My best friend is in Peurto Rico this week sm

and I can't possibly talk to husband since it involves his family and he gets so defensive and turns it around onto me whenever it is brought up. Many of you know me on this board as the daughter-in-out-law. My husband has 3 sisters - all hate me, yada, yada, yada. Mother in law sits back passive, says nothing  - is sweet to my face, but ugly behind back. My nearest relative is 1,200 miles away so besides my friends and mom-via-phone, I have no one (Oh, I have God - I am a Christian 100%). Here is the dilemma.  After years of crap from my SILs hating me (without me doing a thing - never liked me from the start), last year it all came to a head. My husband would stick up for them (I am NOT kidding) and it would literally drive me nuts and I'd be SO hurt (sometimes I think he's just like them that's why). Before this I've never had an enemy. Just them. I'm VERY friendly and fun - very outgoing, talkative.  But last year his sister wrote him an email saying she was having a party for her son and to bring the kids but I was NOT TO COME.  He finally shaped up after 5 years of this nonsense and wrote back and said, "if my wife isn't invited I'm not coming." She became FURIOUS at him. Called him all kinds of names, etc. I swear, I have the emails to prove this mess. So a WHOLE year goes by and we haven't heard from his family except his mom (which has been wonderful). Until a few weeks ago. She sent an invite to the house to husband and kids for this past Sunday - and he went.  She emailed him at work this week about his mother's BD party at the sister's house for Thursday night.  She said come by and bring the boys. Let me know if you're coming so I know how much food to prepare. Can you believe the gall my husband has to ask me "so, are you going??"  this is the same sister who told us a year ago I was never to step foot into her house again after I FINALLY after 8 years told her to go to you know where and stay there! So, she's sliming back into our lives - never apologized for hurting our family like she has done for the past 8 years - just invites for my family but not me.

The problem is that I can't talk to my husband about it. He thinks since I'm a Christian that I should go to her house, apologize to her, suck up to her, show her love and get over it! He gets mad at me when I say, "I'm not going. I'm not going to your mom's for mother's day, for your birthday, or anything. They don't like me." He KNOWS his family hates me.

I swear, if I wasn't a Christian I'd leave him over this. I hate that we are divided over it. but he won't see my position. He never has.  Okay. Not looking for advice. Just needed to vent!  I haven't had to deal with them for about a year now - UGH! In laws - can't stand them!

• My best friend is in Peurto Rico this week sm - woman to woman
  • You should read your post - mt65sha
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      • I agree with you on that. I saw it for myself when my niece married. SM - My humble opinion
      • Thank you so much for your kindness. It's just what I needed sm - woman to woman
    • I, too, am a Christian. I totally agree with some of what you - Wannie
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Not sure where to start here -- but I'll try to make this short and sweet.  In a roommate situation till I can get some bills paid.  Roomie sitch is a male and female couple and myself and I have a " significant other" who has lived with a male roomie for 12 years.  Nothing FUNNY is going on with the roommate situation and for me, here in the Miami area, just working and "digging out of the hole" so to speak. I rent a room am able to use the house where I live.

Thursday, I ended up getting a new cell phone after BATTLING with S carrier for a month.  It was a Motorola Q and while I know computers  -- this thing baffled me  -- Monday morning and it might be a return  -GRR.

Sorry, OLD lady here and I digress  -- anyway, with all the S***on Monday after being gone from my place for 3 weeks, the FEMALE roomie has done nothing but get on my case -- when I returned, unpacked, worked, and went to Long John Silvers.  The rest of the week, I had frozen shrimp and used a SMALL portion of her pasta. What I did not eat was put in a plastic container  and sealed in the fridge.Basically griping the whole week  -- NOTE -- she does not work and her BF supports

Thursday, was on the phone with Sprint, got new phone, went to Wal-Mart and got my haircut (after about a month and a half) and back to the house.  I then tried to get "new phone" working right and on with techs to very little avail, so gave it up and went to bed.  SO called me Friday morning and I loaded my car to make the trip to Miami  -- Friday afternoon, I get a call from the "female roomie" about the "mess I had left  -- 1 plate in the sink from pasta she had made and OFFERED, the restt of the shrimp was in the fridge, and when I cook, I clean afterwards.  The only thing in the sink was a plate, fork and coffee cup  -- I get a call Friday and she was BALLISTIC --telling me that she wasnt my maid etc -- HELLO?

Saturday, I was busy cause the new phone didnt work right and my son and his GF flew down here to go on a cruise so not online at all  -- I sign in late tonight and she had sent threats via my Yahoo account -- I really, HONESTLY think that because her "boyfriend controls her"  Here again too, she has no DL  -- NO car and if she dosent answer her phone, he would call my cell, but that changed when I changed my #  --

I'm rambling but...is this a thing where I call the "authorities" ?  I have done enough psych transcription -- BUT to get her to a hospital Im not sure what to do.

I am sooooooooo sorry that this was long but 3:45 here and I am REALLY scared of going back there tomorrow

Thanks

Go to after school activities (including sports), work (very limited hours) and church.  They are allowed on Friday and Saturday (I have two teens by the way) to make any plans that they want within reason of course.  Sunday is for church and family dinner unless other arrangements are made WAY in advance.  I have two younger ones too and they will have to abide by the same. 

Good luck!

I was gonna toss it, because it's just this little mouse that looks like a ladybug (queer, I know, but I'm like that!).  My husband is a gadget freak and took it apart, which consisted of removing 1 screw to separate the "shell."  Inside it was a TON of lint that was messing up the wheel.  He just blew it out and it was good to go.  Might want to give that a shot before ya chuck it.  This mouse is an optic mouse though, no ball on the bottom.  On the old ones, you can remove the ball and clean it as well if that's the case.

brought some movies along to catch up on.  I watched 27 Dresses, which was just okay.  I loved PS I Love You.  Also been watching The Office with my sister and DS, and Emergency!, which aren't exactly movies, but lots of fun.  It's been a great week with my family.  Almost hate going back to work on Monday!

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I always overspend cause there's always something on sale that I will need sooner than later. DH goes by the list and the list only.

I live in PA and there are only 2 of us now.

Cigarette companies told the store I buy mine that they decided to put it in before its mandatory. Really nice of them. They just want to make that extra $$. Took the cost up $10 a carton and mine are generic.

PA wants to tax extra too, which would be another $5-$10. I would quit but I've tried to quit 6 times and now smoking MORE. Nothing worked.  In reality, though, I don't smoke that much. They burn away. I light up, start doing something, and next thing I know, it's down to the filter. That's worse than smoking IMHO.

I'm afraid to try Chantix. My son had horrible nightmares on it and I already have bad nightmares at times, so don't need to add to them.

I absolutely envy anyone that can quit. I will try again some day, but right now. I don't think I want to go through the withdrawal I go through. BTW, I've been a smoker for almost 50 years.

What do people do with their kids during these breaks?  I feel overwhelmed!  Normally I only see the kids when they are tired out from school.  My kids don't nap anymore, but I sure need one!