My MIL did- every other pregnancy - has 2 kids - sm
Posted By: on 2007-02-22
In Reply to: Anyone have 2 miscarriages? sm - Inquiring mind
Had a son, miscarried on preg#2, had another son, miscarried on preg#4 - no clue if there was a specific reason. I also know someone who miscarried 5 x and the 6th time she was able to carry the baby to full-term. In her case it was her pelvic bones, they just were not strong enough to carry a baby and she would not stay in bed (had to have bed rest the whole time in order to carry the baby), either she finally listened to her Dr. after 5 miscarriages or her bones got stronger (she was rather young 18-22 during all this). I have no idea if she has had more kids as we lost touch.
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I tend to agree with NM poster below because the very first time I got pregnant I told everyone right away and everyone went nuts with excitement, especially the grandmothers to be. Then about 2 1/2 months into my pregnancy I miscarried and had to explain to everyone, and they had to explain to everyone. It was really depressing. I had what they called a "blighted ovum" which means the division of cells never really went very far. So the next time I got pregnant, I waited until after the three month mark. I later found out most miscarriages occur within the first three months. Good question, by the way. Are you pregnant for the first time?
I also had googled a TL with my last pregnancy...
5 years ago to research it and had found that informative site. It scared me into not doing it and glad I didn't. I'm on the Pill and hardly get a period, plus it lowers your chances of getting cervical cancer due to not ovulating. I would say no to doing it. I feel bad for the women who have.
intrauterine pregnancy
isn't this such a silly phrase? it hit me tonight...where else would your pregnancy be? LOL
Pregnancy question.
Hello everyone.
I had a question for all you mothers out there. I'm just around the 8 month mark and i was just wondering if anybody had any good tips about sleeping!  I don't want to spend the $50 or whatever it is for one of those body pillows so i thought i'd see how everyone else who didn't want to spend the money was creative enough to get through the night.
Thanks! 
Another pregnancy question.
I'm 32 weeks and sometimes when i'm sitting perfectly still on the couch or something the baby moves and i can hear a snapping sound, like when you bend down and your knee snaps. It's not quite as loud but it's still there. I was wondering if anyone else heard this?! I'm assuming it's my skin stretching or something because i can't imagine the baby has joints popping! lol it just seemed a little weird and just wondering if anyone else has heard of this.
- Thanks! 
No uterus , no pregnancy I would think???- sm
sounds kind of weird. She sounds like a flake. I'd offer to go with her to her OB and try and get the skinny on that one!
Concerning post below about possible pregnancy...
Guess what! I am pregnant. I took 2 tests today and both turned out positive. I am so happy but I am now worrying about health coverage. I do not have any medical insurance. What kind of coverage can I get when I am already pregnant? Please please any advice is much appreciated. Thanks!!!
Bloating during pregnancy!
I truly hope that one of you have some words of wisdom for me. I'm 7 wks pregnant and my biggest problem is bloating. If I don't eat, I literally get nauseated and want to throw up. When I eat, I feel okay until a few minutes after I eat and then I feel bloated like crazy. I can't hardly wear my jeans for the bloating because it makes me feel miserable. I never had this problem with my first pregnancy. I haven't even gained any weight and so I know I'm not just porking out and getting fat. This is all bloat. ARGH! Please help!!! Any helpful suggestion?
I'm pregnant - 5 weeks along, 1st pregnancy....sm
My husband & I are thrilled that we conceived so quickly, especially with my being 43 and him being 50. We got married in June and started trying then. His 15-year-old daughter and our 6-year-old foster daughter are excited. Next year will be fabulous as we'll be finalizing the adoption of our foster daughter in January and having a baby in June!
Boy - this is so variable. With my first pregnancy, hate to
tell you, I was sick the "whole 9 months", even the day he was born. Every morning at work I had saltine crackers and coke for breakfast(Ugh)as that was the only thing that calmed my stomach down. My two previous pregnancies, I had no morning sickness !
changing your OB in the last month of pregnancy?
I was just wondering if anyone here had any experience with changing your OB in the last month of pregnancy? Or if anyone knows anyone who changed their OB late in pregnancy?
Without going into too many details, my OB was away on a personal emergency this week and her partner was not in the office due to the holiday. I was having some problems this week and I needed an OB on Friday. I called but my OB's office only had a recorded message. There was no answering service. So I stuck it out until Satruday and went to the emergency room at the hospital where I was supposed to be delivering this baby. The Triage Nurse at the hospital was so awful and mean to me that I burst into tears and stormed out of there. She didn't flat out refuse me medical attention, but she gave me such a hard time about being there that she made me feel very uncomfortable, and in so many words she forced me out. She was the nastiest most unprofessional person I have ever dealt with in the healthcare industry. DH agrees.
So now DH and I are totally turned off to that hospital and I don't feel comfortable at all delivering there. Fortunately for us, we have 2 other excellent hopsitals close to our house. The problem is, my OB only delivers out of the hospital where I had this incident. So I was thinking of changing back to my old OB for the end of the pregnancy. He delivered my nephew and my sister said she liked him and had no problems with him. But he has not dealt with me pregnant. I just went to him for 2 annual checkups several years ago, then decided to change over to my current OB because my sisters and friends raved about her.
And it's really been a textbook pregnancy -- no problems with me or the baby. He would just need my records sent to him, and he'd need to know that I will be a scheduled c-section. Really at this point all I need is for someone to go in there and get the baby out for me.
Any advice? Do you think he would refuse my case since I'm 35 weeks already? The whole incident is unfortunate, and I love my OB, but I am so turned off to the hospital that I'd be willing to go with another OB just to be able to deliver out of another hospital where we'll feel comfortable and taken care of.
Very few rapes result in pregnancy. So now what?
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Anyone ever been really heavy and have a healthy pregnancy? sm
Well I am at 325 and pregnant. Yes, I am tall but still that weight is very, very disgusting. I wonder how I got to this place. But I am so worried about my weight affecting the baby. The baby was nto planned - was a complete surprise. A welcome surprise though. But I never thought I would be able to get pregnant while being this heavy. I don't why I thought that but I truly did. I am just wondering if anyone has been really overweight and how it affected your pregnancy. The doctors don't really see any harm in it, or so they say, but I am still a bit worried. Thanks for all input. I am getting the Lap band after I have the baby. I want to be healthy for my family after this and it seems like a reasonable option. Thanks everyone. Have a great Thanksgiving!
I was "only" 65 lbs overweight with 2nd pregnancy...
but I was so horribly ill with 24-hour morning sickness that I walked out of the hospital 12 pounds lighter than I was at the beginning of my pregnancy. I certainly wouldn't recommend that method of weight loss! I was in and out of the hospital the entire time of my pregnancy for dehydration and IVs. Every moment of that pregnancy was a struggle with food; thinking about it, trying to keep it down, worrying about the baby.
In the end, it worked out. He was born 2 weeks early and was 8 lbs, 2 ozs. Within 24 hours I was eating like a horse again, and I was great while nursing for 6 months. But eventually, the glory days of eating and not gaining weight were gone. Now, 17 years after that pregnancy, I'm 80 pounds overweight. Sigh.
I had bleeding for the first four months of my first pregnancy...
and I had a test that said I was not pregnant, so I thought something was seriously wrong with me. My symptoms with the first and the second were nausea and exhaustion, but the exhaustion came well before the nausea. I knew I was pregnant with my second son when I couldn't make it through the day without a nap! Good luck to you and I hope you are!
how much did u gain from swelling in pregnancy?
I am almost 37 weeks along with my first child (girl!). I have gained a third of my pregnancy weight in the last month due to giant man feet and ankles. Yuck! I haven't worn my wedding ring for months-the hands were swollen first, but then came the feet. I had to wear my new found velcro strap sandles to my anniversary dinner this week. I had on a lovely skyblue knit dress with a beautiful blue topaz necklace my husband bought as an anniversary gift, and it was all topped off with my velcro summer sandles. I just had to giggle at myself, but really when no other shoe fits what are you supposed to do?
Does anyone else have some good stories so I know I'm not alone? Thanks.
Donate to crisis pregnancy centers.
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Does it matter what time of day you take a pregnancy test??/
i've read that morning time is the best, but does it really matter? i'm 37, had a tubal after my second pregnancy six years ago. i'm a week and a half late. i've never been this late before. i figured i'd start with taking a home pregnancy test first. i'm anxious to take it and don't want to wait until tomorrow, but heard morning time was the best time.
thanks
Pregnancy outcome lasts 18+ years, sickness usually
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12-year old girl forced to take pregnancy test due to school rumor
NEVADA CITY, Calif. -- A 12-year-old girl was forced to take a pregnancy test at school in Nevada City, a lawsuit filed in Nevada County Superior Court alleges.
The Pacific Justice Institute, which is representing the girl, said in a news release that Steve Davis, a counselor at Seven Hills Middle School, pulled the girl out of class.
KCRA 3 has decided not to name the girl out of protection for her privacy.
Davis heard rumors that she was pregnant and wanted to know if it was true, the release said.
Though she denied it and told Davis a classmate had spread rumors about her in the past, the counselor got a pregnancy test from the school nurse and told the 12-year-old to give a urine sample, the Pacific Justice Institute said.
The pregnancy test was negative.
According to the news release, the girl was embarrassed and humiliated, and her parents were angry when they found out.
They worked with the Pacific Justice Institute to get an apology from the Nevada City School District, but didn't receive one.
The lawsuit, filed Oct. 29, 2008, seeks damages for violation of the girl's right to privacy and emotional distress.
"There is no merit in the claim," Superintendent Roger Steel said. He directed further questions to the district's attorney.
Reached at home Monday night, Davis said he had no comment on the lawsuit.
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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I had it during my pregnancy a long, long time ago. Husband
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Nope, no kids with him, all of our kids are 20 and over.
I would think that some of the $12,000 A YEAR he paid in support for over 9 years should have been enough to save some for college. He paid his dues so to speak, always paid the support on time, had insurance for them, etc. He told them straight up to pay for their own college. Is there something wrong with that?
ESL kids have a label =$$$. When the illiterate kids get a label slapped on them - they will get a
Most public schools do not teach children to read with intensive phonics. It has nothing to do with class size IMHO. The method of reading instruction is what determines if the kids will learn to read or not.
Consider homeschooling her.
Each child represents a $ amount to public school administration. As long as the child attends they get their $. They still get X amount of $ for each year they teach or do not teach a kid to read.
Their compensation is not reduced when they produce illiterate adults.
I believe my kids would still believe . .
had I not got totally busted by my 10-year-old son. My 7-year-old still believes. I always asked as my kids if they believe and when they said yes, I said that that is all that is important. My son caught me playing the EB last Easter. He said to me yesterday, "Come on, a giant bunny hopping around the country bringing easter baskets? How long did you expect me to fall for that?" I about split a gut laughing!!! However, both older children know how important it is to let the 7YO believe, we all watched Polar Express last night and they still were mesmerized!!!
I think a LOT of men are like that with kids
Maybe because since such a high % of marriages end in divorce, some of them keep a distance there. After all, when divorces happen, who gets the kids? Also, women tend to take charge when it comes to the kids and men tend to allow it. I truly believe that kids do not always strengthen a marriage but often the opposite. I have seen statistics stating that more couples with children get divorced than those who don't have any. Interesting, huh? JMO
That's why I won't have kids.
I have totally turned off the need/want to have kids, because I know my husband could never handle it. I don't want to be a single parent...especially a married single parent, know what I mean? It's an incredible commitment and they don't stay portable and nonverbal for long.
What do your kids
What do your kids call you and your spouse? Would you mind if they changed it, as in Mom instead of Mommy, as they got older? My kids call me Mom. If they call me Ma......I correct them, I don't LIKE it!! My son's GF calls me Mommy or Mom, I don't mind. My DIL calls me by my first name, I don't mind that either. I have a stepson, he also calls me Mom.
I do but only to keep an eye on my kids. NM
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Hello......if you want your kids to know...
about STDs and how not to get pregnant, YOU teach them. Why should there have to be programs about that at all? If you want them to have condoms, you buy them, don't ask the school nurse to hand them out. As to the genius of a President...at least he is trying. The one before him was hardly an advertisement for wise choices where sex is concerned ala black dress and use of cigars in a way that NO one ever intended...and committed felony perjury while a sitting President. Oh, but, heck....who cares, right?? Geeeezzz. Gimme a break.
Hello, yourself. If I had kids, I would...sm
Teach them those things. And if you're questioning why there s/b sex ed programs in school at all, why do you seem to be defending the current abstinence-only ones? They're worse than nothing at all because they give inadequate and downright *false* information. How is not having all the facts (or having the wrong "facts") ever a good thing? Just doesn't make any sense to me. If you want Bush to get credit because "at least he's trying" well, that seems like a pretty low standard for the president of our country.
Now as far as Clinton, I never said I was a fan. You're assuming an awful lot there. I don't even want to get into that.
I was one of four kids (sm)
and I was always wishing that my twin sister and I could have parents of our own. Living with mean older siblings was no fun!
Once again, your kids are still not that old
but when my son married, completely absorbed into not only his wifes life (which I am the first to say she comes first) but also her family and I basically just lost a son. Just swallowed up by her side and you would not know he really had a mother anymore. Quit trying on that end some time ago.
Especially with little kids
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Buy them, but keep away from little kids, sm
When my daughter was 2 or 3, she got her hands on one of the poppies in the back seat and must have pulled it apart and put the plastic middle up her nose. We didn't know in the beginning what was there, but after a visit to her pediatrician who couldn't get at it, a trip to the emergency room, a 5 hour wait for an ENT guy with the correct equipment to retrieve it, we discovered it was the middle of the poppy. Since then, whenever I see them selling the poppies, I tell them to warn parents with little kids to keep the poppies away from the kids.
I don't even have kids, and I
think that's coooooolllld.
It's really not nice to try to be scientific or philosophical with somebody who is going through a loss and expresses sorrow.
Did Jesus tell Lazarus' family, "Hey, dont worry about it; we'll all see him in heaven soon!" No, he took pity on them in their sorrow. That's how He is. Let's try to mirror Him, not philosophists and scientists when it comes to people who are hurting.
Probably more the kids
Love my marriage and don’t mind the divorces until I got it right. The kids are ok as long as infant, toddlers and then they grow up. Not my cup of tea anymore.
Kids going out
I have no problem with it, but there's always upwards of 10 children and at least 3 adults to supervise out all the time, but I would never let my youngest go out alone under any circumstances. We have a very quiet neighborhood, but you never know.
Some men have kids, but then
continue to spend as if they are still single. I can't believe how often I see this. They complain when the wife buys clothes, but when he buys something it has an engine and it's a big, dangerous toy!
That's why I can see why some women might want to hide money. Of course not all men are like that.
I used to buy my kids
those paint-by-numbers kits. Kept them occupied for a short time. Also go to a dollar store and load up on some new toys and books without spending a fortune.
She has kids as well
That was the deal - we were taking both of our kids to do something fun together.
kids
My DD (17 YO) has been getting her self up for years on her own. My mom bought her an alarm clock and she started using that to get up on her own. Now my DS on the other hand, is 20 and I still have to wake him up for work...go figure. I think girls are just more responsible that way.
kids...
I've had both of mine doing their own laundry for about 3-4 years now, since my DD was about 12 and DS about 15, maybe younger. My DD could take care of her own place right now (16 YO), but my DS (20 YO) is another story...maybe it doesn't have anything to do with gender after all...
kids...
Oooh, me too! They do their own bathroom, laundry, and bedrooms. I have my own to worry about. It hasn't killed them yet!
No kids, nothing
could make me stay around to be miserable. I feel most of the times I read these posts the women really do not want to live and use children as their reason for staying. I do not think I could ever say I have been miserable, that is really bad. Only you would be able to change your life and only if you want to. Good luck.
I don't even have kids and I still
wouldn't date somebody 20 years younger than me. I happen to like having a few things in common with my mate. However, 5 years younger instead of older would have its advantages, LOL.
Took my kids to see
Billy Ray Cyrus last night and have to admit it was great! That was their first concert and of course now, he is "Hannah Montana's Dad" They really had fun though! He actually sang Achy Breaky Heart while playing his guitar and barely wiggled a hip through the whole song!
Kids!! UGH!!
They can fill you with such joy and pride and then WHAM! You now understand why some animals eat their young.
I had a very similar experience with my braniac son who became a complete and utter imbecile freshman year of college over the girlfriend he was leaving behind.
What about this: Forget the phone, texting, IM-ing, etc. You can't control him and the more you try, the worse it will be. Your concern should be that he maintains good grades. You sit your son down and tell him you will continue to pay for/support him while he goes to the school he is currently attending. If he chooses to leave the school and give up the scholarship, that is his decision, but if he does that, he's on his own. You signed up to send him to school where he is now. He got the scholarship (for 4 years?), and he got a car. You can offer to pay for the new school where the girl of his dreams (this year) is at, the same amount you would be paying had he remained at the old school. Any costs above and beyond are his. If he does transfer, sell the car - he didn't keep his part of the bargain. I am assuming the car is in your name, insured under your policy. He has to learn to be a man of his word and has to suffer the consequences of not holding up his end of the deal. It is not the end of the world. He will/she will meet someone else and then you can enjoy a whole new set of dramas! My son threatened to pack up his stuff and hop the next train home if I didn't pick him up at school and bring him back. I told him you go right ahead and buy that train ticket, but you will need to find a place to live when you get back because the locks will be changed here. I have caller ID and I did not answer his calls for a while after that. As with you, this all took place first semester. He finally decided to "try" to tough out the year. A week later he loved school, broke up with the bimb...ah, girlfriend, and he's now in his 3rd year at the same college.
Time to put some responsibility on your son. You can offer advice, but punishing, demanding, etc. an 18-year-old does not work. Staying calm and rational and explaining consequences is far more effective.
Time to let go a little, mom, and put some of this on him. He's thinking with the wrong body part and he's only thinking about the here and now, not the next 3 years, like the majority of 18-year-old boys do.
Hang in there! Parenting is not for the weak. That drama with my son made me lose 5 pounds, 2 weeks of sleep and half a head of hair, but I did survive.
If she has 10y. IUD, how did he get 2 kids with her?
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did ya have kids w/him? If so, ask the kids...
if there are children with him, from him....they might want them...or another one of his relatives I would think.....
Congrats on getting remarried....
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