My 10 year old, non-sports-oriented son is so sad! (sm)
Posted By: Worried mom on 2007-12-27
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He loves to skateboard and rollerblade, but has never cared at all about team sports. Now he is in the fifth grade and finds himself the minority. All his friends want to play soccer all the time or some other type of ball. He feels very left out - now when he tries to play with them he gets insulted for not being good, yelled out, etc. Today he is moping around because neither of his two good friends are available to play. I want to find some way to help him. Any ideas would be very appreciated.
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How about a good web site for an 11-year-old sports-crazed son??? nm
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orientated instead of oriented
My brother messes up words all the time to the point that we call them Michaelisms. Two of my favorites from him.
Old-timer's instead of Alzheimer's
Highbird instead of hybrid
Definitely want something more family oriented
Thanks for the information. Here I'm from NYS and I've never been to New Jersey.
Cary/parts of Raleigh, NC are very family oriented (sm)
I moved here from Florida 9 years ago and really like it. Tons of parks and greenways and sports for children and lots for them to do.
Best wishes
Sports bra......
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Have a son who is in sports too...
and i commonly have parents look at me and DH like we are crazy when we cheer for our team AND the opposing team BUT usually by the end of the season the other parents are doing the same. it is not about who wins or loses - it is about the kids having fun, learning something new, and being socialized and well rounded. not to mention, sooner or later your kids may fall together on the same team, class in school, etc. do you really want them not liking each other because of who their parents are. I'm sure you would think it unfair if your child was the one being looked at negatively because of who is mother is.
does he play sports?
Which sports does he like? Does he need equipment?
Sports are not boring.
They are meant to promote competition and fitness. I wonder though if we had a disaster that would require "fit" people to help bring others to safety, would we be able to call on the athletes? I wonder if there weren't enough soldiers or police/firemen, etc., could we count on some athletes? A lot of these organizations also help charity. I know this is kind of off the subject, but I love sports, so maybe that's why I feel the way I do. JMO. Thanks for asking. 
I like to watch sports... sm
I like pro hockey and the NFL. But are they overpaid? OMG yes. I can't believe what some of those guys get to hit a ball or tackle somebody. It's insane. Not to mention the special treatment they get when they break the law. Anybody else would be sitting in jail for some of the stuff they get away with.
then there would be no professional sports (sm)
I think probably over 75% of athletes- way over, are using performance-enhancing drugs at a professional level in all sports. I think a lot of athletes do not even realize they are taking steriods or performance-enhancing drugs, they think they are *supplementing.* You cannot stay competitive otherwise, no matter your talent and skill level.
I compete at a pretty high level in two sports, softball and bodybuilding (my division is called figure/fitnes), and steroid use is rampant even at an amateur level. I am one step away from a pro card in fitness but I know I've gone as far as I can being natural. I also am a trainer, besides MT, and most of my athletes that leave for college tell me that they know they will have to come make a decision about this if they want to go as far as they can. I just try to keep them as educated as I can, knowledge is power, but I do think that to reach the top in an uneven playing field, well... it is very tough and a true shame.
Regardless of Barry's faults, there are many, lying and drug use both, he is truly one of our greatest ball players. That power and intensity may come from drug use. But that kind of true beautiful swing he has does not come from drugs, nor does discipline and determination.
This is a topic that leads to a good debate, that is for sure!
Who finds sports boring?
*raising my hand*
Wait, there would be professional sports, just not at the level we see now, you know what I mean? nm
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Team sports are for 'sheep' - has he been to a local
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I am small and only wear sports bras
I can't stand wearing a regular bra. I'd rather go without. LOL.
I love college and high school sports.
they make way too much money.
Anyone out there with a college kid on a full scholarship, out of state, not playing sports???sm
If so, how did they get the scholarship/scholarships to go out of state? My junior wants to go out of state and I've told her that she has to find the money to go, especially since our state has a lottery paid college education program that pays tuition and some of the books/fees as long as a student keeps their grades at a B-average or higher. She is thinking about studying broadcasting. She has no special talents and doesn't do volunteer work or participate in anything but drama club...nothing to make her especially shine. She is an A/B student. We don't have the money for out of state tuition and even covering just the expenses that in-state lottery funded fees will be difficult but do-able if we can get her excited about one of the many state schools available.
Anyone have their child figure out how to do this?
I would play sports in high school; I would NOT be friends with 1 particular person. nm
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Bigger issue - a 16 year old living withi a 29 year old and liability
Are you still not responsible for him until he is 18, how can he tell you where he will live? Unless he emancipates himself and he does something wrong, can they go against you since you are his mother and legally responsible for him? I worry more about him living with a 29 year old sister rather than returning a house key to me that is a bigger issue.
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Won $2,000 on slot machine on New Year's Eve. What a way to start the year. nm
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Set my budget a year in advance, save all year and
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What a difference a year makes! Last year, sm
we had the same problem. Fines everywhere for watering.
Paid $60,000 on principal last year and this year
planning on another $30,000 after my taxes paid for the year. We are getting our house paid down very quickly.
55-year old woman has birthday sex with 12-year old
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A 17-year-old would have the same goals as a 20 year old (sm)
Only the 20 year old is hopefully more responsible and based on what you say about his character, would be a better choice than someone her own age.
I have a 9-year-old son that sounds just like your 10 year old...
Lately he has been so negative about everything...trying to make him have a good summer and whenever I take him somewhere, he is just a brat when we get home...I think they are called tweens at this age...not quite teenagers but have the attitude like one---LOL
We skipped it entirely last year, and THIS year?
This 40-year-old got dumped for a 30-year-old
http://www.gqmagazine.co.uk/CoolNewStuff/Photos.aspx?StoryID=53859
This year will be our 35th year
The first couple years it was literally 5 or 6 times a day every day (more on the weekends). Over time it gradually slowed down (once a day) and over the past few years its been 2 or 3 times a week. Not sure that is average or not. There were times were I felt it was too much and him not enough, then there were times where I wanted it more and he didn't. Guess everyone goes through a phase. I guess because of how long we've been together, now it's just comfortable - nothing exciting about it. Just a routine. I have to make it exciting in my mind and pretend I'm someone else.
I don't know what it is, but you are correct...after awhile the lust and infatuation wears off and you get in a routine. I guess for us it was that we really didn't know each other when we married (we dated for 3 weeks then eloped). Once I got to know him it was too late. Now 35 years later it is just comfort (and amazingly we never once used birth control and never had any kids). My mom still tells me she's amazed at the frequency of our encounters that not even once did I even have a "close call" with getting pregnant.
But 35 years once or twice a week and 3 or 4 times on weekends. Not sure if that is normal.
My 7-year-old dog is very ill.
One of my two huskies started getting sick Saturday or Sunday. Her symptoms suggest poisoning or a brain tumor. She has always been sensitive to airborn allergens. Her eyes itch terribly if she the dog bed has cedar, and we avoid foods with wheat or corn or too many carbs, trying to keep her healthy. Anyway, it seems the slip cover I put on the dogs' chair may have been treated with something like formaldehyde and she is reacting to that. But I removed it when I started suspecting it on Monday night, and left the window open all night. She seems to get better and then gets worse, even though I'm not letting her back up on that chair. We have ordered an air filter for the living room. But symptoms wax and wane, and they are mostly neurological: squints eyes, acts like she can't see, walks in circles, breathing is slowed, she's very lethargic, presses her head on me for comfort (she's done this for years, but now I read head-pressing is a neurological sign), drooling, forgets to to outside to urinate and has incontience in the house.
Please pray that the Creator has mercy and heals her for us. Misha is sweet.
We are getting my son the PS2 this year,
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How about over $500 this year
for your tax return? That is through one of the biggest places we have, not some fly-by-night. Mine are more in depth because of rental, selling a home this past year and my working from home but this year am getting back over $6,000.00 but guess what? I am always just glad to get back any amount rather than paying!!
I go through it every year, though last year - sm
they did surprise me after saying it was delayed a month, I ended up getting it about 10 days later. When it has been delayed it has taken about 5 weeks. The website should give you a date of when to expect it, and that is generally right on the money. As for the date, contact the courts and have him arrested, maybe jail will teach him to pay on time. Good luck.
This is such a bad year
that my allergies are acting up, and I've had very little trouble for the past 10 years or so. Interestingly, my allergies decreased to near nothing after I was on an antifungal medication for an extended period. There are theories that all the increased allergies and asthma are related to they heavy-duty antibiotics we are able to use now for bacterial infections. Maybe these are messing up our airway flora and increasing problems with allergies?
When you say you've been on nasal sprays, what about the asthma ones, like albuterol nad Atrovent? That's what they had to put my sister on.
Hope you get some relief. Allergies are miserable.
What year is your car? sm
My husband works at an auto parts store, and I'll ask him what he thinks, but I think he needs to know the year.
My 17-year-old DD
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I did this last year
If it's the one I think it is, my friend send it to my last year, and I almost had heart failure. I screamed so loud I thought I'd wake up the house. I also had the sound on really loud and never again! LOL
6-year-old
Country MT, you are not harming your son. I am almost 52 yo, have a great niece on weekends, 2-1/2 yo. It is the only stability she gets. If she wants to sleep with us until she is 15 it will be okay! Her only requests as she comes in the door are "I want my bottle, blankie and rock-a-bye." She lives in a horribly unstable household and we are like heaven on earth to her. Before anyone blasts me, I have called DSFS - they are short on foster parents, so no help there. Her mom is too selfish to let us keep her all the time, is pregnant with her 4th. We also keep the 14-month-old baby boy one night during the week. New baby is due 12/18. Baby boy prefers the crib unless he is suffering with teething. My mom has an ongoing fit about me giving Sarah a bottle at all. Sarah drinks the bottle while we rock, hands it to me when finished and life goes on. Sleeping with us comes from her being sick as a tiny infant and not sleeping much at all. I slept with my grandparents when little and grew up to get married, have 2 kids, and am not sick or perverted. Listen to your heart, not negative people. Your son will love you for it forever.
I was there this year, last year, the year
before, etc. etc. From what I see in the casino as you walk in, the place is just below where I would stay, say the smoke filled place versus to I personally saw a person walking into the Bellagio being asked to put his cigarette out by security. I like that. The Flamingo is 1 of the older places - the location is good but it is right across from Cesear's and catty-corner to the Bellagio so I just love staying in a little classy place.
Doing it again either New Year's Day or New Year's Eve
:)
Not a fan of New Year's eve
I guess I'm a party pooper. I just stayed home and didn't even stay up to see the ball drop. Boring, I know . . .
Me too. Maybe that's what the new year is about...
I have been sitting here thinking my resolution needs to be to have more fun this year and worry less. But then again I am not in the party mode either...maybe it's all about taking care of ourselves and celebrating by going to bed early is a good thing! Hope your day goes well. I'm gonna type til my fingers fall off today so I can make extra money to go to Disney (see if that ever happens LOL). :)
New Year's Eve
We celebrated at our friend's house across the street. We go there every year. We played Deal or No Deal on a television computer game and ate a lot. We watched New Year's Rockin' Eve and got home at about 12:30 a.m. Today is a day of relaxation before work tomorrow. I've been off for a week and a half so I'm not looking forward to it.
New Year's Eve
Our two teenaged kids had previous plans to spend the night at friends' homes, and we would be communicating with them via text or phone call at midnight. My husband and I together made a romantic dinner with candlelight and wine. We had a fabulously fun and romantic night together (details left out - lol). We also tuned in for a brief time to a Twilight Zone marathon. Getting in touch with past phenomenon such as that really brings to mind our youth, memories, and awareness of such. A great night, especially with everyone safe.
I hope everyone here had a great holiday and will have a healthy, happy 2008!
17-year-old
My 17-year-old cat, Cyrus, died one year ago. . He always wanted a lot of attention - loved people - but toward the end, he seemed to want attention/being held, even more. . I am so sorry you are going through this - it is not easy. . I miss my Cyrus every day - he was a true friend.. we went through A LOT together...
You have been with him for over a year and have
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Had one about a year ago -
needle for local anesthesia, then very quick - left barely a little scab. Takes several layers but not deep. No pain and nothing afterwards - didn't even require any bandage after initial band-aid. On my breastbone area so probably one of the most tender places.
My 12-year-old goes to bed at 9 and gets up at 6:30
It sounds like right now your child actually goes to bed at 10, so if you extend until 10 it'll really be more like 10:30.
Mine started complaining a bit last year about bedtime, but this year started realizing how much better you feel/look when you get plenty of sleep. This year has been the easiest time...with child actually wanting to go to sleep. Of course, summer is coming and that throws a wrench in everone's schedule:-)
I was on it for about year ago and after
you find the things you like it isn't that bad. You just have to pick and choose, and I did lose almost 20 lbs., just have to be careful when you go off if it.
i would never allow my 5 and 9 year old
a few years back on his. He was with his children on it, he threw them off and they lived but he didn't.
My 11-year-old *man*
is also more emotional of late. I think a lot of it just depends on the kid. My guy has always been a little more sensitive than his brothers. He's about 10 pounds overweight and it bothers him that the kids call him fat. He's not fat. I told him if they didn't pick on him about that, it would be something else. Kids are cruel and they definitely find the ones that are most vulnerable. I would speak with the youth director and see if there might be ways to build up his self-esteem. I think more than anything he's suffering from a low self-esteem.
Some kids are just naturally confident and that makes them popular. He'll grow into himself soon enough. I've found that by inviting his friends over really helps to build his self-confidence. We just had his 11th birthday party at one of those party places with laser tag, arcades, jungle gym and we allowed him to invite 7 friends (that's all our 2 vehicles would hold). Although I guided him in who to pick, ultimately the decision was his. Not one of the kids he asked was in the "popular crowd", more on the outskirts like him. They all said it was the best birthday party they'd ever been to. They're still talking about it at school a week later. I think a couple of the more popular kids were upset they didn't get invited, but I hope it taught them a lesson and maybe even brought them down a peg or 2.
The kids change, but the attitudes don't. It was the same thing when I was in school. There will always be someone who gets off on making you feel bad. You just have to teach your kids how to cope with it and let them know how important they are. I said about inviting his friends over because usually kids are more confident in their own home. Letting his friends see his self-confidence at home will probably help him be more like that in school. Good luck with your guy.
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