Midlife crisis
Posted By: think i'm having one on 2009-03-01
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I'm 32 and I think i'm having a midlife crisis. Any suggestions on how to overcome this? All I want to do is sleep so I won't have to wake up to my normal life.
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Midlife crisis
Do you think women have midlife crises just like men do? I have always been a very content person. Content with my life, work, family, etc. I was also someone who never liked change. Now for the past five years or so, I am so discontent with everything (life, job, marriage)! I just feel as if I could scream if nothing fun or exciting enters my life soon! I am so bored and discontent. I don't like it. I have tried to do things differently but nothing seems to help. I just feel like running away and starting fresh somewhere. However, then I think of my children, who are grown, and my one granddaughter, and that I would miss them very, very much. Has anyone else gone through this, or are you going through this. I am 49 years old. Help! Any suggestions! I have even had suicidal thoughts at times, but of course I would never act on them.
It could certainly be a midlife crisis sm
but it could also be depression, especially when you think of suicide. I am not say antidepressants are a cure all, but it could certainly be a start. Hugs to you!
midlife crisis
I believe that women go through midlife crises as well. I am 37. I believe my midlife crisis is because I got married way too early (age 20) and didn't have time to really "explore" my options. I, too, am bored and discontent. I try to stay active in my church and with my family, but I still find myself discontent.
midlife crisis
Have you considered taking antidepressants? I went through a severe depression after I had my first child that went beyond postpartum. I didn't know if I would ever be the same. I was against taking medication, but a friend convinced me to try it. It helped me be more positive and less anxious and to get focused again. I could have kicked myself for not taking it sooner. I would have enjoyed my child so much more. I am a Christian as well. Many Christian groups and churches are against medication for depression and say you should just rely on God. I believe God gave us a brain and He expects us to use it to be the best we can be for Him, ourselves and our loved ones. You may not need to take it for the rest of your life, but if only to help stabilize you so you can focus on making the decisions you need to make and get on with your life. God loves you and wants you to enjoy His blessings. This is not a weakness. You are not alone. I have been where you are and I survived! I still struggle at times, but I know there is help and hope for me, and there is for you, too. Hang in there, and don't be afraid to lean on the people who love you most. They need to know you're struggling if they're going to be able to help you. You'll get through this. I will keep you in my prayers!
could be the beginnings of a midlife crisis....mine
Later on, I divorced him (after 12 years), for many reasons, but one was certainly that I wasn't going to put up with possibly 20-30 years of a midlife crisis of his, or any man, that's a given....and today, he's mid 50s and still a mess.....in his head/heart at least...
best of luck....keep an eye out....
Why I stuck with MT after midlife crisis college degree
Lot of reasons, actually, not the least of which was that I was making some seriously good money as a medical biller at the time--and I hadn't burnt out yet. (I was also doing the transcription for 2 practices locally.) I also had an insane stubborn loyalty to my boss, and didn't want to leave him in the lurch. I got out of billing 2 years ago (well past burnout by then) and came home full time, still doing the transcription for the practice and one other, and still making good money at it.
But one reason I went back to school in the first place was because my boss had been making noises about quitting practice at some point, and he was so good (and I had him so very well-trained) I really couldn't see starting over again with another doctor who might not be so trainable. Not only that, the man is 11 years older than I, and it stood to reason he would retire before I would be ready to, so I would lose him eventually.
Last fall he closed his practice, actually going to work for another practice as an employee, not retiring quite yet, but despite his practically standing on his head on my behalf, the other practice didn't want to hire me. (Their loss.) That was when I had to find my first job with a national. Oh, joy. Welcome to the real world.
But I'll tell you what. There are some positive trade-offs. I don't have kids to stay home with... but I really, REALLY appreciate the mere 15-foot commute (I have a 4-1/2 year old car with still under 30k miles on it), the work wardrobe (pajamas), and best of all, the lack of B.S. and office politics. I get all the human contact I need between church and some other activities I participate in--places I choose to go and people I choose to see, rather than having people I don't get along with forced on me, as in the workplace. (Actually, I got along fine with them. They didn't get along with me. I just wanted them to not make my job harder. Was that too much to ask? Guess so. The last week I worked in the office, I had a sign on my wall that said "Others do not play well with me.")
The money in medical billing was nice, but it was costing me far too much. Meanwhile, I've used some of my info tech skills with a few freelance jobs for friends (website design, database design) but I have discovered that I really, really do NOT want to be responsible for maintaining somebody else's systems.... I also figured out really quickly after my business management classes (and being billing department head) that I am NOT cut out to be a manager. Trouble with management is that you have to . . . manage people. It's like herding cats. No, thank you.
So I haven't completely ruled out doing something else with my life, if I ever figure out what I want to be when I grow up... but for now, despite the massive pay cut I have taken, I am willing to hang in there as an MT because of the positive trade-offs I mentioned above. Plus... I've been doing this for 37 years, and I'm bloody good at it, if I do say so myself. :)
Does that answer the question? Anything else I can expound upon for the hopeful enlightenment of all?
Disclaimer: This has been MY chosen route, and for right now, it's right for ME. Others' mileage may vary. :)
Is there a Crisis Hotline you can call? sm
I know many times that my docs have recommended Crisis intervention; the programs in this area are hospital-based.
That should be the worst crisis in government!
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Donate to crisis pregnancy centers.
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You know, your foot pedal crisis made me think...
if that ever happens to you again where you really need a foot pedal, put out an SOS to your fellow MTs. I have a collection of foot pedals that are not for my current platform but in perfect working order. I'd be happy to send one out to an MT in need.
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