and paying their bills, letting them mooch off her, with her giving them cell phones so they could stay in touch, acted as if they were 4 years old, just literally enabling them to run her crazy. I guess I made the mistake of repeating what she had told me (and everyone else she knew).
a friend's b/friend died last year, drank, took vicodin...
Not sure of exact recipe, but here: (sm)
Scoop out seeds & gunk of a pie pumpkin, keeping lid to use later. Use apple slices, raisins /cranberries/other dried fruit, walnuts (or other nuts of your choice) to fill pumpkin along with brown sugar, butter, and a little cinnamon. Bake at 450 degrees until you can easily poke through the pumpkin flesh inside. You may want to wait and put the lid in partway through baking, so it doesn't dry out and shrink. Serve in the pumpkin, and as people spoon out a little of the filling they can scrape the inside of the pumpkin to get some of the flesh.
My grandma made this, and she never writes down her recipes. So when I asked her, she said to experiment with whatever, so the above is really only a loose guideline.
Same exact feeling here.
The extreme Christians also changed my feelings a long time ago. I then started researching the facts and theories, scientific versus religion. And did you know that many people with above-average intelligence are not religious based on this knowledge? Interesting stuff. :)
I am having the exact same problem!
I've battled depression and anxiety my whole life. My psychiatrist seems to think it is anxiety as well, but I know what my anxiety is like and this is different. My PCP thinks I might have ADD, but my psychiatrist said it would not all of the sudden appear. My anxiety medicine seems to help some, but then I feel out of it. I cannot work like that either!
Let me know what your doc says. Good luck! :)
Wow! exact same situation! (sm)
Same here. Exactly the same.
I have those exact same dreams...
I was once told that the teeth falling out had something to do with money, don't know exactly what but I certainly have not had a windfall.
Have you said those exact words
to him, asked him outright what is the problem and how you can BOTH enjoy it? Or..guide his hands and/or touch him the way you want. Otherwise I'd say he doesn't care and maybe you should move on.
Wow - same exact situation
Don't tell me... has your husband been out of work too and laying around doing absolutely NOTHING to help out around the house?
I had a similar situation but not exact...sm
when we bought our house 2 years ago. I had to have my office sign something of that nature, but not saying I would still be working there after so much time like yours. I faxed the form letter to them and they faxed it back for my broker's records to give to underwriter. I also had to provide my 1099s from the previous 2 years. On the day of the closing, we had to sit there and wait for them to call my office one more time just to make sure I still worked there, which they didn't do with my husband. It seemed to be a pretty strict procedure but can understand why they would. We also refinanced about 8 months after moving to get a better rate, but didn't have any problems because we used the same broker. Good luck!
This house has no fence around it at all, to be exact. nm
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I have the exact opposite of anorexic
I am overweight, 5Ɗ and weigh 218 as of this morning. The problem I have is when I look in the mirrow I do not really see me as being grossly overweight, in fact I think oh for your age you look alright. Is there anyone else that looks in the mirror and does not see what you actually are- oh no remarks about getting a new mirror, this is from several I have in the house. I have actually seen surprised before when seeing a picture of myself and basically thinking do I look like that? Thanks!
OMG ~ I've been saying those exact words! sm
Not the OP but thank you so much for asking this question. I was wondering the same thing. But this poster hit it on the nail for me. I also have lost all care when it comes to holidays, gifts, b-days, etc. I get him nodda as I get in return. Don't even care if he goes to any activities with me or not. Better off not having him there. Guess it is time for me to MOVE ON......
Now my question is how do you survive without a companion? I have always felt like I had to have somebody no matter how they treated me. I envy those single people who stay single.
I certainly can relate! We have the exact same situation!
Especially since our son started working for my husband, he never has to leave the house. We're back to back in our office. Sometimes I say it's better when we're fighting because I get more work done. When we're in a good mood, and gab too much!
Kristen Nicole to be exact. I love that. Or
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Funny, that's my exact same story here in New York! sm
I'll believe it when I see it, too. Also, with the feds, we were supposed to get $1,200 back - the feds said there was a mistake in the filing and now we OWE $1,100. That's some mistake, but we can't find it, nor can the software company that we used!
Southerner too, and I have the exact opposite experience...
I put peanuts in my coke sometimes when I was a kid (at that time coke came in a small glass bottle), but not something I did all the time. It was okay...probably wouldn't enjoy it now. My dad did hunt and we did eat squirrel, rabbit, duck, deer, dove, quail pn occasion. These were not like what was for "dinner" but used when they would have a crowd over who liked those type of dishes. Gumbo (my favorite) also could be made with shrimp, duck, squirrel, turkey whereas the quali and dove were used for stew-like dishes..and they were delicious. My mother made something called "Court bouillion" made with fish, like a red fish soup ...loved it, but do not know how to make it. My dad would have a fish fry every once in a while and have company over to enjoy it. For regular daily meals, we had the usual meats of beef, pork, chicken, etc. .For us, we had round steak and gravy often, of course, rice for the gravy. And also, our main meal was at "noon" whereas up north some have it at the meal we call "supper". Not to say that all southerners had their meal at "noon" . I also tire of the generalizations people make, but it's only human nature I guess. Also, in the south (Louisiana for me), we called "pop" a "cold drink" or "coke". Anyone want a "coke" or "cold drink"? Ok. What kind do YOU want, Dr. Pepper, RC, orange, etc. ? Funny, but that's the way it was. Anyone in the south remember Shipley donuts? Loved them! They literally melted in your mouth. Wonder if they are still in business. To me, they were a smidge better than Krispy Kreme, but very close. In the South, we called the coin-operated laundry a "washateria", up north it's the "Laundromat". Fun reminiscing.
Ok, needing answers about furkids - baths to be exact
I have 2 boys- 1 has been bathed here recently and knows the ropes- he has a brother who is wild and hairy and has not had a bath in quite some time. Can anyone tell me- (and don’t tell me carefully!! ) how do you restrain a cat for a bath?
Happiness is a heart thing; pleasure is a head thing.nm
People that hurt dogs should be hurt themselves in the exact same way. I HATE sm
cruelty to animals.
No, he is not..I have a friend...
coming to feed the cats (live in the country, have 8 outside cats!) and 3 inside cats. I feel bad making her come and mix food for him...we live 25 miles from town. A vet told me that he will either eat or just drink water and would be okay...but I will worry about him! I have been cooking extra chicken, turkey, etc. for him..my husband says he is spoiled!
I had a friend who had those and
apparently they just observe them. Maybe you should get a second opinion if you are having pain. Hope you feel better. 
too bad- my best friend
has 'the gift.' That is about the only way I know to put it. She cleans my house for me and she can do in an hour and a half what it would take me all day if not two days to do. And it just looks so clean and bright and shiny when she is done!! LOL I mean, there is clean and then there is CLEAN!! And when she folds my laundry I don't even need to iron it later! We have the best deal worked out- she has one of my vehicles on a sort of 'permanent loan' and I pay the insurance on it and I also try to pay her a little extra here and there, and she comes over and helps me keep my house clean and helps me stay on top of my bills. I have a pretty bad case of ADD.
If you were in this area I would maybe lend her to you for a while, LOL. I know she would like to find just one or two 'regulars' that she could clean for to make a little extra money on the side.
Friend
If she is really a good friend, stick with her. REAL friends love you warts and all. If her behavior is causing you true anguish and she is an acquaintance... go your separate ways. Money comes and goes -- true friends don't.
Lilly
My friend's SON. not MOM!
Sorry for the typo. I am a BAT brain today!
Friend? Some friend! sm
Yes you should be mad, but only at yourself. Giving $$ once I can see. Maybe twice. You have been used by this 'friend'. Doesn't matter how nice you think she is, you have found out otherwise. You are out $$ which you generously gave in thinking it was being used to help her out, yet she has taken advantage of you and therefore, that speaks reams about her character, or lack thereof. I would be disappointed in her and mad at myself for falling for her sob story. I'd tell her exactly how I felt from the heart and would end the friendship since it was based on lies. She has the characteristics of a con woman. Time to cut the losses and move on...and learn!
friend
If it is something that is opening her up to being hurt in anyway most defintely i would tell them. It is their choice then to decide what to do. You know how some parents really shouldn't be parents and others are great parents!
friend?
I actually had to call a parent before. My daughter had asked ex-friend to stop writing things about her in her online diary which she did for a while. When it happened again, with a statement to the effect of you asked me to stop writing about you, too bad!, I called the mother and had a little chat. Never happened again. In this case, she actually used my daughter's name so I brought up the fact that it was libel. Print out the bulletin to show parents if you have to.
Friend
I would want to know if it were my daughter. It might get complicated when you first tell them and could cause problems but in the long run you may very well be saving her life. Please don't hesitate to tell the parents.
been where you are, my friend -
I am so sorry. I know this is hard, but here is an idea to try. Have your vet get you some Buprenex to administer at home. It is a very small amount of liquid you give via syringe inserted between her cheek and her teeth. You shoot it into the mouth. Takes less than a second and is painless. It is absorbed nearly instantly. It also causes far fewer side effects than most pain killers. This has worked like a charm when my cats had to have teeth pulled, for one that had all its teeth pulled due to severe stomatitis, and one who had oral cancer in his jaw. Try baby food (the meat types) and AD canned mixed with Pedialite to get food in her and keep her hydrated. You will know when it *is time* to let her go, but please give these things a try and let us know how it goes! My best to you.
Thank you - about my friend (sm)
She was a Christian and throughout her illness she asked for prayers for God's will to be done, not for her healing (although many of us still prayed for her healing). Many of the people posting on here blowing the horn about what great Christians are, are not acting the way true Christians should. I will admit to everyone that I am confused. I can't answer the questions about the suffering that goes on. I am not going to say that those people suffering just didn't have enough faith. The fact is you are not going to get what you want just because you pray for it. You might and you might not. I still believe, but many things in the world still don't make sense to me. I think somewhere along the way, we have gotten the message confused. I posted a link above about some little children who I think have it right.
A friend of a friend has had it done - sm
She did it about a year ago and has lost over 100 pounds but recently starting having severe problems. They ended up having to take them out as she was unable to eat at all basically; nauseous, constant vomiting, etc. She feels much better now though. Not sure of the details but that is the basic gist of it for her.
I'd be mad...no one else is her friend, so why should you be? (sm)
No reason for you to put up with her any more than anyone else does. She's just a snob - maybe if everyone ignores her for a while she will get the hint!
Friend?
Ever hear of a toxic relationship? Sometimes they are terribly hard to break, but you will be much better off if you cool it with her for a while, just see her when you absolutely have to.
I have a friend that did this went from Bob to Rob - sm
I just had a hard time switching to the new name as I had known him for years as "Bob". To him it was more an acknowledgement of his coming out as gay I think. I could care less that he was gay (and had known for a long time before he "came out") but he got mad that I would not call him Rob and so cut off all contact (we are on opposite coasts now, and then, so it is not a big deal either way). Upsetting to lose a friend over something so stoopid, we were both wrong I'd say, I should have tried harder and he should have cut me some slack as I had been a good friend for years. ---This guy's family you mention probably has the same problem, they know him as "Michael"; he should cut them some slack as that is what they are used to. My brother is named Mike, and we all call him Mike, my SIL is the only one who calls him Michael (he has never asked us to call him Michael though). I think he should just learn to live with it and use his new name with new friends and leave his family alone.
I have a friend like that too, SM
She does have a chronic medical condition, but is doing very well. She exercises with a personal trainer several days a week, takes long walks every day, and recently helped her stepdaughter remodel her home! However, she has a handicapped sticker (she brags about never having to walk very far in the winter) and not only that, is on SS disability. She hasn't worked in several years. Oh -- and if her DH or one of her teenagers runs errands, they take her van so they can get the close spots too. :(
And yeah, maybe I'm being judgemental too, but I agree with you 100%.
friend...
You know I guess some people are different but if someone pays $1000 for something I AM NOT asking to borrow it. I don't like borrowing other people's things. If I break it I feel it is my responsibility to replace it. So I just don't. Some people have no problem with it.
Friend
My good friend had a baby 8 days ago. Beautiful baby boy! Well her husband took off work 2 weeks to spend time with the baby. Her mother also lives with them and helps her too. Her mom also took off a week. Well I am friends with her mom also. We talk on the phone too. I thought I would not call and bother my friend until her husband went back to work. She won't talk on the phone if her husband is home. I know, don't ask. They don't want to take away from time with each other from what I understand. I personally do talk on the phone when my husband is home. Different strokes for different folks I guess. Anyway me and my friend always talked on the phone before the baby was born almost every day. Unless her husband was off work. Well since she has had the baby and her husband went back to work, she just has withdrawn herself. Doesn't want to talk to anyone. Made the comment to her mom that she doesn't want any company. Her mom called yesterday and I knew my friends husband was working so I told her mom tell her to call me later when she gets a chance. The baby sleeps alot so I figured she would. But she didn't. I guess I am just confused. I never went through that. I wanted to talk to friends. After a few days of recooperating I wanted friends to see my baby and all. But I don't understand her. I know every one is different and I just have to respect her wishes but I as well as another friend of hers is confused. I should also mention her baby was born with clubbed feet. She has really been upset about this and asked me in the hospital not to tell anyone. How can this be hidden when the baby will wear casts for a while? I am wondering does this sound like postpartum depression?
friend...
That is why I haven't went. I am respecting wishes. I did not say I was going to go by unannounced. I am honoring her wishes so therefore I am being a real friend. I considered sending a card though.
No, I only had a best friend
back when I was about 12 or 13. I open up to people and think I can trust them and just when I do they turn on me. I don't trust people anymore, been hurt to many times. I see this all the time where I hear ladies talking and hanging out shopping and having a nice time and wish I had that with a friend.
best friend
I have not had a best girlfriend since college. . My fiance is my best friend now. . I like the idea of having a best friend but I think I am not trusting enough. . My daughter has had a best friend since she was 13 - she is 23 now - and I really think they will continue their friendship - I hope so. . I think it is a good thing, just doesn't seem like it is going to happen for me.
I like your friend. . .
xx
Okay, I think you are my new best friend LOL
I can't believe she is going to die! I can, cause she's way too nice for a soap, but I really like her and want her and Vicki to be friends again. Oh, how that death will put Vicki into a tail spin. She's going to feel so horrible for how she treated her. This will definitely push Nikki and Victor back together again too I think. Wonder if Victoria will take over the art gallery?! Wow, lots to think about.
Yes, Heather was going through Ji Min's belongings and found a picture of him with Walter. Paul just saw it as she asked him for help on the Ji Min thing. (not sure, you may already know all of this). Anyway, Paul asked for the complete photo as it was cropped and I'm sure David will be in it. Then all of this will go down in a hurry with the Nikki thing. Wondering if I should watch today's or tape it and watch it WITH Monday's episode, cause I know it will be a cliff hanger today.
Thanks for the website, I will have to check it out.
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