My MIL has been doing this since

before we were married.  At first, I tried to ignore it.  Then I asked my husband to handle it.  Now after 13 years of marriage, if she pisses me off - she hears about it.  I'm not talking about the piddly stuff here.  My MIL has dumped on me since day 1, even not showing up for our wedding.  She has invited us to dinner only to serve it an hour beforehand because everyone else was already there.  She has given Christmas cash $100 to my husband while giving me a $1 bottle of aloe from the Dollar Store (the sticker's hard to miss) and saying it's for my dishpan hands that I should have.  My FIL was no better (he's dead now).  He made comments that the race of my unborn child would not be ours because I was probably with someone else.  When they came to visit our son for the first time, he said he was checking out all the guys on the way here so he'd know which one he belonged to.  I have never given them any reason to believe I would ever cheat on their son, but that's how they've always treated me.  My MIL even went so far as to urge my husband to have DNA testing done on our 3 children, which are undeniably his.  Of course, my husband said he would never waste money like that.  I can go on and on, but the bottom line is my MIL is a b*tch. 

A few years ago, after she really hurt my husband and insulted my family, I picked up the phone and told her about it.  She was upset and tried to act like she didn't know what I was talking about, but she knew darn well what she did.  I told her she could say anything she wanted about me or even my family, but hurting my husband was where I drew the line.  She's been cooperative ever since.  Not fun to be around, but cooperative. 

I say put her in her place now or she will continue with this.

• In appropriate comments from - mother-in-law
  • Thanks for the responses to - MIL comment
  • I am divorced and now on good terms with MIL, but not while we were married! sm - Lyndia
  • I have problems with FIL...sm - blondie_1147
  • My MIL has been doing this since - mtroadie
    • My heart breaks for you, mtroadie! - Running on MT
  • I think I'd probably do unto them as they were - sticking it unto me. - nm
  • Wow am I glad my MIL is not like that. - me
  • Say nothing if you want it to continue - sm - missy
  • I used to let it slide, but I've been married 23 years. - sm
  • Let it slide - mt

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