My 4 siblings and I had chicken pox at the same time and we're fine. sm
Posted By: justme2 on 2006-10-17
In Reply to: In my day, no vaccine. We all got it. We all lived. - Really
My daughter also had them at 4 months and she is now an honor student in high school. Don't beat yourself up. How attached are you to the pediatrician? If he is always that rude, perhaps you could trade him in for a better model.
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I dunno - how can I be sure they're really my siblings? : ) nm
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Of course not! A small gift is fine for the 2nd time IF you were sm
invited to the "festivities," (showers, wedding, etc.)
Get her a fancy pen for when she writes thank you notes to all of those who are supporting her for the second time! LOL
My dad told me that I got the chicken pox from playing in the chicken coop. I believed him for years
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It doesn't matter "where you stand." What works for you is fine. What works for me is fine.
Comparing ourselves as to frequency is ridiculous.
Thank you! Actually, the fried chicken is chicken strips sm
breaded and fried that I make from scratch. Yes, I buy the 5 pound bag from Sam's club, fry it up and then toss is with my mom's famous teriyaki sauce cut into small, bite sized pieces. With 5 pounds cut up I can make well over 120 pieces. No big deal! Thanks for your suggestions!
Yes, especially if you're around that menopause time, too. This was
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2 years is a long time to be doing what you're doing.
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If you're asking and the love is long gone, it's time. Make copies of all important papers,
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Do you look like your siblings?
I didn't look a lot like my older brother, but I sure did the other brother.
My parents didn't have a baby book for me, (I was the youngest and I think my parents were too worn out by then) and for the longest time I swore I was adopted just for that reason. But we looked too much alike for that to happen.
siblings
My siblings and I are best friends. We have also vacationed together in the past, have rented large homes various places so we can all stay together. Our parents have been married 57 years and at times have tried to pit one against the other (don't know why, think it may be a little bit of dementia) but we just keep going.
Whereas you love/got along with your siblings,
that is not the case for everyone. I had 1 brother (died in an automobile accident over 30 years ago) and right now I could not tell you 5 items I knew about him, not close, never- I felt sorry for my parents for their loss when he died though.
Not true for all siblings - -
not at all. My mother had 2 siblings and the last year of her life the others not speaking to her. Had brother hardly knew. You can only speak for your own family, not others.
I do not see how any siblings could ever speak to him again
Maybe they have forgiven but I have heard (not from my friend) but other members of the family he is a gambler, womanizer and really not someone you would want to be around. This, though the friend says, had absolutely nothing to do with wanting the name change but parents are not always someone you can look up to and honor. I respected my father until I found out about the molestation, then no more.
Sounds like my siblings - I just don't get it!
My parents (the enablers that they are) pay for my sister's son's health insurance and pay for my brother's cable/phone/internet bill, but they all buy their kids a TON of presents for Christmas and their b-days!! My sister is 31 and my brother is 27, so they're both old enough to take care of their responsibilities but refuse to. Their kids are absolutely spoiled, but hey they don't care cuz mommy and daddy are paying their bills for them!! Drives me insane!
being friends with your siblings
Anyone here friends with their siblings now that you are all adults, or do the parent issues always get in the way? We are all getting older and wanting to talk, but our parents are divorced and still cause a lot of trouble and demand center stage.
friends with siblings
My sisters are my best friends. There are 3 of us and we are so fortunate. We all get along so well. Not only that, but our husbands do, too. We even vacation together and all. I am the youngest. The middle one is 6 years older than I, and the oldest one is another 5 years older than the middle so we have an 11-year span. We were never close when we were younger because of that age difference, but as adults, we have grown quite close. I feel badly that not all families share the bond that we do, but I thank God every day to have this family bond. I always thought all families were like mine, but since I have grown up and seen so many broken families, I realize how fortunate I am. I hope you and your siblings are able to learn to become friends. It is a wonderful gift.
How about ideas for siblings and their families? Here's one
I have three siblings, with spouses and children. Not only is it expensive to buy for all of them, but it's hard to know what to get. Last year I went to a craft store and bought cheap baskets on sale. I bought each of them a 2-month subscription to the movies that you get through the mail, NetFlix (can do Blockbuster if you want). I put the gift certificate in the basket along with the big boxes of candy that they sell at the show (.99 cents apiece at Walgreens), a few packets of microwave popcorn, and a 6-pack of their favorite soda. They loved it and everybody enjoyed the movies over the next couple of cold winter months. You can purchase the movie gift certificates on line at their website.
Mine & my siblings' was when we were little kids. (sm)
I lived in Southern California in an area where everyone had citrus trees in their yard, because everything used to be commercial citrus orchards back then. There was an infestation of something called 'red spiders' that were killing orange, grapefruit and lemon trees. Our yard had lots of beautiful Valencia orange trees in it, which my dad took loving care of - fed them special tree food, etc. (We always drank home-squeezed orange juice!)
So on April Fool's day, not long after there had been lots of talk about red spiders being found in trees in our area, we all came running into the house that morning, and breathlessly told our dad, 'We found RED SPIDERS all over the tree by the swing-set!' We acted all shocked & upset, dragged him by the hand out into the backyard, and kept pointing and saying, 'Look! Don't you see them?!' He'd look and say no, he couldn't see them. 'But they're REALLY tiny!' we said, 'You've got to get really, really CLOSE to see them!'
We finally had it so he was practically touching the tree with his nose, and then we all yelled 'APRIL FOOL'!!!
It's a tough world out there. Siblings will be there when parents are gone.
I only have one and I wish I could give him siblings.
It all depends who it is. Some friends are as close as siblings, and I wouldn't think twice
about dropping in unannounced.
That's fine for you
Don't knock anyone other's way. It's not normal to have irregular periods. It's hard enough to keep track of my own (which I do, PCOS and all), so why not jot it down so I know my daughter(s) isn't going through something just chalked up to being a teenager when something might be wrong? People know if they haven't had a BM in a week; that's certainly not normal. However, that is easier to make a mental note of than periods. Sure, it's not something anyone wants to talk about over the family roast and potatoes, but it's something that needs attention. Jotting a letter down is far less invasive than asking how many pads are saturated in a day or something (which I would certainly anyway do if there was a problem).
We are nurses (hubby and I) and we like to keep on top of things when they are out of whack. I'll take the reins on this one when this is an issue for us.
That's just fine with me!
Just reading that list put me in the Holiday SPIRIT! Now between your cookies and that egg nog with laying under the tree (no not under the table, under the Christmas tree), you are all definitely getting me there... now to walmart for Charlie Brown music and to put money in Salvation army (I know type-A again). LOL. Anybody got more cookie recipes, there's a lot of pauses in between dictations here.... Thanks again! :)
It's probably just fine to eat...but..sm
if you're concerned you can always create homemade alpo or fancy feast and put in in ziplocs and freeze it....It's better than the stuff in the can and my animals love vegetables and real meat mixed with their dry food. Just an idea.  Cat
As far as I know, he's fine. sm
My dad does not take care of himself. He's physically fit, but he smokes, been smoking since a young teen. He eats whatever (fried foods, hamburgers, etc). My dad doesn't go to the doctor. He has a family history of cancer and heart disease. His mom died in her 40s of cancer. I think he's afraid of getting cancer/heart disease. In his mind not knowing is better. He's the type where if I'd say "Dad, I'm concerned about your health, I wish you'd quit smoking", he'd smoke even more. I'm afraid my parents will not live to be old people. Neither one of them eat well and they both smoke (no offense to anyone who smokes). My mom's dad has had a heart attack and her brother has had a heart attack. My dad had a really rough childhood, and I think he needed some counseling, but that would never happen. He's very head strong and hard headed. Thanks for listening. I'm very happy with my family (hubby and two boys), so I try to focus on being a better parent than my dad was to me growing up.
Their dad is fine - where would you have them go? (sm)
People amaze me when they think kids should be ripped out of an imperfect home and thrown to the wolves....do you not think these children would be sad, upset and terrified and scarred for life to be torn from their family? They are not being abused or treated badly. There is no reason to suggest taking the kids from their parents that is just ridiculous!!
If their Dad is fine then enough is enough sm
The Dad has to protect these kids then from the fallout of what the Mom has chosen to do if it is truly what the original poster has outlined. He shouldn't let them hear any conversation that has to do with a "booty call" - that is not language meant to be in children's lives, sorry but if he's that great, then the posting person should get together with him and map out a plan for the fallout from the mother's foolish move and the words "booty call" should never be used in these children's presence. Just reading that post cries out for help for these kids, the words are very volatile and crying for help. Read the post again and one can't simply expect these kids are not going to hear some pretty grown-up stuff over this ordeal. Poor kids don't need to be in the middle of this. Not suggesting throwing them to the wolves, normal thinking would be a caring family member protecting them, not the cops or the state, for Pete's sake, read it again. "Booty call" - not Parents Magazine talk!
Went through it fine without anything...
just some OTC Estroven, which worked well for me. I'm 48, started peri around 44, have gone over a year without my period...done! Some hot flashes and mood swings, nothing I couldn't handle. My doc wanted to put me on BCP, gave me a script, but I didn't bother filling it. Had my levels checked, doc said congrats, you had a fairly uneventful menopause. I don't like to take drugs of any kind....too many women out there are taking a handful of pills just to try to get through the day; not my style. There is something to be said for eating right, exercise and a healthy, happy frame of mind. I don't want to take a pill to be happy, take a pill to sleep, take a pill to lose weight because I have no self-control with food. To each her own...natural worked for me.
It will probably be fine
I agree with what the above poster says, about separating them and making the introductions gradual. You might find that you cat loves having a friend. Of course, he will act like he hates her when you're around, that's a kitty act and they're really good at it. But when he thinks you're not looking, he'll probably play with her and really enjoy the company. Good luck.
In between fine but those flares....
like woke up Friday morning just a big ache. I got very upset 1 time and that night almost had to go to the ER, in that much pain, worse than any childbirth have ever been thru. Talking about the memory, thank goodness doing MTing have lots on auto because in every day life have to write myself notes or would forget everything. Took half tablet of pain pill today but then could hardly finish my paper and can't do that when working, would be zzzzzz at the computer.
Had 1 just recently - that was fine
within the past 4 months, so next step??
That's all well and fine but it goes both ways
Then Christianity and even the mention of God should be kept out of all forms of government, local to federal.
I guess only Muslims can be terrorists. Was McVeigh Muslim? Stop generalizing.
Oh, and what is a mosk?
I'm sure if I was an American Muslim I would be welcome at a mosque.
I'm sure you'd welcome a Muslim with open arms into your congregation.... after he goes through the metal detector.
Okay, I'm done.
Ceremony was fine...
I just thought maybe something interesting would pop up. Just nothing exciting, in my opinion.....
If her numbers are fine
I would not worry. If the drugs are toxic and make her feel worse, then it really is about the quality of her life. Take care.
Got mine fine but sm
Yahoo is very, VERY glitchy. Sometimes you will get 25 emails from several months ago. My blog on Yahoo 360 has disappeared about three times. Blog comments also come and go.
If you are using your Yahoo email for business, you might consider switching over to Hotmail. They have just upgraded to Windows Live Hotmail and it is very similar to Outlook Express.
JMHO.
Really? I'm 50 and it works fine for me; however, sm
I do use a good moisturizer before applying. I also have to use a bit extra of cream make-up to conceal redness and then apply the Bare Minerals.
I think the letter is fine (sm)
until it reaches the "Bullying is..." paragraph. I would have left that section out. At that point, it appears you are attempting to psychoanalyze these children, which is strange (and arrogant).
Thanks honey! We would be fine without my job thanks
to living right and not beyond one's means. And BTW, bon bons are fattening, you won't catch this MT with seat spread! Well, this has been fun, but my work day is done and Christmas vacation has begun! So, toodles to you all. Very Merry Christmas!
it will be fine without the vanilla. nm
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BTW my FIL recovered just fine - sm
and that was almost 9 years ago.....he whined for about 2 years that he was dying though, have no clue how my MIL lived with it. He will be 79 in March and doing very well.
I think that is just fine. Plus, I have found...
that most old people like my child, although I find old women to be less tolerant than old men. I wonder why that is. Maybe because they are the ones who spent the majority of the time with their own children? I certainly did not think anyone whould watch my child for me, just maybe not be so quick to judge, especially those who have never had children of their own.
You'll be fine and so will she.
Wow! You should be very proud of 38 years of full-time mothering!
The way I see it, you have two issues here. I think you acknowledged both in your post. One issue is letting go of your youngest child, your only daughter. But the other issue is the what-do-I-do-with-myself-issue. You've been raising children for 38 years, and now YOUR life is going to change. That's probably the biggest part of this transition, in my opinion. You have to be about your own business now.
I went through all of this myself. There were days when I wanted to feel sad and lonely in my now-quiet house. But there were days that were so much fun, because I could simply do whatever I wanted and not have to worry about kids at home. Gradually, the fun days came more frequently, and that situation was the norm for me.
It's like any life transition. You have to get used to it. And getting used to thinking about yourself first is a big transition for any mother, especially one whose been mothering since 1970! You deserve the time. And your daughter deserves the opportunities you've given her. You'll still be close, but in a more adult way. It doesn't have to be the way you describe your relationship with your grown son. With your daughter, you may still have very detailed conversations, but yes, you are going to have to get used to there being long stretches of time between those conversations and visits. But you will get used to it.
And I'd like to disagree with the poster who didn't like the idea of a young woman traveling the world. I think that's exciting and wonderful. She'll learn so much from traveling. It really makes me bristle when people say that women shouldn't go places or do things because it's "dangerous". Every moment of life on earth has some sort of danger attached to it. And yes, some things perhaps are more "dangerous" than others. But I know people who limit their experiences in an effort to avoid danger, and I just think it's sad. I don't consider myself a risk taker, but there are just too many wonderful things in the world. Life is as precious as any valuable gift you can imagine. And like a valuable gift, it should be used and not locked up for display purposes. I hope your daughter has amazing experiences in her life, and I hope she comes back to you and shares her excitement with you. And while she's doing those things, you go right ahead and get out there, too! Go do something for yourself or with you husband! Ballroom dancing sounds like fun!
I transcribe for a PT and she is doing fine - sm
my checks have actually got up a little lately by maybe $20 or so every 2 weeks. I don't think she is going anywhere.
You'll be fine....
This is not unusual. You are young. I'm 38; hubs 35. We've been married for 17 years. You'll have times when you miss the single days, but you'll also have times when you're glad you have your better half. This is all normal. You are not crazy.
What you can do though is ask him if it would be okay to be uninhibited and spontaeous at least once a month. Maybe one month you pick something you'd like to do (like go out and have a beer) and the next month it's his turn.
I think the doom and gloom of this profession and the economy has people wondering "is this it?" Well, yes, to a degree it is, but life is so short! Party it up! Have children a little later or now, whichever suits you.
I, however, do not see anything wrong with your feeling the way you do. We all would love to run for the hills at some point, but we need a stay point as well. It's all healthy human nature!
You will be fine. I got married sm
right out of highschool (6 weeks) and have been married 36 years come July. I remember in the early days having feelings like that. You love your husband, you have a good marriage and your feelings are normal. Whatever you do, don't give it up looking for greener pastures! Too many marriages give it up for reasons that you are stating...which are not reasons to throw in the towel and they are sorry later.
Way down the road when you mature a whole lot more, you won't regret it.
My advice is that she will be fine with MIL visiting.....
There is a fine line hear.....
Your terms "pestering us" in reference to your children is wrong. It sounds like there is verbal abuse and child neglect going on in your home (baby hungry and dirty). You might want to watch what you post here as this is now in black and white that you have not been properly taking care of your children. I want to support you, but it doesn't sound like even you (the poster) are interested in taking care of the children either. GROW SOME NADS!!! If I were you, I'd seek help from social services in your state.
Fine. But that wasn't my point.
There's no need to jump all over someone who wants to help. I applaud the unselfishness.
I think it is perfectly fine, as you have to wear it, not him!
I did not pick out the exact ring, but definitely discussed the cut and style I wanted. My feeling is if a man truly cares about the woman he would want to get her the ring SHE wants, not the one he can afford or the one he picks out. I'd be more worried about that to be honest. JMO
my computer updated just fine--sm
with the downloaded windows update, but my smartset alarm clock did not. This is the SmartSet I am referring to, not my computer. thanks though.
FedEx or UPS will be fine if you pack it
It is how they come to you if shipped! lol
Sounds like you handled it just fine
especially pointing out that Suzie probably felt the same as she did by being left out. That's all you can really do. You could probably bring it up again in a day or two once she isn't upset about it, but kids will eventually take in the finer points of friendship by observing the adults in their lives. I'm sure MIL was only trying to help make DD feel better and didn't realize that there was a life lesson in play.
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