Mine will just kind of keep walking as I am talking (sm)
Posted By: Lisa on 2007-10-29
In Reply to: Maybe someone could shed some light on this marriage thing. sm - wife
he will just walk out of the room as if he expects me to get up and follow him and keep talking if I expect him to hear me. He is "in charge" of many projects in his profession. He has a lot of people who work under him and brings the same attitude home. I hate it too. Many times I have said to him, "Look, I don't work for you, buddy, I'm your wife." But he continues to do it. We get in big arguments about it. As far as the sex issue between you two - you don't go into great detail but I would say you are going to have to really have a major conversation about that and tell him that you no longer like playing that role. It sounds like he just expects to rule over you both in bed and out of bed. You are going to have to change all that - but let me tell you it is going to be a big transitioning process! I am still not content with my life as it is, but I have made a lot of headway. But when I decided to stop being a doormat, I offended my inlaws as well as my husband. When people get really used to someone being very submissive then as soon as you start to assert yourself, they are taken aback. They become offended and feel like they have to fight for their dominant role again. This is disgusting but it's almost like a pack of dogs fighting for who is going to be the Alpha. I have to constantly remind my husband that no one has to be the "boss" and that we are not each other's competition. I am still stuck to a degree though, and like you, I think it all stemmed from letting it start out this way. I think talking to your minister is a good first step, but you, yourself are going to have to be more assertive and what you did - turning around like that - was a great first step. Yes, it made him angry. And there will probably be a lot more arguments on the way. The other lady who posted about how great her marriage is blah, blah, she just likes to brag about her situation all the time. I am happy for her, but her life is not like ours is right now. She has no idea what we are talking about. We all know there are good men out there and if we had one, we would gladly be constantly affectionate and have sex with him all the time - we all want that. So I just want to say one big "good for you" to her and hope she reads this. One day when she's in a nursing home maybe I'll have a great second husband and I'll e-mail her about all the great sex I'm having.
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Sweetie, you are not the kind of woman I am talking
about. You I have respect for. It's the little girls who can't/won't do it that I have a problem with. Believe me, I am no slave to my DH, he provides a very comfortable life for me, but I am not spoiled. I can make my own way in the world. To those that brag about being spoiled and pampered, why the heck are you working then? I have always found that the ones who brag about what they have, have to let everyone know etc, tell the tallest tales.
I do not know what kind of monitored places you are talking aboutr or where you are
this is not mine. We are not told what color to use for garbage cans, we put out whatever Christmas decorations we want so that is not the kind of place where I live, maybe different in your state. Our entire state is in a drought now but we are not allowed, not just the neighborhood, but the entire COUNTY does not allow outside burning and if you don’t understand outside burning?? cannot help you there. I love my place, my neighbors seem to love, have not heard the first 1 saying they hate. I guess your state and town different, though. I have posted this before- we can barbecue- we cannot set bonfires like the neighbor had going next door with flames leaping into the woods adjoining our homes, unattended, fire danger to my house, his and others around here and besides, against the COUNTY laws. I am the happiest with the place I now live than have ever been in my life. Quiet, calm, peace of mind.
Im not talking about a check. Im talking about a positive administration working FOR Americans and
Not receiving a check each month to help us out is not what got us in this mess...
What's the difference between talking on cell and talking to person sitting across from you?
You should be ignoring people at other tables and MYOB.
Me? I'm a walking commercial for them! LOL.
Am still amazed at how well they clean! Also have a microfiber mop. I used to get on my hands and knees and scrub my floors, but after I found this mop, that's all I use! I have so many of these cloths around my house because I just don't want to be without them! Have given them to my DILs and my friends, and they love them too. I can just go on and on about them. I know it's crazy, but after all the years of scrubbing and hands that get cracked and dried from chemicals, I just can't say enough about them.
I'm walking for babies!
Hello everybody!
I posted this before but i wanted to repost and explain some things. First of all, i never ever receive any of the money when you donate it goes straight to the Walk America people. I just thought this was for a really good cause and thought maybe some of you would want to be included on this serious problem in our world. You can donate as little or as much as you want.
http://www.walkamerica.org/tanyabyer
That is the website they made for me. I'll be walking 4-14 in my hometown. Or if you know anybody that would want to be included let them know! Thanks so much for your time and i won't repost this again lol. Just thought some of you thought maybe it was a scam or something.
Thanks again.
I have walking pneumonia
I was diagnosed Thurs. and have laid around till today and I feel better with the z-pak the doctor gave me. I am on day 4 with meds. I got up and did small things yesterday and today but I am so used to be up and doing so much more. I like to run 2 miles with my dog daily and go to the local Y to lift weights 3 x a week. I am no string bean by any means I just wish I would feel more awake and alert. Has anyone ever went through this crud? I am 36 and am wondering when I will feel back to my active self again. I just got up from an hour nap and still feel sleepy. I heard it takes some up to 10 weeks. My mom told me it stays in my system for 5 YEARS. Gosh, she was no help. Just let me know if anyone of you have any advice please and thank you!
Tips on walking my dog
This is my dog Kane, doesn't he look sweet?
He is not sweet on our walks, he is a big butt nugget, he pulls and wants to walk as fast as he can.
I try and wait for him to calm down before we leave for the walk but as soon as I touch the door knob he gets excited.
I am just using the leash as a collar and leash, I wrap it around his neck so I can pull it when he acts up, which is the enitre walk!
Any ideas on how to stop the pulling and make him focus and mind?
Yes, walking my dogs about 4 x a week.
They drive me nuts any day they don't get their walk. It's almost easier to just give in and walk them, and we all feel much better. A good one is closer to 3 miles I think. I am fortunate that so many new neighborhoods have been built around me, although it does mean the dirt roads/woods are disappearing, but those were too muddy a lot, so it's a tradeoff. I've lost 5 lbs since getting the new dog, CJ. He likes a faster pace.
Glad I could help!! Walking is the ticket..sm
and it doesn't have to be FAST walking - just consistent walking everyday and everyday doing a tad more in distance.....
I also wrote down what I ate during those 6 weeks and tried to keep everything under 1000 calories per day....but I forgot to protect my teeth/gums...and bottom gums receded (early)...take minerals/vitamins if you do this!!!
Good luck hon...*S* It can be done!
I'm walking in your shoes, but I walked further
There is only so much you can do. If she is a danger to herself or others, you can get an involuntary committment from a court to have her placed in a psych ward. It depends on your state how many witnesses you need and how far gone she is.
My dd stays with her dad (my ex) and I have had to cut off all ties. She finally got into a methadone program and got a job (which she quit when she got a garnishment on her paycheck for past-due child support) and is going to the local county health department where she was placed on a mood stabilizer. Every time I have talked with her over the past year, it seems she is worse than the time before. I don't think she is on the right meds. I have had to cut off all contact with her because I am raising her child and I just do not have the energy to be everything to everyone.
Like your child, my dd was depressed - I even saw it starting at about the age of 9 months. She was cycling in manic/hypomanic moods by the time she was 7 years old, only back then we didn't know what it was. We just thought she was high strung and spoiled. When she was 11, a close friend of hers from school committed suicide and she began self-mutilation. At the age of 14, she got kicked out of several psychologists offices because she lied and manipulated them. She lived on the streets in New Orleans at the age of 15 and it took us a year to find her. She finally came home with her boyfriend so she could get off the street and promptly got pregnant. She was "okay" while she was pregnant, but after the baby was born and the guy left, she got into drugs. OxyContin is her drug of choice. She chose that life including stealing her dad's credit cards and lots of other things I would be ashamed to post in public. She chose that over her child. I am now raising that child and I don't see things getting better even with all the "help" she is getting.
I'm sorry you are going through this, but one thing I do know is this: If you keep giving her money, a place to stay, food to eat, clothes to wear, she will NOT have any personal motivation to get better. She can sell the food and clothes for drugs. She can use the money for drugs. She will use you until you are all used up, and then what good will you be when she finds she really needs you for something important, like making different choices for her life? I wish you all the best. I know how heartbreaking this is for you. Funny thing is, I get okay with not having a relationship with her until I talk to her, then I fall apart for a few days and have to disconnect again to keep going ahead with my own life. So for me, I have to allow her to make her own choices even if it means that one day soon I could be attending her funeral.
Walking 'round in Women's Underwear lol
Not really my favorite but the funniest...lol
She wasn't talking to you, BTW. She was talking about the 2 posters below! nm
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Have you tried the In-home walking DVDs by Leslie Sansone?
http://www.lesliesansone.com/about/index.htm
How about Leslie Sansone's walking off the weight videos? nm
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Going to Ruth Chris in Coral Gables and probably walking around
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Yes, sure you are correct, I didn't catch the 'An walking'..nm
'An walking'.
I regard myself as an 'grammarian.'
My mistakes are almost always just typos.
Electrical current through foot, the other hangs in walking midway through a step, anyone else?
have this problem? I have been to numerous physicians, have been told neuropathy. I am walking so gingerly this morning around the home because know if I step flat on 1 foot (left) it will have the electrical current as happened earlier this morning. Always when walking, never with lying, sitting, etc. You never know when it will happen. The other foot (pedal foot, right) will hang in mid air sometimes when I am taking a step which makes me hop so I will not fall. Gosh, I would love to look forward to my vacation this summer but sometimes the feet ok and then other times not so good. I know the electrical current is probably nerve related but have been told so many nerves in the foot would be like looking for needle in haystack to trace down. I mostly only wear bergies and put them on as soon as I get out of bed. This is not good!!
The drinkin kind or the rubbin kind?? sm
So....is that for me to drink so I don't notice or care that my hands are all splotchy black or to get the ink off?  Seriously though, do I use the rubbing alcohol - or like Jack Daniels?? and do I soak in it or what? I never heard of using alcohol but I'll try anything.
Am not talking politics here at all, talking
about how she views the southern culture which apparently she knows very little. I do not care about her politics- what I care about is by making a statement like that only shows a persons ignorance. My maid is working today, has lived in the gettos all her life in a big city and when I asked her about it she said something she has not seen in maybe 30 years. In her neighborhood there is all sort of crime that goes on (well, that is about everywhere) but if anyone would see it she would be 1. Like I say, could care less about Whoopie's political views other than the fact she got that wrong. Neil Boortz also was saying the same,;he said she was probably still holding the south in such a light because of her inability to go into a upper class restaurant here in town dressing in blue jeans. Being as she was born in NYC, we southerns still say da.n yankees! So true here.
I feel that is best too. I have been kind, very kind, to this ...sm
child since he moved here in March. I also am not one of those parent's that thinks my children are perfect. You never know what they might do out of your presence. I do know how I have raised them though and I am all for getting them all together when there is a problem and getting to the bottom of it but anymore that doesn't seem to work. The parents automatically get defensive and start making excuses, etc. I'm going to look for somewhere else to move. I've lived here for 2-1/2 years and we never had a problem until this boy moved in. His mother is a piece of work.
Look who's talking!
So what are you doing here? Also, it should be "as well as the ones WHO answered this", by the way.
look whose talking too!
Maybe that is me you are talking about?
Hey, I thought I was consoling when I said that maybe she had religion in her heart but hey, read into it whatever you want. You cannot save everyone and if she had wanted to hear you, you would not have been hushed. I lost my grandmother 30 years ago and I was extremely close to her and visited her often. I remember her fondly. I for 1 do not believe that only Christians are the chosen ones so if your grandmother was another religion that you do not approve of, she might have picked the right one, who knows? My heart was in the right place when I answered you but apparently you thought otherwise.
If a guy is still talking to his
and they have no kids together, been divorced almost a year, that's bad, right?
She cheated, why would he want to talk to her still?
that's OK. keep talking.
She really has her heart set on Pratt so spending 4 days in Brooklyn to learn her way around a little. She is a thrift store junkie so we will be exploring Park Slope and Williamsburg anyway. Juniors sounds like a definite. Thank you so much. So much to choose from, we never know where to begin, but we are both adventurous eaters and willing to try anything. We will both have a big huge fattening piece of cheesecake for you! Brooklyn gardens has been on my list for years so this is the year for that also.
But it is CNN along with others, we are not talking
about talk, regular every day news, local, nightly. As far as the newspapers, I learned several years ago the news terribly slanted and now the news is sensationalized. These stories I listed are on CNN news page as we speak.
What are you talking about???????????????
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that's what I was talking about...
and we have an owl on this property (that nobody can see) for a couple of years and he/she does hoot and sometimes his/her hoot can go on for hours and all different times of the day/evening. Been living here for 17 years on this property and while I have always *heard* this owl occasionally....his/her hooting has increased tenfold over time.
Last night the birds were chirping big time around 11 pm or midnight! I just don't get it......well, I DO get it....and it's scary....*thoughts of the future and the environment*
not really...we have tried talking to them about it before but they don't get it...
We are always doing something and I just find it so rude that we don't even get a phone call before stopping over...we love having them but just want a little respect in that area...My parents always call before coming over...
can you use (is this what you are talking about)
the inexpensive throws you see everywhere - rolled up - like big lots and target - I am not spending a lot this year and have two adult daughters who are always cold - this sounds so cool.
Just talking about this
Had my mother lived, she would be incensed. We have bent over backwards trying to be correct while our freedoms, celebrations, what have you are disappearing. There are all kind of people in the work force, you cannot please each and every one. It is like a person not liking a particular television show, darn turn it off, don’t look, don’t join in with the rest but to say they don’t believe in it?? I don’t believe in a lot of others beliefs but I leave them alone, I do not try to push my beliefs, values on them. We are slowly losing our country, little by little.
Just talking about this...
I would like to say that I am of the Jewish faith, and I have always went along with the Christmas Parties, etc. It doesn't offend me as I know that the majority celebrates Christmas. I am married to a Christian, so we celebrate both. My children are versed in both religions and I think that it will make them more rounded individuals when they get older. So don't go slamming everyone for their beliefs. Everyone's different.
Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and Happy Kwanzaa!
I really don’t know what you are talking about
I said sorry for the child taking irradiation- I said we all have problems - we do. I said thought 14 too old for paddling - I do. The original poster put in about the padded panties and how her bottom looked or should look without the bruising. Where do I come off being horrible? Do not understand your post. She has gone into much detail about the wheres and whys and how the paddling to take place. I still find that really, really strange and question the validity of that.
Exactly what I'm talking about..sm
People so bitter around here for something that is happening to another person that will in no way affect them or their tax dollars, and here they want to whine about it. It is not your life, it is not your daughter's life, so why not just leave it be if you have nothing nice to say? Bah. Old biddies I guess ;)
If you really want to get them talking
If you don't care what she says about you, you could always ask her if she has had her rabies shot today. Then say "Yeah, I wanted to give you something else you can talk to other people about me behind my back". But then again, if you have to be around her the best advice is what everyone else said...stay away from her. She is definitely mentally imbalanced. I used to belong t a quilting group and this one lady would talk about church, church, church, sunday school, we did this and we did that, we do good things for people, and then in the same breath talk really nasty about people. One time she said such an insensitive remark to me about my husband (whom she had never met) I left in the middle of my lesson in tears and never went back to that group and joined another. I never gave this lady a chance to say another mean word to me. People like this are just truly ignorant. I call them energy vampires. They suck all the energy right out of you and believe me, they are out there. Best of luck to you.
Are you actually talking about someone else? sm
Maybe a friend you fell out with and you know she reads this board? If you really are talking about yourself, go talk to a doctor and get some antidepressants :-)
wth are you talking about?
not sure how you figure insurnace companies charge you for other people's kids...
i know what you are talking about sm
i'm fascinated with spirit stuff. i know what orbs are. maybe i should take some pictures around our house. we haven't had any family pass. he explains to me what the ghost looks like. once he said he saw the grim reaper in the bath tub. i don't in anyway put these ideas in his head. i don't even bring them up. but when he brings them up, i don't brush it off, i ask him what he saw, if he was scared, if they talk to him. i don't want him to feel like he can't come to me and tell me these things. my hubby on the other hand, doesn't believe in that stuff, and i haven't even told him that our 6 y/o says he sees stuff like that. he'd think i was feeding it in his head, but i don't. i had a dream once when i was pregnant with my first son. it was the most amazing dream i had ever had. i dream in color, and they seem so real. anyway, i was pregnant with my first kid, didn't know what i was having at the time of this dream. in my dream an angel came to me (she looked like my mom --- my mom is still alive) and she was holding a baby. it was a baby boy. after i had my first boy, he looked exactly like the baby in my dream that the angel was holding. it was just amazing!!!!
Are you talking about
David Duchovny from the x-files? If so, I have been moderately obsessed with him since the 90's. :)
Yes. I think I had what you are talking about,
but thankfully mine did not last that long. I still from time to time will get it, but again very briefly. Hope it gets better for you very soon.
are you talking about
the graduation party being the night of graduation? HOW COMPLETELY RUDE for the sis-in-law to say that! The wedding date isn't set yet, its not YOUR fault if they decide that month that weekend, etc! How selfish of her to send that nasty e-mail! I'm so sorry! Graduation is a big deal, they can get married any day, any time of year, graduation is not any time of the year. If they set it on that weekend AFTER you already sent the save-the-date email, that would make me feel they are being selfish too. I'm sorry you're having such a bah-humbug time of year!!
DH and I were just talking about this
last night. We saw the Shamwow guy's new infomercial for the chopper...listen closely to the chopped nuts part if you see it. We think he is the next generation of Mays. At least the Shamwow guy is hysterical.
WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT????????????
say the baby "dropped" as in dropped into your pelvis??? I'm seriously hoping that was a joke!!!
WHAT are you talking about?
No one here is saying anything about where it came from. Most have the sense to know it was a gift, already heard. We are talking pets, not politics.
you might be talking about the BMI....nm
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I think what she was talking about
is about single parents - not having the mother or father present but still can raise your kids right...like my daddy did with me :)
We were just talking about that!
That's so funny - I was talking to my best friend on the phone and we said the same thing. She said she thought Debbie Rowe had made some effort to get back in the kids lives and, if so (and assuming she isn't a complete nut job), she should get the two back that are definitely hers.
Are you talking about the 1 on the
gurney with him being intubated?
Talking about dieting, has anyone
used Hoodia and if so, what kind of success have you had with it?
That's what we're talking about
It turns out he stood me up because he had been told I was too young for him, and didn't know how to say it. Yeah, that sounds lame, I know, but I believe him. We were only kids.
Anyway, we've talked about, if it lasts, sticking it out till we're old and gray, and eventually meeting again when we're both free. This may or may not happen. NOne of us are getting any younger. And, no, I'm not going to just sit around waiting for my husband to die. I've had a full life for 41 years - I can wait another thirty if necessary.
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