My experience
Posted By: sm on 2009-03-11
In Reply to: thank you !! - frustrated
I don't really worry about so much anymore. I listen to him, I'm there for him, I care about him and I let him know that I am always on his side. He is my guy and I am his girl and we are partners! Because he feels secure with a strong woman who he knows loves him, he doesn't notice that I don't really care for the sex. I don't make it an issue for me or him. I need a strong man who listens to me too and will always be there through the good times and the bad times. I don't need the other part and I am very happy with my life. Knowing that he loves me more than anyone else is everything for me. I don't think you are weird at all. My sister in fact is in her 20s and really has never liked sex either. Maybe some woman just don't care so much about it. It is about YOU and HIM and that's it!
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But thank God they found it early. Keep up your spirits and vitamins, keep your body as healthy as you can, eat the right foods and stay physically and mentally strong, cancer is no longer a death sentence remember that...
My experience..........sm
We lived in south Florida when our son was born, and at 6 weeks we traveled 16 hours to see our family. Our daughter was 3-1/2. We just took our time....I stopped to breastfeed him, took walks at rest areas, and still made good time. Mine tended to drop off to sleep as soon as the car began moving, so that made it easier. Our daughter would get car sick and had to sit in the front seat to avoid this, so my husband or I always got the backseat anyway. As long as you don't push yourself, it could actually do you good to get away and enjoy yourselves.
I had the same experience (SM)
I have no cellulite anymore either. I went from 235.5 to 112 pounds. I do have a little loose skin on my belly and thighs, but it looks like I had 3 big kids (which I did-my 10 pounder was my biggest). I'm 27, so my skin is a little forgiving still, but the cellulite is gone.
I also had my fair amount of cellulite. It can go away.
Very very little experience
I think the boss must be paying the MT very low and expecting me to pick up the slack and basically retype a lot of it. I'm not happy.
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It has been my experience...
that dealing with foreign people (NOT ALL...but some) is extremely difficult. Our favorite Chinese restaurant for example, call in to place an order and after every selection, she says "that all???" Uh no...more ordering..."that all???" My husband said something to her once about it, like asking her to stop doing that, and she said "we very, very busy, hurry up with your order...no time to think about it....what you want?" UHHH......
I can tell you that from my experience sm
it is possible. My experience may be different from most others, but I have seen it happen and end happily. My father divorced my mother when I was 11. I wasn't happy about the divorce (what child would be) but even as a young adult I saw it was for the best. A year later he married my step-mother and they will celebrate 29 years in Sept. They are still incredibly happy. There were many hard times (my older brother and I went to live with them 6 weeks after they married and she had a 5yr old son from her first marriage)and times when I think they almost wanted to just give up, but they didn't and I for one am happy they are still together.
Here's some of my own experience . . .
Your comment about his reading your mind after 10 years caught my attention. I've been married for 23 years, and have known my husband for 27.
Also, I'm the youngest of 7 and the only girl in my family. I have three sons, and I'm an assistant scoutmaster with a boy scout troop. I've lived all my life in a circle of males. Don't ever expect them to read your mind. I know there are plenty of men who are sensitive and can anticipate the feelings of others. In a very wide generalization, well... most men aren't that good at it. They actually appreciate it when you clearly state what you want.
My other words of wisdom about relationships with men... the silent treatment is useless. Don't bother. It's just a respite from arguing for most of them. Speak up. Try to stay calm when you do. (This is MY problem! I'm very passionate when I argue!)
I'm sorry you had such a bad time. Maybe it's time to sit down and have a good talk together about things. Better yet, maybe some counseling would help. In the heat of an argument, alls sorts of things are said. Maybe we mean them when we say them, but later, in calmer moments with hindsight, we wish they were unsaid. Establish goals with your husband, and then move forward together. Get help doing this, if you need it.
My experience
I was allowed to do whatever I wanted when I went to college (I'm only 25 so we're not talking THAT long ago ) as long as I got good grades (my mom was helping pay for college). However, I also had a full time job and went to school full time, had my own car financed by myself, and had my own apartment that I paid for. BIG difference. If my mother had been financing my car with the title in her name, I would understand her wanting to have control over what I did with it. Would I have liked it at 18, no, but I feel that it is the right way to do things. If he wrecks in that car - guess who foots the bill, as I'm sure you know. However, I would ask, does he now or did he ever want to work to pay for a car, etc. and you told him no? If so, I could see how he would get angry. I was allowed to work even in high school as long as my grades were good. And I was allowed to go out with friends as long as I went to work and the grades were good. It taught me how to be responsible come college time.
My experience - sm
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In my experience - sm
My family doc is one of the old fashioned types, in that when you see him you see HIM, not a PA or a substitute. He also knows what I do for a living and respects my judgment and takes whatever I say into consideration.
On the other hand, we've been trying to get a diagnosis for my daughter's stomach problems and I have yet to find a doctor who puts any credence into my input. Most just sidestep or just pooh-pooh anything I say.
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Good luck with your ribs. Nothing worse than an undiagnosed syndrome that you can't treat!
Sorry that was your experience, BUT -
I LOVE that store. I shop there all the time. They have an excellent selection of merchandise, great prices, and I can always find what I need and more each time I shop. I always pay cash, so I cannot address your issues with their credit card. I have also never returned anything to one of their stores, so I have no idea how their in-store customer service is.
I have had the same experience. Every so often I
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Any experience with
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My experience......
For at least the past 10 years, about a week before my period, I get a very stuffy nose, nearly cannot breath at night unless through the mouth, which then gives me a very dry sore throat. A doc I worked for in Florida said this is not unheard of considering we retain fluid before our periods, some more than others, and with the very stuffy nose I would get a migraine-like headache and ache in my shoulder joints and neck. This would go away almost immediately the day I woiuld start my period. He believes it has something to do with swollen mucous membranes because of inflammation in the body (fluid retention, hormone changes, etc.) which makes sense to me. My ears will even feel stuffy at times. He suggested I try Aleve or plain old aspirin for anti-inflammatory benefit and for me, it did help. It kept the swelling down, which helped everything else. Couldn't believe the difference this made for me.
I know the misery you feel to some degree. Hope this will help you as well.
Anyone have experience with this? sm
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my experience
As I stated above, I was in the Army for quite a few years. I had soldiers under me who would have issues now and then. I knew the routes to go and the ropes so to speak of how to get them what they needed. I am sorry but you are not totally correct. Working on an Army base as a civilian is most assuredly not the same thing as being in the Army. 
My experience.......
Vista requires a lot of memory (RAM)to run, so I wouldn't have anything less than 4 GB of ram, in order to make sure it doesn't freeze up all the time, which is a big complaint.
My daughter has a new Dell with Vista, 4 gb ram, and says it works great, really fast.
Otherwise, you can order online and get a computer with XP on it, with an upgrade to Vista later. Newegg.com, Tigerdirect.com, Dell..... all these have XP on their computers/laptops.
my experience...
I have a new Dell with Vista and my old computer with XP sitting side by side. I really do not see much difference, except of course my new computer is way faster.
All the accounts I work on support Vista also and I've not had a problem.
Sorry you had this experience with a pit...sm
But I don't believe it is a breed thing. I believe you were unfortunate to have happened to get a pitbull who did this. If your dog hadn't been raised with the cat I would say well that is just a dog being a dog but to be raised together and get along that is weird. But there are other dogs who are capable of attacking. I had a stray mix breed medium size dog. It didn't have any pit in it. I saw it kill a cat in my mother's yard. Brutally killed it. But it wasn't a mean dog to us. It also would try to attack our bealge pups. So I know other dogs are capable of killing animals. The pitbull can do more damage though than most dogs. But I have seen pictures of lab attacks on owners, Dalmation attacks on a child, many others. Any dog can do this. Personally I have a neighbor who had a little chihuahua and it was there little doll. They adored this little dog. Well someone who lives a mile to a mile and a half down the road has a Dalmation. It climbed the fence in its yard and went a mile or more down the road where the little chihuahua was outside peeing and mauled it to death with its owners watching. I mean they said the dalmation just attacked when it seen the little dog no provacation. So I know what other dogs can do too. But most won't. I hope you never have this problem again with any of your dogs. You had a most unfortunate incident with your pitbull and I believe this has rightfully left a bad taste in your mouth for the breed. But try to think of it like this. There are good people and bad people. There are good dogs and bad dogs. We have serial killers and rapists but we also have good people out there. Dogs are not different. Don't look down on the whole breed because of one bad experience. There are so many kind pits out there who have never hurt a living thing. Really.
Not everyone's experience will be the same as yours. sm
Not every teenager who smokes pot ends up like your son. I am sorry you had to go through so much, but as far the OP's son I think you are totally overreacting. When you consider how many teenagers try pot or smoke pot, your son is definitely the exception to the rule.
She's not being a doormat, she did speak to him, and he deserves the benefit of the doubt since there is no evidence of him being high. Teenagers are not perfect, and if they are trying to "clean up their act" they need trust and encouragement.
I have no experience but my DH has. He is 50 and
and just got out of them about 2 years ago. He looks fabulous! The only trouble he had was at first, his mouth was sore for several days, liquid/smooth diet, but after that everything went great. His were on for about 2.5 years and we could see the change after only 3 or 4 months. He is fastidious about his teeth (really always has been) always wears his retainer at night (a very small one inside the mouth at night only). Make sure you wear the retainer after they are off (assuming they give you one). You will be so happy with your results and the time will fly by. My DH was the ortho's oldest patient he had ever had!
use your own experience
to discuss the issues in specific but not personal terms -- unless it just seems that you should take it further for their benefit. Unfortunately i think some kids take it as license to do as they want. i would never lie, but reveal your own experience on a need-to-know basis, in my opinion.
My experience....sm
is that you're the patient and the doctor should respect your requests/observations. Try cutting back to a month between visits and if you're not feeling any worse then you'll know that it's a good increment for you. You could then start trying to wean back to 6-8 weeks and figure out what is the "magic" distance between adjustments for yourself.
In my experience -- sm
with the south east coast, ANY place along the se coast border is subject to much humidity in the summer, and winter too actually, and wide open for hurricanes! I would much prefer the long hard winters than to EVER go through another hurricane. That includes FL. If I wanted sun and warmth, I think I would opt for Arizona, but that's just me, having been on the east coast in winter, summer, and hurricane season. aaaggghhh!
That's not everyone's experience...
As I said above, we have had no problems. We have a large family and we've had no problems with any of the boys. People also need to understand that when children are not circumcised, you do not need to manipulate the foreskin. Yes, doctors instruct parents to do that, but you really should not. It's best just to leave it alone. That is part of the reason why children have problems, from people manipulating the skin unnecessarily.
My experience
When I was in my 20s I was in a relationship that was all about sex and it was great. I was really attracted and lusted after this man. He could just talk and I would melt. This was someone who I had nothing else in common with and couldn't imagine settling down with. Now in my late 30s, I am with someone who has the same life goals, we are really soul mates and I love him so much; however, the sex really isn't that great. I kind of go through the motions of it. I can't stand that I feel that way and would never tell him that, but it is just the way it is. We have been together for 9 years and I wouldn't be with anyone else. I have never had a relationship where there was LUST and LOVE, it's either one or the other. I know some people do have that and I consider them very lucky!
My experience.....
I do know that nightshade vegetables do cause more inflammation in most people with arthritis and immunosuppressive disorders. Every time my husband eats pizza, stromboli, or basically anything with a tomato-based sauce in it, or onion,peppers, etc., he will be in a lot more pain the next day. Even eggplant, which he loves, really does a number on him.
Do some research and nightshade vegetables and immunosuppressive disorders and you will probably see a lot of reports on these things. But, this is a big issue in our home and I have read many many times that these things tend to flare conditions like you have and others.
Hope this helps.....
My experience...sm
I didn't use puppy pads because I felt like it was encouraging my puppies to go potty in the house. When they were little I would carry them to the door when I took them out of the crate in the morning and repeat over and over in a positive and reassuring tone, "potty outside". I would keep a close eye on them and if it looked like they were sniffing around looking for a place to potty, I would calmly and gently pick them up and carry them to the door and use the same words - potty outside - and take them out. When they were finished I would praise them and bring them back in for a "good boy treat". My second puppy kept having accidents in his crate during the night, and he was a little slower to get the door idea. They are 4 and 2 now and they have been really great as far as going to the door if they want to go out. If I don't happen to see them go and don't hear them scratch on the door, they will come to me and let me know they need to go. It's funny how you can just tell what they need with their expressions and mannerisms. I love my dogs!
My experience
I had a tubal after my 3rd baby, when I had a C-section. I have to say it was extremely painful afterward. And then when my periods came back after nursing...oh my heavens...I ended up severely anemic, having to have iron infusions for 6 weeks, then having to undergo an endometrial ablation...so that's my experience. I agree with the other posters, please go into this with your eyes wide open and with all the facts beforehand. IMHO, a vas is much, much easier on the man and I do believe that it has no side effects to their precious manhood.
Needless to say I'm sure, but I regretted my tubal. After my DH saw what I went through, he felt really guilty because I had asked him to have a vas while I was pregnant with oiur 3rd and we knew he was our last. In hindsight, he says he would have done the vas in a minute had we known all the complications for me. Good luck in whatever you choose!
All I know is from experience,
I had a boy child that I had circmcised. I later had 2 male g-children, both were not circumcised at birth. Both children had horrible pain, inability to urinate almost with the skin almost reaching over the top of the penis and finally at a later age had to be hospitalization for circumcision. I have read articles saying the smegma contributes to cancer (don’t know if cervical cancer or male cancer). Have it your own way- just know what had to be done with male children in my family. Oh, not only that but I really think an uncircumcised penis is terribly ugly with the excess skin.
Anyone out there experience - sm
vaginal bleeding when it was not their time to? I googled it and see it can mean many things, menopause to cervical cancer. I am 43, mom I think was 55 or so when she hit menopause, maybe younger though 50, don't really know or remember and she is not alive to ask unfortunately and doubt my dad knows though I have have not asked him as yet. I have had this now for 6 days (which occured day 13 after my period this month), not heavy, light to medium, varies each day. Called doctor on day 4, going in for regular check up in June, they said they would have to do a biopsy, not looking forward to that obviously. I will of course be going in sooner if this does not stop any time soon, giving it 10 days. No clue on FH as mom was adopted and would never go to a doctor and cancer is not what she died from, so have a big black hole there. I am not overly worried as yet but curious if anyone knows what they will do if they do find cancerous or even precancerous cells in my cervix biopsy? Do they go right for hysterectomy? Is chemo involved, etc.? Do obesity affect this (I am 80 pounds overweight). I have a few other things going on which may all be connected to this as well, which I will of course discuss with my doctor either next week or in June, depending on how things go. Any insight to one's experience or a friend's experience would be grateful. Thank you.
Not from experience........... sm
but I Googled Destin Florida Seafood Resturaunts and there are several listed with reviews. Looks like Marina Café on Hwy 98 E might be a good place but might be pricey. Pompano Joe's on Scenic Gulf Drive looks like it might be pretty good. If you want a chain resturaunt, there is always Joe's Crab Shack on Emerald Coast Parkway.
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I'm sorry for your experience.
I learned of vaccine-related sarcoma in cats a few years ago while researching vaccinations in general. I don't vaccinate any of my animals since my cocker spaniel developed adenocarcinoma of the breast within weeks of receiving her rabies shot, which supposedly was coincidental. She also died within a few months of mastectomy.
Most people would never think to question their vet about this topic, so you're providing an invaluable service by educating us.
I wish you and your cat the best of luck!
My experience.......
It's best to find them homes when the girls are not at home. We had an unexpected visitor 7 years ago when a kitten came up to our house(only pregnant). She had her 6 babies and we had to really screen people; way too many people who really didn't want the responsibility of spaying, neutering, or shots, just wanted something for the "kids", like they were toys, so it took time to find good homes, but I let people pick them up when the children were in school or away. It was easier on them. I just described the people, why they wanted a kitten, and that I felt they would take really good care of them, and that seemed to suffice. I think they knew it would be harder watching them be taken away. But, we still have mama cat (spayed) and one of her "babies", now 7 years old! LOL
My own experience
As has been noted, your mileage may vary...I had natural for the first (29 years ago), if you consider being given several doses of Demerol natural. Frankly, my own experience was that the delivery was not that bad. Labor was what hurt and by the time I got to actually push, it still hurt like Hades, but the mind set is at least a little better since you know you're almost there.
In earning my P2 status, I made it a point to request, nay, demand, an epidural. Delivery was in a naval hospital. Again labor was what hurt. With both pregnancies, I was one of those who had what some refer to as "back labor". In any case, they didn't put in the epidural until I was well on my way anyway...If I recall correctly (this one was almost 21 years ago), they put in the epidural around 7 and I delivered at 9-ish. There was a lot less pain, but I still don't know that I would consider it pain-free exactly.
Being something of a sissy-girl, I would definitely have the epidural again as my recollection is that it was a lot lot easier and more tolerable with massive quantities of medication shoved into my spine!! Again, speaking just for myself, I had no sequelae whatsoever from the epidural. I didn't even have pain in the injection site, and have not had any recurrent unexplained back pain since.
My experience
My first daughter was late by almost a month. Labor was very long, all in my back, and exhausting. I ended up having a C-section with general anesthesia.
Fast(?) forward 15 years and I have my 2nd daughter. I wanted a VBAC mostly because I didn't want surgery again. My Ob agreed to give it a go. I only had one requirement - NO epidural. I was terrified by the thought of a needle in my back and had heard many horror stories of epidurals gone wrong. He didn't comment much about my statement.
So, this baby was late, too, by 2 weeks. They decided to induce me with Pitocin after breaking my water. The contractions did not build naturally. I went from no labor to hard contractions with the start of the drip. I was out of bed, trying to walk, trying to do anything to lessen the intense pressure and pain from the contractions. My OB was a wise older guy who came in to see me and shook his head. I was rocking back in forth in the rocker, breathing (panting?) through the contractions, and he offered me his opinion on epidurals. He said as a matter of course the body fights pain with tension which is counterproductive in childbirth. He said with an epidural, you can relax, rest, and let your body do the work. It didn't take much convincing at that point. I agreed.
The anesthesiologist was up in minutes and, although the nurses warned me about her sometimes grouchy demeanor, she was professional and quick about the procedure which was no biggie and I am anti-needle and was scared witless. In moments, I had tremendous relief. I went from sweating and rocking and gritting my teeth to dozing and flipping through cable TV. Unfortunately, my previous uterine incision was not as strong as my will and I was taken to the OR for a C-section a few hours later. I still say it was the best decision I made. I have no ongoing issues with back pain related to the epidural.
My experience
I had two children naturally ... the first was posterior (face up) and a very long and painful labor, but I was so tired by the time I delivered I didn't notice the pain of delivery (even though they had to turn her with forceps).
My second labor was easy in comparison, but they made me start pushing before my body felt the urge, which was painful, and after a certain point the doctor saw that the cord was around her neck (three times) and then pulled her on out rapidly between contractions ... Ouch! So, the delivery was more painful with my second.
A couple months ago, one of my daughters had her first baby with an epidural ... it seemed so casual, like she could have been sitting in the waiting room or something. She said the delivery was not painful either, and she was totally fine afterward. I couldn't believe how easy it seemed!
My biggest concern with an epidural would be infection, but I know they do more of them than not now.
I would say be as informed as you can ahead and then just make the final decision when they ask you (as it seems you have to get it by a certain point in the process).
Which ever way you go, good luck and I wish you a healthy baby. : ) It's such a miracle!
well, speaking from experience (OP)
I never "sat on the bench with my breasts out" after breastfeeding my son. Most women *put them up* after the job is done. Come on now, be realistic about this issue...
My ebay experience
I supported myself on ebay while going to school for MT. It was great back then (2001). I have a few things on ebay now and hardly anyone looks. (handmade jewelry, stocking stuffers for kids, just small stuff). Much different than it used to be. I think it's too big.
just had a similar experience
Your complaint would actually be through Paypal if paid by Paypal. There should be no delay required in filing this. You proceed through the complaint steps but when ebay questions that you paid via Paypal you will be redirected to the Paypal complaint process. I was not even given the option to file an Ebay complaint.
Beware though, if you should at any point withdraw the complaint (as I did - the seller promised to send me the item but said he could only if I withdrew the complaint) you can absolutely not ever reopen it.
I can't speak from experience, but (sm)
by what you describe, it sounds as if it was caught early. This makes all the difference, from what I have read with all cancers, but especially with ovarian cancer - very hard to detect. So that cyst was probably a good thing for you!! I will keep you in my prayers. Let us know how things go.
Had exactly same experience after 10-12 years...sm
Stayed for 15 years of marriage mainly for the kids....big mistake. Reached the point I didn't care if we ate hotdogs for breakfast, lunch, and dinner! Just couldn't stand it. Didn't have a job and no money to speak of, but I got out. It is scary, and it is a struggle but, for me, was worth it. I do think you should try counseling and make every effort to make it work, but if it doesn't, don't stay for the kids. They will suffer too. It is possible to go through what you are and come out okay in the end, so don't give it up without really working on it. BTW, remarried now for 17 years after 8 years of being on my own and very happy.
My experience with a stalker
I was stalked by my ex-husband for over a year when I left him, and looking back now, I know I did all the WRONG things. I moved frequently, got a different vehicle, changed phone number, etc, etc.
The very best thing is to take the offensive. You have already told him repeatedly to not call you anymore, but these weirdos see it as a challenge, like a cat and mouse game. Everytime you try to dodge them, they see it as a personal victory when they finally get you on the phone or otherwise make contact with you. They think they can actually wear you down and eventually get you to themselves.
Do not change your phone number or e-mail address. That only prolongs the cat-mouse game. Instead, take whatever you have --emails, phone messages, etc--and get an order of protection. You say you are reluctant to get the police involved. That is EXACTLY what he is counting on and puts you at a huge disadvantage. That is what they are there for. If he gets the message that you will and do call the police everytime he violates your demands to leave you alone, you will win, and he will likely be doing some time. He is willing to go to great lengths to pursue you. The pursuit just lasts longer the more you run from it. As soon as I stopped running and turned around and took him on with the law on my side, I beat him in little time. Remember, predators chase helpless deer, not ferocious mountain lionesses.
With our experience, he doesn't need
We have bought several homes and I have been an IC MT the entire time. I have never had this ask of me. They just want to know what my income has been, as they know being self-employed can mean different amounts from paycheck to paycheck. Of course, if your husband is empoyed somewhere, they will put more thought into that
(they just don't say it). I had loan officers just start talking to my husband as if I'm not in the room just because they hear self-employed and know my husband is not....so they think he'll be the REAL one bringing in a paycheck. So, my husband brings them back in the game, as do I. We let them know both of our checks contribute to this mortgage, not just his. I've noticed the women loan officers are the worst with this, even though you would think they wouldn't be. We both have excellent credit scores and make sure this is the valid point we get across. Just make sure you are not overlooked as being an essential element in this deal. Generally, all the loan officer can go by is what you have made in the past few years, not what you may make in the future as an IC, because as an IC, you may not know what that paycheck will bring or if you'll even be with the same company 6 months from now. But again, I have never had this asked of me.
I have had a similar experience
in the past and what I did was confront the person when he hit is kid and asked him if he needed a little help just so that he knew that I saw what had happened and that it wasn't acceptable. I could care less if an adult goes off on me as I can handle myself. I feel for the children who grow up like that. The mother has likely experienced the issue before with the man, but why make it a tattle-tale issue...instead confront the bully calmly and firmly. He would have probably been embarassed at that point and would maybe think twice about smacking his kid in public, but I doubt it would keep him from doing it at home. Would be nice to just smack him upside the head with a closed fist and see how he likes it. Whatta jerk! I understand no one saying anything though. People were probably in shock that he did that to such a young child or any child for that matter.
My personal experience has been that --sm
you get what you pay for. I have little trust in their products, although the prices seem good. There are other more reputable places out there.
Just from experience and just the truth
NM
Wow, I had a similar experience.
Only this was 2 dogs, tied up in the back yard, while the guy was in Iraq and the gal had gone to Greece for his R&R! They had somebody come in the morning to give them food and water, but those dogs barked ALL night long and half the day. I called Animal Control and so did my neighbor and FINALLY they took them away only because the day the Animal Control person came they had gotten impossibly tangled up in their ropes with a SKATEBOARD tangled in the whole mess! The dogs never came back and, needless to say, those folks were mad but oh well. Even when the people were not out of the country the dogs would get out and roam all over the place. I told the guy that the dogs get out and they would get hit by a car (I live in Redneckville, USA), and he got mad, called his landlady and said I didn't like his wife, called the cops, landlady threatened to sue me because her renters wanted to move, and all the while I just wanted that house OFF the face of the map (my house was here first with a vacant lot next to it). Lord, what a nightmare! Needless to say, nobody at that house EVER picked up poop!
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