Me, too. It's just not worth all the drama.

• Question for single MTs - singleMT
  • I actually like men. - narried
    • I like some men too. - Yeah
    • I like men too - Divorced for years
  • did you see on the news last night - mtmtmt
    • Me too......Feel the same way!! nm - Married 21 years
    • You have got to be my twin. - ermt
      • We are triplets!!! - Same song
        • Wow - glad I'm not alone - ermt
        • I don't have kids, and - Yeah
    • how sad... - cj
      • I agree with most of what you said - Old part-timer
        • Some one please enlighten me.... - single and love it
          • neither cj nor Old Part-Timer said single - my 2 cents
          • Never said you didn't have friends - Old part-timer
            • I didn't think you were implying that.... - single and love it
              • Don't know what starting this p-ing match - Old part-timer
      • Sounds like you have a good marriage.... - single and love it
        • plz see msg - cj
        • Very well said and exactly the way I feel too! nm - singleMT
      • I feel the same way... - I just don't know how I'd do without my best
        • I didn't say it. - mtmtmt
        • woman as man of the house - is often simply the truth though
      • Well said, cj - nm
  • My MIL was the same way, until she turned 70. sm - Cece
  • I am curious - Divorced for years
    • It sounds like we are all kindred spirits! - single MT(OP)
    • I am some years your senior, but still young looking and seem to SM - Club Member
  • ME TOO! My sister and I both feel the same. SM - Club Member
  • Me, too. It's just not worth all the drama. - I'm very happily relationship-free!
  • You're not alone! - dln
    • Gosh how I envy you. - ermt
    • you are right for sure. - anon

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I have been in medical transcription for 8 years and since our hospital sent us all home I have taken up writing in my spare time. I would like to invite everyone on the board to check out my website for my small publishing company and read about my romance novel.

First with the phone calls, I would use an answering machine and screen all calls, or maybe unplug the phone while you are working.  Can you get one of those cheap pay as you go cell phones, give your dad the number and then change your home # and don't tell him?

It sounds, at least to me, that your dad needs immediate psych help.  Is there a Baker Act or something where you live?  Does your mom have a restraining order on him (it sounds to me like she needs one).  There's only so much you can do for someone that doesn't seem to want help.  While I loved my parents immensely, I would have sent them to an MD or shrink if one of them started doing this.  Sometimes there's a role reversal in parents and adult kids where the parents are acting more like kids which leaves the child to be the adult and make them do stuff they really don't want to.  I've had that happen to me while my parents were sick, and while it wasn't any fun I knew I had to force them to do things (take meds and see MDs) they didn't want to.

Good luck.  Hopefully someone else might have a better solution

I posted before about how my son's ex-girlfriend was sabotaging him receiving an invitation to Sadie Hawkins dance.  The girl that "changed her mind" can't find another date because it is too close to time. 

So she follows my son all over the place, but she has to be loyal to the "Queen Bee" and doesn't seem to have the courage to ask him again.

Four years is a long time to be incarcerated in high school.  Maybe he will get an A in chemistry instead!

She's only a teenager once, and there's only one spring drama performance?  How many weeks could this last?  I wouldn't sweat it too much.  We love to go "up-to-bat" for our children, but we need to pick our battles.  If she is a teenager, you do not want to give the impression that you are not supportive.  We found the same thing happening with baseball practice for our son last year, so we just planned on the "not knowing".  He'll only play baseball for a few months, and then it's over :(  Hang in there, she'll be driving herself soon...  YIKES!  I don't even want to think about that.  Be glad she's involved in drama and not "other things".....  if you know what I mean...   Good luck on the performance. I'm sure she'll make you proud! 

She still ached the first 2 days but after that she seemed to bouce back faster than if she hadn't taken it.

We only have experience with Veterinary Pet Insurance (just go to Google and type in 'VPI' for their website), and we've been very happy with them.  It's more than paid for itself with our male Rottie who had bone cancer, and our little female Rottie who just recently had immune-mediated thrombocytopenia (!) of all things.  I guess if you're dog/cat never had any expensive illness or injury, it would'nt be worth it, but we're not that lucky. 

Our dogs are like our kids, so we will spend whatever is necessary on their vet care if they get sick or hurt.  Having the insurance gives me the peace of mind of knowing that no matter what the treatment costs, we will be reimbursed at least part of it, so that's what I like about it.  It doesn't pay for everything though.  It's not like an HMO where you just have a small co-pay.  LOL  You go to the vet you want, pay for services, then fax (or mail) the claim form and receipt and VPI mails you a check pretty quickly for part of the cost. 

We just pay for the policy once a year from out tax return, but you can make monthly payments if you want.  You can chose less coverage (lower cost) or more coverage (higher cost) and optional routine coverage for vaccines and stuff.  I think you can still get an online quote.  It is expensive if you want a policy on a senior animal, which is why I didn't have insurance for my senior dogs, but I don't think it would be that high for your 7 year old. 

My one regret is that I never had VPI insurance for my Siberian Husky, Wiley.  I spent so much on his vet care over the years with his chronic tooth issues and then cancer and joint disease.  I'll be paying off that credit card bill for (gulp) years...  Insurance would have saved me a fortune. 

the royalty money that will be flowing into the estate now. Amazon.com stated they had the biggest day in sales yesterday due to everyone buying up MJ's songs.

I haven't been on ebay yet but I'll bet that place is be-bopping with a bunch of sales not only for MJ for for FF.

When Elvis died, I had gotten a letter from the estate offering to SELL me one of his scarves at a very high price. Of course, I had to turn it down.

As parents pack their youngsters off to college, they might ask themselves whether it's worth both the money they will spend and their children's time. Dr. Marty Nemko has researched that question in an article aptly titled "America's Most Over-rated Product: Higher Education (www.martynemko.com/articles/americas-most-overrated-product-higher-education_id1539)."

The U.S. Department of Education statistics show that 76 out of 100 students who graduate in the bottom 40 percent of their high school class do not graduate from college, even if they spend eight and a half years in college. That's even with colleges having dumbed down classes to accommodate such students. Only 23 percent of the 1.3 million students who took the ACT college entrance examinations in 2007 were prepared to do college-level study in math, English and science. Even though a majority of students are grossly under-prepared to do college-level work, each year colleges admit hundreds of thousands of such students.

While colleges have strong financial motives to admit unsuccessful students, for failing students the experience can be devastating. They often leave with their families, or themselves, having piled up thousands of dollars in debt. There is possibly trauma and poor self-esteem for having failed, and perhaps embarrassment for their families. Dr. Nemko says that worst of all is that few of these former college students, having spent thousands of dollars, wind up in a job that required a college education. It's not uncommon to find them driving a taxi, working at a restaurant or department store, performing some other job that they could have had as a high school graduate or dropout.

What about students who are prepared for college? First, only 40 percent of each year's 2 million freshmen graduate in four years; 45 percent never graduate at all. Often, having a college degree does not mean much. According to a 2006 Pew Charitable Trusts study, 50 percent of college seniors failed a test that required them to interpret a table about exercise and blood pressure, understand the arguments of newspaper editorials, and compare credit card offers. About 20 percent of college seniors did not have the quantitative skills to estimate if their car had enough gas to get to the gas station. According a recent National Assessment of Adult Literacy, the percentage of college graduates proficient in prose literacy has declined from 40 percent to 31 percent within the past decade. Employers report that many college graduates lack the basic skills of critical thinking, writing and problem-solving.

Colleges are in business. Students are a cost. Research is a profit center. When colleges boast about having this professor who has won a science award or that professor who has won the Nobel Prize, very often an undergraduate student will never be taught by that professor. It is a "bait and switch" tactic and very often your youngster will take classes not taught by a professor but taught in large classes by a graduate student. Faculty who bring in large grants are more highly valued than faculty who teach well. Teaching excellence is so often undervalued that the late Ernest Boyer, vice president for Carnegie Foundation for the Advancement of Teaching, quipped that, "Winning the campus teaching award is the kiss of death when it comes to tenure."

Parents and taxpayers cough up billions upon billions of dollars to the nation's colleges and universities. Colleges make money whether students learn or not, whether they graduate or not, and whether they get a good job after graduating or not. Colleges and universities engage in "bait and switch," confer fraudulent degrees and engage in other practices that would bring legal sanctions if done by any other business. There is little or no oversight of the nation's over 4,000 colleges and universities that enroll over 17 million students. There are some colleges, such as Grove City College and Hillsdale College, that do a fine job of undergraduate education. Useful information about what colleges are doing what can be found in the Delaware-based Intercollegiate Studies Institute's "Choosing the Right College" (http://isi.org/college_guide/choosing_right_college.html).

a try.  Does your husband pay the bills or does he give you money to pay them?  Make a household budget, including allowances for gas and groceries.  Either add in a little extra for the allowances to cover incidentals that might come up or present him with the receipt after he pays. 

Another thing I would definitely do -- you might want to consult with a divorce attorney.  Don't let hubs know that you're doing this because he'll try to hide money.  Your attorney will tell you what you would be entitled to.  Depending on what state you live in, you may even get spousal support for a short time.  You should be entitled to have 1/2 of everything you've accumulated during your marriage, including his retirement.  The debt you have accrued will also be shared between him and you.  When you're married, it's both of your debt regardless who charges it.  As for your children, you can discuss that with your attorney as well.  Let him know your child's concerns and fears. 

Only after you are informed by a good divorce attorney, can you decide what's best for you.  Don't sit in fear of what may or may not be.  Find out first and then decide.  Most consultations are free or relatively low cost.  If you do pay for the consultation, make sure to pay by cash so as not to leave a paper trail.  It would be better to make a cash withdrawal on your credit card, if you need to.  Get your ducks in a row before he has a chance to start picking them off.  Good luck and keep us posted!