Moms - how long did you wait to tell people you were pregnant?

Right away or waited a while?

• Moms - how long did you wait to tell people you were pregnant? - inquiring mind
  • I told right away, think its nonsense to wait - sm - Laura E.
  • I think that is entirely up to you. I wish I had followed my heart on that one - sm. - Kim
    • Kim - MOMT
  • Right away all 3 times... - PAMT~MDM
  • I'm not pregnant - but my sister is and only her husband ....sm - Inquiring mind
    • I told everyone at 6 weeks... - MtMom29
      • As soon as I found out - LinK
  • I would wait three - four months. I was going into my fourth month when I had my miscarriage. - Sherry
  • We waited 10 weeks, until 1st doctor appointment 9sm) - LS
  • pregnancy - ER-MT
  • I think everyone should wait at least 3 months. - nm

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The book can help shed light on certain problems/complications. 

I think the comments you made were rude and insensitive.  If you can't say something nice, then don't say it at all.

To the original poster, I have seen this book at Wal-Mart.  I'm sure Amazon.com sells it too.  They sell just about anything.

heater? I live in a rented townhome community.  I called last night and was told they would be in today because the answering service had no notification of them not being there today.  I said, that's fine I will just call in the morning.  I called at 8 and the answering service said the office personell did not come in today so they paged the maintenance person.  It is now 10:00.  I'm not trying to be impatient, I know that this is his day off but what is a reasonable length of time to wait before I call back?

That would be nice.  Maybe on a board like this it would work, but in real life I don't think it would.  Too many people thrive on anger, confrontation, and oh how they do like to judge.  I don't even think they know they are like that.  My friends mother for instance lives in the victim state.  Everything is everyone elses fault.  She never did anything but all her problems and situation is someone elses fault.  The problems she has are usually her kids fault.  If she didn't have so many kids she would have been able to do so much more with her life.  It's her husband's fault she had so many kids (she has 6), and its someone elses fault she never finished college (which by the way her whole college tuition, books, room & board, meals, clothes and I mean absolutely everything) was paid for in full and she would have not had to pay back anything (wish I had that opportunity).  But after a year she decided to drop out and move away from her home town.  Anyway...back to my thought...people just thrive on blame, hate and judgment (among other negative emotions). 

Reading the post the first thing that came to my mind was a movie I watched called Demolition Man starring Sandra Bullock and Sylvester Stallone, where he is put in cryostasis and comes out of it in the future and they all talk and end sentances with "Happy Happy Joy Joy" and everyone is overly polite to everyone.  It's an amusing movie and I love it and that's what this reminded me of.

So I'd like to say to Ms. National Be Nice and Friendly Day I'd like to say... Happy Happy Joy Joy, and be well. 

can all drink it too.  Come on guyz... my Mom won't mind, have a drink and have some fun.  Bring the chocolate syrup!  Doesn't she have big nipples.  "My Dad likes 'em too and my baseball coach!     

1.  Did you have a lot of morning sickness?

2.  How many weeks did it last, i.e. from 4 to 12 weeks pregnant or what? 

How did you know they were "model material?"  My 9-year old Corbin Blue look- alike wants to go for an open call at our local talent agency.  He has the personality for it and i think he's gorgeous, but of course I'm biased!!!

Any tips for going to a call?

What are your summer fun plans?

Free days at local attractions, or something bigger? 

At my house we will be taking a week to explore our own state, which is pretty big!

I am in an unhappy marriage, but I am scared to leave.  I have insurance through my husband because I am an IC and I have all these fears - what if my job phases out? what if I injure my hands, what if I get sick, how will I take care of my kids.  How did you know it was time??  Is it better now>

I am separating, about to become a single mother of two children.  I am wondering if I should buy a home or rent one.  While buying seems like a good idea, I would also be giving a chunk of money for a down payment (which if I rented I could keep as emergency savings) plus I would be responsible to repair anything that might break.  I would appreciate any advice on this. 

thanks :-)

Apparently you, for example......I know moms of boys and sometimes I think some of them are delusional about their *boys/men*.....I don't know - I surely just don't get it.....as much as I try to get it.....

do you ever dream about living by yourself?  Not just with no kids, but with no hubby either?  I love my family, but when I feel overwhelmed, when life gets too stressful, I can't help but think how peaceful that kind of life would be, with just myself to take care of.  Of course I know in my heart that if I was by myself I would be bored and lonely, but right now it sounds really good!  It has been one of those days...

Did you notice certain symptoms before taking a test or going to the doctor?  I am just wondering because my period is 2 months late and my breasts are so swollen and ridiculously sore.  I am hesitating to take a pregnancy test because we have been trying for almost 2 years and every time I never turn out pregnant.  Looking forward to reading your replies.  Thanks!

WASHINGTON (AP) -- Scientists think they have figured out why pregnant women don't lose their balance and topple over despite ever-growing weight up front.
 
Slight differences in the spine allow women to carry the growing load of pregnancy without toppling over.

Evolution provided slight differences from men in women's lower backs and hip joints, allowing them to adjust their center of gravity, new research shows.

This elegant engineering is seen only in female humans and our immediate ancestors who walked on two feet, but not in chimps and apes, according to a study published in Thursday's journal Nature.

"That's a big load that's pulling you forward," said Liza Shapiro, an anthropology professor at the University of Texas and the only one of the study's three authors who has actually been pregnant. "You experience discomfort. Maybe it would be a lot worse if (the design changes) were not there."

Harvard anthropology researcher Katherine Whitcomb found two physical differences in male and female backs that until now had gone unnoticed: One lower lumbar vertebra is wedged-shaped in women and more square in men; and a key hip joint is 14 percent larger in women than men when body size is taken into account.

The researchers did engineering tests that show how those slight changes allow women to carry the additional and growing load without toppling over -- and typically without disabling back pain.

"When you think about it, women make it look so very easy," Whitcomb said. "They are experiencing a pretty impressive challenge. Evolution has tinkered ... to the point where they can deal with the challenge.
"It's absolutely beautiful," she said. "A little bit of tinkering can have a profound effect."

Walking on two feet separates humans from most other animals. And while anthropologists still debate the evolutionary benefit of walking on two feet, there are notable costs, such as pain for pregnant females. Animals on all fours can better handle the extra belly weight.

The back changes appear to have evolved to overcome the cost of walking on two feet, said Harvard anthropology professor Daniel Lieberman.

When the researchers looked back at fossil records of human ancestors, including the oldest spines that go back 2 million years to our predecessor, Australopithecus, they found a male without the lower-back changes and a female with them.

But what about men with stomachs the size of babies or bigger? What keeps them from toppling over?

Their back muscles are used to compensate, but that probably means more back pain, theorized Shapiro, who added: "It would be a fun study to do to look at men with beer bellies to see if they shift their loads."

Thomas Beatie, who used to be a woman, appeared in the most recent issue of The Advocate, a magazine for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender readers, Portland, Ore., television station KPTV reported.

Beatie wrote the article, which includes a picture of him while he was 22 weeks pregnant. According to the story, he went through a sex change, but decided only to have chest reconstruction and testosterone therapy.

Beatie was able to keep the reproductive organs he was born with. The article said he stopped getting the injections and was able to get pregnant.

Beatie, who lives in Bend, wrote he was once pregnant with triplets, but the pregnancy was life-threatening and he lost the fetuses. Now, Beatie said he and his wife, Nancy, are expecting a little girl in July.

In the article, Beatie described some of the challenges he and his wife have faced -- they said doctors won't treat them. The couple met 10 years ago and Nancy is not able to have children.

He wrote in The Advocate that their situation "sparks legal, political and social unknowns."

The couple were out of town Monday and unable to speak with the station.

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When I was pregnant that was the only time I experienced Charlie Horses! I would get leg cramps so bad at night it would literally jolt me out of a sound sleep! I wonder if it also has something to do with the pressure the baby is putting on the pelvic area and somehow affecting the blood flow to the legs, in which case, supplements aren't going to help?

that in itself will make this situation feel 10 times worse than it is.  Having said that, I do agree that I would be a little miffed, myself.  It's not like you're intruding on her wedding day/weekend.  She's already married and this is simply a celebration party for her on Friday night. 

I would also agree with the poster below that you have grown apart.  Being that you've been married for 10 years and are expecting, I would venture to guess that you're probably a little more mature (for lack of a better word) than she is as well.  I'm not busting on single women, here, it's just that I remember the "fun years" before I got married and then before I had children.  You're just at different places in your life.

The best way to handle the situation is to go to her party as planned.  I would not splurge for the $50 gift card.  I'd go with something a little more subtle.  If you'd like to rekindle the friendship, you might include a photo of the 2 of you back in your "wild days."  You don't need to stay for the entire party, either.  Anyone would understand a pregnant woman would be tired from such a long travel and then the party.  When you leave, be sure to seek her out and let her know that you'd still like for her to come to your celebration the following day.  If not, let it go.

If you haven't done so yet, be sure to send her a thank you card for the gift.  Believe it or not, some people would think they didn't need to get you anything if they weren't coming to your party (not that that makes it right).  You have so much to look forward to and baby showers are way better than bridal showers/receptions anyday.  You can eat as much as you want and all your guests will say is how "cute you look".  Don't let this dampen your day. 

I had a miscarriage in November at 8 weeks after having abnormal test results and got pregnant after my first period in December.  I'm now 7-1/2 weeks and the baby looks great on the ultrasound and blood work they drew.  I'm due on September 14th and my husband & I are tickled pink (or is that blue?) 

For those of you who responded to my post in November about having the miscarriage thanks for the support and encouraging us to try again.  I've had a lot of women tell me that they had a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage and while the emotional pain of the miscarriage is still there, it was comforting to know I wasn't alone.