Mind if I ask how long you'v been married?

• How many times a week? month? - sm
  • medical info - miss prude
    • All kinds were turning up their noses when I posted below and yet - Racy
      • This is a different than what you were posting - noprude
      • So you're jealous that we didn't want to hear about hot your times were? Seriously? nm - noX
        • Jealous is not the correct word here - Racy
    • How? By Googling "normal number of sexcapades?" nm - It was asked tactfully
      • tactfully? - sm
  • There is no "normal." It is whatever works for - both. (NM)
  • Quit concerning yourself with "normal." sm - No hangups
  • hubby 75, still its 1-2 a week. - nm
  • This year will be our 35th year - Been there done that
  • Going to be 29 years in May, married as kids(!), it depends on what shifts we are working/overtime, - Cyndiee
  • Been married 1-1/2 years...still 2-3 times DAILY and still very hot for us... - I think we're freakish exceptions though?
  • We are at 1-2 x a week, usually just on - sm - together 14 years
  • We have it almost every night unless - one or the other goes to sleep...
    • Married, none in probably 2 years or more. NM - Without
      • Do you want to? Does he? Something sounds wrong - here.
        • What sounds wrong about it. There are plenty - Without
          • Have a wonderful dinner...nm - PAMT~MDM
            • Thanks, we did - Without
            • Stop making me laugh! If neither party minds, OK - by me.
      • same here. nm - anon
      • Don't feel bad. None here either. - Nonamefornow
        • I think we have the urges but - Without
          • Can you discuss this with family doctor? There is more than - one way to do "it:".
            • He has talked with his physician, - Without
      • Mind if I ask how long you'v been married? - (sm)
        • Over 5, less than 15 NM - Without

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My hubby did that after we were married about a year or so.  He just liked my stuff, i.e., lotions, body wash, etc...He was my Ken doll; I would "dress him up," fix his unruly, naturally curly hair, buy his shaving cream and cologne, etc...Since we would shower together, he would wash with what I washed with (usually Sun-Ripened Raspberry!) and if I took a shower before him, he would yell and ask where my body wash was.  Before we got together, he washed his body with shampoo instead of soap/body wash.  Men like to do that for some reason.

However, since that started soon after being married, I didn't think it was worrisome; just cute. 

I, personally, wouldn't worry, but I don't know your husband.

BUT it was still the right thing to do. I have been happier since and I am fine on my own, but it was extremely tough as he didn't pay child support and I could not find a way to make him (not for lack of trying though and a social worker whose job it was to collect his arrears kept telling me no, I didn't really need it!).  Financially it was terrible, but the relief of his absence was enormous. 

He was critical.  He was always rude. My friends would only come to visit when he was on the road.  The kids would pick up their messes, but he made more than they ever did, never helped and constantly criticized me for not being a perfect housekeeper like his mom...who didn't work, had a housekeeper and spent her days at the mall shopping.  I had more kids than she did, worked always and ended up being too exhausted for him.  He is a homophobic homosexual and going out on "mommy and daddy" dates was always humiliating because he spent the evening looking at other men's behinds. 

I got out and suffice it to say, at quite a price financially and emotionally.  I have not remarried, have only had one relationship in 15 years and feel too damaged to ever try again, but I am FREE from all of that. 

My kids were pleased when he left and were all too anxious to help him to leave the house! 

The waterfall idea I had was obviously to make my own, but creating out of pottery, or a like substance and having it fired.  However, I've no experience and tho I am keenly interested, I am afraid it would be quite time consuming.  I would like to propose before Christmas.

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I did not say he was in his right mind- sm
it is never right, just saying maybe childbirth, etc. made him be *tupid- who knows, who cares at this point. No need for you to be a total witch about it. I had not read all the posting when I posted, what is your excuse? I am more concerned about her current children. If he is a pedophile she needs to see if he had done anything with her/their own kids.

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Only in your mind (nm)
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Mind your own
I doubt that getting the stick is so heinous, or the child wouldn't have chosen it. What the child did was deliberately deceptive, which is really one of the worst offenses. When a child believes he is so clever he can outwit the parent, there is trouble brewing.

Like others have said, DHS is not the best solution and once you get them involved, you can't un-ring that bell. If you see the child with marks on him or limping from injuries, that's different. As it is, stay out of it.

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A J Cowling and OJ come to mind........

Oh yeah I did watch it - and still felt *inundated* - it became prime time TV.....it preempted many TV shows.....

And as far as you not thinking he did the deed - you're entitled to your opinion - just as we all are.  I believe he did it and it's as simple as that, TO ME.  To me, he HAS the legs - legs that were/ are known for running!! 

Have a great Sunday...........

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I think she should mind her own business - NM
NM

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the first thing that comes to my mind
detatched retina.

not saying thats whats wrong but had 2 sister-in-laws who both had detatched retina and symptoms were floaters. get to an eye doctor asap to get it checked out. if it is the sooner its treated the better--- which is the case no matter what the cause is

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I google whatever ? comes to mind...sm

http://www.mojomoon.net/santeria.html

http://www.bloomington.in.us/~lgthscac/santeria.htm

http://www.religioustolerance.org/santeri.htm

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Santeria

 

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I actually dont mind others using....
a cell phone if I am in a store as long as it is not to argue with family etc. My son has one and sometimes he will use it in a store to call me and ask me something regarding an item I asked to grab for me while there etc. I have also heard husbands talking to their partners asking questions regarding food shopping while in an isle. That doesnt seem to bother me at all..

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How do you quiet your mind

My mind just always races and I can't sleep. I am not good at meditating, can't take meds or herbal supplements because of health issues. any suggestions?

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Big DollHouse comes to mind!...

The Big Dollhouse I gotta get out, How'd i get in this slammer This cooler, this big dollhouse! Alright, ladies, welcome to the "Big Dollhouse!" For those of you new to the Baltimore Women's House of Detention, think of me as a mother... one who eats her young! Locked up with all these lowlife women And horizontal stripes ain't exactly slimmin'. Is there anybody here who can dry clean my blouse? It's the maid's day off In the big dollhouse Lady justice, Where have you gone? Îîí, wilbur, check, I think i left the iron on! Did you see corny laughing?  I could murder that louse! Honey, that'll getcha life  In the big dollhouse Big house!... Locked up here in the pen Big house!... No phone! No food!  No men! I need a conjugal visit  from my loving spouse Honey, just drop the soap in The Big Dollhouse Yoo hoo, my stomach's a little sour I haven't had food in over an hour You just had a pizza, six burgers, a mouse! There's no food left  in the big dollhouse  Hey, I have got to complain Mira, mami, don't i know you from 1st and main? Eek, call my attorneys  Lipshitz and Strauss I gotta get sprung from the big dollhouse Big house! No fair!  No food!  No fun! Big house! And our fight had just begun 'Cause it's freedom's flame I'd like to douse So we must break out of this Big Dollhouse Penny, i can't take all this waiting I've lost my man plus, my hair's deflating! Well Tracy, I hate to grumble or grouse But it's your fault that we're in  this big dollhouse!! Hey, cool it, ladies no need to shout And don't ya got an old man to bail you out?   Ha! Her daddy's a pervert, a loser, a souse! Well, it's just us girls in the big dollhouse Big house! God, i'm too young to fry! Big house! I'm busting out!  Girl, so am i! Lady justice, hear my plea 'Cause the big dollhouse The big dollhouse ain't big enough for me!

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Brings to mind
Michael Jackson's little court room dramatics- hobbling into court in his PJs acting like he was at deaths door.

Do they really think the judge is gonna go "ohhh, poor thing, I can't send them to jail if they don't feel well!" Gimme a break!

Paris's "medical condition" is obviously not so severe that it kept her from going out and getting drunk and driving.

And please, I had a friend who had full blown AIDS and was still required to serve most of his sentence.

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Okay, losing my mind. I now see it! Thanks for the help. nm
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That's a weight off your mind!
Glad it was just a contact allergy to something avoidable.

I can't touch roses myself.

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Okay, I don't mind paying
to make sure everything is in order! Thanks for all the advice!

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Would you mind sharing?
My mom used to always keep a copy of The Pill Book which had pics of medications as well as info about them. When my son and my niece were little, they would play doctor (REAL doctor, not the other kind! LOL) and use The Pill Book to prescribe things for each other.

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with peace of mind 24/7 nm
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Mind Freak
Chris Angel....illusionist extraordinaire right now on A&E (whatever channel that is in your area)....The 21st century Houdini....Any comments?

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Mind if I ask who you're going with
we need to make some changes (going wireless as we now have three computers and only two are wired to the modem right now) and are considering getting a cell phone again (haven't had one for years, but had Sprint about eight years ago and felt that the clarity was better with their service than the experiences we've had talking to people who use some of the other services today). We have BellSouth, now AT&T, for phone/DSL and also had our Direct TV service set up through one of their special offers a couple of years ago. I haven't had time lately to take a look at available options for combining and saving, transitioning to wireless, etc., so I hope you don't mind if I pick your brain a litte bit. Oh, we do have a security system, but it is not currently being monitored and one of our puppies chewed first the carpet and then the SS wiring, so now just a trouble light there and will have to call someone out to repair the wiring. I have wondered about Walton EMC for that, but the computer issues and possibly dropping the LAN line for a cell are what's really got me thinking about this.

I sure would appreciate any insight you could offer. Thanks, and have a peachy day!

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never mind, i figured it out nm
nm

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Mind my business?
You rude ( I cant say on here what I would like so I will leave it to your imagination). If I was minding her business don't you think I would be calling her or going over there. No I am not. I AM minding my own business. I am well aware that a person can do what they like with a gift or card they get. But what a rude person to just put a card in a drawer that someone went to the trouble of sending. It doesn't change the fact it is rude. Don't tell me to mind my own business. You are probably one of those people who has no friends so of course you wouldn't have in insightful info on any experiences with friends. Therefore don't answer my posts. Concern for a friend does not make me clingy. Yes we talked all the time on the phone and emailed a lot. Why wouldn't I be concerned when that stopped? I have a life. I have a job, a husband, a son, and many pets. I have plenty to occupy my time. But I am not the type of person to not show concern.

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Do you mind if I ask your age..I understand
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This crossed my mind too (sm)
It could be anything along these lines...maybe as simple as a strip club or maybe much worse. But yes, don't panic or let him know you are suspicious or you will have a much harder time catching him if anything is going on.

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Clearly to blame for what? In your mind. nm
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To ease your mind
I told my internist I had a problem with my thyroid, knew what it was because of the obvious symptoms- however when the test results came back they called endocrinologist and I got in almost immediately. You see, the difference is a physician's office calling as opposed to you or me. I have learned that little trick and have asked other offices to call for me because they can get a person seen earlier. I did not have a nodule but I have hypothyroidism and treated with medication alone. Hey, we must have seen the same person - I was told the endocrinologist did not have a good bedside manner- just means he was not talkative or personable- would not let that bother me either.

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you mind if we have a little hope here???
bet you slam everything.

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Keep in mind I have zero experience with this, but...sm
first, has your mother told her lawyer about all of this?  I would think her lawyer would have advice, or at least can refer her to someone in the know.  Maybe she can charge your father really high rent with legal repercussions (eviction) if he fails to pay up?  If your father has a girlfriend, why can't he live with her?  Can he sell his 7 acres?  Obviously I don't have a clue, just sharing thoughts in my head.  What a tough situation; I feel bad you and your family have to go through this. 

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I don't mind at all that you sent my email along.
There is plenty of training material available to scout leaders on the transition period and how to help the boys stay in scouting. There are videos, training sessions run by people like me, written material, etc. It's out there. It's just hard to get it through some of the leaders' brains that the boys need to be treated like boys in transition, and not like army recruits. I really applaud you for being willing to go out on the trips with the troop. That is also a hard thing to do with so many men around. I looked very carefully when my boys were crossing over to scout troops. We are fortunate in our area to have many troops to choose from. We found a great troop headed by mostly even-thinking adults who had no problem with a woman joining them. It's not perfect, and every now and then, some sexist fool says or does something stupid, but nothing is ever insurmountable in that regard. Know that having women leaders is a unit option, which means that the chartering organization can decide that no girls are allowed, so to speak. This is sometimes done for religious reasons. Other times it's just sort of a tacit tradition. I didn't have to overcome that issue, and in fact, when it was discovered that I had been camping all my life and was an avid solo backpacker, I got the job of teaching the boys about backpacking, too. Our troop welcomed all volunteers who were willing to be trained and who could commit to helping the boys.

I do hope it works out for your son. If you do join as a leader, be sure that you take advantage of all the training opportunities available to you. Your troop should have a training coordinator or advancement chair who knows when training is offered. (By the way, are the adult leaders of this troop fully trained? That's VERY important.) As a GSUSA leader, you should understand the value of training. The Girl Scouts really do a great job of requiring leaders to be trained. BSA councils and districts, however, sometimes vary on how strict they are on training requirements. Don't be afraid to help out. You're doing this for your son, and that really is a great motivator. And what's really cool is that most of us start out wanting to help our own sons, but in the process we help so many other boys and parents along the way.

Good luck!

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nothing comes to mind offhand, but
I know I have a few of them. A typo I make regularly, however, is when typing the word *and* . . . it never fails when typing fast, I always type *nad* LOL

Reminds me now of how we always laugh about the hair remover called NADS . . . what were they thinking? LOL!

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OMG!! That's it. I wondered why mind was so.....sm

explosive and obviously ready to fight over just anything.  Why I never took this into consideration I will never know, but that is so right on!!

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did it cross your mind that if sm
you sty you are abusing your child and setting yourself up to be hurt? Get out now ND worry about it later. If he has been doing this for years why don't you already have enough proof? Have you been doing the wishy-washy thing all along? There is no excuse. You re no better mother than he is a father and husbnd if you continue to keep your child there.

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It crossed my mind, believe me.
But that was my last resort, especially with the chicken cooking on the stove.  Thank goodness for heated seats in the truck, cause it was pretty darn cold in just my jammies!

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Would you mind if I e-mailed you?
There is something I would like to share that could possibly be of help. 

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This is not a new thought in my mind
I am older and when I was in high school no one in my class of 200+ was obese. No one would ever be able to tell me it is the fast food alone. Just like diabetes is not all obese related.

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one thing to keep in mind
They are basically wanting you to be their employee in exchange for rent. Do errands include midnight runs to Taco Bell? What do they consider "light" housekeeping? I think you would find it very difficult to do MT work at the same time as they are probably looking for a full-time maid. Nothing is that simple.

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