My biggest peeve!! Hind-site is 20-20 - live and learn (sm)
Posted By: Lisa on 2007-10-24
In Reply to: How would you have handled this situation? - sm
I have been in similar situation is the distant past and not said anything and felt awful later for not saying anything. Now if it involves a child absolutely I will say something. I learned my lesson. I won't let another opportunity like that slip by without voicing my opinion. I figure even if the parent was so bad they ended up hitting me it would be worth it! At least the child hears someone sticking up for him or her (not at the age you saw of coure) and knows that what is happening to them is wrong. I have led small children to their parents in stores, brought them over to their parents in parking lots when they were walking alone, etc. I once found a 3 year old child wandering around my apartment complex (years ago) alone. I asked him to show me where he lived and he did - way, way, way across the complex. His mother would not come out and talk to me but hid in the apartment and just yelled out "okay, thanks." I was in my 20s then - if it was now I would have done more than just take him home - I would speak face to face with them mom and maybe even turn her in. Anyway...got me ranting..sorry...but just learn from this so that next time you know you did the right thing and you won't feel bad. Those children you saw will be talking soon and they will tell mom what is going on. If he doesn't want her to know, it means she will defend them. It is still sad, but it is hard to make a snap decision about what to do if you have never thought something like that through. now you have and next time can be ready to speak up :-)
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You'd think she'd learn from seeing all her sister is going through - NM
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I think it means you are still willing to learn (sm)
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If I was going to give advice, I would say to keep asking questions about things and when you get answers, analyze whether they really make sense. It sounds like that is already what you do. As you go, you will become more sure about some things you believe now and other things are yet to be discovered.
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I'm behind the school. Learn that what you say
Learn that you have a responsibility for what you say.
School ought to be backing up their teachers and their reputations and put brats like the student you describe right out.
I have no more tolerance for this unbridled generation coming up.
LOL!! You should try to learn to type with them ;-) nm
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let it out, maybe they can learn from your mistakes
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I always wanted to learn
but never had anyone in my family that lived close enough to teach me. My grandma and aunt can do all that, but they live in MA and I'm in GA.
My mom never learned how to sew or cook or anything, but she can farm, fix a car engine, etc. My gram on her side never knew how to do any of those things either, unless you count stitching up wounds (she was a nurse).
But luckily I married into a family full of southern tradition and they are teaching me things like making my own jam, pies from scratch, and yes even sewing once we get moved closer to them!
child can't learn
I got in a hurry and goofed on the family relationships. Anyway, my daughter, her step-gran, and I take turns keeping her after school. My daughter's teenage son also helps with flash cards, alphabet video games, etc. He wants to be a teacher.
Very cool. Learn something new every day!..nm
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Then learn how to use my tax dollars to the best advantage
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