Military wife with a suggestion

• Holiday gift for nephew in Iraq - TAIBer
  • Military wife with a suggestion - Trixie
  • Shipping reminders - see inside - mtgal
    • telephone cards sm - me2
  • Been there....... - anon
  • My son served in Iraq and he said he liked - clhmt
  • Hope no one gets the wrong idea.... - TAIBer
    • no wrong idea sm - Survivor
  • Had an idea - ClinicMT
  • My husband was a contractor over there for a year - his suggestions - - mtgal
  • Care package sm - Survivor
    • I will ask my cousin's husband - sa
      • Iraq gifts sm - Survivor
    • Here is his info in case anyone is interested - TAIBer
      • Again, hope no one gets the wrong idea.... - Me again

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Well, I was in the military, and that is one of the big reasons I chose to get out! I got out in 94, so I'm not exactly sure what has changed, but here goes...

First, my mouth dropped open when I read your post! I have a 14 and 7 year old and can't imagine leaving them, sick or not! But a 3-month-old baby! When I was in, it used to be if you got pregnant, you had the choice of being discharged. Last I knew, you could request a hardship discharge, based on the circumstances of the baby being in the hospital, preemie, etc. But here's the catcher to all this...it IS the military! If they don't want to let you out, they don't have to! They can do anything they feel like! That's what is BS! Sorry, this mom should NOT be going anywhere, let alone Iraq, with her baby in this state! Wow! Okay now you got me going!

One day you should have all plotted together and when she came in the room, jumped up and saluted. ROFL

I had a barium enema quite a while ago and my splenic flexure goes up really high and then twists. Sometimes gas will get stuck in there and it will hurt like the dickens. I'm glad I had the BE, though, because I know what it is and that it will pass in a little while. If it didn't, I would be at the urgent care pronto.

I'm trying to help my son with his writing project.  the subject is military appreciation.  I can't think of anything they do for us other than fight for our country/rights and help out in times of need (such as in Katrina)

anybody have any ideas?

My husband woke up with RUQ pain, which got progressively worse.  I took him to the navy hospital ER.  They said he had a GI bug and told him to go home, drink fluids, yada yada yada.

We got about 10 minutes from the hospital when he started kicking and punching the inside of my car because of his pain.  I knew immediately what it was because I had seen both my dad and uncle go thru it. 

I flew back to the hospital and drove up to the ambulance dock, which was closer to the ER.  He was telling me not to park there - he'd get into trouble.  I told him I didn't give a rat's behind, that he was sick and that's where he was going.  There were 2 guys sitting in the ambulance who helped him into the waiting room while I parked the car.

We sat in the waiting room for a couple of hours.  They finally called him back.  Every so often, the corpsman came out and gave me an update.  I finally, almost rudely, asked him if they considered doing an IVP or a cystoscopy because of the location and severity of the pain?  He looked at me and mumbled something about them thinking about doing an IVP.  Anyway, he had a massive kidney stone.  So, they sent him home (this was on a Friday) with Tylox (Percocet equivalent).  He threw up all weekend and we thought it was due to the narcotics.  I didn't know better.  Narcotics had made me throw up before too.

I rushed him back Monday morning and he was admitted immediately.  He was septic and close to septic shock.  The uro doc said his ureters looked like tissue paper and they had to place stents in both of them.  Then, he finally gets discharged with a stent in his bladder, that was kept open, so he constantly dribbled urine.  One or two days later, I heard a loud moan.  He walked out of the bathroom with the stent in his hand.  They hadn't placed it right. 

Anyone still want government run healthcare?

Happy 4th to everyone!  Please just take a minute today to remember all of our wonderful, brave men and women who have fought to make this day possible.  This is not just another holiday to get time and a half, or just another day to complain about no work, bad hours, etc.  This is a day to celebrate our freedom, the freedom that is made possible by every member of our military!!

Please remember them in your prayers today. 

There would be only two reasons for me to run away from my home.  One reason would be voluntarily, as in winning the lottery--hence the bank.  The other would also be voluntary but there would be retribution involved--hence the Military Surplus store.

Xerox has a website set up where you can send a free printed postcard to U.S. military personnel stationed overseas showing your support and appreciation for their service to our country.  Click on the link below to be directed to their website.

cooked. It was always McD's, Taco Bell, Pizza, etc. She never cleaned either. All she knew how to do was spend the bill money. (She didn't work, BTW).

Now my grandson is on a diet at 15 yo, 195 pounds.Thank heavens, my son woke up and got rid of her.

My mom worked every day and when she came home, made supper and it was always on the table by 5-5:30. If my father was on the 2nd shift, she'd make him a hot meal, put it in a square metal container and I would bicycle it to his work. When I was old enough to use the stove, I would make supper once or twice a night. In the summer, I would clean the house so she would have less to do.

I worked 2 jobs most of my life, but always had time to take my boys to their baseball practice, wrestling practice, and when old enough, to their PT job and pick them up at 10-11:00 when they would get off, went to open house every year to see how they were doing, etc. I also made sure their homework was done (not that boys really bring homework home in those days LOL), had a meal on the table for them every night, never had snacks like chips or pretzels in the house. The only thing they had to drink was water or milk. No soda.  BTW, my husband during this time was away from home all week, so it was all left to me.

The parents today are too pressured, as are the kids. Kids are not allowed to be kids anymore. They are 7 going on 70. I think it's time they get back to being normal kids. They need breathing room. I don't know who ever decided that the kids had to be in every sport, every club, every volunteer activity the school has, but it's crazy. Not all kids fit that mold and they shouldn't have to. Plus their grades are expected to be A's and B's, nothing less. Perfection is the norm and no one is perfect.

What's wrong with this picture?

I'll jump down from my soapbox now.

It sounds to me like you've made up your mind that HIS problems are all YOUR fault...they are NOT.  The only problems you are responsible for are YOURS.  It probably will not matter what you change about you to him.  If he's this angry and unstable, he'll ALWAYS find fault with you.

Please don't be naive and think that you can change him...you can't.  Only he can do that and he has to want to change his behavior. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and name-calling is by far the most disrespectful thing one person can do to another...especially if the other person is your spouse, the mother of your child.

And your child is being hurt by these outbursts.  She would be better off in a broken home than to have to listen to you and your husband screaming and belittling each other all the time.  In the end, her self worth will suffer, she'll think she doesn't deserve any better and may actually seek out abusive men when she gets older.

You all need help, even the child.  Go to counseling, even if you go alone, but take your daughter with you. It may come to you and your daughter leaving until he agrees to get help.  Then if he truly loves you and your family, he will do whatever it takes to make things right.  Don't wait around for the abuse to get worse, because inevitably it will escalate.  Now is the time to think of you and your daughter first. Your husband is a grown man, he's responsible for him...good luck and God bless...

Make sure it is a name the child can live with her entire life.  I know the trend is to make up names or take established names and twist their spellings so they are unrecognizable, but I think it's a dumb trend and the kids suffer when they have to go through their whole lives either pronouncing or spelling their names.  I often wonder where the parents' heads are.     JMHO. 

Oh, and I love the name Kate.

The rug is already on its way....

If he were younger, or if it were only the one leg, I would try the puppy booties. But both his back legs are weakened from the patellar luxation, even though he had surgery for it. They are quite unsteady at times. Add the right shoulder chronic dislocation and it is really difficult for him to get up and down.

Thanks for the suggestion, though. I hope maybe it will help someone else.

If you left out a very small amount of dry food at night (measured to make sure it is part of his daily total), would he eat all of it immediately or snack on it through the night? Maybe extra low calorie dry food?

For that age group and if they are interested in reading labels, etc. - visit a book store and find a few recipe books for kids - there are MANY on the market - and have them help plan a menu or give suggestions of what they think sounds good.  Of course Mom has final say and budgeting factors in etc., but let them know you are not providing a buffet and that if they are going to be that picky they have to be responsible for their choices and make some decisions/choices instead of just whining about what they don't like - also that they must compromise with other family members' tastes.  Let them help prepare meals (surprising what they'll eat if they are able to brag about "helping cook it" at the table!) and be more involved in their choices instead of just complaining - may be complaining just for the sake of driving mom nuts!  and yes, I have 4 kids myself - I know how they can be :-)