My daughter's Girl Scout leader
Posted By: LinK on 2008-02-27
In Reply to: Just an idea....sm - cat
won't let them go door to door to sell. I do let her go to our friends/neighbors on the street, but just to the surrounding friends and no further. It's awful that they can't go door to door anymore, but way too dangerous.
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After 11 yrs as a boy scout leader, I've seen all sorts of situations.
And, I've had to deal with my share of 11 yo bullies. (I have one in my troop now who is absolutely driving me up a wall.) I've learned a lot over the years. For one thing, I know that while it's possible to be a very good influence on a child, it's also likely that parents who are having issues can, in just a moment, un-do any positive influence you've had on a child. I've also seen kids come back years later after I thought I had made no headway with them. They've come back to thank me for showing them patience and kindness and a better way to act. And, sadly, I've seen more than a few kids spin off out of control, right to the point of their own death.
Firstly, you have to think of your own child's safety, of course. If you can band with other parents in your neighborhood to provide supervision while this bully is around, that would be a great help. Agree on play areas, who is and is not allowed to be in the play area, be patient and teach the children general rules of good behavior. When the rules are violated, then there are consequences. If the bully cannot behave, especially if he's being dangerous. If you feel that he and the other children in his household are not being properly supervised or cared for at home, then call the authorities.
The other thing I've learned is to be very direct with problem children and parents, and to keep my emotions calm. No shouting, and always have an adult witness nearby. For many years, I would dance around direct language with parents, afraid that I might hurt their feelings. But that always leaves too much room for them to misunderstand what I really wanted. State exactly what you want the other person to know. "I have a problem with your child's behavior. I'm willing to help supervise, but only on these conditions." If the parent becomes argumentative or defensive, walk away and lock your door. Write down what you said and what happened. I don't want to scare you, but if there are questions later, accusations from the parent or child, you won't have to rely on your memory alone.
One can be patient and extend help to people who need it, but you don't have to put up with abuse, either. Use all of your resources -- other neighbors, authorities, your own talents, and do what you can, but be careful.
Girl Scout cookies are here!
I love Girl Scout cookies!
They are $4 a box this year. I always tell the little girls they were 50 cents a box when I sold them and they look at me like, okay, old lady, just buy the cookies.
Girl Scout Cookies
My daughter is a Girl Scout so we bought quite a few boxes. I love the thin mint and could probably eat a whole box myself in one day. They're $3.50 here, but every year I swear the cookies get smaller and smaller.
How to find Girl Scout cookies where you live
http://www.girlscoutcookies.org/
The above link will locate you nearest GS Council. If you call them you can either order your cookies directly from here or contact your local council.
Good Luck and Happy Cookie eating. 
Daughter is 34, one little girl...
...self-employed at home.
it's nice your daughter is friends with this girl
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The dog needs a leader and
one way to become the pack leader is to watch Cesar at work on his show, The Dog Whisperer. There is nothing wrong with using a crate. Dogs are denning animals and this offers security. You don't beat the dog until he goes in; instead, you reward the dog with a special toy or chew (like a Kong full of some sort of food). To reduce calories, you can make dinner smaller and give part of the kibble inside the Kong mixed with something sticky. She needs to have rules that reinforce her position as leader. The puppy needs to stay off beds and couch and people. Affection is held until the puppy is acting calm and relaxed. Cesar has books as well as a show. If other people live with the woman, everybody has to cooperate. It takes a lot of educating of an owner. It is hard not to act all crazy around the dog and get them reved up, but it takes self-discipline to remain calm and show leadership, not shouting, when the puppy isn't acting calm and submissive.
Pack leader
Some dogs are very strong personalities and need to have a strong-minded person as an owner that has no doubt as to who is leader of the pack (and it should not be the dogs). If the dogs are dictating who is allowed in and out and who the territory belongs to, they are in charge and as you pointed out, it isn't the breed so much as the owner.
LOL - it's Cheney who is OUR LEADER...LOL
try gentle leader
You can also try using a product called Gentle Leader. It goes around the dog's head and is not considered cruel by pet trainers. The dog can open their mouth and function normally, but the idea is that it pulls in an unusual way and makes the dog keep their head up. My dog is just as frustrating as yours. They get used to the constant pulling at their neck and think it is normal. Retraining was too hard and frustrating for me so I used this product that was recommended by a dog trainer at Petsmart. Although he is still kind of a pain, I don't have near the amount of trouble walking my dog anymore. I just keep him on a short leash at the beginning of the walk and close to my side until he calms down from the excitement. When he behaves he gets more leash. When he is naughty and pulling he gets about a foot of leash. It works well for us.
Do you think the ONE world leader has been born yet? If so, who.
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Ask your religious leader what he thinks about
it -- isn't that why they make those tithe envelopes with stubs on them? I claim all deductions that I have a record of.
Sounds like a former Boy Scout...what does he
keep in there?
Eagle Scout
A gift would be very appropriate. When my son got his Eagle, he was tired of working on it, tired of the committment, but now 7 years later he realizes it was one of the best things he did. Very prestigious, shows committment and integrity. A gift would certainly be a lovely gesture
Yes, those and a whole cannister of Boy Scout
caramel popcorn with peanuts. They wouldn't give a refund since it had been opened and maybe 1/8 of the bag was gone. Makes me wonder now if that's why we had the stomach bug... maybe it was salmonella instead.
They found the missing Boy Scout
Help me think of U words for a Cub Scout Game.
I'm running a cub pack meeting tonight and have a guessing game for the boys to keep them busy before the meeting starts. The theme of the meeting is "Magic", and they are putting their hands into holes cut into shoe boxes. Each box is labeled with the letters H-O-C-U-S P-O-C-U-S. Each box contains an item that begins the letter on the box. The boys can't see in the box, They have to guess what's in the box by touching the item. I'm having a hard time thinking of and finding "U" items to put in those two boxes. Can you help?
Opinion needed regarding Eagle Scout Award
My nephew is receiving his Eagle Scout Award on Saturday. Are we suppose to give him a gift of some sort? I told my mother that I did not think so since he had a lot of donations from our town. What is your opinion? In case anyone is curious for his project he beautified the VFW Hall in his town by planting a memorial garden. I am always impressed with boys who stick with scouts until the age of 18.
Scout out baked goods in your local gourmet shops, etc. and make
s
Boy scout son used to make pepperoni and marshmallow fluff roll-ups for the trail.
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Daughter's phone is daughter's responsibility. Valuable lesson learned.
It should be between the daughter and the friend if the friend is going to pay any of the fees. They are teenagers, not preschoolers.
I agree - a mother is a mother and a daughter is a daughter for life sm
despite the problems they had, which i truly believe stem for anna's drug problems. obviously her mom wasn't too bad or she would not have raised daniel for a while. i think the mother wants her buried in Texas so the grave will be close enough that she can go visit it without having to come up with expenses of going to the bahamas to get there. although i contradict that too in poor anna needs to be buried with her son.
That little girl
For those of us who lived through the "British Invasion", or even if you didn't but saw replays of some of the groups singing, you would remember that the teen girls would scream and cry. Cry. Yes. So when I saw that pitiful-looking little girl, I thought she was planted there sort of as a flashback to the British Invasion period. If that was the reason, it did not work out well. They should have had a group of them doing that. As it was, it just made her look like she desperately needs a psychiatrist.
but did you notice how enthralled she was with Sanjaya? that's why I think it is millions of little girls that age voting for him.
Just my thoughts. My other thought is that AI seems to have run its course.
Go girl!
Go get 'em!! You sound like you've got a good plan. I wish you the very best of luck!
Girl, let me tell you...sm
I know...what's up with her snotty attitude lately? And running for senator, puhleeze! She is so ugly to everyone, including Victor...she best watch it or he'll kick her off her high horse...
you go girl!
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You go girl...
Way to go! You are a force to be reckoned with...Congratulations on your victory! Here's to ya... !(I'm in the ATL area also...hey neighbor!)
I'm with you girl...
My DH loves camping...I told him when he buys a luxury RV, then I'll go~~~maybe~~~ I'm more along the lines of a resort in Key West, now that's a vacation....and ABSOLUTELY NO WORKING...
Me too!...This girl does not...
sleep in an RV, tin can trailer or a tent, let alone on the ground! Hotels all the way for me...don't mind hiking, backpacking, etc...just give me a good room at the end of the day!
I could have been that little girl.
My mom had mental health issues, but back in the 1960s, no one talked about such things. Our house was a horrible mess, and I knew it. I had dirty clothes which were usually old hand-me downs from a cousin. It was really awful growing up. Right up until I was about 13 or so, I used to beg my mother to do "normal" things, like let me have friends over. It was always a disaster. I just didn't understand that she wasn't capable of being like other moms. Eventually, I stopped having friends over, learned to do my own laundry, and worked like crazy in our house to clean and cook. It was a small town, and everyone knew that I had taken on the role of woman-of-the-house. My friends' mothers would invite me over to give me a break and let me be a kid. I eventually stopped even trying to have them at my house. It was torture to even try.
What I'm saying is, let your daughter go to the party. As someone mentioned, you can offer to help. It's very likely that the little girl is painfully aware that her home life is different from her friends. It's not her fault that she lives the way she does. If she's anything like I was, more than anything, she needs friends and to have some normalcy in her life.
that little girl...
I feel for you and what you went through. I have a friend (almost 39 years) who was that girl and my mother encouraged our friendship even though I had doubts - peer pressure. Her mother had mental problems as did her step-father but what a great family. I was in situations and at the age of around 9 I knew it was not "normal" - don't get things in the mind..nothing going on in the family that was perverted!! It was just how they lived but they were such a loving family and I am proud to call Neva my friend as she has been for almost 40 years. I thank my mother that she never judged and still does not (I can be a pain in the ass) and found such a wonderful friend that will be my friend until the day I die. So mom's out there..there may be great friendships that will last for life - don't worry so about things unless need be!!!
Thanks! I owe you, girl!
I'm so proud to show off my new boy.
You go girl!
Man do I hate that phrase but guess it says it in this case.
Why do people always assume we have to be indebted to our parents/children for the rest of our lives. As we get older this is the time we are suppose to take care of ourselves, and for once in our lives think about ourselves. We raised our children, watched them grow from children into adults, put them through school, rooted (sp?) for them at their sports games, supported their ups and downs, watched them proudly at their wedding, or supported them if they decided to be with another person and not marry. We did everything for them. Now when we are at the age of retirement and want to take time for ourselves and think about ourselves for a change we are called selfish and are supposed to feel guilty?????? Give me a break! So who is going to take care of us when we need it? Retirement is the age of "me". That's not a selfish wish, it's what happens in life. Yes we are here to support our kids (emotionally - who are no longer kids), and financially if we can if they need it or if we want to slip them a $20 in their pocket from time to time for no reason, but I'm with the above poster. It's my golden years its now time for me! Life is about growing, knowing who we are, learning about ourselves. Society forces us to follow the bandwagon meaning...your born, you go to school, you graduate and get a job, you get married, have kids, watch your kids grow, retire and take time for yourself. Not once have I ever seen anything talking about getting to know oneselves before going and getting married to another. I do not believe we are born in life just to always take care of other people. We've given enough of ourselves to others. It's now time for me.
You go girl!
I agree with you 100%. Sterotypal stuff doesn't fly well with me either. I am 58 and I also listen to loud rock music, dance when I am cleaning, and read Elle and other more youthful magazines (saying that because they don't usually address my age group!). I say if you want to do it, do it! Feel better yet??
Your little girl - sm
I can't blame you about the bill. That was unconscionable to be so petty about the money. They're lucky their dog wasn't put down and they should know it.
About your daughter - I wouldn't dismiss out of hand getting her a dog. Not right away, of course, but after some time has passed. Let me explain.
I saw my sister attacked by a dog when I was five, and although I wasn't hurt myself, I was terrified for years and years of dogs, to the point where I wouldn't take a walk or ride my bike in an unknown neighborhood. It wasn't until after I was an adult and married and my husband talked me into getting a puppy that I lost my fear of dogs. Taking care of a dog from puppyhood can be the "magic cure" for your daughter's fear as she finds out that most dogs are friendly and loveable.
This also worked for our son, who was nine when we got our first puppy. He was so scared that he actually spent the afternoon in the garage rather than come into the house with Sam (who incidentally was a three month old golden retriever!). Now he owns his own dog and is considering going into veterinary medicine.
Good luck to you and your family. And I pray the owners of the dog that attacked your daughter have an "attack" of conscience and do the right thing by your family.
LOL you go girl!
XX
Girl,
don't go away mad . . .
You GO Girl
Agree 100% with everything you say & stand for. Send me an e-mail & if you have PayPal I will send you some money for your rescue animals (I have 2 myself) right now.
Don't let ANYONE tell you animals are less important to the universe than children; NFW.
You GO, Girl!
I have been thinking about it a lot lately myself. It is very difficult. I've "quit" a couple of times myself, yet here I am, a smoker still.
I have been meaning to ask, are those of you on this board who were discussing group quitting following through? How's it going? Do you keep in touch/support each other through e-mails? Just curious because I haven't seen any discussion about it since the new year began and wishing you all good luck and success, and same for you XanaX!
(Kicking myself for not joining in with you guys!)
You go girl!!!!
Congrats and have fun!!!
WOOHOO...you go girl (OP)...
She was the white girl with the
kind of "punk" look. Dark hair, large red highlight in front.
lol, I definitely don't think the little girl was a *plant*....
but I do agree she may need a psychiatrist! Yikes.
boys or girl
I have 2 of each (yes 4 in all) and I would defitenly say boys right now. My kids are still young so may be my mind will change with age!
I'm no young girl...
I'm a lot older and I think Blake's adorable. To each is own. And by the way, he's as tall as my husband, who by the WA is no creep. LOL.
Way cool; you go girl! : )
x
Amen girl!
 We are NOT all hillbillies, either!
Is that the one where the girl goes to the inner city...
to live with her dad after her mom dies and she gets involved with the black student and she auditions for Julliard?
amen, girl!
I'm in Fort Worth - where are you??
I think the 14-year-old girl from
Maryland is just wonderful. Such poise, beauty and a great voice. I also like the cowboy with the rope routine!
she's not a girl anymore though
She's 21 and sadly makes her own decisions. She's too addled to know enough to hire someone to watch over her. Coke gives you a feeling of invincibility. Mom's a mess and so is Dad. She was so darn cute in the Parent Trap too.
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