My deceased husband visits in dreams and
Posted By: Even worse on 2008-01-02
In Reply to: I find TV people in my dreams and am tired of it. OC - house wives, Kramer & George & rest of you,leave!
I am remarried, to one of his best friends.
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Reminds me of a story about my deceased husband
We had his grandchildren staying at our home and what a handful, 3 of them, ages 13, 8 and 10. The 10 year old was acting out and threatened to call the police on his g'father (my hubby) when the g'father had done nothing for him to say that. The g'father told him go ahead but he would make the kid wish 1000 times he had never picked up the phone to call in the first place. That seemed to work pretty well as the kid just looked at the phone and did not make that call.
Married good friend of my deceased husband
I knew him for over 30 years and yet didn't know him. He is very quiet, reserved, shy and when husband died called after 12 days to invite me to the zoo- I had no idea he had ever seen me to tell the truth. Bottom line months later he told me had loved me since the first day he saw me and "just waited."
My now deceased husband brought his friend home, now my hubby
Was it love at first sight? Not for me but years later after the death of the previous one, my now husband (he never married, no kids) told me he had loved me from the very first day he saw me. I did not even know he saw me. We are talking 30 more years and the weight, well I will just leave at the 30+ years.
After THREE visits???
I think harder than that about whether or not to toss a sweater.
This shrink sounds like a megalomaniac if s/he thinks this amount of insight can be gleaned from 3 hours' worth of conversation.
My MIL has a hawk that visits her
bird feeder, and it's a normal Cooper's hawk. They are famous for this activity. But I think the one I get might be a red tail. At my MIL's he seems to be after doves, but my hawk seems to come when babies are on the ground - usual the red thrasher babies. I have seen this hawk sitting up on a branch of my oak tree, looking down. I know to look for him when there isn't a bird in sight around my feeders. I agree, dense bushes, preferably evergreen and ones that get berries the birds like are ideal companions to bird feeders.
doctor visits
Do you find that you question your doctor for every little thing? I do and my poor doc gets very frustrated with me.
I recently took my 17-year-old for his sports physical. Every year, we have been in and out, no problem. This year, he says son needs an EKG, that it is required for sports physicals now. (I know that's not true). He says he needs a meningitis vaccine to get into college (don't know about that one).
At my last visit, out of the blue he said I needed a sleep study because I looked tired. Of course, I'm tired. Working all the time, going through menopause, kids to raise, husband who kicks all night long in bed. I told him I would not have a sleep study and he got mad.
I had a friend tell me once that the way the docs at this certain practice (there are about 300 docs in this practice) get their raises is dependent upon how many of their patients actually follow through and get tests done that are ordered (the practice is associated with the hospital). Has anyone else heard of this? Since then I doubt everything the poor guy says.
no tx just 9-month visits to eye specialist...sm
Told me to keep tight control of the sugar and to be seen q.9 months at this special eye institute....seems to have gotten better too over 2 years....hope your goes away soon.... 
some of these states make home visits
monthly to monitor, speaking with the children in private, so ya, it could happen. Educate yourself on the laws of your state and then give yourself a break.
I personally would stop coming home for visits.
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Unfortunately, Nancy is deceased. nm
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The family of the deceased...
I have a strange question. To be quite honest, I have experienced very little death throughout my life. I know as I get older that will change, but I have been to 2 funerals. We recently had a very close friend die in a traumatic accident. He was 45 and left behind 5 children. The obituary states that "contributions can be made to the church." Where do these contributions go? Do they go to the family? toward funeral expenses?
Also, does anyone have any tips of what I can do for the family? I know sending cards is a good thing. Should I send one to each of the children as well as the wife? what about his siblings and parents? I live fairly far away from this family now and will not be able to make it back "home" for the funeral and I feel that I must do something! I would appreciate any suggestions.
Thanks in advance.
Why was the insurance to go to your deceased
brother's children? Was there a stipulation somewhere? Don't know everything about all the ins and outs, but beneficiaries listed on life insurance, CDs, etc. take precedence over a will. You can Google it. Unless there was some language 'if a child predeceases me, that child's shares of such and such will be equally divided between his/her surviving children and this is intended to supercede any listed beneficiaries on life insurance, etc. that may not have been changed on such' in the will, then I would think you would be the only beneficiary left anyway, and even if that language was in a will, still very difficult to override documented beneficiaries on that kind of stuff in a will. That is why it is SO important to be sure beneficiaries on life insurance, CDs, etc. are correct and updated if you want to spare people confusion and grief after you're gone.
Forget what Texas beach bro. visits, but at low tide he says you walk out in knee-hi ...sm
water for a long long ways and water is clean and beautiful. Can't remember the name, but it's about a 3-hour drive from San Antonio. I'll see if I can locate it. They go there all the time. nm
No sisters, 1 brother deceased, just me
NM
I might add that grandparents on paternal side are deceased so
only ones around are mine but that doesn't seem to matter to them.
How to split insurance with a deceased person?
My brother was dead. First I knew nothing of the insurance money. They got in touch with me. They gave me half and spent a year trying to find the children (2) of my deceased brother. After a year and they could not locate, they got in touch with me again and sent me the remainder. Any more questions?
um, what about deceased hubby family and $millions she was fighting for?
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Her mother is a selfish woman who wants nothing but her deceased daughter's money....
she was booed at her daugther's funeral because she tried to stop the whole thing, once again, while they were in the procession of going to the chapel...she is a horrid woman as far as i am concerned...i feel bad that she lost her daugther and grandson but other than that she can crawl back under the rock that she came out of...
dreams
I've had that same dream about being back in school and can't remember my locker combination, my class schedule, anything! I'm panicking because I'm late to class...like that ever made me panic when I really was in HS. That's weird, I often wondered if anyone else had dreams like that.
To the OP, I dream about my ex-boyfriend all the time. I don't know what it means, I don't think about him or anything. Just some nights will dream that he's there and it's the first time I've seen him since we broke up (well over 20 years ago), but by the time I get to where he's at, he's gone...wish I did know what it meant.
dreams
Now that is weird! I have the same recurring dream about my locker in high school. It was on the third floor and I did sometimes have trouble going up and down the stairs in 5 minutes to get my stuff. Strange. I have been told that being lost in the airport (which I also dream) is performance anxiety.
I have most of these same dreams, but
even worse for the bathroom dreams. None of the toilets have been flushed and they are too filthy to sit on. For some reason the stall walls only come waist high, so everybody can see you. Oh, and I have a recurrent showering dream where the shower is outside or in the middle of a room, and there are people around, quite offended that I'm naked.
Dreams (sm)
The post below got me thinking about dreams, especially since I have also dreamed about the teeth and forgetting my locker combination from high school!
And so I just found the neatest website that I thought I would share.
http://www.dreammoods.com/
"My Teeth Are Falling"
Dreams that your teeth are falling out are the most common dreams we here at Dream Moods receive. Common dream scenarios include having your teeth crumbling in your hands or your teeth falling out one by one with just a light tap.�Such dreams are not only horrifying and shocking, but often leaves the dreamer with a lasting image of the dream. So what does it mean?
One theory is that dreams about your teeth reflect your anxiety about your appearance and how others perceive you. Sadly, we live in a world where good looks are valued highly and your teeth play an important role in conveying that image. Teeth are used in the game of flirtations, whether it be a dazzling and gleaming smile or affectionate necking. These dreams may stem from a fear of your sexual impotence or the consequences of getting old. Teeth are an important feature of our attractiveness and presentation to others. Everybody worries about how they appear to others. Caring about our appearance is natural and healthy.�
Another rationalization for these falling teeth dream may be rooted in your fear of being embarrassed or making a fool of yourself in some specific situation. These dreams are an over-exaggeration of your worries and anxiety.�
Teeth are used to bite, tear, chew and gnaw. In this regard, teeth represent power. And the loss of teeth in your dream may be from a sense of powerlessness. Are you lacking power in some current situation? Perhaps you are having difficulties expressing yourself or getting your point across. You feel frustrated when your voice is not being heard. You may be experiencing feelings of inferiority and a lack of self-confidence in some situation or relationship in your life. This dream is an indication that you need to be more assertive and believe in the value of your own opinion.
In the latest research, it has been shown that women in menopause have frequent dreams about teeth. This may be related to getting older and/or feeling unattractive and less feminine.
Traditionally, it was thought that dreaming that you did not have teeth, represent malnutrition which may be applicable to some dreamers.
Other Perspectives
A scriptural interpretation for bad or falling teeth indicate that you are putting your faith, trust, and beliefs in what man thinks rather than in the word of God. The bible says that God speaks once, yea twice in a dream or a vision in order to hide pride from us, to keep us back from the pit, to open our ears (spiritually) and to instruct and correct us.
In the Greek culture, when you dream about loose, rotten, or missing teeth, it indicates that a family member or close friend is very sick or even near death.
According to the Chinese, there is a saying that your teeth will fall out if your are telling lies.�
It has also been said that if you dream of your teeth falling out, then it symbolizes money. This is based on the old tooth fairy story. If you lose a tooth and leave it under the pillow, a tooth fairy would bring you money.�
Locker
To see or use a locker in your dream, signifies aspects of yourself which you have kept hidden inside. Consider what items and belongings are in the locker. In particular, to dream of a school locker, denotes hidden feelings, knowledge, and attitudes that you need to learn and/or acknowledge.
To dream that you cannot open a locker or that your forgot the combination, suggests that you are unsure of where you stand in a particular situation. You feel that you are on shaky ground. If you cannot find your locker, then it also symbolizes your insecurities about your role or position in a situation.
DREAMS
Dreams are a mystery to most of us. I do know that when you dream of riding in the back seat of a car, it means you feel you do not have control of your life. I know I dream I am driving from the back seat and having trouble reaching the pedals.
When I was married, I never dreamed of my husband. I have been divorced for over 20 years (and never wanted to marry again). I dream of my ex now, and they are wonderful dreams of him being all I wanted him to be...everything he wasn't. He loves me more than anything in the world, and me him. He is a wonderful father. I am so happy, and when I wake up, I am crying. I would rather dream of him the way he really was so I can be mad and not sad of what could have been if only....
I do not know why I dream of him this way. Guess I never will. I know dreams are our subconscious. Of what I have no ideal. 
Does anyone understand dreams?...
What does it mean if you have had dreams reflecting past events in your life?
For example: Dreaming of old high schools boyfriends, things you had done with your children when they were little, memories of family members who have passed, etc.
For the past few weeks, this is what my dreams have consisted of and I was wondering if it meant anything in particular or not.
I have those exact same dreams...
I was once told that the teeth falling out had something to do with money, don't know exactly what but I certainly have not had a windfall.
These must be common dreams
I have the same ones with my teeth falling out and I'm always dreaming of being in school either forgetting my combination or not been able to find my classroom.
Anyone believe dreams have meaning?
I normally brush off bad dreams but this one was strange. My 8 year old daughter dreamed that I had a big snake behind me, she told me to run but I didn't believe her. The snake came up and started choking me and as I was choking I told her that I could taste apple.
Have you ever thought that your child had a dream with a message for you? I have an idea of what it might be about but I am wondering if I am making too much of it.
I believe that dreams have meaning...
I have had several dreams like that..I had a dream my best friend was pregnant again before she found out she was, and I had a dream later in the pregnancy that it was a boy and it was...always have strange dreams like that...I don't dream like this every night though...
You have just very vivid dreams and
are in an in-between-stage, not anymore fully awake, but not totally asleep yet, so you do not know if it is really happening or not.
If you are outside of the REM sleep stage (fully asleep), then one remembers one's dreams, only in the REM-stage one doesn't.
So, if somebody says that he/she never remembers his dreams, then his dreams are all in the REM-stage. Because everybody has dreams, always, because the brain does not come to a stop when we sleep, it works 24/7.
Sometimes my husband is half asleep and all of a sudden he asks me. 'Did the doorbell ring?' 'No,' I say, 'I didn't hear anything!'
I think more people than we think experience this.
Once the same happened to me:
I had a dream that somebody was running after me and I could not move. Then I woke up and realized it was a dream. What a relief!
Also not being able to scream happens a lot in one'e sleep.
These are just nightmares.
Forget about it.
If were you, I would stop the Xanax, though, this might contribute to this.
Also sleeping pills!
How cute! She is definitely living her dreams
in that picture, Ha!
all good dreams so far...hopefully they stay that way :)....nm
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No bad dreams from TZ, but Kathy Griffith...sm
was with Anderson... better chance of a nightmare there than from Twilight Zone!! I like her, but she is scary smoetimes :-)
Yes, I believe dreams have some type of meaning sm
especially when you remember them.
You know the snake is a sign of the evil one! Is there someone in your life who is acting evil? That one would scare me and I would probably pray a lot more, even though I am not the "religious type".
I find TV people in my dreams and am tired of it. OC
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Mine hit 50% for me. So long, retirement dreams!
me, too. Chantix is giving me the wildest dreams
i have quit so many times it's a breeze. i get the nicotine gum -- 170 pieces 30 bucks. works pretty good, but then i loose it -- again. never quit quittin'
I am a happy girl today- Dreams can come true.
A group of ladies has gone into rescuing animals. I have done the financial backing with my joy being able to get animals out of animal control places where they otherwise would be put down. I told the ladies I work with if they want to charge for the animals, have at it but my payment is the little lives saved. We have gone into this the right way, lady got incorporated, got license from the state and even in my state have to have agricutural license. This past Saturday we had our first animal fair at a feed store that was having a flea market for the day. We were successful in rehoming 6 dogs and 2 kitties. I am thrilled beyond belief. That means the more we rehome, the more I can make the trips to the so called shelters and pick them up.
Does your husband or significant other do this? Just now, at 7:30, my husband came home from sm
playing sports with a friend. After showering he comes downstairs naked and tries to start a conversation with me. My "office" is in the living room and he is standing in back of the couch so I can't see any private parts, just him without his shirt, but I can see enough to know he clearly is naked! I think he wants me to be amused or get turned on or something, but I'm not amused one bit. In fact, I keep working and basically ignore him.
Poor guy. I swear he thinks he's Vince Vaughn or something. I should at least smile at him but all I want to tell him is to put some clothes on! ugh!
My husband is the same way
Something about guys and their cars. I have no kids though and recently married so we still do some of our banking and bills separately by my choice. I thought he was being selfish too. So I got myself a 2nd part time job and I recently went out and bought a newer, bigger, fully loaded SUV and I don't let him use it! lol
My husband and I are doing it right now
and it is working, slowly but surely. After the first couple of things are paid off, its gets better and faster. We have a poster board with all our debt and we redo it every three months, and I must say that you see the debt going away. My hubbie cut all my credit cards up, and I was upset but in the scheme of things, it was the best. We only have one income and its working. Give it a try, I think you'll be surprised that it actually does work. My friend is also doing it, and their debt is disappearing also.
My husband and I did think of it. NM
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What is your husband's take on that? nm
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Go for it! I met my husband .....sm
2 months after his wife died from a 3 year bout with cancer and we're very happily married.
Good luck!!!
My husband always tries, although he just
doesn't necessarily have the same taste as me. It is a hit and miss with him, but he always tries. This year we did not exchange gifts (agreed upon ahead of time) because I got a new house and he got a new truck. We concentrated on the kids. The only gripe I really have is that he doesn't do much in the way of getting me gifts from the kids on Mother's Day, and he's not much of a card person, although I am.
He helped me clean all week though, did anything I asked pretty much, cleaned up all day today, etc.
Honestly though, I do not agree with the posts below about making a list. I think that a gift should come from the heart and that some thought should be put into it. Things that I just want, I go get them myself.
My husband and I have 2
roundtrip airfare tickets for anywhere in the US. I'm looking for an all-inclusive resort (room, meals, activities), but am having a hard time finding one. Can you help me out with this? Thanks!
My husband
used this for his leg pain due to fibromyalgia but had a very bad reaction to it so was not able to continue to use it. He found a natural supplement online that has helped. Best of luck!!
So, you would be okay with your husband
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This is what my husband (sm)
told me last night. I really hope that isn't what is going on. I am going to talk to her again about it again today. She has a cell phone (very near and dear to her heart!) I like for her to have it, so that I know she is okay when she isn't home, but since I now know that she is still smoking, I think I have very good reason to ground her. Hence, she won't be needing the cell phone.
Thanks for the input everyone.
My husband only uses
regular lotion, but he does like to take baths sometimes. He was glad when we moved and got a garden tub so he could soak. He doesn't go out of his way to use bubbles, but he will take one with me with bubbles.
Met my first husband when I was 5, LOL - sm
First crush was Greg. I met him when I was 5. We played together at church. We started "going together" when I was 13. We got married when I was 18. We got divorced when I was 32. Tried again several times. Finally called it quits when I was 37...sigh.
Then there was Stacy....we were together for two years.
Then there is Tommy, we have been together for three years - married for two years.
My husband was the one who
donated the sperm and had it washed, the doctor performed the IUI, and nature created twins. It was a WE effort in my case.
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