My days are filled with happiness
Posted By: ss on 2007-09-14
In Reply to: My days are filled with happiness, not anger - Oh well
and not anger. I get out of the house and I unfortunately do not have any roses to smell right now. May be I will buy some. I do lead a pleasant life, and again I am not confused. Again, have a nice day. Over and out.
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My days are filled with happiness, not anger
and do not dwell on things that happened 13 years ago like some. We were on here talking about 1 thing and when you interject like you did, then the whole subject opened up again. I am sorta you are a confused person. Take a break- get out of the house, smell the roses, lead a pleasant life.
IQ does not equal happiness
I've known other brilliant people who indulged in self-destruction. There have been studies that suggest the smarter you are the less happy you are, and there may be some truth in it.
The first reason for this would be people with attitudes like yours, abc. They hold smart people to the highest standards. They don't allow a genius to be human, but they do have weaknesses. Imagine spending your whole life hearing "If you're so smart how could you, why haven't you....". There is enormous pressure put upon them by others to do something great, to perform mental tricks for the amusement of others, to "prove how smart they are". Some become as insecure about it as beauty queens do about their looks - I remember when I was married to my genius, we watched a show about a child prodigy who could play great compositions at the age of 4. This show upset my ex, I could see it made him jealous and insecure, and nervous that he was not as great as everyone assumed him to be. Just like there's always someone richer, thinner, and better looking, there's always someone smarter too.
Another reason would be lonliness. The smarter you are, the less you have in common with the majority of the population. The things that interest you most people can't even understand. I think one purpose Mensa was created was so that they could find people to talk to on their own level. The pitfall there is most of them are so specialized in their own areas of interest they still don't have anything in common - the gifted musician does not want to discuss quantum theories with the scientist, they can understand it, they just aren't interested in it.
In my ex's case, his substance abuse has three factors - First, he's physically handicapped, and his health has always been a problem. He self medicates with substances to escape the misery of being in his body. Second, he's a classic nerd who never had any friends or a social life. He started abusing substances to try to be one of the cool partying folk, to fit in. All of his current friends abuse substances, but he at least has some friends now, that's how he sees it. Third, the pressure to perform has caused him to give up. He was a computer guru before computers were cool. Once computers were mainstreamed to the general populace, and new software was coming out on a daily basis, he could no longer know "it all". When he reached that crossroads, he panicked, gave up and dove into the bottle to hide from his insecurities.
A high IQ is often just as much a curse as a blessing. I am assuming the reason to abuse substance is pretty universal - the desire to escape reality for a while, then it becomes a habit. If a person doesn't have the courage to deal with reality and change their life, they may choose to destroy it instead.
Intelligence and happiness....sm
Intelligence should ENABLE you to lead a happy life ND solve your problems.
Intelligence does not guarantee happiness.
pleasure versus happiness
Pleasure pertains to the senses. For instance, it is pleasurable to eat something you like. Happiness is a state of being which may or may not involve the senses, as in desires fulfilled. For example, it was a pleasure to eat the chocolate cake. I'd be happy if I could have the pleasure of doing it every day.
If you truly "love" someone, do you give up your own happiness for them?
I know this is where compromise comes in, but say like, if you are in a relationship and your personalities clash... but you love each other... one of you likes to be social and the other wants to stay home and doesn't want to have friends... how do you deal with this? Because if you compromise doesn't it feel like you are just forcing the other person to do what they dont want to do...?
My secret to happiness what something my grandma
told me.
My grandparents were opposites. I asked her on their 50th wedding anniversary how they had been able to stay together so long. She told me this:
You can sacrifice things in your life for the person you love and vice versa. But, if the person loves you and is worth loving, they will not require it of you.
I make around $50,000 but I work 7 days a week and long days, although I'm not a fast typer eithe
I think even if your fast, you'd still have to work more than 40 hours a week to make that but I could be wrong.
I remember those days too, but these days they don't want make any child felt left out. They wan
to make each of them feel special and that they have accomplished something. My 8-year-old brings a certificate of some kind during the day, accelerated reader award, trustworthy award, jr. achievement award, etc. I guess in a way, no one kid is pointed out as the "teacher's pet" or have the other kids being jealous of him/her for getting this or that award. 
It's not healthy to base your happiness on another person
I'm not trying to be mean or judge, but I just don't understand why women do this. You should never be this "into" a guy, it's just not healthy. You really need to get into counseling or try to fill that void in your life with church/God/Christianity, anything that makes you happy. Find out what makes you happy (in a healthy way) and pursue that. I've been married 10 years to a wonderful man who is honestly my best friend and I would be very sad if our relationship ended, but I wouldn't be devastated and I know that I'm a strong enough woman that I would get through it just fine. To honestly have a healthy relationship, you should be completely happy and whole on your own and you shouldn't need another person to make you feel happy. I pray that you find whatever it is that you're seeking, but trust me, you'll never find it through another person.
That's what this board is for, to share gripes and happiness sm
and whatever else is bothering us. it's nice to see that there are other people out there that bored just like me. there are a lot of pros about working at home, but i have to say, i miss being around people, leaving work at work instead of it staring me in the face all the time. i have two young kids who are in school and they are my main reason for working at home. i want to be there for them when they need me instead of growing up in a daycare.
you're very rude. maybe you need to get out the house a while.
Well, you should care. Clearly, you are not God filled otherwise
you wouldn't have such negative, uncaring thinking about Christmas and not merely assume that it's all about commercialism.
I filled in the cracks
I filled in the cracks with sheet rock filler/mud, then put a primer on to make it look texturized and then paint over that. Of course it was my bedroom and I wanted it to look texturized walls. It looked great. But am now taking it down and sheet rocking the walls so it is done right and better insulated. But you will save yourself time if you buy a decent primer before you put on your color paint. Good luck
Filled up Sunday - $93.00 - yea SUV ... nm
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2.26!! Filled up my SUV for 45.00 - and it was empty!
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It doesn't have to be filled with china. SM
You can put anything in there with the china. Books, pictures, knick knacks, whatever you feel looks good. It would be nice to add some color, since glassware is clear and china might be light.
checked the schedule, even filled out the
other info from my tax return.
protein-filled snacks/foods.....
I meant to say didn't get the Xanax filled. nm
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happy filled with laughter and love
nm.
I filled out the form tons of times, but
then would never actually stick it in the mail.. I think I tried that coffee once & it was really good.. me and dh quit drinking coffe, I'm more of a cold weather person with coffee, but I have a Starbucks Mocha frapp every morning, or in the afternoon (if I have to get up and leave) but I stick it in the freezer & let it get slushy, yuummmoo
Filled up the Bounder for our first trip last week. It cost $897.52.
We will probably camping longer and routing very cautiously this year. No more spur-of-moment long-distance trips.
I'm having good luck with Slimfast Optima. Keeps you filled for hours
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about 30 days, < 30 days pregnant (nm)
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Happiness is a heart thing; pleasure is a head thing.nm
Days gone by
I'm right there with you. It is really scary out there today.
As far as the original post, while I know arrests of innocent people are made, I do find this story EXTREMELY hard to believe. True or not, though, you are right -- protection of your child is your first priority as a mother. Pornography is no longer just looking at naked ladies, it's just downright disgusting. I have two sons, 12 and 10, and I live in fear of what is out there that could hook them.
I have many days like that too :(
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in a few days?.............no no no.....sm
The faster the better on these fraud things - your daughter is going to wait a few days? This is VERY_BAD.
She should have already gotten a police report (takes 4 days to physically get it in her little hands) - and then she should have ALREADY called the bank to freeze her account, open another account.
BTW, my daughter had her purse stolen from my car - she called me immediately - I was on the phone with the bank, every credit card company, etc. (this was on a Sunday), and on Monday - I showed up at the bank and the perps got NOTHING. Time is of the essence on these matters.
When my daughter first moved out of the house back in 1999, someone stole checks from her house/desk. They got all her $$ which was $1400. She went to the bank - and the bank, at first, didn't want to give her the $$ back - but in the end, they did !!! All the $$.
Again, time is OF THE ESSENCE! Hopefully, while I'm typing this, I'm thinking you are SURE to tell me that the bank was notified via phone when it happened.
*fingers crossed*
Yes, it went away after three or four days.
As far as results, I am 45 with very fair skin. I did notice that my skin FELT nicer. It definitely felt smoother, and I thought I looked "brighter", if that makes any sense. It didn't actually erase any wrinkles, but then, I have to say that I don't have tons of wrinkles - great genetics. I have crinkle lines when I smile, but not wrinkles on my relaxed face. I still use Roc, but only about four times a week, and I'm always very careful about sunblock twice daily. (I like Neutrogena daily defense.)
Days
Do you think Sammy and EJ will get together? I hope so. Lucas is such a tool.
One of those days
I think I am to the point where is someone were to offer me $100 I would take it and take my dog and two cats, leave and not look back. Become homeless, no responsibilities or cares. I know just a bad day and tomorrow will be better. But at least I have somewhere to write this to make me feel better.
I don't think so - these days (sm)
People work into their 70s and beyond, that mentality may have been more reasonable when people retired at 60. Especially if what you want to go to school for is 4 years or less. I actually know someone that finished medical school at 40 and then started into residency - not finishing until 6 years later (extra fellowship).
Yes it is - in the old days with other
sick cats I used chicken baby food. Sometimes mixed vitamin paste available OTC in with it but that changes taste considerably and syringed some in when they were really sick. Baby food is not good for normal cats because it is high in fat but to get more calories in less food in a sick cat it always worked wonders for me. I also mixed a little warm water in it.
My first 2 days were very fun.
The work is such a nice change, constantly moving. There are all these different greenhouses, and it's the slow time of year so I'm doing detail work like making signs. Today I culled out dead plants and entered them into inventory. I have come to terms with my golf cart; it is very useful when it's time to move the "deads" over to the compost heap and empty out the containers. Then I drive the containers over to the potting shed area. We all take lunch and breaks at the same time, and everybody is super nice. I have noticed they eat a lot of fruit and healthy foods for their snacks, and I brought in our leftover veggie tray from New Year's, and they were appreciative to share that with me today. They are very into their dogs and cats, and everybody has an interest in plants in common. I can ask questions about plants any time, whether it's work related or gardening related. I got to look at slides of live nematodes today. I am being taught to recognize pest attacks to report as I do my work. So it's all very active and satisfying for me.
Now if we can just get Bear up to speed. We chose not to crate Bear because it was a longer day with DH out of town. Bear did a little better, but did work on the ottoman a little more. I think we'll try crating him tomorrow, and I'm also eyeing a bottle of clonazepam I have on the counter! I know there are herbal things for dogs I can try also; I've just never had this problem before.
those were the days
I bet the stew cooked on the wood stove was great. . some of the old ways of cooking were tastier than they are now. . . when we had the ice storm a few years ago, my fiance said he fixed all kinds of food on his wood stove. . he was quite pleased with himself. .
Tried it for a few days
but just couldn't stand the taste of the soup any longer! I also didn't lose any wieght but didn't really have high expections either. I think if you have enough will power to try something like that, then just do Weight Watchers. I haven't done it myself but I've seen many people go through that program and it seems to be a heck of a lot healthier and better overall/long run instead of putting yourself on a liquid diet (because basically that's what you're doing with the Cabbage Soup Diet/Lemonade Diet, etc).
People are always looking for the quick & easy way to lose wieght (I won't deny it, myself included). Imagine if we put those efforts of looking for the shortcuts into actually following a real nutrition & exercise plan!
I will let you know. She says it may take a few days SM
to get back to me. I am concerned for them. I can image how she and her husband feel. I saw them today and she, especially is shaken by this. Thanks for caring.
Ever have one of those days
Ever have one of those days that you type and type and type and after 8 hours look and find you've only done 600-700 lines when usually you've done more. Just am frustrated right now. It's hot (102 degrees here), and I'm tired. I'm tired, tired, tired. I feel like I'm getting too old for this (only 48 years old but I feel like I'm 68). Feels like I'm going to just wither and die in this chair. My DH will walk out one day and find me and rigamortise will have set in and he'll have to unclamp my fingers from the keyboard. Guess the heat is just getting to me and I'm tired. Not so much the heat, I'm just tired. Think I overslept. I function good on 6 hours of sleep and last night I got 8 or so. Oh well, in an hour or so I will be completed with my jobs and then will veg out in front of the TV eating something. Oh yes....what an exciting life I lead here. Okay, that's my venting of the day. Thought I'd give everyone something different to read (although I'm sure a lot of you feel the same way). 
YEP - definitely having one of those days...
Guy i've been seeing for 6 months left his wife a couple of weeks ago (yay for me) and then he tells me this afternoon that he's got a girlfriend and that it's serious and that she's supposed to be leaving her husband so that the two of them could be happily ever after. Definitely broke my heart - have cried all night, the thought of food makes me sick at my stomach, then my air conditioning goes out on the house and I have to pay a repairman to come out at 8:30pm to fix it. Oh, think I forgot to mention that I'm also married but he won't deal with anything so I have to get things fixed, pay, etc. Definitely a wo is me kinda night! :(
I go every 2 to 3 days....
my hair is extremely thick and I don't need to shampoo every day, blessed to not have oily problems or dry scalp. I rotate between 3 Redken products, Color Extend, Smooth Down and All Soft, using both shampoo and conditioner. I'm about to try Pureology soon, have heard good things about the products.
Every 2-3 days would be all right...nm
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These days
anyone should understand that it would be stupid for a woman (or anyone) to give strangers a ride like that. (I am meaning those young men should get that ... not saying you are stupid.)
It's unfortunate, but what can one do?
I think it's odd for anyone to ask in the first place. Most people have SOMEONE they could call.
Those people can sometimes get what they are after by catching someone off guard.
So sad that you had the normal response of feeling guilty and like you had to offer some sort of valid excuse. They were putting you in an uncomfortable and dangerous position ... and YOU felt guilty!
God would not put people in ridiculous positions like that (angels). He knows what our world is like!
Ever have one of those days!
Where your fingers just refuse to cooperate? I am having one of those today! Just seems like the signals don't get from my brain to my fingers like they are supposed to. Misspelling words that are SO easy!
I am having one of those days right now...nm
ss
Yup, have too many of those days!
Thank God for spellcheckers!!!
You ever have one of those days ....???
I work on a clinic account - easy peasy and I love it. I have one doctor who is from Croatia. He tends to eat his lunch as he's dictating and he's always eating carrots or something very crunchy. I've learned to work around that and rarely leave blanks.
Not today, though. Boy howdy my ears were just not hearing what he was saying and I had to leave 5 blanks for QA! I've never left that many blanks on this account. Three of them I just flat out had no clue what he was saying and two I thought I had it, but didn't want to guess.
And he wasn't even eating his lunch when he dictated this!!! Oy. That was my first report so far today. Here's crossing my fingers that the rest of them go a little bit easier.
Maybe more caffeine.....................
I have had those days.....sm
I also have days where it seems like my fingers aren't in cooperation with my brain. LOL
One of these days you will be a sm
very lonely old lady! Life doesn't always work out like we plan and you are headed for a disaster lady. I have seen it happen all too many times.
If the man is smart (obviously he isn't) or gets wise, you are headed that way sooner than you know!
23, 26, and 28 -- I'm 35 now and some days
I don't know whether I'm coming or going. Thank God I have the luxury of working from home as an SE -- setting my own hours to work around all their ball schedules. Whew! Some days I wish I would have waited until I was later in my 20s or even early 30s to start, but other days I'm glad I'll be done raising kids when I'm still young enough to enjoy my retirement and maybe grandchildren. I can't imagine being a grandmother yet, though. That seems so strange to call myself that. 
That's a lot to assume. Everyone has bad days.
Everyone shouldn't be so quick to judge!
Even though I'm not in the mood, I usually give my husband a smile or something. He usually just smiles and then leaves me alone. I think sometimes even if they aren't getting anything they still just want to feel wanted, ego boost, whatever you want to call it. :)
lots of days like that!
if I can I make a quick run to the coffee shop for a latte or take a 5 minute walk. its amazing what a lift a cappuccino or a latte will bring to my day.
So where does one meet these days?
So how does a single person meet someone then, especially if not into the bar scene at all? Okay - let me list where I might meet someone: Church...which usually is very limited because almost everyone is married. Any other suggestions? I know what a huge list I have....
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