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Posted By: I agree with a vas on 2009-03-28
In Reply to: Vasectomy vs tubal ligation - Chele
After having it done, find it is the reverse. Women often go through a depression with tubals. Every woman I know who has had one has been very sad for quite a time afterward.
My personal experience of vasectomy is my ex husband and a couple of post-divorce boyfriends. I know from talking to girlfriends whose husbands have had them...the story is the same. It seems to enhance their ummm functions from a mental standpoint. They are free from the worries of procreation and they can have all the fun they want without worrying if a condom will break, or the pill will fail or whatever. It seems to be a real turn on for them. It is probably not all the men involved. Given that it falls to women for birth control, childbirth and child rearing, to have her man do this for her gives her a boost too. He gets a more receptive partner because he took control of one of her issues for once and the act is fun in a way it never was before.
It is my belief that if a man really loves his wife, he gets clipped if she asks. He does it because for him it is simple, compared to a tubal. He does it because this is HIS part in the whole family planning issue and he sees it as such. He does it because his wife wants to enjoy him, skin to skin in the long term and there won't be the lack of drive from the pill, or the mess from barrier methods. Of course, this assumes you don't have a selfish man who doesn't want anyone to mess with his jewels.
Sorry for the jargon, but trying to keep this clean and still say what I mean.
I will say this: Given the new IUDs on the market...if you are relatively young, they can be a better choice. The younger either of you has the clipping done the more problematic it can become. What if you divorce and remarry? What if one of you dies and the other remarries? What if you decide you want another child years from now? Life is long, things happen, ideas change, feelings change and circumstances change. If you are in your late 20s even, keep your options open. Mirena (sp?) is good for years at a time. If you are monogamous and have had children, you are a good candidate for one. If you look at the cost of that versus other methods over 5 or more years, it is inexpensive.
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