My DH spent his check and we have no money for food this week. :(
Posted By: anonymous on 2007-03-02
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Just spent an entire week in FL with brother sm
and his whole family - wife - 3 kids. To make a long story short, my sister in law does not like me. I'm about 7 years younger than she is. She is very jealous of my close relationship with my bro. Always. This trip she made it very clear how much she does not like me at all. I cried a lot this trip. My feelings have been so badly hurt. I've never done anything to her personally - she just hates me. My brother was very standoffish this trip and I know why. He has a very jealous wife. They would just get up and leave and not tell us where they were going or invite us. They NEVER used to do things like that. The whole time, if ever I had a suggestion for dinner or entertainment she would shoot it down with, "I don't want to do that!" I'm talking everything I came up with. What's even sadder is that they have 2 girls - my nieces - 13 and 15 - who used to love and adore me - their aunt - and this trip they were so ugly to me. I haven't seen them in over a year. We stayed in a 2 BR condo on the beach. Pretty small unit. They got the master BR. While walking to my room one evening the 3 of them (sister in law and 2 girls) were just berating me in gossip - talking about what I wore to the beach, the way I styled my hair, just stup*d things. Just gossiping so bad about me. I wanted to cry.
After I heard that about mid-way through the trip, I completely shut down emotionally. I only spoke when spoken to, didn't suggest anything at all to do, and was cordial, but not overly friendly like I usually am. Today when we left, she walked right by me in the hall and didn't say a word. Got into the car and they drove off. I had already said by to the kids and my bro. I cried when hugging my bro. He had his sunglasses on - he probably wanted to cry to. We lost our dad growing up and our mom pretty much abandoned us. We've stuck together until he moved out of state and started his family. I did too. He gets along GREAT with my husband and my kids.
What compels women to act like this? I don't understand it. Why would you want to live in your own prison of hate and bring everyone around you down? I can't stop crying! My brother lives about 2,000 miles away. I want to be close to him and his wife and kids. She won't allow it.
I know I have to just accept this is life and the way it will be. I am having a pity party. Can I say this eloquently without you taking offense? I am hating women right now. No matter how kind and nice I am, I always get slapped in the face. Always. I am a very kind and nice person. My mom always said I had wishbone but no backbone. I guess I just expect others to be kind, too, and when they aren't, I get hurt and I don't understand it. 
Money spent and nothing to show for it
I paid a little over $600.00 for a dinette suite the first of April. They had to order and I called time and time again and finally told the store in August I wanted my money back. No reply. I took out a small claims against the company and the guy did not even show (although he got the complaint because he called me at home and said "I had fallen thru the crack." Yeh- right ! Anyway, by this time had bought another set and asked for just the return. No response to the file and now have gotten a judgement just for his not showing up. I am given a list of several things to collect my money, i.e. file Fi. Fa. which places lien against losing party and any property they own, 2) file garnishment against his paycheck, 3) file garnishment on his bank acct, 4) levy against real and person property (this I would have to contact lawyer for) and lastly turn judgement over to attorney or collection agency for collection. Please, anyone have any ideas on what steps I should take? I would like to not have to spend a lot of money if possible. Thanks
I probably could have spent my time, money, everything
on me because I gave them so much and now it came down to money. One is a me type person and the other, if all they care about is the $$$ and would talk nasty to me, I can wipe my hands of anyone and I mean that, who does not respect me after all I did for them. Most of the posts you read here are mothers who have younger children and most are ok when babies, toddlers but the real life comes as they get up and supposedly have some sense. I did my job and thought I did a good job. Now time for me, me, me.
Save your money, other ways better spent
NM
We got our check last week. We electronically filed our taxes
and check was a direct deposit. This will help us with our home improvements.
For anyone who has received a stimulus check by mail, have you all gotten a letter about a week
before the check stating when it would be arriving.
Money orders vs Cashier's check
When paying of a debt, is it better to send a money order, cashier's check or personal check? With a personal check, at least I know when it has cleared. How do you verify a money order or cashier's check has been cashed? Thanks.
Check Oprah for dog food recipes
She had a repeat show on this week about dog training and dog food recipes. She also had an author on, referencing his book on wholesome foods for pets. I would check her website out for sure. I know we have been scared for our dogs after the recent pet food scare. Our vet previously had recommended feeding our dogs plain hamburger and rice. They love it, but we don't feed them that all the time.
I wish we could all go the week of the graduation but their graduations are always a week earlier th
ours. So actually all three of my kids are still in school this week while all of hers will already be out. My youngest is actually missing school to go but my two older kids have finals so they can't go at all that week.
Thank you. I guess I'm just trying to find a nice way to say it without causing friction and keeping the peace.
My DH is your typical male, just deal with it when the time comes whereas I want to take care of things right away without hurting anyone's feelings.
How much money rasied for Katrina, how much money for the diasters due to the tidal waves and what?
Every single one of them have had some smoke around it with the money not getting to where it was supposed to go. I did not contribute, I hardly watched, was not caught up again as I have seen things like this before. They should give a all you can give benefit for Darfur where people are being massacared each and every day. Genocide going on there each and every day. I have not seen any benefits to help them out yet.
Thank you all so much. I spent about 6
hours last night researching this man and his family via Google and MySpace. I am horrified at what I found - its a troubled family for sure, but they look great on the outside - no what I mean? The house is perfect - the guy is OCD about working in the lawn, etc. Always the appropriate holiday decoration - yet underneath the exterior they are monsters. I found the teenage daughter's MySpace and read thru postings all over, on other friends' boards, etc., and this kid has threatened to do physical harm to many kids - she alludes to bombings, and her screen name has her name followed by Kills. She has lots of posts about bomb threats at her school and sounds bragging about it. Her town name she chose has comments on bombing. Wonder where the kids are getting it from? This is way sicker than I ever imagined. I am mounting my evidence, documenting all this stuff, and just praying that nothing happens to me or my family. I would love to move - just isn't a possibility right now. I am going to research the nursing tonight, but sure got side tracked on the MySpace stuff. The mother/wife even has her own sick site. Its unreal. And its unreal how easy it is to find people on that place. Oh well. Will keep you all posted.
I spent over $64.00 on
green queen sized olives yesterday, eat them like candy.
Good advice was given here. Suggest vet check-up for kitty needs vet check. sm
I've had 2 females over the years who developed stones/crystals in urine or UTIs. Both of them started spraying inappropriately. Never had a female spray inappropriately other than in these instances. They go into spasm and can't help themselves. If it is a urinary problem, eventually you may see slight pink-tinged spray if it gets that far untreated due to the irritation from constantly trying to pee. One more thought is if the kitty is not sick, maybe the other cat won't let her use the litter box for some reason. Maybe set up another box for her.
It's nice, but food prices insane and food is really bad,
xx
that is really sad - spent my honeymoon on
Padre Island - guess the beaches went the way of my marriage - down the tubes!
I was out before 8:30 and spent about an hour
shopping- I do not like to shop at all and mostly this morning bought things for me, like some flannel PJs and some sweaters at the outlet store. The crowd not bad at all- only 1 ahead of me in the checkout. I shop over the net quite a bit but had received flyer and things I wanted I got.
Some time spent with them would be
a gift only you could give.
Last month I spent $321 for 3 of us.
It's just DH, 18 year-old son, and I. We live in the Philadelphia area. We generally eat far less meat than most American families, but we aren't vegetarian. My son commutes to a nearby university and works there, as well. He provides his own lunches, and probably only eats breakfast at home half of the time.
Now, if you want to factor in what we pay for the meal plan for our son who lives away at college, well then... that's a whole other story! KA-CHING!
I have a MIL who was jealous of any time I spent - sm
with my family. It caused a lot of hurt feelings on her side, and just made me angry for the most part. You don't sound anything like my MIL though but it sounds like you did not push the issue and fight for the right to see your grandchildren. In my situation, I married 1 of 2 sons. The other has never married or had any children. We have the only grandchildren for my MIL. She was manic that we have kids though she was vastly disappointed when we had girls and has remarked on this several times in the past. It is true we trusted my mom over her in terms of childcare, etc. though my mom rarely watched the kids as she lived 4 hours away. I did visit my mom at least 4-6 x a year, but I would drop in and visit my MIL and my FIL almost every time as I literally drove right by their house on the way up to my parents. My DH rarely calls his parents, I usually call his mom once a week and chat for a while. She used to never call but lately has taken to calling every 2 weeks or so. We also used to see his parents at least once a month for at least 5 years (now it is every 6-8 weeks), day visits, while my parents only saw the kids 4-6 x a year, though I would stay anywhere from 2-5 nights when I visited. This where the jealously came into play. I was/am very close to my parents and my brothers, much like your DIL I suspect. But I was exceptionally close to my mom, when she died almost 3 years ago my world fell apart. But my MIL was always jealous of my relationship with my mom, it drove her nuts I think. My DH tried to explain to her how close were were but she just could not understand and it caused her (and me) many problems. I would catch such grief from his family when I told them I was going to see my parents/friends, it was as if they wished I did not have a family. Holidays were horrible though we did do an alternating schedule though she would argue with me about that. Things a lot different now as she now gets to be the only grandma, which I am sure she loves. My stepmother is actually better with the kids though and has a great time with them, though I will never be close to her either. My in-laws get just about all the holidays now since my mom is gone and my stepmom wants to be with her kids not her husbands, so I don't get so see my family much anymore, maybe 2 x a year. Much more complicated these days, though we still don't let them (my in-laws) have the kids as they lack in common sense bigtime when it comes to what is safe and smart for my kids. I am not saying that is the case with you as I don't know your particulars of course. But it sounds like you just gave up. I would not try buying your son's love as it sounds like you did try. I know my in-laws tried though we were up front with them with one money gift they gave us that enabled us to pay off our truck in 1 year instead of 4, that it would not buy them weekends with the kids, etc. We told them that if there were strings we did not want the money. Money does not buy love as the Beatles said, very true. I would write back your granddaughter and say you would like to have a new beginning with her and the past is over and done with , and if she ever does want to know the real story, tell her. As for your son, have you even called him and invited him to your new home, it does not sound like it. Sounds like you expect a lot and are upset because they don't do the same for you as they do for the daughter's parents. The daughter controls the kids for the most part (as do most women) so it is to be expected that her family gets their "favor" more. You need to step up and be assertive. My in-laws do do most of the visitings here (we have actually never invited them here, they just call us and say that they are coming down on such and such a day, kind of aggravating), we rarely go up there as my DH just hates going there and really does not like his parents due to a bad upbringing. They really did a number on him. Does your son have any anamosity towards you? Did something bad happen in the past? You are long overdue for a long talk with him though. But I work hard to keep the lines open with them as much as I don't like doing it, I do it. My kids love them and I would never deprive them of that. I hope you take the first step and write to your granddaughter again, and call you son. You have absolutely nothing to lose at this point. Good luck.
how I spent my Monday morning...sm
Just wanted to say how much I missed this community while I was away...take a look at the picture I've linked...that's my neighborhood during our mandatory evacuation from the Marek Fire in California... Didn't know if I should post this here or on the mental health or prayer request boards LOL! Grateful to have my home...and my home office...next time you dread Monday morning...keep this as a reminder to renew your perspective! javascript:editor_insertHTML('text','');
We paid cash, spent about
$1000 total for grandkids and gifts for each other. We are debt free except our house. There is nothing like being able to sleep well at night and not be afraid to answer the phone should it ring. We have lived this way for many years, have learned to save money, pay cash for what we want. This has been to our benefit as we haven't had our CC companies drop our limits or increase our percentage rates at all; in fact, our limits keep rising even though we only use them once or twice a year. The thought of having to pay for something many months and years later is baffling to me.
Perhaps if mother Spears spent more time
parenting and less time pimping her kids all over Hollywood, this might not have happened.
spent NYE playing Rock Band for PS2
a lot of fun though discovered I'm never going to be a drummer (or a singer) :) So I guess I won't quit my day job.
But her money is her money to spend as she pleases -
I don't understand how you can think it is wrong for her to spend whatever she wants to on whatever she buys. It is their personal money they spend. It is not like they are saying give me those shoes and add it to the taxpayer's bill.
And in all actuality, they are saying spend, spend, spend to get the economy going.
I am sorry, I am jealous that some people still have plenty of money to spend and I don't, but I don't expect those people to quit spending just because I had to.
wrong...he spent 4 years in korean schools
Do you mean the actual hours of school. or also time spent
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Spent 2 hours with my kids playing that today - fun! nm
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If father thought child support was not being spent
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My cat only eats dog food and won't eat cat food or even tuna.
LOL
I am using Angel Food Network for help with food (sm)
Being much more careful not to waste food. No more fast food. Soda only if bought in a two-liter bottle, not singles or fountain. Most of my money waste was spent on food.
Pet food recall -- dog food and cat food
http://us.iams.com/iams/en_US/jsp/IAMS_Page.jsp?pageID=PCA&articleID=300003
Getting there early and staying late, time spent on phoning
il
My dog loves coconut oil right off the spoon. Try the health food store. Sometimes in food store,
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Puppy eating cat food, cats eating puppy food...
So I have three cats and a five month old puppy.
Cats eat Felidae, Puppy eats Canidae... or at least that is how it is supposed to be.
Both species eat mainly dry, but puppy gets wet at night when she is in "her room" (kitties do not go in puppy's room at night).
I cannot keep kitties out of Candiae and I cannot keep puppy out of Felidae
Can I relax or is this going to hurt either of them?
Advice very much appreciated!
TIA
I went there for a week but never could get - sm
in the water as it was red flagged the whole time I was there. Stayed at the Oasis, very nice. Only went down to the beach once, ended up stepping on a bee, must have been one heck of a bee as it made me sick (or a reaction)--never had that happen before, luckily only for the rest of the day (2pm on), was fine the next day except for a sore foot. --I recommend Grand Cayman, great beaches, great snorkeling or scuba (the reefs there are amazing), the turtle farm is neat. Can be pricey but not too bad. I've been there about 5 x, plan on going again one of these days.
Since it has only been a week since
they were nursing, this is probably not abnormal, but it can't hurt to talk to the vet anyway. I also agree with below posters, definitely get this girl spayed. I raise show cats and this is most definitely the time of year the girls cycle the most, it is kitten season. Good luck.
The week from you know where
Not sure where to start here -- but I'll try to make this short and sweet. In a roommate situation till I can get some bills paid. Roomie sitch is a male and female couple and myself and I have a " significant other" who has lived with a male roomie for 12 years. Nothing FUNNY is going on with the roommate situation and for me, here in the Miami area, just working and "digging out of the hole" so to speak. I rent a room am able to use the house where I live.
Thursday, I ended up getting a new cell phone after BATTLING with S carrier for a month. It was a Motorola Q and while I know computers -- this thing baffled me -- Monday morning and it might be a return -GRR.
Sorry, OLD lady here and I digress -- anyway, with all the S***on Monday after being gone from my place for 3 weeks, the FEMALE roomie has done nothing but get on my case -- when I returned, unpacked, worked, and went to Long John Silvers. The rest of the week, I had frozen shrimp and used a SMALL portion of her pasta. What I did not eat was put in a plastic container and sealed in the fridge.Basically griping the whole week -- NOTE -- she does not work and her BF supports
Thursday, was on the phone with Sprint, got new phone, went to Wal-Mart and got my haircut (after about a month and a half) and back to the house. I then tried to get "new phone" working right and on with techs to very little avail, so gave it up and went to bed. SO called me Friday morning and I loaded my car to make the trip to Miami -- Friday afternoon, I get a call from the "female roomie" about the "mess I had left -- 1 plate in the sink from pasta she had made and OFFERED, the restt of the shrimp was in the fridge, and when I cook, I clean afterwards. The only thing in the sink was a plate, fork and coffee cup -- I get a call Friday and she was BALLISTIC --telling me that she wasnt my maid etc -- HELLO?
Saturday, I was busy cause the new phone didnt work right and my son and his GF flew down here to go on a cruise so not online at all -- I sign in late tonight and she had sent threats via my Yahoo account -- I really, HONESTLY think that because her "boyfriend controls her" Here again too, she has no DL -- NO car and if she dosent answer her phone, he would call my cell, but that changed when I changed my # --
I'm rambling but...is this a thing where I call the "authorities" ? I have done enough psych transcription -- BUT to get her to a hospital Im not sure what to do.
I am sooooooooo sorry that this was long but 3:45 here and I am REALLY scared of going back there tomorrow
Thanks
I saw a guy last week
who had been a teacher for a school, band and choir I think, who got the 3-X out for being "boring" or something to that effect. Not sure if he is the same guy you are looking for.
During the week, they can SM
Go to after school activities (including sports), work (very limited hours) and church. They are allowed on Friday and Saturday (I have two teens by the way) to make any plans that they want within reason of course. Sunday is for church and family dinner unless other arrangements are made WAY in advance. I have two younger ones too and they will have to abide by the same.
Good luck!
We usually eat out once a week. On the
nights I don't feel like cooking, I have frozen dinners in the freezer, soups, make grilled cheese, and I always have leftovers from the nights I do cook.
My kids love pizza, so our "eat out night" is usually Pizza Hut or Papa Murphy's takeout.
About once a week sm
She is a small poodle, less than 2 years old. She runs outside every chance she gets and gets under the deck. She also sleeps on my bed every night and I will not sleep with something that smells bad. If I enjoyed that sort of thing, I would still be married.
She has very fine, wavy poodle hair. She is oily and if she doesn't have a bath at least every 10 days, she freezes in the winter, even in her cute little sweaters. I give her a bath, let her dry in front of the faux fireplace, and brush her a bit. Next day, she is perfectly warm in her little sweaters and warmer at night too. If she goes very long, she develops so much eye snot that she can't see well. I do my own grooming and I keep her properly trimmed about every other week.
End result is: Gorgeous little apricot poodle who looks adorable and smells like flowers. No dry skin, no flaking, almost never scratches at all unless she has had to go a whole 2 weeks without a bath. This is not too frequently for this dog.
We are at 1-2 x a week, usually just on - sm
the weekends though, and usually quickies as the kids are always here......I am so tired at night that anything more than a quickie is rare and maybe once a month.--My DH is the one who initiates as my sex drive went in the toilet 10 years ago with my first pregnancy and just never came back. I still enjoy it just lost the "urge" for it I guess.
I think this week for sure it's going
to be Matt or Allison. Kris keeps hanging on because the young girls think he's hot, but I actually prefer Matt to Kris voice-wise...
I think Gokey was AWESOME last night, as usual. :)
once a week maybe.
Used to go out more but got sick of eating out. It began to taste all the same. Plus, during the summer, my husband grills out 2 to 3 times a week and it's GREAT!
also once a week....nm
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WHAT A WEEK!!!!
We lost Michael, Farrah, and Ed McMahon!!! I don't follow "celebrities" all that much, but wow! I can't believe 3 in one week.
Same thing I think every week...he needs to go!
If you haven't watched tonight's AI yet, I don't want to spoil anything so don't read this if you don't want to hear anything. All I can say is...what was up with that crying little girl??? But then again, she cried when Melinda sang too so maybe she does have some taste after all!
Did not see the preview from last week.
Well that is good news to see him up and about. Hopefully that will happen today, maybe.
Yes, so sad when Nick and Sharon were screaming and then Nick trying to get back in. May be Nick and Sharon will reunite because of this. I like them together.
I am watching while I am working too. Really hard to get anything done.
In another preview from last week
we saw him sitting up. Hopefully that is a good sign. Didn't your heart just break when you saw Nick trying to run back in the building? OOOOOHHHH, I get too involved. LOL
I have for a week and a half now
I started it a week ago Sunday.. that would be the 17th. I have had absolutely no "treatment effects" as they call them. I have watched what I eat and have switched to some lower fat or no fat products, as far as like cheese, salad dressings, sour cream, things like that. I don't really eat a lot of fatty meat anyway, so that hasn't been anything to deal with. The changes have been pretty simple actually, pretty easy to make. Also with Alli, it only works around the meal that you take it with. So, if you basically want to watch your fat for most lunches and dinners, as I'm doing, you just take it for those two meals. I don't worry about it with breakfast because I usually just have cereal anyway. If you have some occasion planned, dinner out, might be having a meal with more than 15 g or so of fat, just don't take it. It is pretty simple really and if it does nothing else, it keep you honest with those meals you eat when you take it.
uh, your ankle was like that for a week before you went in
"needless to say I am still in pain"....maybe you should not have walked on it for a week without getting medical treatment for it; that is not the hospital's fault....do you see the irony of your statement?
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