Morally-wrong things hurt other people. Loving
Posted By: a person of the same sex does not. on 2008-10-16
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People that hurt dogs should be hurt themselves in the exact same way. I HATE sm
cruelty to animals.
I don't let people hurt my feelings any more sm
Was told years ago by a very good psychiatrist that we can control this ourselves - it is all about expectations. We let them hurt us - you had a higher expectation of her and when she did not deliver - she hurt you - so lower your expectation - realize she is weird (!!) that it was rather insulting - but don't let it hurt your feelings - and move on!! Kind of confusing I know - but it works
She said she wasnt hurt, GEEZE, done you people read the
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Scouting can go wrong like so many other things, but
I just wanted to let you know that I am a mom. I take boys camping every month. In fact, next summer, I'll be taking a group of men and boys into the woods to complete a 100-mile backpacking trip. And by the way, I've never watched Dancing With the Stars. LOL
What is wrong with people?!
Last Friday I went into town to run some errands. The last stop on my list was WalMart to pick up a couple things for my husband.
As I am pulling into the parking lot, I stop for an ambulance that was coming out. Didn't have its lights on or anything but I could see through to the back and they had someone in the back. I go on into the parking lot and see a fire engine, then three more ambulances with their lights flashing and about 7 police cars.
What the heck? I sat in the car for a few minutes, not sure if they were letting people in, didn't have a clue what was going on. Finally, one of the cart guys comes out to get the carts next to my car and started to tell me what happened and yes, they are open.
I went in and there are clothes strewn about on the floor and in between the isles right behind the checkout lines. Police are everywhere interviewing people (assuming they were either involved or witnessed whatever happened.) There is also a woman lying on the floor in a backboard with paramedics swarming around her. I get my stuff and get the heck out as quickly as possible, still wondering exactly what was going on. So I checked the weekend paper, nothing about the incident and this is a very small town so if there was something happening, it would have been in the paper for sure.
Finally, yesterday's paper comes out and in the police blotter is a blurb about the incident at WalMart. I was shocked.
Apparently a 45 year old man, a 65 year old man, and a 60 year old woman started fighting over a place in line at the checkout and when employees tried to intervene, some of them were injured (though not seriously thankfully) as well. What? Are you serious? The store was not THAT busy and they were fighting over a place in line?
Is it any wonder that so many kids and young adults are rude, crude, and revert to acts of violence to get what they want? When adults, and MATURE adults at that, can't even behave themselves, it's no wonder!
If someone is in that big of a hurry to get out ahead of you, for crying out loud, let them go and don't make a fuss. Isn't worth getting assaulted over by any means. Especially in a store with a ton of small children tagging along with their parents to shop. 
That is just wrong. You are assuming these people were going sm
to do the right thing - and what makes you think they would? the dog should have been impounded, they should have contacted the hospital for payment information - did they? No. The victim has to pay or her credit is screwed. Her insurance could refuse to pay - they could investigate the dog bite and see who the culprit was - but they choose to pay - so not fraudulent. The people have not done anything it sounds like and now you are very quick to jump on this mom who obviously made a few mistakes and just wants to know what to do next to correct them. Wow.
some people just like to stir things up even more--sm
than they already are. This is one of the sickest suggestions yet, or so far, that I have heard of concerning this already sordid story. The only one that is going to suffer is the poor baby girl, because she will have to grow up knowing that these sick minded people were saying these things about her mother! vicious, gossip mongers! The woman was no saint, but neither was Marilyn Monroe or Madonna, for that matter. No one would even care, if she had not been a public figure.
You should never judge people like you just did and say things sm
spiteful like that. Would you say these things to her or to someone like that face to face? Shame on you for being rude like that. It's so easy to beat on people when they are down. Calling someone's post the most ignorant post you've ever read and calling her selfish was very mean spirited.
He will run out of people, places and things. nm
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The notion that people who mean it don't talk about it is just plain wrong.
You need to do what you can to get him "committed" for at least a 48-hour hospital stay, so he can be professionally evaluated. Call the police, they have a protocol for these situations and in most states they have the authority to "commit" him if they believe he is a risk to himself or others. Suicide attempts peak this time of year...don't just blow him off or you may live to regret it. Good luck.
And your post is exactly how people see things differently,
for example you think Kelly and Carrie the best- well I for 1 do not care for their music, would have never voted for them and absolutely loved hearing Fantasia- so you see different minds play into who the final contestants are. Simple.
That's why people go to yard sales - to look for things
that people don't know the value of and are selling cheaply.
That is very true! And most of these people wouldn't say these things
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Things not to say to people!! Ultrasound tech said (sm)
After doing my ultrasound for an ovarian cyst she says as I am getting up, "are you still having your cycles?" Thanks. I'm 40.
You know how they say dogs sometimes can sense things about people?
We had that AT&T U-verse stuff installed in October and three installers came to the house. Not a single problem with the dogs. (We still had LouLou at the time.) They sniffed the installers and then let them go on about their business. The one installer was at our house for 12 hours.
On Saturday, two AT&T techs came over to fix the computer. Again, not a single problem with Duke. He sniffed them out and didn't bother them for the rest of the time.
On Sunday, the AT&T tech who came over called to say he was on his way. He said he was somewhat spooked by dogs and he just wanted to make sure we had a friendly one. I assured him Duke wouldn't bother him.
Duke didn't care for that man in the slightest. He growled at him and the hair stood up on his back. Every time the man came in the room, Duke reacted the same way and would back away from him.
I wonder what it was about him that Duke didn't like?
You sound like a grinch to me, cuz there are people going thru these things right now.
Just changed the station.
Sometimes people don't realize how important the little things are...
Until they go through a loss themselves. Last year I lost my father and cherished every card I received. At the same time, I also felt terrible about the times I had neglected to send a card to someone else. I had thought at the time they were inadequate and probably unnoticed until I was going through it myself. Now I realize how important they are.
Don't be too hard on your friends and co-workers. One day they'll likely feel remorseful, as I do.
I wouldn't tell people at a busstop these things, either! nm
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You are wrong. They don't resent "anybody on aid." Only the people who abuse the system, li
lady driving the Cadillac Escalade. You are still missing the point!
Case in point - I am talking about people thinking things out
I said some women went to a psychiatrist. He asked them to strip - which they did- he is a psychiatrist- he does not do physicals. They are on television telling how they pulled their blouses up when he asked them to. Now do you understand?
All the above are why my loving
furkids stay inside. I have a bird feeder right outside my work window and they are welcome to come and look at the birds which they do but I love my feathered friends as well. I have this unsociable furcat next door who had the nerve to come in my yard trying to catch birds. I chase it off, folks here not supposed to let their animals run around anyway.
you are loving her
You are loving her by stepping back and making her stand on her own two feet. Loving someone does not mean enabling them to hurt themselves. Loving your child means pushing them out of the nest and letting them learn on their own. If you keep enabling her you will not be loving her as much as if you push her out. Praying for you....
Jan
loving pet
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved pet. I'm glad you enjoyed his company and love for many years. This is the caveat of having our loving pets - it's so difficult to lose them. We will join with all of them one day, when it is our time...how could we not. They provide us with so much love and good company.
Pit bull or not he is a loving dog ...sm
who has never attacked and I honestly with all my heart know he would never hurt me. I believe in all honesty he would die to protect me to make sure I wasn't harmed if that is what it took. I know some pits have attacked owners and I believe these were either unstable dogs or abused or provoked. My dog has a respect for me also. He knows I am the boss and when I take a firm tone and let him know I am not happy with him he just bows his head and lays down. I didn't set out to own a pit bull he kind of fell into my lap you could say and I fell in love with him and he with me. I rocked him as a baby and nurtured him and he loves me with everything in him and I love him the same. My ownership of him just happened unexpectedly and I am so grateful it did. When I am sad he licks my tears and is so loving. I know other breeds are capable of this but CJ just happens to be a pitbull. I dont care. His breed is not important. It is the love in his heart. What is inside him. I don't judge a dog for what they are but who they are.
How to compete with a loving doting MIL.
I am jealous of MIL and Dh relationship. There, I admitted it. It was a huge red flag when we were dating but I ignored it. To start at the beginning I was jeolous. I wished now I would have listed but I didn’t I married him. Lived here in an appointment but he really considered his home with mommy who was 88 miles away. He would go every weekend leaving me here alone. I thought well, he is not married to me or anything I guess he is taking care of responsibility. He seemed obsessed on the family farm (70 acres) and getting that started. He and his mommy were working side by side to get “the place” fixed up. Occasionally, his friend and his wife would invite them camping so he and mommy would take a break with his buddies and camp. Not so intelligent me was sitting at home, alone thinking one of these days he will figure out what a wonderful person I am and he won’t have to cling to mommy so much. Boy was I ever wrong. He took my virginity and that made me want to cling to him tighter. I shamelessly chased him. Finally I told him that if he wasn’t going to marry me, I was leaving. He said okay, lets do it. Well we had a rush engagement. DH hated the idea of a wedding he had already been through that once. (This was his second marriage). He was not very cooperative and kind of rude but I did get my wedding. At some points in our courtship I thought it was sweet how he doted on his mommy I just wished I saw how dysfunctional it really was. I think my first clue should have been when he was late for our second date because mommy called him bawling because she and her brother got into a fight.
Anyway, it was so hard to keep MIL out of our business. MIL balanced our check books, dh would take me and MIL out of a drive, all outings included MIL. I told him that I think we should be taking care of our financial bus and dh said “no, mom knows how to do it and besides if I take that from her she won’t feel wanted. “ I asked, who did you marry, me or mommy. Well MIL is not in our finances anymore. She did used to go through our mail. I asked her if she was going to be a meddling MIL and she got mad and told DH and dh jumped my butt saying she is only trying to help and a few cuss words. (when the cussing started, I turned out). MIL was upset and she was going to take us to court. I guess she thinks she has rights to his money just like a wife would or more so. They did have bank accounts together, cc together.
Any, I cannot write a book. Just a long story short, I try to put up boundaries and I am the villain. MIL is not a meddler, she is trying to help, she is only being a loving, doting, graaaadmommeeee. To get along, I try to think of her as a break from the kids but the way she interacts with my children sends chills down my spine. First she would say that is her baby, she didn’t want her baby doing this or that. She did not want her baby to get sick so I couldn’t take her outside. She wants to sleep in their room so she can take care of them, she would take my oldest dd in another room and shut the door and undress. She wanted to take her to the public restroom, (It is like she thinks, DH child is her responsibility, I am just womb donor. It was driving me stir crazy. She and dh would buddy up on our outings and leave me feeling like a third wheel. And with DD, it was like she, DH and my child were just one big happy family. Gag. One time dh ask her if she wanted another baby, she said “I love babies.” GAG. Bad part is my oldest dd loves her. She wanted MIL to take her to school this morning, not me. She is 5 years old.
If I put up boundaries, or say that anything bothers me, I am the villain being mean to an old lady. MIL acts like such an abused old lady who looves me so much and I amso mean and trying to take her babies away (DH and the kids). Everybody says, she is so NICEEEE. I feel like I am in way over my head. We have been through counseling and the counselor said that he needed to put his wife first before mommy. DH thought that counselor was nuts and that he just wanted him to can his poor little old mommy. I have asked dh if he wanted a divorce so he can have more time to dote on mommy and so she can feel wanted and needed. He said no, I would rather have you here than her but he doesn’t understand why I am so mean. I have developed anger that I never knew I had in me. MIL I guess developed a sudden interest in psychiatry she says I come from an unloving, uncaring family. DH grew up happy. I guess that is why he was a teenage alcoholic, had 3 DUIs, got married the second he turned 18, had legal problems of course his mommy, being the loving mommy she is, would lighten the load for him and help him do community service. I cannot win. I want out of this insanity. I just don’t think I have anyone around to help me.
You are talking about loving the kids, right?
As an MT I on my own supported a house of 5 people, paying all the bills, including mortgage, cars, utilities- this was when hubby disabled on dialysis. Why would you want to stay with some jerk like that? I would not care if I had 10 kids. The other hubby died and I have a husband who never, ever puts me down. I live on Easy Street. Work part-time now, vacation twice a year, have most everything I want or desire. You can do better than crap.
I am loving these doggie-auggie
pictures- they are just too cute. I also do not know how to post pictures or I would show you my 2 fine male cats. They are real charmers their own self. Loving these, keep it up!
I am really amazed at how and question to loving ASR
speech (or the platform I work on) seems to sorta "take over" your PC. In other words, not only does it pick up what the physician says but I find that when I type a word wrong a lot of times it spells it correctly and these are words I do not have in autocorrect- have you also noticed this?
Oh, besides loving water, they also eat olives!
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I'm loving life since leaving MT.
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I would also wear them, especially if you had a loving relation with her..nm
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Living in Georgia and loving it
Never have felt the need to move because I got frustrated, never. Moved from another state over 30 years ago and love where I live. I really hate when I see an overall blanket statement about a state being backwards. I find myself going on the offense when a person attacks a state in general when they perhaps are unhappy just for the person they are. I am sure a person can find fault with any place they might be brought up or choose to live but my community is very progressive, upscale and as much as I love to travel, hope this can be my home from here on. People make their own happiness and if you are unhappy either in your personal or business life, then perhaps you are just soured on the world, not where you live. If a person wants to move from my state, hey, just more room for the people who can enjoy their life here.
Loving these positive responses. Feeling much better about it now!
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I'll still be loving you - Restless heart
That was played at my wedding!
Please don't feel guilty! You sound like a loving fur mom!..I too
lost a cat this week, also about 18 years old. She was an outside cat who never came in but about 6 weeks ago she just walked in one day and never wanted to go back out, so I figured the end was near. I feel very guilty too, but I made her comfortable, stroked her, made sure she was comfortable. Hubby went out in the pouring rain/sleet to bury her under a cedar tree where our others are buried. When I told him how bad I felt about not being here when she died, he said she had a great life because of me and how much I cared for her. I am sure you were wonderful to her. Please don't feel so guilty! My gal, the day before she died, actually did go outside, it happended to be sunny for a bit, she laid down on the deck and enjoyed the warmth and caught the last bird of her life! For a cat, she went out on a good note!
You are a caring, loving person. That has been obvious SM
from your posts for a long time to me. You are doing the right thing and staying on top of this. With your close eye and caring and with professionals on board I think your son has a bright future. Keep us informed. 
Be patient, kind, loving and understanding . . .
sounds to me like he is missing you and your mom/family life. He is probably hurting right now and needs you and for some reason he finds great comfort in being with you. My dad died 13 years ago and I loved having him around. I know your situation is different, but be the comfort he needs right now and I am sure this will end in time. He is looking for reassurance for something. Who divorced who? He is probably hurting a great deal right now even though he does have a new girlfriend. You won't regret being there for your father. Trust me.
THANKS -- great article -- loving your responses ! n/m
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I've heard good things and about things about taking prednisone. My mom was on it for SM
for awhile and it made her look so swollen. I sympathize with you.
It's my birthday today, and I'm loving every single moment of it!
Sounds like Cedric is in a loving foster home!
Where do you live - that path looks gorgeous!
Just be supportive and a loving friend/family member - sm
My son jokingly tells me that I have Super Gay-Dar because I have had a few friends out to me first.
When my friend Chris came out to me a few years after high school, he was a complete wreck.
He called me up one night after I had not heard from him for awhile and the conversation went something like this.
Him: I really have to tell you something (I could tell he was shaking terribly and just sounded so upset and scared.)
Me: Okay.
Him: I'm gay. There I said it.
Me: And?
Him: What do you mean AND?
Me: Are you serious? You think I DIDN'T know? How many times were we BOTH checking out guys "back pockets" in the mall? How many times did YOU help me pick out dresses for formal dances? How many times did my parents let you come over for slumber parties all the way through high school? Do you think they let ANY of my other guy friends do that? Did you notice there were no other GUYS at those sleepovers?
Him: He has such a funny loud, barking laugh and he just started laughing and then crying.
Me: You wouldn't be you if you tried to be a straight guy. You're more fun this way.
Him: I just love ya girlie, You're my bestest bestest girlfriend.
Me: You're my bestest bestest girlfriend too.
And that was that. We still laugh about it. He can always make me laugh.
Torn Between Two Lovers, Feeling Like A Fool, Loving Both
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Rose, the good-hearted, animal-loving ditz!! But with
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You ead my response wrong, terribly wrong
I am trying to ask what does she think it will help, not being nasty- tell me and I will try this. I would stand on my head and gargle peanut butter if I thought it would help - I wanted to know why a letter? They are thumbing their noses at the courts - commanded to appear- I was there and they werent.
This might have hurt!
Do what I do...request a copy of the office notes and the results of all tests. One vet in my area does this routinely.
You mention that your cat is vomiting. I think my vet gave my 21-year-old cat cimetidine and this helped him. Also, I made chicken broth out of precooked chicken from the supermarket with salt added. My cat liked the Italian precooked chicken broth the best! Also, get a tube of Nutri-Stat or Nutri-Cal to supplement her diet when she isn't eat too well.
Is your cat hyperthyroid? She may need an adjustment in her meds. Do you have her blood sent out to an approved/independent lab such as Michigan State Univ or Cornell (there are more, just can't think of their names!!)
Please don't hurt yourself sm
The way you want to lose weight is very dangerous and could cost you your life and/or your health. If you feel truly "fat" and that's an awful way to feel. I went through a depression briefly and gained a lot of weight and felt this way. Once I changed my eating habits and made the effort to read labels, use self-control and exercise more, going to a smaller size made me feel so much better, that I continued to live healthier. The junk food, salty food and greasy food became intolerable to me after that, your whole taste bud thing changes once you get used to eating right. Force yourself to take a brisk walk, you need not join an expensive club, etc. Reward yourself with a nice arm bath, some nice lotion,a new haircut and perhaps a manicure (you can get this at Walmart for $12). As you begin to lose weight, you will feel much better and perhaps your husband will get a "wake up" call. I would just "get up early" and use this time for your personal exercise and "you"time, then he'll be left with the night-time option only, as you won't be there. I hope you can do this for yourself. Then if it doesn't work out, I would definitely seek professional help as newly weds usually do "do it" more often than most and something sounds fishy here. Try being a "new you" and make yourself so attractive you will keep him guessing as to what's going on with you, not vice-versa. Hang in and start dieting "yesterday," you can do it! Lose more than one kind of "baggage", mental as well as physical. You're worth it. Don't hurt yourself, these purging and vomiting things only cause you pain later on and it doesn't last. You need a whole new way of life. There's plenty of help on the Internet for you.Good luck, make yourself absolutely beautiful inside and out!
Would you be hurt?
Say you were out of town with four other friends. Each of the other ladies is TIED to their cell phone for calls and text messages. It is WELL known that you are NOT one who is tied to your cell phone and the group even jokes about the fact that if they were on the side of the road broken down the one person NOT to text would be you because you wouldn't get it for a week and they would end up dying.
Back to the question...so you're all out of town and it's decided that despite everyone being tired, you would all get together to watch a movie. You go to your room and hear nothing. So, you turn on the TV and settle in. A few hours later, you go to your phone and low and behold there it is...a text message to you saying "It's movie time...where are you?" You have received no phone call in your room and no one has come to your room to knock to see if you want to join them.
Are you angry? What do you do? What should you have done? Is this just a matter of both sides not communicating?
Curious to see what you say here...
it does hurt
My ex's mother has just never been the grandmotherly type. She calls sporadically - never remembers birthdays or Christmas. Fortunately, my daughter's other grandparents(my mom & dad) were great. But "granny" just doesn't get it - I think there is something missing in her brain. She even asked my daughter (then 20) how she could be a better grandparent -my daughter said just call, write, send a card on my birthday, etc. That has been 2 years ago and my daughter has heard nothing from her.
You have hurt his ego most likely, thinks that only he - sm
should be taking care of business, or else thinks the toy does too good a job and you will not want him. My DH and I have a few different toys, though we do not use them too much, use them more together than I do solo. As stated they can enhance the experience, try to show him that and use it together, or show him how to use it on you, but if that still freaks him out then I guess that is out and just keep it for yourself when he is not around. Mine would love it if I got more into them actually, just depends on the guy and how confident he is in himself I think.
Ouch! That must hurt. Sorry.
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