Most of her stories should stay in her family
Posted By: Lacy on 2007-04-05
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just nutsy. Having the ability to breastfeed makes absolutely no difference in how a child turns out, the upbringing does and this entire family just sounds bonkers. I am really loving the posts about bringing drinks to the team, HA and point and shoot like machine guns, HA, HA.. Great posts you all.....
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Do you have any family or friends you can stay with? I do not
know where you are, but there are many options for battered women (both physically and mentally) and I can help guide you on who to get in touch with in your area if you give me an area to look. PLEASE feel free to e-mail and I will help if I can. I do remember your posts from awhile ago and I was thinking then that the situation was going nowhere but worse, so please think of your sanity and the fact that what is going on in that house is DEFINITELY spilling over onto the children.
Yeah, stay out of that family debt deal, if ya can. :) nm
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Family is great but I am never back in my hometown where family is... So I always have extended fami
You can always pick your friends your stuck with your family. An Xmas for me is where my husband and kids come home to. It is what you make it!
Summer. Friends or family? Family. Tired or Awake?
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Actually, some of the stories are right on
I have read these tabloids since very early age, probably 10 or so as my mother bought. Years ago the National Enquirer was really bad, showing wreck scenes and the like. Lots of their stories are paid for- say a celebrity is in the hospital-someone there has information and they can sell it and do. I have worked in the past where some of the big names in civil rights and baseball teams have gone and I have known about things going on- I do not tell these things even to my family and would never sell but you have people who do this and paid big bucks for doing so. Lots of stories are really dead on the money- takes awhile for issues to perhaps come out in the newspapers or your local news but I have read stories and then several months later have seen where they are accurate. Some of the tabloids are outlandish- but people who buy know the difference.
lately? these stories have been around before this generation.
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Love these stories sm
Keep them coming, keeps up the humor. I also had an aunt who did not cook and the one and only time she invited us over, she left the giblets inside and needless to say, the dinner was scrubbed. My mother said she was not surprised as my aunt was useless in the kitchen anyway. My aunt, by the way, was a hoot and the only thing I can remember about her was that she was a lot of fun and always made things very interesting. I think it would have been out of character for her to be Martha.
I'm sure there are lots of stories
about angels, too. I have never "seen" angels, but I have often seen them at work. I thank the Lord for providing protection through them. Whenever I have a "near-miss" I thank the Lord.
My husband told me once when he was trying to change lanes, the steering wheel pulled itself right back so he couldn't. There was a car in his blind spot!
I remember once one of my kids running down the sidewalk and fell. From where I stood it looked like he cracked his head on the step in front of him. I cringed, but when I got to him he was fine. I just know an angel put his hand between the step and his precious head.
My mom was driving one day and didn't see that the intersection was icy. She tried to stop but started sliding. She slid into the path of an oncoming car. She closed her eyes and braced for impact but...nothing. She opened her eyes and the car was past her. She said there was no way he could have missed her.
These are angel stories.
Demons are fallen angels. They chose to worship Satan. They exist to torment and cause people anguish. Angels exist to praise God and they also provide divine intervention and protection for people.
These stories are just AWFUL. :(
Don't people realize family members can leave us forever in the blink of an eye? Life is WAY too short to put golf or shopping or anything such nonsense before visiting family. Man, even if it's only for an hour or two, it can really make their day. How horribly sad.
Big difference between family values and family jewels, eh? lol
LOL. I love this show. I think Gene and Shannon and her sister are a riot! What characters. It really is amazing to me the kids seem so laid back and so normal. They seem like great kids.
Does your family still do the early Sunday dinner w/family?
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How we got him weaned - and other funny stories
Starting school is what weaned him. We just sat him down and explained that I could not come to school for him to have his "milk break" - I nursed him in the evenings for a week, and then he was weaned. I'll relate a funny story about him nursing in a new post - you'll get a real laugh out of it -
You might be a redneck (true stories) (sm)
If your husband nails a wooden duck and wooden dog that your children painted to your back door (underneath the wooden back-to-back swans painted black that his mother made for you.....
(yep, my back door) haha! - anyone else have a redneck family member(s)? Did anyone marry a redneck they didn't realize was one beforehand?
Need GOOD mother-in-law stories sm
I inadvertently posted for this on the Autoimmune Board this AM and admin hasn't switched it over yet, but I did get 2 nice answers on there, so I will try on the "correct" board now. I really need to hear from some people who have some positive feedback about their MIL's. I guess it was a freudian slip that I did it there because I am in a lot of pain every day. I try very hard to be a good MIL but sometimes I get a lot of flack and I blame it on the TV shows, movies and anything else that will generate big bucks from this campaign. I am a little tired of it all and really am making a concentrated effort to put together something positive about mothers-in-law in general, or step-mothers-in-law. Jeez, we deserve a break sometimes, dontcha think?? My MIL taught me how to drive, my hubby never would have as he kind of likes me to depend on him. Albeit, she may have had an ulterior motive, to get me out to work (which I did) but at least she let me crash her car a few times. Does anyone out there have anything POSITIVE to say about their MIL? I'd really like to hear it. I could use a boost! Thanks
PS: I've done a lot, free babysitting, helping buy a house, lots of things, but I'm still "his mother" and can't seem to do anything right. I never forget a special occasion and try to be thoughtful. Gosh, I'm tired! Can't we drop the stigmata of Monster-In-Law? Please say something nice.
I would also look up stories of teenage car accidents (sm)
and show them to her, the more sad and terrible the better. I would take her on a tour of the juvenile detention center in your town. I would drive through downtown at night with her and let her see how people live on the streets. I would look up every case of STDs I could find and show her pictures. I would get just as blatant as she is. If my child ever said F* you to me, I would know it was time to jump into action. I would purposely try to scare the cr*p out of her by showing her reality. And if I had to, I would let her to to a drug rehab or juvenile detention for a while, to let her wake up.
Sorry I had hit reply to the one down below about inspirational stories
His name is Nick Vujicic if you search you tube for his name or for "Life Without Limbs" you can find all kinds of videos on him. There is one that shows how he gets around during the day, it's amazing!
On Hollywood True Stories I think one
of her doctors said she had RSD which causes intractable pain, caused by her dancing all these years which caused back and neck problems. Also, when she was married to Emilio Estavez (spelling) there were in a plane crash and she suffered severe injuries to her spine.
Thanks everyone for sharing your stories, very interesting. sm
I am sorry for those of you that took my statement about the alcoholics incorrectly. I was not meaning every person who goes to bars is an alcoholic, just paraphrasing and saying an example. I do know some people go there to meet others but I don't have a good track record with guys. I am attracted to the bad guys and wondering how to change that and seek out the good ones if there are any out there not taken and where to find them at!
Just Read Some More Stories About The Hodgkin's Boy
I still feel for the mom, I really do. However, from what I was reading at ABCNews, it appears the dad might not be in agreement with the mom's choices. That seems like such a tough position for the family to be in, ya know?
Also, there was a child who is now an adult mentioned in the story on ABCNews. He was 16 when he fled to avoid chemo for Hodgkin's. He never did have treatment, and he's still alive.
It makes me seriously question whether there actually might be non-chemo treatments for Hodgkin's that really work. It sounds like the long-term prognosis for Hodgkin's would be pretty good even without chemo in some cases?
I don't want to compare war stories, but I know exactly how you feel. Last year, on my way to vis
family member out of state, I was alone with my 2 children on a major US interstate. As we were leaving a big city and began accellerating, we immediately came to a stop. I almost rear-ended a trailer in front of me. I looked to my left and across the median (a grassy, hilly median) there was smoke, a tractor trailer on the side almost tipped over, and a manged Ford F-150 lying across the highway blocking all oncoming traffic. The accident had happened a minute earlier. I swear you've never seen a truck to mangled. The top was missing, it looked like a convertible, and under the tractor trailer lying face down was a young man (a teenage boy), just under the tires. IN THE TRUCK was a young boy who was apparently sitting in the back but half of his body was in the front. He was twisted like a circus acrobat. Going in and out of consciousness. And the driver of the Ford walking around bleeding in a daze trying to wake up his brother under the tractor trailer. Only 1 person had stopped, and for some reason my instincts told me to immediately pull over (I was in a large SUV with 2 kids in the back - what was I thinking?), but it was a godsend.
So, I go over to the boy in the truck and begin talking to him. He's still breathing. Barely. I lay hands on him and begin praying for him like crazy. Apparently, help had already been called. By the time I was finished the fire trucks and police had arrived.
I walked over to the boy under the trailer and he SITS UP! I thought he was already dead.
I spoke with the driver and they were all 3 high school students on break for lunch. He told me he was in BIG trouble because he took his dad's truck and wasn't supposed to. He knew his mom's work number and called her and I walked away as he began telling her what happened.
I was there for approximately 30 minutes. the police and fire dept. were so kind to me asking me for every little detail I had, which was none since I didn't witness the accident. When I arrived to my destination that night (shaking and crying almost the whole way), I looked on line for information and found NOTHING. Still to this day I have not heard anything about the accident. Not sure if the boy in the truck made it, but I did pray so hard for God to save him. I didn't care that I was bending over his body as people all around me were looking on at the accident scene. It's an experience I will never forget.
I came home and wrote about it in my journal and it took about 10 pages. I still have nightmares of seeing the boy under the trailer lying face down first. But then I think about how he sat up and I feel so much better. It will take time, but the wounds will heal.
It breaks my heart to read your stories, and I just..
hope that people will take the initiative and send letters to their representatives encouraging more uniform laws from state to state to make it harder for these sex offenders to stay below the radar.
My 3 letters are in the mailbox now. I just used the format on Oprah.com, printed the addresses off, taped them to the envelope and sent them off. Even doing something small can make a big change, and it makes you feel good. The laws need to be MUCH tougher for these sex offenders.
I also think rape should be considered assault with a weapon, because they are using a part of their bodies as a weapon to injure another, and maybe if they charged them with that they would serve longer sentences. Just an idea.
wow - thanks so much for sharing. i love those kind of stories. sm
i lost my sister when she was only 21 due to MVA and she had a 2-yo at the time that survived. i have often wondered if she had a choice or not because her child was her world, but the rest of her world was also misery too.
Our stories are very, very similar. Due to my severe depression sm
something horrible happened which I cannot speak of here. It is the main reason I found God, so you and I are alike in that matter.
As for God rescuing you like that - that is amazing. I guess we can just agree to disagree on this one. He saved you by showing you meds and saying it's okay to take them, and He healed me from my ailment without meds. Who is to say one is better than the other? That is why the saying goes that God works in mysterious ways!
I am happy for you! Continue to do what you are doing. I am not judging you. I only spoke to NCMT through my own experiences. We all have our own experiences.
Thank you! I appreciate you ALL sharing your life's stories with me. I read each sm
one and loved them! I think Chubby explained exactly what I was looking for - I think I DO need to watch what I eat PLUS exercise. I will start today! haha
Thank you all! I have NEVER stuck with anything long term so this will be a challenge. I appreciate your input!
I was watching some of the stories on youtube yesterday.
I wanted reach through my computer, grab that ole Warren Jeffs and ring his darn neck myself.  I was appalled at how many people fall for this. I can understand if they were born into it not knowing any better, but older people that have been out and about and getting into it just slays me. I guess it is like one of the girls interviewed said, it is more about control and power over another than sex. She was talking about how Jeffs pulled some poor woman's braids, twisting it so hard that she fell to her knees and begged for mercy and he said "men, this is how you want your wives." It just slays me how people can fall for Warren Jeffs, David Koresh, Charles Manson etc., hook, line and sinker. I know there is more out there. These are just the ones who have been caught.
boy i'm slipping today, stories, not stores...
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National Geographic animal stories
Especially the one about the bush dogs, or the Japanese snow monkeys. My sister says there's a sad one about a fox, too. Don't ever watch these right before you're expecting company, or going out! :(
That has to be one of the sweetest stories I ever heard. Just curious . .
Did you take the water, cookie and chips just to be nice, or did you have an interest already? This was really adorable. Good for you and good for him. He sounds like a true gentleman. 
Loved all the nature stories! Good stuff.
I enjoy my bird friends. Great entertainment value. Put out a sprinkler and watch the robins, cardinals some sort of little sparrow-like birds show up. They love a refreshing shower.
I'm sure a lot of people at the hospital are selling these types of stories
to the tabloid shows and the tabloids. Unfortunately, stories like this sell. Yes, whoever the source is should be fired.
I love that and can relate. Betcha have good stories :-) TY! nm
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I wish news stories couldn't come out until the person is convicted
There's a local news story about an 18 year old star athlete who's been accused of rape by a 16 year old. He'd been accepted at a local university, who now is saying they won't hold a spot for him on the football team until the matter is resolved.
If it turns out to be untrue, chances are most people won't hear that tidbit. All they'll remember is the bad stuff. That's a shame.
SIL family, us and another family snacked,played
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I think pretty sad state when you know so many mamma baby daddy?? stories
I do not know of 1 and believe you me, live in a huge city, have children, grandchildren. I would hate to say that I was such a s___ that I did not know my babies daddy. Really disgusting.
thanks for that info. it's inspiring to know about people's stories of weight loss. sm
a big majority of my problem is in my head, the way i think. i like to think of my self as being a positive person loving life, but i do have my days where i get down, especially about my weight. but i look at every day as a new day and i can always start over. i'll check out this website, thanks so much!
Too many of these stories becoming familiar, in addition to inforcing the death penalty....sm
I have to ask myself why so much of society these days is behaving in this way, uncontrollable, ugly rage...is it the decay of family units, absentee fathers, is it the abundance of drugs, violence in media....I am old enough to remember a time when these atrocities seemed to be the RARE horror stories, why the abundance now? No God in their worlds?????
You're so funny!!! That's what I wanted - funny redneck stories
Just kinda tired of my house looking like Sanford and Son - LOL!
Normally, this would be something I would try to stay out of, but (sm)
I would think if you called CPS and explained things just the way you did here, they might be able to do something to keep the aunt away, and parenting classes for the parents wouldn't hurt either. I agree with the other poster who said if parents (or you) act first, anything the aunt did at a later time would be considered retaliation. Handicapped parents many times can be the best parents, but it sounds like they do need some help with setting boundaries.
I think I would stay put if I were you. He knows where the
door is and can use it if he chooses. Your first concern has to be your children and you should not have to find a place to live if he is the one who has the problem with you. If there is no adultery involved here, don't rush into divorce. Divorce is painful and can get nasty. Sometimes just being away from each other can "calm the waters" and allow you to make a more objective decision. I speak from experience. My husband and I divorced very hastily when we were very young after less than 2 years of marriage and then remarried, had 2 children, divorced very hastily again and then remarried again. Had I just been a little less in a hurry I could have saved myself a hiney-load of money and a lot of heartache by just being away for a while and then making an objective decision. Instead, I rushed into divorce and paid dearly. 
Stay away from CC....
If you have been having problems meeting the minimum payment on any CC, by all means don't go opening another credit card. Your credit report will be an absolute mess. I know it's 0% interest for one year, but read the fine print - there is usually a fee of some type, plus, can you pay it off in one year before the interest starts up? You never know what will happen in life and you may not be able to make the payments, the rate goes up, and you are in deep doo-doo.
Sallie Mae is high interest, your 401K is better. With 401K you are paying yourself back with interest. It's a no-brainer. No one gets your money but you. Is it possible to borrow again from a 401K if you already have a loan out? Having the money deducted automatically from your paycheck and put back into your 401K is the safest and smartest bet...as long as you have a job.
If you ABSOLUTELY have to have this other loan for $7,000 then the 401K should be your only choice. Can you do without the $7,000 and get back on track before getting deeper into debt - or at least until you pay off the existing credit card?
Why would you want to stay...
with someone who is, as you say, mean? If you are not happy, LEAVE! When you stay you are condoning his behavior. Some women want to be martyrs, others want to live a great life. There are great men out there; wallowing in self-pity does not get you one though.
Well, obviously we don't want to stay
somewhere where there's still a lot of damage. That's why I'm asking for personal experiences, and hopefully recently. We don't want to book a beach house and when we get there find out it's in the middle of a big mess.
stay vs go
First, I am so sorry for your situation...that being said, the kids will definitely pick up on the negative vibes between you and your husband. As far as your question goes, I think only you and your husband can know the answer to that one. Just be very aware of your kids and behavior changes, emotional lability, etc. Trust me when I say, they are not dumb...they will pick up on what's going on, no matter how hard you try to hide it (yes, I'm speaking from experience...). Good luck!
You definitely need to stay on top of this...
The kids who you think are least likely to commit suicide are the ones that actually do...that is not meant to scare you by any means...most kids find it easier to write down their feelings than actually expressing them face to face so the fact that he wrote this means something is bothering him...I think you should both talk to your pastor..good luck...(((HUGS)))...
I think you should just stay out of it.
It is just humiliating for kids when their parents act up or cause a scene.
The name of the game is fun. Your going into the game wanting your son's team to beat the other team because of YOUR issues with another parent is very immature and selfish.
Trust me, we've watched parents like you've described yourself (and others, in fairness) acting out and it is so unsportsman-like and completely immature.
Embarrassing for everyone.
To Done: STAY !
No husband is perfect, we are all human. Your husband has a lot of good qualities. Think of your children! I think you are spoiled and unthankful. Maybe he is right and is better than you. He loves you, why don't you; I think you are just bored.
If I don't have anywhere to go, I stay
in my jammies. I usually get up and take the kids to school in jeans and my jammy shirt. Then come home and put the jammy pants back on. If I don't have anywhere to go, I don't get dressed until mid afternoon when I break for lunch. I usually put something in the oven and hop in the shower. Sometimes I just put clean jammies on, sometimes I get fully dressed. Either way, my contacts go in and my hair gets done. My husband likes me either way, as long as I'm clean. I find I wear my jammies more in the winter and am more likely to get dressed in the summer, probably because kids are always coming and going in the summer.
At any rate, I tend to be more productive when I'm dressed, so I should probably try to do that every morning, but I'm just not a morning person. Every year for Christmas, my mom gets me "work clothes" (jammies)!!!
Where we stay in NYC.
We stay at the Embassy Suites on North End Avenue right in the financial district. It is walking distance to to the Village, China Town, Mulberry Street, etc. It overlooks the Harbor and you can see the all the helicopters coming in and out. My husband always goes to Battery Park to watch the helicopters. It is not too inexpensive, but you do get free breakfast and there is a happy hour at 5:00 p.m. if you like to have a few drinks, which will really cost you in the city. There is also a fantastic deli 1 block away that we always hit for a late night snack. We go at least once per year, sometimes twice or 3 times. We love it.
You really have to stay on top of the cards
I do a lot of card flipping with balance transfers but also calling and trying to negotiate new deals. I just switched one with a balance transfer at 3.9 for the life of balance and then talked them down to a purchase rate of 8.9 (it had been up in the high teens). I also talked a card I've had a while into a 2.9 for the life of a balance transfer instead of the 12 month offer they were having because there was a delay in the electronic transfer to the other company causing me a bit of inconvenience. That transfer was actually for a loan I had at a pretty high interest rate, so some loans can be put on cards too which I never knew. I find websites that list ALL the latest offers for all or most card companies and I'm always checking. Sometimes I call my cards and tell them I am thinking about switching unless they can give me a similar/better rate or deal. Often they will so as not to lose the business. I have saved a ton of money doing this - it is sort of like consolidating on your own. I can post the site if anyone is interested, don't have it handy right now. Oh..I also have automatic electronic payment setup to pay a certain amount each month from my checking so the payment is NEVER late. You are so right about that, that's where they get you! I just thought maybe some of this info may help someone, I hope so. My credit is very good now but had been a mess in the past.
Remind me to stay
 away from that doctor!!!
Did he marry her so he could stay in the U.S.? nm
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