My community does not allow yard burials but
Posted By: Animalhouse on 2007-10-22
In Reply to: Delicate question not for the faint of heart - Okie MT
i have like a flower place in my back, no one can see from either side and if my pet dies, would definitely bury there and then have some flowers also there. No one can see into the back of my place, wooden area between me and the others!!
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My community demands that we keep our yard
free of the bugs and weeds and we were infested with grubs this past year. We have spent a lot of time trying to rid our yard because they do so much damage. The management came by while this was going on and sent letter that we try to remedy the problem. I have to use these, sorry but I do like a nice lawn.
Community Yard Sale
I posted earlier on here about ideas about having yard sale. Someone said for early birds to put sign out saying everything before 8 double the price. Well, that sounds good but in reality one of the first about 7:30 this morning before all set out got indignant that I would have a sign out like that, stating she had been to sooo many sales before and did I want to sell or not? Not was basically my answer. I did this because I had never been involved in my community yard sale but it was so much effort and very little return. I even had a Hispanic ask me would I mind if he used the bathroom in my backyard- told him someone back there and besides that my neighbors would mind. My community has high end homes and besides that, there are laws against things like that. Oh well, live and learn.
Having community wide yard sale and
had it not been for this post I probably would not have checked my bracelets out. This was posted last week but I thought some that replied might be interested to know it was exactly like they thought, more expensive than just the average and collectable.
We also had a community yard sale this weekend.
I've done this three other times in the 23 years that I've lived here. Every time was way more hassle then it was worth. For me, the point of my yard sales has never been to make cash. Rather, I'm just trying to clear clutter. And people who come to a yard sale can be soooo rude and pushy. They'll want to haggle over something that costs 50 cents! This time, I put everything out and told my home-from-college son to run the sale. He could keep the money. It was worth it to him, but I won't ever do it again. I spent so much time getting the stuff together and getting it ready and tagged. I could have done something more enjoyable with my precious time!
Next time I want to clear clutter, I'm tossing and donating. No more selling!
I LOVE my community but having said that
you gotta know, I live in an association run neighborhood. There is none of the littering, loud noises, crappy yard keeping with beer bottles, used cars and the like in them, keep your home looking presentable and it is WONDERFUL. I called the fire dept 1 time only and that was because the next door neighbor decided he would have a cookout- now that would not have been so bad except his little woody area right behind him is the same woody area I share right next to him. In our county no outside burning of any kind and he could have lit his home up as well as mine. I did not confront, just had them come over and put his fire out. We are not allowed to let animals run loose in the community (my pets are all inside ones anyway) but it is just a blessing to live in such a place.
I think the reason the gay community has been
'flaunting' their preferences is because they feel it's time they had the same rights as heterosexuals, and there are certainly plenty of those making out on the beach, as well. For centuries the religious right has persecuted them. If you look closely, most religions are the root cause behind prejudice, persecution, and violence towards certain groups of people that are of a different mindset.
I happen to have lots of gay friends, and some are 'flaming', so to speak, and others you would never guess that they're gay. But ALL of them are extremely well educated, make tons more money than I do as an MT, pay taxes, support their communities, and in several communities in particular in my area, have taken run-down neighborhoods and turned them into the most desirable real-estate in the area. Some have kids, some have pets, some are artists/performers, others are doctors or lawyers, and they're totally nice people and loyal friends. So if they want to get into a lip-lock in public and I happen to see it, it doesn't bother me at all. Love is love.
Yes it is from a community college - thanks (nm)
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If they are active in their community, then why
are you saying in quotations they are showing the children off? I think this speaks a lot for the way you are feeling towards them or her and it seems to me maybe she loves them and wants to let people know her grandchildren also. As a child I had to go spend time at my great aunt and uncle's house and they did not even have a television, only farm books, absolutely nothing for kids- we were not told we would do cookies. We went and said nothing- we were children but a little bit older than yours now. Why do you not send them a care gift for there, things they might enjoy doing on their own so their grandparents might also get time with them?
Try community college first sm
It was "not cool" for my kids to go to college locally, so we literally "wasted" good money on out-of-state high brow -- only to find unhappiness at missing the friends, girlfriends, etc. One ended up back in state at a good university at a much less drain on our budget and he is now a professor there. Can't tell these kids much about smart moves if they are hell bent on going away from home and driving your bank accounts to the limit. Community 2-year colleges locally are wonderful and most good universities will accept these credits, it's a great way not only to save money but to let them get their feet wet and get a lot of experience with what they are actually really talented at. Can't tell them much, but you can try, it will save you a lot of heartache and less drain on your budget for the "real stuff" such as grad school, etc., which is almost imperative today to compete. Good luck!!!
My husband does community plays....sm
when the opportunity arises and helps me with the kids choir at church. Some people are just loners, meaning they really don't want to do anything other than work and home. My stepdaughter is that way and I also wish she'd take an interest in outside things, but that's just her personality.
He is great around the house - we split the house chores and pitch in together to get whatever needs to be done, done.
The Christian community has always thought they were better than everyone else.
Religion has often been the catalyst of wars...hence the one we are in now.
Agree about stairs. Think I'd like a community where we could
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Come to my community in Pembroke Pines.
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We buy presents for kids in a community
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I asked for community service when he took off
A month ago he took off and was wandering around and I called him in as a runaway. I asked for community service then, which they refused to give him, and I was also told that I have to pay for him to participate in community service.
The store said they don't care what the court system decides, their 100 has nothing to do with whatever punishment he gets legally.
He has been grounded so long that I can't remember him being ungrounded at this point. He has lost all the "fun" in his life.
One of my old bosses called and asked if she could pay him to make some desserts for her birthday party so he'll be using that money to pay the store some.
I also know of one religion that helps out community
they actually pay back some in taxes to communities where there is a volunteer fire department, etc., precisely because they benefit from such services.
Dailystrength.com....an online community..sm
There's a ton of different support groups,etc. It's a great place to make freinds, relieve stress, talk, etc. I'm on there a lot and it's really a great place. No one bashes you, everyone understands, you meet people in the same boat, etc. Give it a try.
You're definitely not alone. I hope things work out for you and I wish there was something I could do to help. It's so hard nowadays. I have to take antidepressants or I wouldn't get out of bed. It really sucks. What I can do, though, is be a shoulder to lean on. Sometimes the friends you can't "see" are the easiest to talk to. I know it is for me.
Does your community have a dog obedience class? -(sm)-
Not only do you get great training for yourself and your dog, but it's also FUN for you and your dog. You can meet lots of nice people (and dogs) that way, too.
When I was a teenager, my friend and I took our dogs to a class that was held in our local park every Saturday, and we had a blast.
Another option, with a different approach, is watching tapes by the 'Dog Whisperer'. My sister adopted a puppy from the pound that got VERY big, VERY fast! She adopted the Dog-Whisperer's 'be the leader of the pack' approach, which has worked very well for her dog. (It's a cross between a golden retriever and an alaskan malamute.... BIG doggie!)
Most obedience classes use a choke-chain (NOT a spike-collar!) and a 6-foot regulation leather leash as training aids. My sister used a little dog-halter that goes on the head called a 'Gentle Leader'. I was amazed at how well her dog learned to walk at her side and not pull. She has now graduated to just a regular collar, but my sister carries the Gentle Leader with her for those occasional times then her dog gets a little excited and needs a reminder.
Either way is an enjoyable, easy and most of all, humane way of leash-training a dog, and the results were excellent. I was particularly impressed by how my sister's dog turned out. Some of her dogs in the past have been pretty wild and crazy - this dog is the sweetest, most well-behaved dog I've ever met. She can take that dog ANYWHERE: The dog park, downtown on crowded sidewalks, to work (has her own business), parades, you name it.
It might be harder and take longer to get results with an older dog with already-established naughty habits, but I think that with time, patience and persistence, you can make a lot of positive changes.
Good luck! :)
Exactly, a very large *gated* community in my state
was pretty much taken over by mostly gang/drug dealer types! I guess they want to keep the cops out ; ) lol
...nm up there. Very sad. And we live in an older, settled community,
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Yes he will. The Muslim community will close ranks on this man.
They will call it an "Honor-Killing." What it is, is out and out murder. But Hussan will spend but minimal time incarcerated. The Muslim's have our country cowed. CAIR, AIPAC, and all the other Muslim alphabet soup groups will close ranks to defend him against an "evil and corrupt" legal system. He will have a defense fund the likes of which most people will never see.
They will call people who want to try him for this crime islamophobes or worse. They will threaten retribution against the judge, law enforcement people, whoever is involved in this case. Self-preservation is a great motivator.
Hopefully the legal system will do what it is supposed to do...put guilty people in jail. But we will have to see how the wind blows.
IMHO, the wind blows towards Mecca and the Muslims.
I once had a psycho boss at a small community -
hospital I worked at. Our transcription dept. consisted of just 3 of us, and we sat in a far corner of the medical records dept., next to the microfilm guy. The boss ('P'), and I were the only full-time MTs; the other MT only worked half-days, and she and I shared a desk. She worked from 8-12:30, I worked from 1-9:30 pm. This boss gave me the longest, most ridiculous oral 'transcription' test I've ever taken anywhere. Oddly, no typing test. So, I was hired.
The other MT told me no matter what you do, don't do more work than P, or she'll get insanely jealous. ?? So one fateful day, I made the mistake of typing more reports than she did. She changed to several different shades of red and purple, and I never saw anyone's lips get so thin in my entire life! Her mouth became just a pencil-thin straight line. After that day, she made my life a living he11. Always picking apart my work, trying to say I'd skipped out of work early one day and missed the life-flight helicopter bringing patients to the ER. (No, I was there, and I typed their H&P's).
She also had a running feud going on with the entire MR department, and instructed me that I wasn't allowed to speak with ANY of them. I was friends with the microfilm guy, and others in MR, and so I very politely told her that although I wouldn't chit-chat with them while I was WORKING, that what I did on my breaks and my own time was my own business, and that no one tells me who I may or may not associate with.
Would you believe this b___ch would actually feign leaving work for the day (her shift ended at 5 pm), and then would sneak back anywhere from 15 minutes to 5 hours later, just to peep in the window from outside and see if I was talking to anyone? She was a real piece of work, that one.
I eventually took another job (with a service that she occasionally sent our overflow work to). The new boss didn't want me telling her where I was going (which I wouldn't have, anyway - she was a very vindictive person), so when she asked where I was going to, I made up a doctor in the city - an impossible to pronounce, Chinese-sounding name. I told her it sounded sort of like 'Chiaong', but I had no idea how it was spelled. I also told her that because of his very thick accent, he was going to pay me twice what I was making at the hospital. Boy, did she ever turn dark RED when I told her THAT!
A few days later, my other co-worker (obviously on instructions from P), was trying to squeeze the name and address of the new 'doctor' out of me, but I just told her I knew where the building was, but that I'd walked there from an underground parking lot and didn't know the address, just that it was on the 9th floor. I just KNEW P. wanted to find this doctor and try to get the job for herself (which I learned is how she got the MT job at that hospital). So, I'm sure she spent hours perusing the downtown phone book, looking for Dr. 'Chiaong'!!! I also wouldn't have put it past her to go off in search of this mythical medical building I made up.
Sometimes mean people can be fun to jerk around. ;)
Community living versus single-family dwelling
I was raised in a large single-family home, although it was on a cul-de-sac and there were no other girls my age in the neighborhhood. That was okay for me at the time because I was a tomboy (and because that was decades ago!). I didn't attend school with the kids on my street. I went to a private school where my mom was a teacher.
Now, I am raising my granddaughter in an apartment community (I was already in an apartment when she came to live with me). Because of my financial situation and the area in which I live and the schools I want her to attend, there is no possible way for me to purchase a home for the two of us. My own kids lived in a single-family neighborhood before my divorce, then lived in a mobile home (double-wide trailer...common in these parts of the woods).
I have so many conflicts about how children feel about the type of living arrangements they have, i.e., a _real house_ versus an apartment complex versus a mobile home community. Personally, I would rather rent an apartment and not be responsible for reparis, but that means a constant turnover of other kids for my GD to relate to, which is also the situation in an apartment complex. I don't want to buy a mobile home - which is what I qualify for grants, subsidies and low-interest loans in this area - so she can go to a better school. Would this cause her to be more shame in her personal relationships with other kids at school than a mobile home community??
I would rather live in a townhome or condo, but that won't happen for some years to come. Since I would be a first-time buyer, there are grants I would qualify for, just no financing because of the high cost of single-family homes and for TH/condos in the area where I want her to attend school.
Can anyone offer advice or experiences about growing up in a multi-family community such as an apartment complex...mobile homes (I know how my own kids felt about it now in hindsight)..versus a condo/townhome or single-family home? I have some time to try to put things together before she starts school, so I am trying to decide what the best course of action for her sake. If I decide to move, it will be to plant roots for the two of us for a long time, so I want to try to make the best decision possible.
Thanks for any input!
Doesn't sound like my idea of a great community when your neighbor hears you whisper
I'm with you. Love the country. Most of those homeowner's associations (at least here in Texas) are power mongers.
so, did you bring the dog to your yard?
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yard sale
It's not junk.....They're treasures! Trying to gear up, wash, tag and display it all is quite a task....But, you'll have cleaned out your garage and/or storage unit, enriched someone else's life with your old treasures and made a neat profit.
ps-.Watch out for the earlybirds in their fancy cars,,,,they're ruthless. Cat
Maybe the dog got out of the yard by accident. You don't know
all of the facts, so I would think it would be hard to blame the owners right off the bat.
Yes you definitely MUST have a fenced in yard....sm
They are the absolute worst to wander off because they just want to sniff and sniff for rabbits. I have a fenced in back yard so she can't wander off.
at a yard sale
met my fiance when my daughter and his niece were having a yard sale in his front yard - they called me to come and bring them blizzards from DQ - they had a feeling we would hit it off - been together ever since - almost 4 years. .
Having my first ever yard sale..
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at a yard sale! nm
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Have you mowed your yard yet?
We haven't, but it needs to be. DH has a new mower, well, new to us; his dad bought a new one and gave him the old one. It needs a belt or something, so he has to get that done before he mows. The old mowers are junk! We mowed them to death!!
Lots of people mowing around here already though, and the air has the nicest smell in the evenings! When we go anywhere, I roll the window down so that I can smell the cut grass throughout town. Such a fresh springy smell in the air!
it is called a yard
wait until a common pay day and haul your stuff in the front yard!
Did my fall yard work!
I took out three evergreen bushes that for some reason developed fungus. I replaced two with the round Little Giant arbivortae bushes - so cute. I couldn't do three because the third would have died from too much shade. I did put a Japanese iris in that spot. I put in a cute ornamental pepper plant. It has tiny peppers on it that are purple, red, orange, and yellow, so it's pretty funny. I surrounded it with purple pansies and orange pansies. I had to remove some sod to make room for these in my central bed. (Stupid Bermuda grass). I tidied up some other bushes, but was afraid to prune the azalea because I think it might be the wrong time. Besides, it is guarded by a huge yellow and black spider. I allow her to live because she never moves since DH explained to her that she can't live by the light at the front door. She is HUGE.
I'm very tired now and I think I have a sore throat, but hopefully the yard will look good when the kids and parents come trick or treating.
Anybody else do some good yard work? I suppose leaves are already falling up North.
Boy, I bet DH hopes it's the yard work! LOL
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Had our neighborhood yard sale on Sat.
and while one Mom had her back turned her daughter sold a $118 Lee Middleton doll for $2. Guess the person knew what a find they had becuase they high-tailed it out of the neighborhood. What a rotten person!
Don't yard sale the Bakelite.
Bakelite is very popular and expensive to buy (unless things have changed in the last year). My husband got $500 for 4 bracelets and 2 pins.
There is a way to test the items without harming them using an everyday household product, but I can't remember what it is...I know, no help. Maybe you can Google and find it.
P.S. Also our back yard is fenced in
All our neighborhood cats seem to be indoor cats, and we have very few free-roaming dogs.
Can you tell I'm scatter-brained today? 
Yard sale, need pricing help
I have some paint by number pictures that I do not want to keep (these are the ones already painted.) These are the old ones, probably from the 50s. I had heard these were sorta collector items but has anyone sold or bought any of these and if so, what is a good price to put on them for my community yard sale coming up? Thanks.
I've seen the red bellies in my yard eat
corn off the corncobs I have out, and they also even landed on the ground a few times to pick up peanuts.
My yard is a giant puddle.
It squishes like a wet carpet when you walk on it. I can't wait for spring! If those stoooopid squirrels will stop digging up my bulbs, the gardens are going to look great this year.
Not supposed to be my yard cat, feral?
I went yesterday to get some kitties and cats out of a humane society not too far from my home. I work with a rescue group. We have the animals fixed, get their shots and then the people I work with find them new homes, some are given away free just to get them a new chance in life. Ok, so my coworker and I are looking at the ones I got yesterday and 1 mama cat jumps out and goes absolutely wild, escapes out of my home and last night and this morning has been sitting out in the back yard, sometimes on my porch. I have taken feed and water out and I feel really bad about this furry. Has anyone here had any luck with feral animals in rehabilitating them? My coworker told me we can catch her and have her fixed but I would love also to find her a nice home. I have no idea why the humane society even let me have her. They told me she was not very nice. She almost tore the house down yesterday, climbing my blinds, hissing, just wild acting. Maybe we can get her fixed and then find someone who has a farm and make her a mouser. I am down in the dumps right now.
Is there a humane way (or not) to keep animals out of your yard? (sm)
There are at least 2 families with cats and they roam the neighborhood, choosing our front porch area to urinate and dig and dump. One side of the porch smells like urine and the other poo. I heard someone mention mothball flakes once, but then someone else say no, that doesn't work.
Yard sale tomorrow - how much change?
Hi, everybody, happy TGIF.
I'm having a yard sale tomorrow and hoping to raise a decent amount of $ to help buy a wheelchair accessible van for my DH. My question is this: How much change would you think I should have available and in what sorts of denominations? Most stuff will be under $10 but there will be a few higher priced items.
Thanks !
Shelby
Wild kingdom in my back yard!
It's my day off, and I was standing at the kitchen window, noticing two thrushes (large reddish birds) all riled up. I was about to tell DH that how funny they were acting when I noticed a black lump on the tree that seemed to be the center of attention. There was a large snake coiled on the side of the bradford tree trunk! Not only were the thrushes yelling and jumping at it, now and then other birds were getting into the act, like a robin that would dive-bomb it. The yard was alive with chatter over the out-of-place intruder. Despite the fact that I was still in my jammies, I armed myself with a hoe and went out to fight the good fight. DH joined me. What was great was that the birds didn't mind how close we got to them. It was like they could tolerate anybody that was involved in the fierce battle against the invading predator. Since the snake wasn't wound around very well, and had most of his bulk on one side of the trunk, it wasn't too hard to dislodge him, but I took time to study his head shape, which was quite beautiful if you can appreciate a nice nonpoisonous snake. We decided it was the black racer snake rather than the rat snake we've seen before. So we and these birds were arguing with a very cranky snake, LOL. Once I had ID'd him we finished dislodging him. He plopped 3 feet to the soft pine-needled ground below and remained semi-coiled. The birds moved down to the ground and continued a fabulous display with cocked wings and upright tails and wide-open mouths, jumping and flying in the face of the enemy. As the black snake coiled and struck out at the birds, he revealed the ugly truth; his abdomen bulged with a recent meal. Apparently eggs or babies were already lost to the fiend!
We were sad for the birds, especially since we have made no attempt to discourage the snakes from living in our yard. They are supposed to control mice and moles - not birds.
Coulda been that bunny I saw in my yard yesterday
and then again could be the deer I see in my yard sometimes.
put her in your yard; her owner cannot argue against your action.
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I've got a yard thief in the family too (LOL)
Now, bear in mind that this was all in fun, but my younger sister used to rip around the neighborhood stealing lawn ornaments, trading them out, etc. Even went so far one time as to deliver a ransom note to one family's mailbox (yes, she is a NUTBALL) but the people she was messing with would play ball with her, so it was no big deal (they'd move the ornaments to spots they chose, etc.)
An even funnier story is the time was when she and our brother stole (BIG TIME) the McFry guy from the local McDonalds. It was a baaaaaaaaad scene. . . . I think he's buried somewhere now.
Small town life is this great America . . . it just doesn't get any better than that!
That's why people go to yard sales - to look for things
that people don't know the value of and are selling cheaply.
Reading about yard sale below and my question
is- I have some costume jewelry that belonged to my mother. I have probably 30 to 40 necklaces, earrings, pins and then I have some bracelets. The question is about the bracelets. I believe they could be, am thinking the name is Lucite ? but perhaps there is another name for them, sorta plastic type but these are probably from the 50s. I would like to find if they are of any value because I sure would hate to sell for a nominal fee only to find out they are more expensive. I have shared a lot of this jewelry with friends, inlaws but I do not wear most of this and it just has sat here for years. BTW, I am having my house keeper to be here with a second set of eyes for just the things mentioned below (sticky fingers and the like). Any suggestions about a successful sale? I have loads of things.
The birds in my yard need body guards
I have a few birdfeeders out in front of my office window for something to enjoy while I'm working. The squirrels come and the birds visit. Lately there has been a hawk (for lack of knowledge I'll just call it a hawk, it's some kind of big predator), swooping through and picking off birds right off the feeders, and now it has even tried to fly off with the squirrels. He sits up in my trees and waits to attack. Now I fully know this is the way of nature and he needs to eat to, but does he have to do it while I'm watching. Is there anything I can do to get rid of him (keep him away, not kill him or anything)?
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