My best friend really regrets her dentures
Posted By: dissenting opinion on 2009-02-28
In Reply to: Horrible Teeth - Graciesmom
She got them at age 45 - finds they feel too big for her mouth - triggering her gag reflex constantly. She had difficulty learning to eat with them - so she takes them out and hides when she eats so nobody will see her, and has had to radically alter what she eats. She told me it was the worst mistake she ever made in her life.
My cousin, on the other hand, loves hers and wishes she would have got them years ago. She was in constant pain and now is not.
Whatever you decide - good luck!
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my best friend just got dentures sm
She ordered them from a place in Canada that uses a material we don't use here in the US. They are light weight and look FANTASTIC. They sent back and forth between TX and Canada. The end result is that they look terrific, come very close to the look of her natural teeth (they asked for pictures) and they fit well. She has had them 3 weeks now. She needs some "glue" for the lowers which is par for the course for everyone I know who has had dentures, but the top she needs nothing. She says that they are comfortable and she has been eating all sorts of things she has not been able to eat in several years.
The cost of the place in Canada was about half what she priced them for in the US AND they are very custom made with special tooth shapes and she even chose the color (which I told her to shoot for the white color of her eyes because that is perfect).
Of course you want your natural teeth! But you have to ask yourself if the pain you are going through is worth going through the rest of your life. That is your call. If you were getting dentures because you didn't want to go through what you have been through, that might be different. If what you have been through netted another 20 years for the life of your teeth, it would be different. Where you are now is where my friend was...this is adversely impacting your health and well being, not just your pocket book. My friend was down to eating peanut butter and drinking milk, or eating baby food if she was hungry for fruit. She was turning other foods into liquid in order to put something in her stomach and in the end, she pretty well stopped eating.
Get dentures, enjoy eating and smile. This is how my best friend is now. She grins all the time at everyone and she looks wonderful.
A very good friend of mine had ablation and no regrets.
She has no more periods. This is just a little over a year, and she was having very serious problems, had to have transfusion twice due to the heavy bleeds prior. She was willing to try this before hysterectomy, and it worked for her.
No regrets to any of those.
Now ask me about regrets of letting my ass get as wide as it is or not getting braces when I was younger...or not becoming a pilot, or choosing the right Powerball numbers, or not being the inventor of the wheel....
regrets
I don't regret my first marriage or my 3 children through that marriage. They have brought me more joy than I ever imagined possible (I am blessed with great kids). I do regret that divorce though I had no control over it.
I do regret my 2nd marriage(a very short one) - and don't regret that divorce which I initiated. You live and learn I guess. I think at 49 I'm finally starting to get it right. 
not really regrets, but
I can see how much easier my life could have been had I chosen to get married a little later in life (I got married at 18), after having some independence first. I also think it could have been easier if I had chosen to have kids about 5 years or so later (waited nearly 5 years). Then again, I'm so glad all 3 of my kids have been sleeping through the night since I was about 29 years old. I don't know how those who have children later tolerate that part of it. I love my uninterrupted sleep.
Overall, though, I am blessed with 3 great kids and a husband of nearly 21 years. It has been very, very tough, but no regrets. :)
No Regrets At All
I didn't get married until I was 30 and had my last child (2nd) at 41. I wouldn't change it for anything in the world. I'm very happy with my life,my husband and my daughters. It's sad that some people regret getting married and/or having children, although I don't know everyone's circumstances and I don't judge others because of that.
Regrets...
I guess I would say I regret my first marriage (I very young, we had 2 children, but he was a wife beater) but my kids would not be here if not for him...I regret my very short 2nd marriage (very nice guy, handsome, had a great job) he deserved someone better than me, he smothered me too much with love and I could not handle it...but then I would never have met husband # 3 who is wonderful, all that #2 was and more, but I am older and wiser now...this is it, no more husbands for me!
Regrets
Dum-Dum - What a wonderful philosophy! I'm struggling to get to that point myself. I went through two marriages/divorces with the same person - if anything, I regret taking so long to realize he simply cannot be the man I need - not won't, can't. I don't regret having my children, even though my youngest (the one I thought would be closest to me throughout life as she was in childhood) doesn't even acknowledge me now. I'm alone now - by choice - but I'm trying to have faith that doesn't necessarily have to be my situation for the rest of my life.
Absolutely no regrets! sm
My hubby and I have been married almost 20 years. We married when I was 20 and he 22. I look back now and think how young we were (our kids are 14 and 16)definitely no regrets there, but if either comes to me at the age of 20 saying they want to get married I will say No way in He!!. Not becuase mine is bad, actucally quite wonderful, but I now know the importance of getting an good education. I do regret not going to college.
Minor regrets
The only real regret I have is in believing him when he said he was going to "be a father" and stay home every time I tried to regain custody. The younger boy suffered for this because he was left home more often after the older was grown. No, he didn't try to take the kids right away. I think he waited until he saw I was completely overwhelmed with single parenting and then pounced, two years later. I have ABSOLUTELY NO REGRETS about leaving him!!! I never would have my 22 year healthy marriage and two kids with my present husband, who is a honey in every way, had I not left.
Any regrets leaving the Q?
They're getting on my last nerve, but there are those that say that being an MT is pretty much the same everywhere. I hope not; I'm tired of having multiple different hospitals during each shift.
No regrets whatsoever..sm
only wish I could have had it done 5-6 years sooner!
To those of you with dentures sm
How long did you have to deal with sore spots? Gosh, I got mine on Tuesday and developed two almost immediately right at the canines. One side settled down but the other got worse. Talk about pain. The extractions don't hurt at all, just the sore spot. I just came back for my second followup visit and he ground down the irritating part of my denture and it really does feel much better. I use warm salt water and, he-he, soak the upper denture in ice water for 20 minutes and put it back in. I've been taking them out at night, per Dr. orders and so far, so good. Just that dang sore spot driving me nuts. It even hurts to smile. Any other ideas to relieve it?
Dentures
I posted a link for you. Take your teeth out and let the sores heal. You will get a lot of relief with this product. It tastes terrible, but it works great. It takes a little while to get used to the dentures, but you will. The hardest part is learning to eat with them. At first you feel like you have a mouth full of "whatever" and drinking was the hardest for me. Everything dribbled down my chin! It is not uncommon to have to adjustments to the teeth in the beginning. This period won't last long. Hang in there and enjoy your beautiful new smile!
To those of you with dentures
Hi, I had 21 teeth exractated at once and dentures put in the same day a year ago in March. There is a chain of denture places called Affordable Dentures and for the extractions and the denture package I chose, it was approximately $1800, however, that included the extractions, my temporary dentures and then after the gums healed my permanent dentures. I would suggest that anyone considering this check out their website. They do NOT make appointments, so you have to get there on a "first come first served" basis and some of the offices cannot make the temporary dentures the same day, so you have to return the next, but the savings is well worth it.
Also, if you have dental insurance, you will still have to pay for the dentures up front, however, if you submit it to your insurance company, they will reimburse you.
Here is the link:
www.affordabledentures.com
Dentures
Don't be scared Lucy. It is wonderful not to have toothaches anymore. I was able to return to work the following day. It does take some time to adjust to them, but we all do. Good luck! Go for it!
Lilly
Dentures
Wow DumDum - what an experience. I am very sorry to hear that you went through such a rough time. However, I don't believe that is the norm.
I did not get dentures by choice. I had a disease that literally rotted my teeth out of my mouth - and what horrible pain I went through. I had a perfect fit and very little pain from day one. My teeth are beautiful now. I get compliments on them all of the time. Fortunately, all of my friends and family who have dentures also had positive experiences too.
Good luck on your decision.
Lilly
Unfortunately everyone I know who has dentures
say many of the same things. I think the only time anyone should even consider it is if it is absolutely necessary for health reasons. If for cosmetic reasons, today there are just so many other options and even a partial is better than full dentures.
Has anyone ever had to get dentures? sm
I am contemplating what to do and this is one of my options. I was wondering how hard it was to get used to them (this would be top only) and also about how much it cost. I have dental insurance but I just was wondering a ballpark figure. TIA!
Dentures . . .
I had the same questions a couple of months ago. Do a MT Stars search with keyword dentures.
Get the dentures! I have a not so quite
horrible mouth and I am getting a couple of dental implants and a couple of bridges. I don't care how much it costs, I'm doing it so I can have great teeth again.
Get the dentures and be through with
all your problems, not to mention the money you will save because dental insurance is definitely not the best. I do know what you mean. My dad had dentures by the time he was 30 and I inherited his teeth. I am 50 and have had several root canals, so I know what you are going through. It is not worth the risk you are taking with your health.
Did she already have dentures
or were these her first ones? Also, do you know if you have to have already had all your teeth extracted to order from there? I don't have dentures, but it sounds like a great place if I need to get them
No regrets, chalk all up to experience. :-) (nm)
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Add one more "no regrets" to your list
My fibroids started to grow when I got pregnant and six months after I gave birth they were still huge (about the same size as yours - my doc said my uterus was about 16-week size). I had my hysterectomy at 34 and it was one of the best things I've ever done, health-wise. I had horrible periods since high school. I remember my mom picking me up from school and having to pull over to the side of the road so I could throw up.
Good luck to you. The main advice I would give is make sure you rest the FULL time your doc recommends. My incision actually wasn't that painful until I tried to do too much and pulled a muscle in it. Yeeeeouch!
So rest, take care, and you should be fine!
No question, I'd get the dentures
I am your same age and, having been through a couple of root canals, with the problems you describe, I'd get the dentures.
I believe what you describe comes from a congenital weakness of the teeth, as my daughter-in-law's family has many of the same problems with the result that the affected members of the family had false teeth by the time they were in their 30s.
You gave it your best shot. There's nothing more you can do.
Get the dentures, but be proactive about the fit and look.
My MIL had horrible teeth and refused to address the problem. She was in constant pain, her gums were bleeding, her lips swollen, and her breath was unbearable. When she finally called me one day, she was weeping from the pain. I was able to bet an immediate appointment with our dentist, who happens to be a family member. He had seen her for years at family events and watched her suffer through meals, etc. When I brought her in, he was almost afraid to touch her. He said he had never seen such a bad state of a mouth before in anyone living or dead. (He works for the health department from time to time identifying bodies from dental records.) She was truly a wreck. The infection she had had in her mouth could easily have spread to her organs, and she has known valve issues.
After quite a long process of extraction, healing, and fitting, she now has new dentures. She used to smile and show black teeth through swollen lips. Her face is completely different now that the swelling is gone. She no longer has bad breath, and she can eat anything she wants. She did have a very difficult time with fitting her dentures because of the damage done to her jaws by the infection. As that healed and bone grew back, she needed to have the dentures adjusted, and I believe completely replaced at one point. At first, she didn't want to return when the fit was not perfect, but we all pushed her to do so, and now she is glad we did.
You're teeth will not get better on their own. It sounds as if you have a complicated dental history, so it may take some time to get dentures that fit well. Give yourself some time and communicate with your dentist.
Good luck! I know you must feel miserable. I hope this improves for you soon.
I would also opt for dentures. But get a really good dentist....sm
Sooner or later you will have to get dentures anyways, it looks like that.
Whatfor AL the pain and torture in between?
And do not accept dentures that do not fit or are uncomfortable. Send them back to the lab until the fit is perfect, this is your right, dentures are expensive and if they do not fit right, you will have all sorts of pain, headaches etc...
I had bridges done and I sent them back thrice until they fit, without extra charge. The fist set looked like a 'rollercoaster'!
It seems that you suffered your whole life from calcium deficiency.
a friend's b/friend died last year, drank, took vicodin...
No, he is not..I have a friend...
coming to feed the cats (live in the country, have 8 outside cats!) and 3 inside cats. I feel bad making her come and mix food for him...we live 25 miles from town. A vet told me that he will either eat or just drink water and would be okay...but I will worry about him! I have been cooking extra chicken, turkey, etc. for him..my husband says he is spoiled!
I had a friend who had those and
apparently they just observe them. Maybe you should get a second opinion if you are having pain. Hope you feel better. 
too bad- my best friend
has 'the gift.' That is about the only way I know to put it. She cleans my house for me and she can do in an hour and a half what it would take me all day if not two days to do. And it just looks so clean and bright and shiny when she is done!! LOL I mean, there is clean and then there is CLEAN!! And when she folds my laundry I don't even need to iron it later! We have the best deal worked out- she has one of my vehicles on a sort of 'permanent loan' and I pay the insurance on it and I also try to pay her a little extra here and there, and she comes over and helps me keep my house clean and helps me stay on top of my bills. I have a pretty bad case of ADD.
If you were in this area I would maybe lend her to you for a while, LOL. I know she would like to find just one or two 'regulars' that she could clean for to make a little extra money on the side.
Friend
If she is really a good friend, stick with her. REAL friends love you warts and all. If her behavior is causing you true anguish and she is an acquaintance... go your separate ways. Money comes and goes -- true friends don't.
Lilly
My friend's SON. not MOM!
Sorry for the typo. I am a BAT brain today!
Friend? Some friend! sm
Yes you should be mad, but only at yourself. Giving $$ once I can see. Maybe twice. You have been used by this 'friend'. Doesn't matter how nice you think she is, you have found out otherwise. You are out $$ which you generously gave in thinking it was being used to help her out, yet she has taken advantage of you and therefore, that speaks reams about her character, or lack thereof. I would be disappointed in her and mad at myself for falling for her sob story. I'd tell her exactly how I felt from the heart and would end the friendship since it was based on lies. She has the characteristics of a con woman. Time to cut the losses and move on...and learn!
friend
If it is something that is opening her up to being hurt in anyway most defintely i would tell them. It is their choice then to decide what to do. You know how some parents really shouldn't be parents and others are great parents!
friend?
I actually had to call a parent before. My daughter had asked ex-friend to stop writing things about her in her online diary which she did for a while. When it happened again, with a statement to the effect of you asked me to stop writing about you, too bad!, I called the mother and had a little chat. Never happened again. In this case, she actually used my daughter's name so I brought up the fact that it was libel. Print out the bulletin to show parents if you have to.
Friend
I would want to know if it were my daughter. It might get complicated when you first tell them and could cause problems but in the long run you may very well be saving her life. Please don't hesitate to tell the parents.
been where you are, my friend -
I am so sorry. I know this is hard, but here is an idea to try. Have your vet get you some Buprenex to administer at home. It is a very small amount of liquid you give via syringe inserted between her cheek and her teeth. You shoot it into the mouth. Takes less than a second and is painless. It is absorbed nearly instantly. It also causes far fewer side effects than most pain killers. This has worked like a charm when my cats had to have teeth pulled, for one that had all its teeth pulled due to severe stomatitis, and one who had oral cancer in his jaw. Try baby food (the meat types) and AD canned mixed with Pedialite to get food in her and keep her hydrated. You will know when it *is time* to let her go, but please give these things a try and let us know how it goes! My best to you.
Thank you - about my friend (sm)
She was a Christian and throughout her illness she asked for prayers for God's will to be done, not for her healing (although many of us still prayed for her healing). Many of the people posting on here blowing the horn about what great Christians are, are not acting the way true Christians should. I will admit to everyone that I am confused. I can't answer the questions about the suffering that goes on. I am not going to say that those people suffering just didn't have enough faith. The fact is you are not going to get what you want just because you pray for it. You might and you might not. I still believe, but many things in the world still don't make sense to me. I think somewhere along the way, we have gotten the message confused. I posted a link above about some little children who I think have it right.
A friend of a friend has had it done - sm
She did it about a year ago and has lost over 100 pounds but recently starting having severe problems. They ended up having to take them out as she was unable to eat at all basically; nauseous, constant vomiting, etc. She feels much better now though. Not sure of the details but that is the basic gist of it for her.
I'd be mad...no one else is her friend, so why should you be? (sm)
No reason for you to put up with her any more than anyone else does. She's just a snob - maybe if everyone ignores her for a while she will get the hint!
Friend?
Ever hear of a toxic relationship? Sometimes they are terribly hard to break, but you will be much better off if you cool it with her for a while, just see her when you absolutely have to.
I have a friend that did this went from Bob to Rob - sm
I just had a hard time switching to the new name as I had known him for years as "Bob". To him it was more an acknowledgement of his coming out as gay I think. I could care less that he was gay (and had known for a long time before he "came out") but he got mad that I would not call him Rob and so cut off all contact (we are on opposite coasts now, and then, so it is not a big deal either way). Upsetting to lose a friend over something so stoopid, we were both wrong I'd say, I should have tried harder and he should have cut me some slack as I had been a good friend for years. ---This guy's family you mention probably has the same problem, they know him as "Michael"; he should cut them some slack as that is what they are used to. My brother is named Mike, and we all call him Mike, my SIL is the only one who calls him Michael (he has never asked us to call him Michael though). I think he should just learn to live with it and use his new name with new friends and leave his family alone.
I have a friend like that too, SM
She does have a chronic medical condition, but is doing very well. She exercises with a personal trainer several days a week, takes long walks every day, and recently helped her stepdaughter remodel her home! However, she has a handicapped sticker (she brags about never having to walk very far in the winter) and not only that, is on SS disability. She hasn't worked in several years. Oh -- and if her DH or one of her teenagers runs errands, they take her van so they can get the close spots too. :(
And yeah, maybe I'm being judgemental too, but I agree with you 100%.
friend...
You know I guess some people are different but if someone pays $1000 for something I AM NOT asking to borrow it. I don't like borrowing other people's things. If I break it I feel it is my responsibility to replace it. So I just don't. Some people have no problem with it.
Friend
My good friend had a baby 8 days ago. Beautiful baby boy! Well her husband took off work 2 weeks to spend time with the baby. Her mother also lives with them and helps her too. Her mom also took off a week. Well I am friends with her mom also. We talk on the phone too. I thought I would not call and bother my friend until her husband went back to work. She won't talk on the phone if her husband is home. I know, don't ask. They don't want to take away from time with each other from what I understand. I personally do talk on the phone when my husband is home. Different strokes for different folks I guess. Anyway me and my friend always talked on the phone before the baby was born almost every day. Unless her husband was off work. Well since she has had the baby and her husband went back to work, she just has withdrawn herself. Doesn't want to talk to anyone. Made the comment to her mom that she doesn't want any company. Her mom called yesterday and I knew my friends husband was working so I told her mom tell her to call me later when she gets a chance. The baby sleeps alot so I figured she would. But she didn't. I guess I am just confused. I never went through that. I wanted to talk to friends. After a few days of recooperating I wanted friends to see my baby and all. But I don't understand her. I know every one is different and I just have to respect her wishes but I as well as another friend of hers is confused. I should also mention her baby was born with clubbed feet. She has really been upset about this and asked me in the hospital not to tell anyone. How can this be hidden when the baby will wear casts for a while? I am wondering does this sound like postpartum depression?
friend...
That is why I haven't went. I am respecting wishes. I did not say I was going to go by unannounced. I am honoring her wishes so therefore I am being a real friend. I considered sending a card though.
No, I only had a best friend
back when I was about 12 or 13. I open up to people and think I can trust them and just when I do they turn on me. I don't trust people anymore, been hurt to many times. I see this all the time where I hear ladies talking and hanging out shopping and having a nice time and wish I had that with a friend.
best friend
I have not had a best girlfriend since college. . My fiance is my best friend now. . I like the idea of having a best friend but I think I am not trusting enough. . My daughter has had a best friend since she was 13 - she is 23 now - and I really think they will continue their friendship - I hope so. . I think it is a good thing, just doesn't seem like it is going to happen for me.
I like your friend. . .
xx
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