Mine did not though I wish they had now - sm
Posted By: XXX on 2009-05-12
In Reply to: Would you charge 18yo rent? - Silly Girl
I think I would have been more financially responsible then. I did pay rent for about one year, but it really was not rent, I was paying back a loan, $400 a month for the year. A friend of mine's dad charged her $700 a month (her and child), promised her he was saving the money for her as a downpayment for a house, so when she wanted to move out and get a house she'd have a nice downpayment. Nice in theory. He ended up using the money as a downpayment on a condo but not for her, for her deadbeat brother when he got out of prison. (She moved out when he did that) Didn't want him in a halfway house or crappy apartment as they figured he'd become readdicted to drugs, etc. He ended up readdicted anyway, to alcohol and pain killers. Died about year after he got out, OD of pills and alcohol. Lots happened since then, her mom died, she ended up moving back in with dad after two years, supposedly inheriting the house but knowing her dad who knows, just hope he does not pull the rug out from under her when he dies (she has another older brother who is estranged from the family). I don't think he is charging her as much now, or at all, as she buys all the groceries and pays several of the utilities now. ---but if I had a kid workign full-time not going to school, yes I would charge him. Find out the going rate for an apartment in your area, then charge a little less than than, say $400-500 a month, and save it for him as a deposit on his own apartment. I really wish my parents had done that for me so I would have learned to stand on my own two feet better. I did pay for all my food/groceries my last two years of college and my parents paid my rent ($150 a month), and I did actually pay the rent for six months though they never knew it (did not eat a lot in that time) as my roommate went to the Italy campus for a semester, she refused to pay her portion while gone (though was on the lease) so I covered it----got a new roommate the next year which ticked her off big time. But that was just here and there, never paid rent all the time which did not teach fiscal responsibility. Very important.
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Yes, mine are
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ok, here's mine...
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Lame: Oprah
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Here are mine...sm
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Santa and Pete with Hume Cronyn.
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Cornbread dressing, mashed potatoes, gravy made from the turkey drippings, green beans, and heat-n-serve rolls.
Here is mine....
..
Mine too! - They are probably all on an
island somewhere living a wonderful life and have left us here to deal with their replacements!
Please have your stranger come pick up my stranger on his way to this quest!
I'm 45, and mine is 26.
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water with lemon slice and hot green tea with a hint of jasmine
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Mine would be
Cookie Bartz - - NAH! Not so much 
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Johnny Gage, baby!
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Alright now, I LOVE disco...Donna Summer, Kool & The Gang, Gloria Gaynor (sp?)...*I will survive...*
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I still have use for mine
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OK, here's mine!
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what I did when mine were 18....if they sm
were not in school, I charged them rent. As far as how much it depends on how much they are making. Mine made as much as we did (they had very good jobs) so I told them they could pay 1/4. Four people living in the house divided by 4. Its only fair. They got mad and moved out and then came back when they figured out they really did have it good.
They are now grown and working and busting their butts for what they have.
If they are in school full-time that is different. If you don't do it kids just spend their money any way they want and never learn. I have an niece who is 45 years old, is an ultrasound tech making 30 bucks an hour and doesn't pay my sister a dime! My sister is widowed on a fixed income. But, its my sister's fault because she doesn't ask for anything either. Sometimes I could just slap my niece.. She spends her money as she chooses and acts like its no big deal!
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