My cousin had fraternal twins - boy and girl
Posted By: Rad MT on 2007-06-25
In Reply to: Normal or not? Son saying he hates h is sister (sm) - Just Mom
They fought like cats and dogs when they were young. Major sibling rivalry. I've heard of even identical twins hating each other. Weird.
I think what you said below is the key - you can't control their feelings, but you can certainly control what they say when they are around you. You have to set limits on acceptable ways of expressing themselves - "I'm really angry at my sister" is okay, but "I hate my sister" is not okay, for example.
You're doing fine. Follow your instincts. Read the responses here and listen to what feels right and ignore the rest. You know your son better than anyone. I am confident you will handle the situation just fine.
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What about the twins,
Olsen - their clothes remind me of the homeless people. I think fish when I see their faces.
I bet your twins are cuties...sm
Little girls are always cute too. You know, sometimes your siblings-in-law can be a pain in the butt. I used to have problems with mine but don't anymore. It sounds like to me your fiance's sis has been maybe saying some not too nice things about you or the twins. I don't know. That is just the way I would read into it. I wouldn't know what to make of it either. I can see why it bothers you. I would have probably commented under her post: "What does that mean?" I would probably message his sis or call her and ask flat out. It would bother me.
oh yeah, also Sweet Valley Twins
funny I ended up with cute blond twins of my own!!
Bobbsey twins when lil and Flowers in the Attic
   
I gave birth to twins, and I have to say they were not born the same minute.
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twins nor triplets would be born at same minute. must be split personality, LOL! nm
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My kids have twins in their class named Steel and Stone. sm
Not quite as bad as stick and stone but pretty dang hokey if you ask me.
My 2-year-old twins are potty trained. (1 wears pull-ups at night).
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My cousin is like this.
now, whenever she says, lets go do this or that this weekend. I will pick you up at 8. I would say yeah, right we should, but I bet we don't because something always comes up. She got to where she won't ask me out anymore which is okay since whenever she did ask me out, we never went. She still talks to me though. She too has had phones cut off, electricity cut off, always in financial trouble. Her excuse for this business is that she is bipolar.
What's a third cousin?
Or even a second cousin?
I know what a first cousin is. 
I will ask my cousin's husband
he's in the Army and he was there... I'll ask what things he liked to get. Also my pastor at my church has son over there. Will ask what she sends
My cousin went to Vegas for her
second marriage with just her brother and sister-in-law as attendants, then had a reception when they got back.
My cousin did this a year ago
tried to recruit me. The real turn off was the smell and having to buy stuff every month.
So I have a first cousin and his son, I thought,
would be my second cousin. Talk about confusing. What is the son of my first cousin to me, anyone?
ummm so your husband is your cousin??
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LOL, note that she said the cousin is now not that stable.....
Thanks to Auntie??? ; ) lol
Too funny.Your cousin might be my friend!
My friend & her hubby have just joined Team National. (Okay TN members don't bombard me if it works for you fine). They have just joined and paid $2100 for a lifetime membership, I think. Anyway trying to recruit children and inlaws and the whole county. Too funny. They each are extremely busy with thier own private businesses, her with a bakery and him with a construction business, and they have a hobby that they pour money into and are busy with. They are not rich or comfy by no means, but they have jumped on this band wagon. Going for it big time because some local people have done it and apparently suceeded. "Oh you and he should get in to this you can make the money now, you can really pay off all your bills...so and so has quit her job, paid off thier vehicles and thier credit cards, now they are working on thier mortgage. She kept at me about it and trying to get me interested and I just cut her off and said I'm happy for you and all but when you pay off your bills and you can quick baking cakes and he quits building little bildings and you get money coming in, then you call me. SHOW ME! Have not heard a word out of them about it since. Think they have forgotten all about the business too. Its like a diet, whatever's popular at the moment, except there's a lot more to loose than fat!
If it's selling so good and it's such a good business to be in loosing you as one client will not affect her any! Stand your ground. You've listened to it a lot longer than I would.
No, but I found out a distant cousin
was a senator of Vermont, and also have a first cousin who helps on paleontology digs, and his name, even picture, shows up on a Google search for that. It's his second job, though. He does EMS as his real job, but one time part of his body got on film on a show for Nova, LOL. I've only met him a couple times in my life.
It's interesting to find out about relatives you don't know or hardly know through the internet.
My cousin is Carrie Underwood..
His family is in Oklahoma, where she's from. She's a distant cousin. A friend's sister went to HS with Julia Roberts...
My cousin hunts, southern but don't know
how that fits into taking sausage balls with him when he goes hunting as he doesn't do that, might just be what your husband likes instead of being a so called southern thing but back to the hunting- my cousin married for 30+ years, went hunting all the time but met another woman and decided did not want to spend the rest of his life with the 30+ years wife and 2 grown kids so left and eventually married the other. He also spent loads of time away from home going to huh, meetings. I would be most concerned if hubby spending lots of time away from me. I think some men are into their things- such as his not wanting you to wear his T-shirts, etc. Seems like the problems you 2 are having are more than just a cooking pan.
This sounds a lot like my cousin's daughter
When she was 2 the docs thought she might be autistic. She would completely ignore everybody and refused to talk. She would just sit and play by herself. They took her to some specialist and read every book they could. My cousin actually enrolled her in gymnastics, which made her come out of her shell. She also would always make eye contact with her daughter to make sure that she was listening to her and actually turn her daughter's head to make her interact with her when she was talking to her. For whatever reason, these two things worked miracles. She's 3 now and a completely different child! She's very interactive and will talk a stranger's ear off now and is just the sweetest little girl.
my cousin who is 6Ɖ'/280 lb is named HERB!
I've always said it with the H simply because of my cousin's name. He is named Herbert, Herb for short, so it is very hard for me to think of cilantro as an erb.
Agree there should be some oversight. My cousin
homeschools her kids. She uses material from a private school and they work 4 hours a day. He is only 6, but one of the brightest kids I have ever met. They do field trips and everything. Also, her husband is a pastor, so the child is very involved in social activities. If done with the commitment needed, it can be a good thing.
What about my father's cousin's kid? I thought he
I agree--my cousin told me she ...
...actually cried in ET. This was many years ago and I couldn't believe it! Agree also with the OP's movies. Just don't get the popularity.
My cousin's dog died because of one. The battery went dead and the dog got hit by a car. Very s
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And squirting milk on a cousin of his is not normal either
just amaze yourself and read some of this nut's posts. Un-b-liv-able.....
My cousin had a bypass, take it 1 day at a time, and do what the doc tells you. nm
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We had this problem a couple of years ago but from a cousin.... sm
Forget the medicated crap. It does not work that well. Take a bottle of Crisco oil and put it on the person's head. Wrap the hair in plastic and leave it for a minimum of 4 hours. Then wash the hair in dishwashing liquid (of course one that cuts grease). Do this once every 7 days for 2 weeks. No more lice problems. My eldest has gorgeous hair. Super thick, super long and this took care of it. I did also take the time to take a comb and work in through her hair to be on the safe side.
Yes, I of course washed all bed linens, pillows, stuffed animals etc. I personally used Crisco oil and Palmolive dishwashing liquid. Worked like a charm! And BTW: this was actually recommended by a doctor as he even says the OTC products work but are not that GREAT!
Hope someone can talk to this lil girl's parents or the school steps in and does. Hate to see anyone living through this. At times in our lives, we all made fun of for some reason or another... I would hate it to be this way for this child.
Actually, I recall my brother and cousin being drafted for Vietnam
and they served 18 month "tours". They were actually in the army longer, but were in Vietnam for 18 months when they were drafted. I'm sure they would have rather not done that extra 6 months!
My father, his brother, and their contemporaries in World War II, however, were drafted for "the duration". They weren't coming home until the war was over. My dad said it was one heck of an incentive to fight hard. It makes me cry to think of my gentle, kind father in that situation.
Agree, my cousin works in a similar type of school
a grammar school no less, and kids are doing sexual acts in the stairwells, etc. It is a very screwed up world where age 11 has become the new 18; passing gas is the least of our worries.
Grownups-My Cousin Vinnie, older kids - Home Alone One sm
A Christmas Story is our holiday favorite to watch with little kids and we love when the dogs eat the turkey and they have to go out for Chinese! We have the lamp ornament on our tree.
Hi; I was born and raised here, only went to college in California, my cousin recently......sm
bought a beautiful big house and land in North Carolina near the Virgina border, so much more for the $$$$, great area, I don't know about jobs because her husband is older and can take an early retirement, but it is very temperate there, usually lovely weahter, and not AS MUGGY in the summer as it is if you go further south, and also the seacoast is gorgeous. Hope this helps, God Bless, at least the days are getting longer here, it is actualy 53 degrees as I write this, I think the Winters get longer every year, though, in New England, even though I love NE. Take Care!
That little girl
For those of us who lived through the "British Invasion", or even if you didn't but saw replays of some of the groups singing, you would remember that the teen girls would scream and cry. Cry. Yes. So when I saw that pitiful-looking little girl, I thought she was planted there sort of as a flashback to the British Invasion period. If that was the reason, it did not work out well. They should have had a group of them doing that. As it was, it just made her look like she desperately needs a psychiatrist.
but did you notice how enthralled she was with Sanjaya? that's why I think it is millions of little girls that age voting for him.
Just my thoughts. My other thought is that AI seems to have run its course.
Go girl!
Go get 'em!! You sound like you've got a good plan. I wish you the very best of luck!
Girl, let me tell you...sm
I know...what's up with her snotty attitude lately? And running for senator, puhleeze! She is so ugly to everyone, including Victor...she best watch it or he'll kick her off her high horse...
you go girl!
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You go girl...
Way to go! You are a force to be reckoned with...Congratulations on your victory! Here's to ya... !(I'm in the ATL area also...hey neighbor!)
I'm with you girl...
My DH loves camping...I told him when he buys a luxury RV, then I'll go~~~maybe~~~ I'm more along the lines of a resort in Key West, now that's a vacation....and ABSOLUTELY NO WORKING...
Me too!...This girl does not...
sleep in an RV, tin can trailer or a tent, let alone on the ground! Hotels all the way for me...don't mind hiking, backpacking, etc...just give me a good room at the end of the day!
I could have been that little girl.
My mom had mental health issues, but back in the 1960s, no one talked about such things. Our house was a horrible mess, and I knew it. I had dirty clothes which were usually old hand-me downs from a cousin. It was really awful growing up. Right up until I was about 13 or so, I used to beg my mother to do "normal" things, like let me have friends over. It was always a disaster. I just didn't understand that she wasn't capable of being like other moms. Eventually, I stopped having friends over, learned to do my own laundry, and worked like crazy in our house to clean and cook. It was a small town, and everyone knew that I had taken on the role of woman-of-the-house. My friends' mothers would invite me over to give me a break and let me be a kid. I eventually stopped even trying to have them at my house. It was torture to even try.
What I'm saying is, let your daughter go to the party. As someone mentioned, you can offer to help. It's very likely that the little girl is painfully aware that her home life is different from her friends. It's not her fault that she lives the way she does. If she's anything like I was, more than anything, she needs friends and to have some normalcy in her life.
that little girl...
I feel for you and what you went through. I have a friend (almost 39 years) who was that girl and my mother encouraged our friendship even though I had doubts - peer pressure. Her mother had mental problems as did her step-father but what a great family. I was in situations and at the age of around 9 I knew it was not "normal" - don't get things in the mind..nothing going on in the family that was perverted!! It was just how they lived but they were such a loving family and I am proud to call Neva my friend as she has been for almost 40 years. I thank my mother that she never judged and still does not (I can be a pain in the ass) and found such a wonderful friend that will be my friend until the day I die. So mom's out there..there may be great friendships that will last for life - don't worry so about things unless need be!!!
Thanks! I owe you, girl!
I'm so proud to show off my new boy.
You go girl!
Man do I hate that phrase but guess it says it in this case.
Why do people always assume we have to be indebted to our parents/children for the rest of our lives. As we get older this is the time we are suppose to take care of ourselves, and for once in our lives think about ourselves. We raised our children, watched them grow from children into adults, put them through school, rooted (sp?) for them at their sports games, supported their ups and downs, watched them proudly at their wedding, or supported them if they decided to be with another person and not marry. We did everything for them. Now when we are at the age of retirement and want to take time for ourselves and think about ourselves for a change we are called selfish and are supposed to feel guilty?????? Give me a break! So who is going to take care of us when we need it? Retirement is the age of "me". That's not a selfish wish, it's what happens in life. Yes we are here to support our kids (emotionally - who are no longer kids), and financially if we can if they need it or if we want to slip them a $20 in their pocket from time to time for no reason, but I'm with the above poster. It's my golden years its now time for me! Life is about growing, knowing who we are, learning about ourselves. Society forces us to follow the bandwagon meaning...your born, you go to school, you graduate and get a job, you get married, have kids, watch your kids grow, retire and take time for yourself. Not once have I ever seen anything talking about getting to know oneselves before going and getting married to another. I do not believe we are born in life just to always take care of other people. We've given enough of ourselves to others. It's now time for me.
You go girl!
I agree with you 100%. Sterotypal stuff doesn't fly well with me either. I am 58 and I also listen to loud rock music, dance when I am cleaning, and read Elle and other more youthful magazines (saying that because they don't usually address my age group!). I say if you want to do it, do it! Feel better yet??
Your little girl - sm
I can't blame you about the bill. That was unconscionable to be so petty about the money. They're lucky their dog wasn't put down and they should know it.
About your daughter - I wouldn't dismiss out of hand getting her a dog. Not right away, of course, but after some time has passed. Let me explain.
I saw my sister attacked by a dog when I was five, and although I wasn't hurt myself, I was terrified for years and years of dogs, to the point where I wouldn't take a walk or ride my bike in an unknown neighborhood. It wasn't until after I was an adult and married and my husband talked me into getting a puppy that I lost my fear of dogs. Taking care of a dog from puppyhood can be the "magic cure" for your daughter's fear as she finds out that most dogs are friendly and loveable.
This also worked for our son, who was nine when we got our first puppy. He was so scared that he actually spent the afternoon in the garage rather than come into the house with Sam (who incidentally was a three month old golden retriever!). Now he owns his own dog and is considering going into veterinary medicine.
Good luck to you and your family. And I pray the owners of the dog that attacked your daughter have an "attack" of conscience and do the right thing by your family.
LOL you go girl!
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Girl,
don't go away mad . . .
You GO Girl
Agree 100% with everything you say & stand for. Send me an e-mail & if you have PayPal I will send you some money for your rescue animals (I have 2 myself) right now.
Don't let ANYONE tell you animals are less important to the universe than children; NFW.
You GO, Girl!
I have been thinking about it a lot lately myself. It is very difficult. I've "quit" a couple of times myself, yet here I am, a smoker still.
I have been meaning to ask, are those of you on this board who were discussing group quitting following through? How's it going? Do you keep in touch/support each other through e-mails? Just curious because I haven't seen any discussion about it since the new year began and wishing you all good luck and success, and same for you XanaX!
(Kicking myself for not joining in with you guys!)
You go girl!!!!
Congrats and have fun!!!
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