Mine is the same way, and yes I lie to keep the peace - sm
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all the time. I have a whopper I am hiding from him right now that if/when he finds out it will either result in physical violence for which I will call 911 assuming I am able to, or divorce or both. Luckily my deceit does not weigh heavily on me or I might go crazy; I can hold a secret w/o any guilt, most people cannot and have to tell someone, I never have and never will. He freaks out as well over the d*u*m*best things and is calm over things I think are quite serious. I do wonder if he may be borderline bipolar, he is depressed and knows it but refuses to do anything about it. So our marriage has been slowly dying, though lately he has been trying for us (just the 2 of us) to do more together which is odd and surprising, and no he is not cheating though he had plenty of opps with travel and out of the house a lot; he is just to disease fearing and lazy too pursue an affair, plus he knows if I ever caught wind of one his life as he knows it would be over. I say it is okay to deceive to keep the peace, just don't trip yourself up and don't do it in front of the kids.
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Peace to you too : )
Can you find one occurrence in the New Testament books of worship in the ceremonial/specific sense (going to a specific place to worship) being required of bondservants of Christ? The answer is no. Or are the occurrences of worship speaking of obedience in every area of life? The answer is yes. Do any of the Greek words used for worship occur in any sense requiring bondservants of Christ to go to Jerusalem, or to any specific place to worship God? No, they do not. Would we expect centralized ceremonial worship to be required today in light of the fact that Jews were doing this because the spirit of God was not yet given them (John 7:39)? In light of the fact that in the Old Testament, God only dwelt in temples made with hands because the Spirit was not yet inside of the people, but today, God does not dwell in temples made with hands, because the Spirit of God dwells within our bodies? If you attend church, have you been trained to search the Scriptures to find the answers to such questions as these (Acts 17:11), or do you need to ask your pastor?
Aww....be at peace, CJ. :(
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War and Peace.
 Well, I thought my response was hilarious! I really am laughing all by myself here at that one.
Nah, actually my childhood library consisted of the timeless collection known as Little Golden Books...my favorite being Nurse Nancy. ....still love to play naughty nurse too!
I already said my peace up top
but you really shouldn't talk bad about someone you don't know. Everyone has their limits.
Rest in Peace,
Oh NO! I didn't know. I am devastated!
with peace of mind 24/7 nm
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Thanks I'll try anything to keep the peace - NM
NM
I pray His love and peace be with you. nm
His arms are big....rest there.
Big decision, I need peace of mind (nm)
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Your inner peace is disrupted.....hence, the nightmares. nm
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Rest in peace, Fred!
We just put our 22-year-old cat, Fred, to sleep this evening. He had wasted away from 17 pounds to 5 pounds and was too weak to stand or eat. He was a loving companion for the past 22 years and will be missed dearly.
Rest in peace, Fred. Benny, Gus, and Lily will be waiting in heaven to greet you with open arms!
If you think it will bring you peace of mind and you're
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May you have peace knowing your love will never end. My sympathies
Beyond the Rainbow
As much as I loved the life we had and all the times we played,
I was so very tired and knew my time on earth would fade.
I saw a wonderous image then of a place that's trouble-free
Where all of us can meet again to spend eternity.
I saw the most beautiful Rainbow, and on the other side
Were meadows rich and beautiful--lush and green and wide!
And running through the meadows as far as the eye could see
Were animals of every sort as healthy as could be!
My own tired, failing body was fresh and healed and new
And I wanted to go run with them, but I had something left to do.
I needed to reach out to you, to tell you I'm alright
That this place is truly wondrful, then a bright Glow pierced the night.
'Twas the Glow of many Candles shining bright and strong and bold
And I knew then that it held your love in its brilliant shades of gold.
For although we may not be together in the way we used to be,
We are still connected by a cord no eye can see.
So whenever you need to find me, we're never far apart
If you look beyond the Rainbow and listen with your heart.
C.G. 1995
...wait, that might be Drummer Boy/Peace on Earth (?) NM
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Hopefully this child can finally rest in peace....
You know it has to be the Anthony girl.
You're right there, I think real peace of mind is being able to go to bed and......sm
not only have a warm bed and a home, with food in your tummy, but also knowing that you can at least pay for heat, electricity, and food, your essentials. Any more than that is nice, but how much more?? Once you get into that "gotta have" endless cycle, it is just not worth it, it is all just "stuff" that can be gone in half a heartbeat! God bless all. I am really praying every day for those who are looking for work, my husband and I have been there, it is a heartsick and frightening situation. Don't give up, anybody!!!{{}}
You're right there, I think real peace of mind is being able to go to bed and......sm
not only have a warm bed and a home, with food in your tummy, but also knowing that you can at least pay for heat, electricity, and food, your essentials. Any more than that is nice, but how much more?? Once you get into that "gotta have" endless cycle, it is just not worth it, it is all just "stuff" that can be gone in half a heartbeat! God bless all. I am really praying every day for those who are looking for work, my husband and I have been there, it is a heartsick and frightening situation. Don't give up, anybody!!!{{}}
Justice of the peace for us (we didn't even tell kids till it was over) sm
Just the way we wanted it - no muss, no fuss - 
Wean yourself from her, little by little, for your own peace of mind. She'll either get the mess
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Rest in Peace, Pavarotti. Your gift will be missed. nm
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We must walk in love and peace every single day of our lives. sm
We never, ever know when we will be tempted to be rude or get angry. If you don't purpose to love others and count others "better than yourself," then you will fall into this kind of behavior. I never want to live like that. I desperately want people to remember for good deeds and love. I know a few people personally in my life right now who wouldn't be missed a second if something were to happen to them. Sad, sad, sad.
Google post tubal peace of mind syndrome
Nah, just kidding but I had a tubal at age 29 after my second child, knew definitely did not want another, had always said no children at all after 30 and that is what I did. Never had the first problem with it. I would not try to talk a guy into a vasectomy if he had any drawback to it because lots think it somehow takes menhood away and men can be such big babies to start with sometimes.
bing crosby/david bowie - peace on earth Little drummer
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Don't know about your God, but mine
my God is more forgiving than that!
She is not doing anyone any harm, so to say she will burn in h*** for celebrating the fun part of Halloween, not evilness, is the whole reason I do not attend church!
I never did it with mine. For one, I would have been
too embarrassed. My mother used to do it, but we have come a long way since then. I find it kind of primitive. I think nothing is wrong with it in your own home, but in public, I really think you should think about it. There are all kinds of weirdos out there and you just don't know what is in their minds. I see nothing wrong with breastfeeding INSIDE YOUR HOME, but there are folks who would get offended by doing it in public. I would not be offended, but really...I think you could put some of that breast milk in a bottle before you go out.
Mine is up
and FAKE -- Me and my fam are all allergic!
Have red/white/blue/silver these. Looks awesome. Have lights up outside too!!!!
HAPPY HOLIDAYS!
Mine would be...
Laxatives
Laytex gloves
a metal detector
mine too
have to light a fire under his butt in an attempt to get him out of the house.
Mine did nothing at all, at least he went out and tried - sm
more than my DH did, though mine did ask me what I wanted, I told him, he told me to go buy it. This is typical for him. He used to get me beautiful jewelry for b-day, Christmas, annivarsary, that lasted for about 2 years or so, then it has been buy yourself what you want. I do not get bent (what is the point) though a little effort on his part would be nice. He did surprise me on our 10-year anniversary though this year, got me a beautiful opal necklace. As for the kids, my one daughter gave me 2 things, my other nothing, but she gives me wonderful drawings and such all the time, she just has a selfish streak I guess and does not think of others only herself. I just talked to her about this, maybe in the future she will remember our little talk and some good will come from it. My DH needs to learn somehow to have the kids get things for mom on special occasions, yours does too it seems. My neighbor has the same problem with her husband. Basically they are lazy people. He does none of the shopping, gift wrapping, packing to leave (except for his stuff of course), etc. He did buy 1 or 2 gifts, which I of course wrapped. This will probably never change until the kids are gone and he is an old man. I have seen it happen but not until grandchildren are on the scene and these men become model husbands for some reason, whether it is out of boredom or fear of the wife finally saying "I'm out of here, go fend for yourself", or they get struck my lightening, who knows, but beating yourself up about it is not the answer. If you are truly unhappy, get out, or kick him out. But if this is his "flaw" then either live with it, and buy yourself what you want each year or do something about it. It is your call how you deal with it.
mine went away
I had one on my nose for about a year and all of a sudden it just vanished and has never come back. It always bothered me because it was so ugly, but it never hurt and I didn't have to pay to zap it.
Two of mine have had and he will run
fever if he does not drink or eat the popsickles and get sicker. You probably know but you can cool him down with tepid water, try that. You will really have to keep up with you have to drink or eat cool, cold so he will not run that fever.
Yes, mine are
never and I mean never tempt fate. i could never say I was sick or someone else sick say if I wanted to be off from work, no, no, might come true. I have to knock on wood when I say something that is an iffy thing, don’t want to jink.
LOL, I had mine do just that
I gave him a testing tape. It took him hours to get through a page, typing with two fingers, with everything lumped together in one big paragraph, headings and all. Not to mention all the mistakes. lol He now says he has no idea how I do this. I told him I don't know either. : )
LOL! Mine does that too!
And I love how they can never puke/cough up hairballs on the tile, they always have to find a carpeted area (which stains). They can be in the middle of the tile kitchen and find the only rug!
Mine do that too! LOL!
I have tiles in my kitchen, bathroom, and laundry room, yet they decide to leave me presents in the living room or bedrooms where it is carpeted! I own a steam cleaner just for that purpose! LOL!
ok, here's mine...
Awesome: Ellen Degeneres (sp?)
Lame: Oprah
Mine is like that too. (sm)
I don't know why they so strongly believe that aggressive driving is good driving. DH always wants to drive or else he goes nuts, but when I occasionally end up being the driver, he needs to keep quiet so I can concentrate. Just because his BP is through the roof shouldn't mean mine has to be. Lately even when I'm the passenger I don't put up with it. As he starts up, complaining about traffic the moment we've pulled out of the driveway, I calmly remind him he'll live through it. He is starting to realize what a pain he is in the car.
Mine did this ONCE -
We were first married and actually WERE, uh, busy...You never saw someone hit the door running so fast. It never happened again. However, if I were you I would definitely lock my door and put up a sign asking everyone to please knock. It is YOUR house.
Here's how I got out of mine...
I called the cell phone company, said I was trying to cancel but got disconnected and had to call back. When the rep said I had to pay termination on both phones I said the previous rep said I only had to be for 1 phone disconnect fee. After going back and forth a little bit, the rep caved and only charged me for 1 disconnect fee. Worth a try. Good luck.
Mine
used to go on "business trips" and would never check in as well and came up with a world of reasons why. He was seeing other women. That also played a role in lowering my self-esteem, but now I look back and actually feel sorry for him. He's alone and will never have the respect or relationship I have with our children. It's just pitiful, but he made his bed.
I hope you have family you can talk to and get support from. If you need to email me, please feel free. I just know how you feel and I hurt for you right now, but I promise you, it'll all be okay.
Here are mine...sm
Knitting, crochet, cross stitch are my favorites, but the projects keep piling up in a corner because there is no time, and too tired to get through even 5 pages of a book at bedtime. Wish I had an adventure-filled life to blame it on. 
I got mine a GPS....sm
he gets lost VERY easily so I figured he'd love it.
mine are like that too.
The last time one of them was home he straightened out one my cupboards and they like to cook with me and play board or card games.
That is exactly how I fix mine, YUM! (nm)
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First mine said he was gay
He deliberately married me for a "front" (he was in the military) and didn't bother to tell me he was gay until we'd been married 6 months. After years of confusion, he ended up having a sex change after marrying a second woman and having a child with her.
If you're lucky, he's just curious. But you really need to get the truth out of him, and be prepared for the worst. If he's really confused about his sexuality it may take him years to figure out who he "is" and what he really wants, so it may be difficult for him to tell you the truth because he might be in denial about it himself.
Mine was only 10 or 11, but she had - sm
aggressive, metastatic breast cancer that spread to her lungs. Vet said I would "know" when to have her PTS.
I knew when she didn't want to do anything but sit on the couch and stare off into space. No longer wanted food or attention, just occasional water, and kind of a blank stare. Was also out of breath all the time. So I had a long talk with her about it, and she just seemed to be saying, "Do it - I'm ready."
Well here's mine (sm)
I can lean on the slacker side sometimes too so here is what I do: get my tea- start half an hour early - read any interesting news on Yahoo, check and respond to emails, look at MTstars ;-) - just get that out of the way. Through the day I tell myself I can't switch over and check email or anything until I have done a certain number of minutes, etc., which earns me an email break. I also have motivational music on my computer - like The Blur's Woohoo! song that I play in between when I am doing things that don't require listening, like sending my work and things like that.
here's mine
 Life is good, I am SO blessed!
Mine is on my arm
I want a new one on my back but i'm afraid to get it done here; my one and only was done in Austin, Texas. Mine's pretty big, it takes up almost my entire upper arm.
yes, I got mine on 05/02
I was under the assumption that married people get 1200. Not true. We only got 600. The VA took 167.00 of it, so that left us with 433. Not exactly what I was expecting, but will come in handy.
I'd rather be where you are but here's mine:
http://www.arkansas.com/
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