My children watch it to see the babies...I watched it one time and decided (sm)
Posted By: MeMT on 2009-06-23
In Reply to: I completely agree .... sm - Happy MTer
I could not stand the condescending way Kate talked to and about Jon. She was so insulting and demanding of him, I can't see why anyone would want to live like that. I feel sorry for the children, but they have not been allowed to have a normal life anyway, and they should not be raised to see their dad take abuse from their mom, so good for him for standing up for himself.
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I watched it. Did you just watch Oprah, or...sm
Did you order the 'The Secret' DVD? I've been thinking about ordering it. What have you been doing that's fun? Care to share? 
Mother of the new 8 babies, single and has 6 OTHER CHILDREN ALREADY
Talk about litters. She lives with her mother and father apparently. Be willing to say because she is a single mother with all that group she is on welfare. Your tax dollars at work here.
My father one time decided this was the punishment for my son
Had him write 200 times I must not ...... My father laughed as he told me when my son got through he said, "Now paw-paw can I do it again?" What works for 1 does not necessarily work for another.
The next time I decided to make real
mashed potatoes. Didn't know how many potatoes I needed for 2 people, so I peeled about 6 or 7 potatoes. Once again, too many taters! LOL!
Glad you liked it to. I watched it for the 2nd time
I ordered the 3-disk set called "What The Bleep Do We Know, Down The Rabbit Hole." (from amazon.com) I haven't even started on the other 2 discs, but I'm looking forward to watching them! My husband actually watched it with me and was impressed too, and it's usually like pulling teeth to get him out of his comfort zone, so I am so glad he watched it too!
I would highly recommend The Secret too. Many people have criticized it by saying it focuses too much on how to make financial gains, but since most Americans are drowning in debt and having trouble getting ahead, it does make sense to me for the movie to focus (at least in part) on obtaining financial success. I think spiritual matters are more important than money, but sometimes it's hard to appreciate the wonders of life if you are constantly stressing about unpaid bills!
I really do think The Secret helped my outlook on life, and I'm trying to focus and my positive feelings more and appreciate all that I have.
lol at your 2 selves enjoying the movie  (I can't rember your exact quote). ~KAM~
Watched it last night. First time I have followed this competition. (sm)
I really enjoyed it. They doing this annually?
No, I've watched this gal for a long time on the boards &
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Well, the last time I watched the show (few years back) I sm
remember Phyllis as a conniving you-know-what! I'm surprised that ya'll like her. She must have changed A LOT! I loved him with Sharon...
I watch them all the time
go into the store with two or three friends and they all get groceries on the welfare card and then when they get outside the friends give them cash for the groceries they bought.
But you're right, they'll never do anything, not because of the kids, but because they'd be accused of being racists if they did (even though white people are on welfare too!)
It's about time! Now I can watch the View without ...sm
getting annoyed when she starts her tirade and turning off the TV. My lunch time will now be pleasant again!
THank You! I am glad I read this in time to watch
while I am not a big Oprah fan, I will definitely TIVO and watch....menopause sucks!
I used to watch it all the time, but then got where I didn't understand it
Loved the first season (or maybe it was the second season). Then it just started getting really weird and less medical and more weird. The son was on drugs when I first started watching, then he was married to the girlfriend of Troy, and she was into scientology, but getting money from him for drugs? Then where did the kid come in. One day I'm watching it where Troy's girlfriend was a lesbian and model with a life size doll of herself, the next thing she's married to the son and they have a kid??? Then next time I turned it on they were all old, and the daughter of McNamara and the blond lady is grown and McNamara's wife was a lesbian. It just got to weird for me to understand. I remember how much I used to like it when it was more of a medical show when they began, but then it was not a medical show any longer. Same thing happened with ER. They got less away from the medical and more into the personal lives. Every once in awhile I'll catch it and it's okay, but not like when I first started watching.
My favorite drama show on TV right now is Rescue Me and the Tudors (although Tudors season ended). Don't really have any others.
My MIL had 3 children by the time she was 21.
She went on to have 8 more and they all turned out fine and for the most part successful. I don't think it is the age that matters but the person.
bed time for children
i know a lot depends on the child and what's been going on, etc. but generally speaking what is a good bed time for a child ages 8-11 during school nights. my husband thinks we should extend bedtime but i'm not so sure. currently it is 9:30p and wakes up approx 7 am. the child is never in bed at 9:30 but starts brushign teeth etc at that time and i would say is never actually sleeping until 10 at the earliest. next year school will start an hour earlier so I hestitate to make a change and then need to step back again in 6 months.
Right time not to have any more children
Said I did not want a child after 30 and my last child born at 29. I cannot imagine motherhood at some age when you are basically the age of a grandmother.
Remind him that this is his own children's time now.
If his childhood wasn't good and/or he has a poor adult relationship with his parental figures, remind him that he is having a similar effect on his own children. There are great Christian books all about being released from your own past so you can make a new life. If you can't move away, then you are going to have to do the mature thing and get counseling or whatever to be able to handle this ... for the sake of the children and yourselves. Otherwise these kids are going to have to do it when THEY grow up. Stop the cycle now.
It has been a long time since I had school age children--sm
but I just want to make a comment here that so far nobody else has suggested. Two of my children had been born with cleft palates and thus had many surgeries and speech difficulties. I had so many discussions with the school system, it still boggles my mind some 20 years later, but I did learn one thing during this time. Some school systems have special education classes that are funded from outside sources. In order to maintain those classes and the *funding*, they had to have a certain quota of children enrolled in them. If they were not going to meet their quota for any given school semester/year, the *teachers* would start to *recruit* somewhat borderline children, i.e. the ones that were slightly *slower* than the *norm*. Those were the children that they told the parents they did not have the *resources* to spend extra time with, etc. basically *forcing* them into the special education classes, and hence meeting their quotas, and retaining their funding. My children had very high IQs, but only had speech problems until all of their surgeries were done to correct their problems. Their teachers also attempted to keep my children in special education classes and even special schools, when they were just as *normal* as any other child. I can't tell you how difficult it is to argue with a *multidisciplinary team* to keep a child out of special education classes when you know in your heart it is not necessary, and all they want is their *funding*. I have very little use for the school systems of today and feel that all children would be better off being taught at home. If social interaction is the only draw back, children really do get enough of that through their neighborhoods, family, and friends. This is just my opinion and experiences, so I don't want to start any arguments here. Just keep in mind about the *funding* as they will never tell you this straight out. good luck to you.
and try finding time to workout between children and work...
I wish I had the energy of my 8 year old....
Has anyone seen The Notebook? I watched it for the first time today. sniff sniff sm
I've never cried so much during a movie. Wow. I'm speechless. Especially the end. I think it's b/c I saw myself in Allie. I had a high school sweetheart and he went into the military and we lost touch. He found me, proposed, and I chose the "other guy." I regret it till this day.
That was 15 years ago. I found him on line 2 years ago, found out he has been married 3 times in 15 years and was fixin' to get a divorce! He told me he kept trying to find "me" in those other women and just couldn't (yeah right.... but it was nice to hear anyway).
So, the man I am married to now. Well, let's just say it's more convenient than love and my heart is broken today. If anyone has love like Allie and Noah had, you are one blessed woman.
My current cat doesn't watch much TV, but my last one liked to watch hockey. sm
He would sit in front of the TV and swat at the puck now and then. The only time my current 4-year-old cat watches TV is if the TiVo restarts for some reason and that little animated video comes on with the dancing TV and the loud music. He's fascinated by that and will come running to sit and watch it.
Wanted to but we decided on sm
The Phantom (have front row seats), Blue Man, and Etta James is going to be there on Friday and my friend HAS to see her. We're only there 4 nights and the first one we get there at 9:30, so we just didn't have enough time. Next time!
Having known the risks up front, I decided
myself never to have a child after 30 even. I had my first at 21 and then my daughter was born when I was 29. I just had always heard the risks and did not want to take them myself. Everyone can do what they want but the older here is not always the better.
I am so glad you decided not to go with Biospot
Funny I did not realize I had emailed you, but couldn't figure out where my post went, thanks for letting me know you got the information. This was several years ago with my cat and she is fine now. Thanks for asking. All for the animals.
guess they decided to leave it up to everyone's
It stopped when parents decided to....
be friends with Susie and Tommy rather than parents. They want their kids to like them, don't want to hurt the poor little ones feelings or harm their self-esteem. Instead of rules they compromise, instead of depriving them of certain things these parents lavish them with every material thing they can for fear of being called a bad mom or dad. It's easier to buy the kid stuff and let them do what they want rather than buck up and be a parent. You all know who you are out there. I have to laugh when I see the 12-year-old who is dressed like a 22-year-old who is at the mall with her 35-year-old mother who is dressed like a 12-year-old. I also think the role models in the home have a lot to do with it too. Mom and dad probably don't respect each other, argue, use foul language, what is a kid to do but think that's the way relationships work. Many parents today are raising the furture princess whiny-give me-buy me and prince disrepectful-treat women like crap-selfish adults of tomorrow. We are doomed!
Thanks for all the good information, this is what I have decided
Next year I start drawing over $500.00 per month on a retirement fund (from the hospital that outsourced us). I still wanted to keep working. My thing was I knew before full retirement that SS took away part of the money you make and after full retirement age you can make any and all without them taking away. I want to work after full, draw the retirement starting in 04/2008 and then wait until the full retirement (03/2009) and then I will have the full money. I do not want to quit working, just wanted to see what everyone thought about taking a % off if you took SS before your regular retirement age.he Thanks everyone for all the info.
Decided the same thing at age 40 - good for you!
Of course, people did not like the abrupt change I made and it made many angry, but you know what? I do not care. I am a good wife, daughter, sister, and friend, but I refuse to be a doormat to anyone. Life is too short!
I am the same age and decided the same thing last year.
Though, I fall back into old doormat habits, but I try to keep myself in check on a daily basis. You know people pleasing is a habit difficult to get out of. And by people pleasing, I seem to attract the wrong kind of people... I think the users of the world can smell a person who is willing to overlook users so they can help to feel useful.
I am trying to boost self-esteem and as I do little things for myself, I find I can use my judgement of character better. Instead of helping everyone, I help myself and still feeling guilty. This is something to get over. Once we do for ourselves we have enough inside to do for others in a healthy way.. and it will be reciprocal. How is it that so many MTs are such givers? The old saying "if I would have known then what I know now..." etc.
That was for Bush's plan, which they decided against
The Tax Stimulus plan that has tentatively been decided on is 600 per person that earned at least 3000 in 2007 and then an additional 600 per child in the family. Married couples couldn't have made more than 150,000 either.
We have decided to seek professional help.
My husband and I talked and decided that for all our sakes and to try and do things right, we are seeking professional help to guide us through this.
I feel somewhat more relieved with that in mind.
I hope all this works out for the best.
Thanks everyone
We've decided to use these approaches
first. H is going to call around to see who has stove insulation. I will scrub it down with baking soda like someone else suggested. I have also read on the internet to sprinkle the new insulation Cayenne peper. They said the house had a fragrance for a while, but they never had to deal iwth rat pee anymore. If anything, I don't see why we cannot at least use the top part. I may just get rid of my cake mixes and cookie mixes. I guess I can either give them to my mom or give them to the food bank. We do have a George Foreman MIL gave us for Christmas. I have hardly used it because it was hard to clean. I considered selling it.
Right now, I just don't think we can afford it without using credit. We owe too much already. It is so bad that I have been looking around to see what I can sell. Not to buy a new stove but to pay some of this stuff down. We have Christmas to do and next month we have property taxes, car tags.
I am so glad my younger man decided
to hook up with this lady. It has been more than what I could have ever expected. He was the first guy I ever dated younger, married and never realized such a man existed. Totally in love with him 10 years later.
Children having children not a new thing, where do you live?
My son, who is now in his early 40s, told me years ago when in high school about all the teenage mothers that were at his school and said they brought the babies to school, and he seemed to think it was like the girls having playdolls like when you were little. This is not new and apparently folks think alright to have their children sans marriage, be it preteens, teens or adults. I guess my years alone do not make me shocked at anything anymore. Others talk about this job being isolated and your post says some of this if you were shocked at what the son said.
Thanks...I decided to make an appt tomorrow (sm)
wondering if I have some compression on my inferior vena cava when I lie down which is causing hypotension...not sure what is doing the compressing though - guess that's why I need a doctor, huh :-)
I've decided to purchase a bicycle and would
appreciate any advice, experience, do or dont's on buying one. One of the reasons I hate cycling is because of those small seats and my backside is fairly large (all the more reason to exercise). I need to start getting more exercise for health reasons or I'm headed in for serious problems.
TIA
Anyone else with gallbladder problems and decided not to have surgery
and symptoms you had and what did you do instead?
We were considering a rabbit in March but decided to go with guinea pigs instead (sm)
My daughter is 5 and really wanted a cat, but we just aren't "cat people." We have a big dog, and she loves him but wanted something cuddlier. We wanted something that she could help care for and play with. We get the "pigs" out of their cage every day (we have a an indoor fence/play yard that we put on a towel to catch the pee and poop) and let them run around. They have turned out to be a lot more fun than I thought they would. They really don't smell as long as you change the bedding in the cage every three to four days (might go longer if you only had one). From the things I've read and our experience, they are really gentle and tolerant (no one has gotten even an accidental bite since we got them in March, and we handle them ALL the time).
The negatives are that they are quite messy ( lots more vaccuming in the room where the cage is - again might not be as bad with only one - most of the bedding goes flying when they get to chasing each other around), and they can be noisy (especially at night when you're wanting to sleep).
They are terribly cute, and we love them but, like any animal, they are a lot of work. I don't regret it at all, but I can see where it wouldn't be for everyone.
School decided to make a new class/2/3rd graders
I get a message on my phone this weekend from principal saying my daughter was selected to be put in a 2/3 grade class. She is in 2nd grade. I think personally something else is up. Why such a great class being formed in January??? and why call on the weekend? She's not that upset about it, but we just moved to the area and this starts this morning. So now she had to meet new friends and now new friends again. Not sure how I should handle this. I'm upset, but at same time, might not be a bad thing. I do want to let them know I'm not pleased though.
Hysterectomy. Thank you everyone for your thoughts and opinions. I have decided to go ahead with t
After obtaining the opinions of different physicians, the concensus is that my safest bet to avoid developing cancer given my borderline ovarian tumor is to proceed with a total hysterectomy. After pondering and fretting, although I am not thrilled with having a hysterectomy at age 42, I also don't want to be faced with developing cancer in the future, as they tell me I have a 20% probability of developing problems in the other ovary with my history. So full speed ahead....hysterectomy it is. If anyone of you has had a complete hysterectomy, I would love to hear from you regarding how you fared after the whole thing, if you required hormones, felt good, felt bad, etc. Thanks in advance.
I decided to grow tomatoes for my 10 year old who loves them! sm
I planted 2 plants and they grew up so tall - totally pesticide free with no bugs on them all year! We had so many that I would give them to a neighbor. One batch was picked up by a woman who drove 30 miles for our tomatoes! I don't like them.....They were no big deal planting - just put them in the ground and watered every day.
My family decided last year to just enjoy the holidays
We're all adults, no children, and live in small homes or apartments. I NEED tons of stuff, but have no place to put much of anything, and can't afford to reciprocate with a gift. Same with a couple other siblings. My mom's been impossible to buy gifts for, for probably the last 10 years. I was the first to bow out the year before last. I started the ball rolling because I just plain couldn't afford it anymore, and was too busy working all the time to spend hours on end in a department store. I had a new job, no PTO, and NO money, so I alerted everyone that I wasn't going to play the game that year. Turns out it was a relief to all! And last year, without all the holiday 'getting mauled at the mall' disasters, each of us had quiet, happy, stress-free holidays. So now that we've eliminated the gift-giving aspect of Christmas, I finally can look forward to the season and enjoy it again.
The day I felt repulsed by my husband's advances was the day I decided to leave.
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I've decided to start a cookie business! Anyone up for helping me out with a name?
I know with the economy and all, it's probably not a good time to open a new business, but I've been thinking about this for years and just want to do it anyway and very happy and excited about it!
So, some words I've been playing around with are yummy, goodies, goodness, sweets, comfort, cookies ... but nothing is really grabbing me. I've even tried to think of ideas without those type of words above, such as "Big D's" or whatever.
If anyone has any good ideas, I'd love to hear them!
Grazie! I love the 3 Tenors! We've decided to make 2 batches
of Limoncello just in case the ginger falls flat. Thanks so much for the YouTube vid.
Happy New Year!
Poll. The Nebraska high court decided that the electric chair is inhumane. What do you think? nm
I think it should be legal and used in certain circumstances. I mean, if DNA proves that the person committed the crime, confesses to it, is caught on tape - why can't the electric chair be used on them? What about the inhumanity that the "convict" used on his victims?
My babies liked them, and ....
I liked them, too; once I got used to them that is. It took me a bit to position them in there just so, in a way that I felt they were comfortable. I used it a lot - much easier on tired arms! I also used a front carrier when they were a little older, (like a couple of months old), and liked that just as well. :-)
babies
Forgot I cannot use quotes. My babies are not mine - niece has babies, I just get to be surogate grandma for them. Wish they were my own, but unfortunately, I am way toooo old to raise babies!!
These are my babies....sm
This is CJ, which if you believe others, would be a evil, dangerous, not to be trusted pitbull. NOT!! He is so sweet. Also the beagle is my Darla. She is very fat and very lazy. CJ and Darla are bestest friends.
my babies!
Boy Bailey (white one) and Girl Rylee
Both now 2.5 and about 50 pounds!
i love them to pieces!
my babies
my two lil sweethearts
Having babies.......
In our case, my hubby and I were married two years before we started our family. My niece, who was 22 at the time, was married less than six months when they decided to have a child. My daughter, now 25, was married 4 years before they started working on a baby and she is now due in February.
Another friend of the family, also in her mid 20s, was married less than a year as well when they decided to have a baby. Another niece was married 10 years before they caved in, or should I say she caved in. Her husband has been wanting a child for years but she was too worried her figure would suffer... (OH BOY!) Well, she is now due in a couple of weeks and he is elated. He is now 36 years old and I too think he has waited long enough. She will have that child so spoiled.
All in all, you need to decide these thing beforehand. If you guys have been together for a while, then maybe starting a family within a year or so isn't such a big deal. I don't really go for all this getting to know one another stuff. You should already know one another before the wedding anyway. So many couples have been together these days for years before getting hitched that I don't really see the need to wait any particular length of time before starting a family.
I must say though, having babies in your 20s is a lot easier when it comes to chasing them around and getting up in the middle of the night over and over. I've had friends have children in their mid to late 30s and a couple in their 40s, and I have to say they lack the energy, especially the 40 somethings. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Just be glad he is looking forward to children and to being a father.... too many dads out there who don't give a rip!
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