My SO is too busy working to have many outside interests.

• Is your hubby active? - CAMT
  • We ride motorcycles together. (nm) - clhmt
  • You should be thankful that he wants to stay home--sm - ks
  • My husband does community plays....sm - Georgia gal
  • My SO is too busy working to have many outside interests. - sm
  • mine too - hort
  • My husband is a runner and is very active in his track club. - Get outside

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for having a slap fight with another child before school started.  I will never in all my life forget that.  It was awful and felt even more so because I am female.  I don't know what your daughter did to deserve this, but whatever it is as opposed to paddling she should be asked to write a report on why whatever she did is not appropriate.  It should have to be so many words and so many paragraphs, grammatically correct, and put forth in a positive manner.  I can see her having trust issues with men after this paddling situation especially older male figures in years to come. 

I hate to sound judgemental, but your post comes off like you are just way to busy to deal with your children when in fact you are responsible for them until they are 18.  I sure hope she doesn't hold this against you, but that's what I did at first.  I blamed my Mom for letting this man paddle my private area. 

yesterday i took my son to ball practice to see if he wanted to join.  the friend i talked about in this post, his mom was there.  (i knew the boy played ball, that's why my son wanted to play ball too).  so i told my son that we'd go watch and see if that's what he wants to do.  so i'm sitting there talking with the mom and i told her that i was a little scared of my son playing football because of getting hurt, etc.  that he had already had two broken bones.  she said that her husband (the dad that kicked the dog), has had several broken bones, from wrecks and she said when he was younger, he used to fight (like street fighting type stuff, not boxing).  but she said that he doesn't do that any more, we grow up as we get older.  i thought to myself, i guess he just beats up dogs now.  i'm going to check into what rescue groups are around here.  it's very obvious these dogs don't go to the vet for checkups.  even if there is no child abuse going on, the kids are going to think it's ok to hurt animals.

thanks for your opinions

The population of this country is 300 million.

160 million are retired.
That leaves 140 million to do the work.

There are 85 million in school.
Which leaves 55 million to do the work.

Of this there are 35 million employed by the federal government.
Leaving 15 million to do the work.

2.8 million are in the armed forces preoccupied with killing Osama Bin-Laden.
Which leaves 12.2 million to do the work.

Take from that total the 10.8 million people who work! for state and city governments.
And that leaves 1.4 million to do the work.

At any given time there are 188,000 people in hospitals.
Leaving 1,212,000 to do the work.

Now, there are 1,211,998 people in prisons.
That leaves just two people to do the work.

You and me.
And there you are,
sitting at your computer, reading jokes.
Nice. Real nice.

My biggest problem is that the strands of my hair are very, very fine.  Had a hair stylist tell me that was caused by hollow follicles and poor diet.  (well, I KNOW I eat awful but am trying to at least get in more water and less caffeine now).  I have no idea if she's right or not about the hollow follicle thing, but -- I went to Sally Beauty and found Folicure vitamins for hair.  I'm sure there are plenty of other brands out there.  I figured if it was a root problem it might take a while to see a difference (my hair is about 2 inches past my shoulders).  I have been taking the vitamins for a little over 2 months.  Hair is not thicker yet but seems stronger and healthier in appearance.

I also suffer from dry, brittle, frizzy hair - especially in winter.  The wonderfully helpful lady at Sally Beauty also recommended several months ago Excelsior's Millennia Mudd.  You use it after shampooing instead of conditioner, let it sit for several minutes, and then rinse out.  It has DRASTICALLY improved my hair.  I used it every day (she said this was safe to do) for a couple weeks and really noticed a difference.  Once I felt my hair was improving I cut back to 3-4 times a week now.  It has eliminated my split ends and makes my hair feel incredibly soft.

Lastly, the same hair stylist gave me this recommendation - of course, she was trying to sell me the pricy salon product but I said no and went to Walmart for a product that fit my budget better.  She said to apply a thick, creamy, leave-in conditioner on the "ends" - meaning about half the length of my hair.  Not to the roots as then it would look oily or greasy.  This you leave in and do not rinse out.  I have been using Nexxus Humectress Ultimate Moisturizing Conditioner.  Now, my hair is also naturally curly so if I brush my hair out after drying it still fluffs up considerably (kids say I'm a poodle) BUT, it is not brittle feeling and it not breaking off when I try to comb it.  (I got a free sample of Fruictese -- sp?? -- version of leave-in cream conditioner - it fells kinda sticky or tacky or something.  Did not like it as well.)

Sorry, that was a little long-winded.  This combination seems to be working well for me.  Hope it helps you too. 

Work the 3-11 shift.  We home school, so in the early morning everyone gets assignments and explanations, all questions are asked and answered about the day's assignments.  After this process is underway you can go in the kitchen and start dinner for late and make lunches to refrigerate   Then about lunchtime, around 11 or so, you can check the work and see if there are questions.  Then give out all the "quiet stuff" like reading, any math that can be done independently, and projects for when you first start your work.  Write down for them any instructions or what you think they need to know so as not to interrupt you.  We take a break from 12:00 to 1:30 for lunch and then allow one video game or exercise tape (which they love to do - try Dance, Dance Revolution, it is so much fun).  After that, they go outside and do chores in the yard with me for one hour and then half an hour before I start I go over their "homework and chores" that they are expected to do independently.  They do fine with this and I am available to talk to (unless there is something urgent) every time I take a "break."  They set the table for dinner and have chores to do and if they finish in time to my satisfaction they can have another video game.   I break to eat dinner with the family, we try to get the kids and husband to wash the dishes, and then I go back to work.  When I take my last break I tuck them in and that is all.  It works for me.  They also get extra allowance if they can work independently because the more indepedent they are they more I make and I pass that long to them.  Run errands only once a week and make that on your day off.  Let the kids help you with that and ask them to make grocery lists of things you need.  That takes an hour here, because they actually like checking around and helping plan menus.  If they are good all week and keep up with their scheduled chores and school then they get a movie once a week downtown on my day off or in the summertime miniature golf or something.  We also have a pool and in the summer if they get it all together they can swim for a half-hour to an hour every afternoon and I take a break for that too, of course.  Swimming seems to create very tired and happy children!  We also let them know what TV show, movie  (or not) they are allowed to watch quietly after dinner if all the homework and chores are done.  They need to know what time bath time is and to check on their clothes for the next day too and how to put away all their things and laundry.  All those chores help them be better little people, better grownups some day, and helps you too.  Ours also takes awesome phone messages so as not to interrupt me! 

If you don't home school your kids then I assume they are gone all morning), so you just cook and clean ahead of time which is lucky for you or not, depending upon your viewpoint.  If they aren't homeschooled then when they get home give them an hour or so, depending on your schedule.  Give them a snack.  Have them set the table, do chores, and check for homework assignments and then get with the same plan.   I find that kids with a schedule do really well and then when the occasional bad day comes along and there is chaos they can actually help you out by knowing what you and they need and when you all need it!  Good luck!