My dream would be a weekend of him helping (sm)
Posted By: Lisa on 2007-08-01
In Reply to: Mine is exactly the same way, drives me nuts- sm -
When he and I and the kids all work on getting everything back in order. But he would be angry the whole time, as if he shouldn't have to be doing it. I may end up hiring someone. I have thought about it all day. It would be worth it!
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Recurring bathroom dream & ex dream
I have a recurring dream about having to go in a public bathroom and not only can everybody see me, but I am barefoot, wearing bell-bottoms and the floor is always wet. Yuck!
I also have recurring dreams about being back with my abusive ex and trying to get me and the kids away from him. We have been divorced 22 years, but I have these dreams frequently!
Well, VR is helping to pay
my bills so if I have to change mistakes that VR makes, so be it. Dictators make mistakes when dictating and guess what, you still have to change it....
LOL It went well. Thank you to everyone for helping!
I felt bad because none of the friends or extended family that she invited showed up. They all called to cancel.
We did not have leftover Turkey but plenty of desert and rolls. She bought 45 dinner rolls?! I think some of you are right that this is the beginning of sundowning for them. I will have to explain this to my husband because he just thinks they are losing their minds. I heard from another family member that MIL has a stash of a case candy bars in her closet and yesterday she went in the bedroom for cookie sheets to put the biscuits on. A little odd, especially being that they have extra storage area in the basement.
I think FIL took it as it was just that much less food that cost him money because he was so happy that I brought as much food as I did and kept saying how much he loved the veggie tray, etc. I think MIL was a little miffed when I got there because she didn't have room in her oven for the sides that I brought (or hers) because the single turkey breast was in the oven. There was enough room, she just didn't want to use the second rack in the oven for some reason. She didn't like my suggestion that if it was cooked to take it out of the oven and cover with foil and it would stay hot for 20 minutes while everything else finished. Luckily my BIL (who loves to cook) was there and he agreed with me and stepped in to help her out. You know I get the look like "stay the heck out of my kitchen and keep your opinion to your self" and afterwards he gets the look of "You have always been my favorite child, thank you" LOL But I understand things are different with moms and their own kids versus the spouse, especially with females.
So overall it turned out well and everyone had plenty to eat. We didn't have to run out for burgers or home for dinner.
You are a power of example by helping sm
When I was younger, I would not only cry, sometimes I would not attend or attend and not sleep for days. I think being in the MT business made me realize how short life is. I am amazed that now I look at death in a different way. I cannot believe how I have changed. Most of my friends were brought up to wear black, look sad, cry a lot. I was brought up to avoid it, stay away from wakes and funerals; so could not handle it. Thanks to transcribing so many autopsies, horrible situations, illnesses, educational seminars on death and dying, etc., I am finally able to celebrate life. I do have others now not understanding why I do not cry. It's a miracle to me that I don't have to act that way anymore. I think with age and experience, I have matured. I have a friend who barely worked outside the home. Her Mom died in July and she did not put up a tree, send cards, etc., this Christmas as she is still in mourning officially. I lost my younger sister, put an angel out front, white lights, etc. I did the same for my parents, lots of white lights. I do believe now in celebrating life. I spent the days before my father's funeral preparing a "program" for his funeral which was beautiful. I included my whole family in the funeral, chose the music, etc. This would not have been possible in my younger years. My SIL was confrontational when she saw me at work during the time we were awaiting the funeral (it was over a holiday). I told her I was t preparing for the funeral. There will be some whose family tradition is to cry, wear black, shut out the whole world for 30 days, that's their way. I am so happy that I now have a (what I consider) healthier attitude toward death. I cannot believe the change in my attitude. Perhaps we all celebrate life differently. I, for one, am happy I look at things differently. When people cry, mourn, carry on, it's probably their tradition and it will continue as this is what they are used to. They are not wrong to do so. My DIL's family all wear solid black and God forbid anyone even wear a white blouse to a funeral, it is considered disrespectful! All I know is, I love the new me, I am much happier today now that I have a different attitude. I hope people celebrate my life, not stop living. I am writing my own obit, short and sweet and will probably plan my own funeral instead of leaving that task to my kids. I celebrate the life and spirt left behind, but do not disrespect those who continue to wear black and cry, as that's the only way they know how to mourn and it's not wrong. We're all different, it takes time and sometimes traditions will never change in some cultures, they are entitled to their actions and opinions, it took me a long time to change but I am much healthier and happier now. All of this is IMHO, of course. You are doing your best in your own way, good job, we need the "doers" in times of grief as well as the mourners. I would rather be a doer and feel better "doing."
Oh, thank you for helping those dogs
get home. I'm sure they had a wonderful romp, and I'm glad they didn't get hurt. They are really smart dogs. Mine got loose many times without somebody breaking into my house!
I now work at a perennial plant nursery. I am an inventory control specialist, and it involves a lot of physical labor, which I am loving. I feel so much better than when I was locked in a chair all day. So far this company is doing okay financially, but not great with the economy. Last year was tough because of drought, and this year there was plenty of rain, so we had hoped for a great year until the economy went in the toilet. Many companies like this are going bankrupt, but so far we are okay, but no raises this year.
Helping kids, see inside
I bought my daughter her first car, something old, sound, reliable and safe, nothing snazzy, she paid her own insurance as she was in college and worked parttime. When that car went, I helped her get her next, took her to my dealer, we picked out something reliable, nothing sporty, I gave her the down payment and co-signed and she made her payments and paid her own insurance. Her college was a commute, not roads I would want her biclying or skateboarding on. When she was older, done with school, still with the parttime job, but actively seeking fulltime, she found a sporty car she wanted and I told her this time, she was on her own. In 1999, she got brand new car (at a much younger than I did), she paid it off early, she is now married, 31, has a house, working a good job and also working on making a family. I think little help can go a long way. I for one, am pround of her.
Of course it is!!! Makeup is for helping people
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Glad yours are helping.....my computer
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If he starts by helping himself, I will jump in. He saw
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Any suggestions on helping my puppy with
let to be held.
Agree, you need a helping hand
When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling. So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone. Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing. If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it. They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.
My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week. In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before. Good luck. This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.
Agree, you need a helping hand
When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling. So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone. Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing. If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it. They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.
My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week. In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before. Good luck. This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.
Agree, you need a helping hand
When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling. So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone. Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing. If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it. They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.
My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week. In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before. Good luck. This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.
I have had the same dream
about teeth falling out. It is said that underlyling stress/anxiety can cause this, and also fears about personal appearance (think I remember something about money too). It's interesting to read about possible meanings of dreams.
Of course, "they" say too that sometimes it just means it's probably time for a visit to the dentist, so who knows (in my case I needed to go to the dentist, but I definitely had underlying stess issues as well.
was wondering about you....glad you're helping yourself
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Well you are really not helping matters or having people side with you
when you keep bragging about how wonderful your kids are and family your family is, lol.. and assuming everyone else's is all screwed up. You know what they say.....usually one who accuses is the one with the problems. People who truly have a wonderful family life and great kids do not usually have a need to keep reaffirming and reassuring everyone of that fact ; )
I think maybe the boy sucked out some of your sanity...
:)
Prime example of "when helping harms".
 Like the previous poster, as a dog lover, I am appalled that they would use this animal. Are you positive the dog even had surgery and if so, what kind just out of curiosity. Are you sure your money went to that. I also find it odd that the dog would still be in so much pain several months later. Are you sure the dude is not taking the meds himself? It happens. Desparate times call for desparate measures. I would just explain to her either on the phone, email or write her that while you value your friendship with her, you feel that you have gone beyond the call of friendship here and that you can not longer provide funding for the dog's care (or her son's drug habit). Technically, by not taking care of his responsibilities himself this is allowing him to take what money he should be using on the dog and spend this on drugs. Therefore, yes, making you an enabler as well. Just like they do on the show "Intervention". You have to quit giving in. Tell her that if she is not able to care for the dog that you will be glad to find or help her find a home for it, but that you no longer can afford financially and consciously to keep sending money. Just validate your friendship. If she is a true friend she will understand this. She might need more encouragement to break away from enabling him. It is hard to do. Trust me I have siblings that are addicted and we have had to just cut them off, especially after loosing another sibling only 5mos. earlier for same reason. This is one of those times "when helping harms". Attached is a great site to give you a little reassurance. Might send this to her as well. Good luck. Try to get the dog out if you can, that may be impossible though. If you think that without your care it is being abused, please report it to thier local animal society or animal control. This can be done anonymously.
your Trailer Park attitude is probably not helping
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My husband was doing me a "favor" by helping me hunt down
a new ergonomic keyboard a few years ago and he called our local Office Depot... Asked the person on the other end if they had any erogenous keyboards.
I was choking back the laughter and trying to get his attention to correct him but he's the kind of guy that HATES to be interrupted for ANYTHING so he held up his hand to me and gave me a dirty look, then repeated the question to the person on the other end who was no doubt having a fit of laughter themselves, transferred him to another department, where he repeated the question AGAIN.
By this time, I could not control myself any longer. I was laughing hysterically and he finally hung up the phone because he was mad at me. Then I explained to him what he was asking for and he was really mad.
I just said, aren't you glad they didn't say that they had some and you reserved one to be picked up later today?
I could just see him walking to the service counter to pick up the "erogenous keyboard" he had set aside! LOL
Medicare questions for helping my relative
I have a relative who wants to live alone although she really needs some basic care such as grocery buying, food prepared, light cleaning in her home, going to doctors appointments, the very basics of everyday life. I will be able to pay through her bank what she needs for lights, cable and things like that (she has gotten to where she cannot make out a check because of tremors in her hands). She went to live with another relative and it has not worked out at all. She has been on her own for years and wants to be that way again as much as possible. Is there anyone out there who knows what Medicare does to help out the elderly and give me any information you might have.
Your living your dream like never before?
?? That doesn't make sense.
My dream house ....
would have more than 1 bathroom and more than 2 closets. We live in the old farmhouse my DH grew up in. It has 4 bedrooms, which is great, but only 2 closets and 1 bathroom for 5 people. So my dream house would have at least 2 bathrooms and I would love a huge walk-in closet like I had when I was a kid. It would also have a library with lots of shelves for my books and a big stone fireplace with great furniture to curl up in and read. And if this wonderful house could be situated by the beach, I would be in heaven.
Dream Home
We just recently built a new home, not total custom build but we got to choose from about 15 different designs, and we chose the flooring, paint colors, fixtures (standard or upgrade), exterior color, brick, etc. The only thing I would change is the two smaller bedrooms (besides the master) could be a little bit larger.
BUT...the landscaping would be what made my dream home complete. I would love to have a nice-sized deck with one of those retractable awnings, with a nice big grill and comfortable seating. I would also love to have about an acre of land with some fairly mature trees where I could design wandering paths that would be highlighted by flowering shrubs, fountains, birdhouses, statues....
It was a dream/fantasy. sm
I was a little confused myself, but at the end of the episode Betty walked in and Hildy was crying in her bed. I guess it was her way of getting some closure. I hope that clears it up for you. 
dream trip
Been trying to get my mom to go with me to Ireland....she lost her DH last year....I'll keep trying!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gQDPenBUC68
Never dream of being w/o the kids just - sm
the DH.......he is out of town this week, very nice and quiet here, no drama with the kids at night (usually there is something a few times a week, or him picking a fight with me). Though I would not say no to an evening or weekend all by myself, I probably would not know what to do (unless I had work, which I usually do). As for being bored and lonely, no I doubt it. I lived by myself for about 6 months while I was at school, loved every minute of it. I have plenty of interests so I'd find lots to do!
a girl can dream.. ;)
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I once had a dream that my dog got killed - sm
and a week later to the day, she did. And it happened exactly like in my dream.
67 Firebird is my dream car sm
Very similar to the Camaro. My dad had a 67 Firebird when I was younger and sold it when I was about 13 so my brother and I wouldn't be able to fight over it when we could drive. It got wrecked about 2 years later 
dream interpretation
but does anybody study dreams? I had a very vivid dream last night. I was riding in a car, a passenger in the back, and all of a sudden my oldest's father appeared beside me. He handed me a colorful bill with our current president's picture on the front with a $2 demonination on the front but he made sure I turned it over to see that it was worth $100. We stopped on a loney stretch of road and I asked him if he would like to come with me and he said no, i can't but we hugged and i told him i loved him and goodbye.
What's so weird is that I haven't seen him in 10 years. Our son is a product of a fling with no love involved and he has never met his child, though he has paid court orded child support whenever he feels like it. We didn't part on the best of terms, just more or less a straightforward admission that he didn't want anything to do with the child. I have honestly given him little thought in the 10 years since i left, much less dreamed about him. It's just strange how things pop up in your dreams.
I just wondered if anybody could lend any insight into this, I can't get it out of my head!
No, but if it is legit, it always sounded like my dream job!
 Paid to shop? I'm there!
I'm from the good ole' south. Would never dream of doing that! sm
But, on the other hand, I'm not against a woman's choice to do so either..Although my in-laws would definitely have a tad bit to say bout that one!
We're also going to see Dream Girls...sm
I got the Publix 1/2 off deal for the Wednesday night show so we could afford the orchestra level seats.
We go to local playhouses, i.e. Theatre on the Square in Marietta, Kudzu Theatre (Roswell) Alliance Theatre, Theatre on Main (Acworth) and used to like Big Top Theatre but they've just shut down and the head guy moved to Florida after the events that shut down the new Cobb Performing Arts Center in Kennesaw. I still can't believe that happened after they spent $35 million to build it and it was only open a few months but that zoning stuff got them into trouble.
Anyway, we watch for shows and get tickets for the ones we know we'll enjoy. Our teenager babysits the youngest child for the shows that aren't acceptable for a 7-year-old to see.
Dream Home Ideas....
Think of your dream home, and tell me something about it. Something that makes it different or special. Like how one room is made entirely out of fish tanks, or the whole 5th floor is a skating rink. Things like that.. be creative!
Dream Home Ideas
An indoor basketball court!! We have the room to create one on the outside because we have three acres (perhaps next spring), but indoors would take care of being able to do this year-round. We live in the country with a good-sized home, but double "his and hers" vanity sinks, instead of one, would also be nice.
LOL - I used to dream of Kramer when I was pregnant LOL (nm)
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I dream he and George are chasing me. Being them,
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no but I always dream about a snake biting
different situations but the snake ALWAYS at least breaks the skin, no matter how much I try to protect him. :(
Well, I guess I'm 75% of a young man's dream! n/m
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I was a teacher's and parent's dream
I was the sort of kid who'd ruin the curve for everyone else. I studied all the time, had straight A's, was the Editor of the school paper and the yearbook, worked in the school office, and graduated at the top of my class. About the most outlandish thing I did was get a part-time job at Burger King. eek!
I've decided to start a cookie business! Anyone up for helping me out with a name?
I know with the economy and all, it's probably not a good time to open a new business, but I've been thinking about this for years and just want to do it anyway and very happy and excited about it!
So, some words I've been playing around with are yummy, goodies, goodness, sweets, comfort, cookies ... but nothing is really grabbing me. I've even tried to think of ideas without those type of words above, such as "Big D's" or whatever.
If anyone has any good ideas, I'd love to hear them!
Mazel tov! Hoping it really is a dream come true for you! :)
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Grilled - I Dream of Jeanie or Bewitched. nm
Hi!
A mother's dream! My children are young so (sm)
right now they say sweet things, well at least my 8 year old does...lol. I only dream that when they are your daughter's age they will think that highly of me :-) Congratulations!
It is next weekend...nm
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weekend
Decorate graves Saturday, daughter's wedding reception Sunday, take it easy day Monday.
Weekend
Luckily I'm off weekends. We went to an early dinner with friends yesterday, and I spent the rest of the day reading for once in I don't know how many years. Also went to the mall. Today we went to church came home and one of the teenage boys in the neighorhood had an Easter egg hunt for the little kids in the neighborhood. Tonight a friend came over the we watched the latest James Bond movie. Now it's off to bed for a busy 4 days of work next week. I'm off Good Friday. I hope everyone has a good week.
What I did this weekend
I worked Sat a.m., then had hair cut - mine was looking like something could have been living in it. Then it was grocery shopping and came home, cleaned and discussed about whether or not we'd move and where to and watched a movie. Sunday got up piddled around, DH got up and we again talked about where and if we were going to move (the talks usually last about 2 - 3 hours), then we boxed up some stuff, made dinner, talked more about moving, watched a movie, talked more about moving and I went to bed exhausted as it was another weekend (this has been going on for about a year now) of not coming to decisions. It isn't really that great when the town you live in more and more people are leaving (where they went I don't know but it's local cos every once inwhile they drive by), but more and more houses are being foreclosed, we hear of families moving in with other family members, schools laying off, all libraries have shut down, crime is rising, no employment here and none anywhere else. We've done so many long distance moves and they never worked out (at least for the first couple of months). Then we listened to the bully kid next door blasting his music. DH is going through mid-life crisis I think. It was just an exhausting weekend.
Misha's weekend
I don't have much new to report about Misha, except that we did get out and go to PetsMart and she enjoyed more attention than usual from two-footed admirers of all sizes. My new prednisone dosing technique seemed to work - no crashing. She wouldn't eat out of a dog bowl, but she would suck canned food- Blue Buffalo lamb recipe - off my fingers, which was quite endearing. Sasha watched me hand-feed Misha and wouldn't touch her bowl until I had hand-fed HER 3 bites too. So I'm creating two monsters, but it felt pretty good at the time. I also got her to eat some Jumbone-type treats also, so at least she's not going to starve. :o}
Plans for the weekend?
Anyone have any fun plans for the weekend? We have no big plans...may do some clothes shopping for the kids if I feel like it.
Weekend Plans
It's my husband's birthday Saturday so we're going out to dinner with friends. It's supposed to be a hot weekend so we'll spend much of the time in the pool with our daughters. We also usually have bonfires on the weekends with the neighbors/friends and/or a cookout since the weather is so beautiful.
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