Me raising another person's child?
Posted By: Not me! on 2007-10-09
In Reply to: How do I sound controlling? - you ladies...sm
Someone would have to be out of their minds to think (don't care if my own child) that I would raise another's child- the only way would have to be the parents no longer on this earth. I raised my 2, worked really hard to do so, working sometimes multiple jobs at a time and I be da.... if I am giving up my golden years to be blanketed by babies/young children/teenagers - not this lady.
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Just because you are not raising someone
does not mean that you are not spending time with your grandson. Of course you are going to see pics of them together. She was in his life, but she did not raise him.
Yes, ANS had problems...no doubt. She had PROBLEMS though. I think all the bashing everyone does is pretty sad.
Her mom was no saint though. To say, oh she raised Daniel for 6 years so she must not be too bad is just crazy.
Honestly, you cannot base any of their characters off anything because none of you lived in their life, none of you knew them personally and knew what went on behind closed doors and not just what our twisted media decided to show you....not even I can judge their character because even what I know is limited!
Let yourself be the one on the other side of that lens one day and see how it feels to have someone judge your character. Don't believe everything you see/read....especially the crap that comes from our "news."
Raising.......... sm
We had "raising" in those days. I think that is something that seems to be disappearing from society today at an alarming rate. I can remember my mother giving me the big hairy eye if she even thought it looked like I was hinting for something. Kids today just come right out and ask for what the want....or demand it.
raising my hand too..sm
and personally, due to the amount of money involved in ALL professional sports, I cannot help but think that most of it is one big set up and the public is being ripped off by feeding in to it, sort of like the professional wrestling teams. that is just a thought though, and not meant to stir up any one's irrational emotions about sports. I also think they are TOO competitive and families are pushing their youngsters into sports WAY too young, just to bring in the big bucks later in life. Part of my work is for a pediatric orthopedist and a youngster of 3 years old suffering sports injuries, in my opinion, is WAY too young!
to raising my granddaughter
Thank you for all the information. I may email you as this thing goes along. What a mess for the kids. I wish the mom would get some help, but she is perfectly happy in the drug world and doesn't see a thing wrong with it. Thanks again for the info.
OK I have exp with raising beagles...sm
My husband has 10 hunting beagles in kennels. I do most of the taking care of them. I also have a pit bull and a beagle inside.
You are in a predicament. The dog definitely deserves and should be treated the best that can be provided. First of all, is she getting fed and all? Make sure she has food and water. Look on the internet and look at the pics of dogs with sarcoptic mange. Just a few months ago one of our beagles got it and looked awful. She lost her hair and scratched and had bleeding spots on her from the scratching. Some just lose spots of hair. If it has this I can tell you how to get rid of it and make the dog look like a different dog. We treat our beagles a lot ourselves. If it has mange it would need ivermectin but the problem is if it has heartworms and you wouldn't know unless you take it to the vet to check then the ivermectin would kill it. The test to check is about $30. If it does not have the heartworms then you give it a shot of ivermectin 1/10 of a mL for every 10 pounds. Make sure not to overdose. You give it once a week for 4-5 weeks. It kills the mange and most everything else it might have. But you have to be very careful because an overdose is lethal. Also to help grow the hair back you put on NuStock which can be bought at a feedstore for around $12 a tube. It has instructions on it. THe ivermectin can be bought at the feedstore too. This is for cows. That is why you only give it a very small amount. It is 30 something dollars for a thing of it. This is how I cured my husbands beagle and it worked and the dog looks great. Regrew all the hair and is very healthy. But make sure it don't have heartworms first. And weigh it to see how much to give. This is a alternative to vet care and I am telling you it works.
I was raising kids then...
And I remember the Reagan years as being good. Very good. I remember the ketchup-as-a-vegetable debate, but most people remember those years fondly.
That's good to know, in 25 years of raising
show cats,I have never seen stud tail in a neuter, but then it could just be my breed.
latchkeying is not raising children, as you put it
latchkey children are not raised by their parents, so what are you talking about, besides the fact that you're laughing about it, which makes you sound immature as well.
I am single mother, raising my kids on my own, but not
by choice, because my husband died at a very young age and because of his illness we weer unable to get life insurance, so I am left to support them on my own. I really am upset that would even look down upon a single parent in such a way. If you want people to be open-minded to your decisions in life, I suggest you not group all single parents into some sort of welfare classification.
Maybe it is..but tonight's whole show was about raising money
and DOING SOMETHING... and motivating us... and making us realize how bad things are out there for some people.
don't agree w/U - she's 45, raising kids..regular lady..
Remember when we were talking about goodsearch.com and raising money sm
for your local charity? Well, our local news broadcast got in touch with me and they want to interview me about using goodsearch! haha
I was like, "here? At my house?"
I guess they want to come over and watch me do it and show them how I use it to search for medical terms and then show how much money I've raised so far for our local charity...I'm so nervous! I would have to CLEAN like crazy, clean my desk. Ugh! I don't know, I haven't committed to it yet........But I'd like to get the word out about my charity!!
Staying at home and raising us kids worked for my mother
Hmm. It should be okay with me right? Oh, wait, that puts me in the welfare line which you think everyone takes advantage of.
You don't live in your mother's time. I wish you did, because the internet didn't exist then.
Should say the child found in Florida proved to be the Caylee child, homicide.
NM
Are you a night person or a morning person?
Just curious . . .
It probably varies from person to person (sm)
With me, first child I was out of the bed seriously within 5 minutes of having him. I didn't tear or have to be cut, he was 7 pounds, 3 ounces. The doctor did some type of vaginal massage on me though while I was in labor and that was supposed to help loosen the vaginal wall?
Second child, same experience. She was 8 pounds, 1 ounce and within 5 minutes of having her, while they took her to the nursery to get cleaned up and all, I walked downstairs with my husband to the cafeteria to get a drink and stretch my legs. I had already put my regular clothes back on as well. My doctor who delivered her was walking in my room as I was walking in and he was stunned a second and said he thought I was a visitor, LOL, not the patient.
I don't think you have to have bed rest in normal cases. With my son I went home within 24 hours with him and with my daughter we went home in only 20 hours.
No, I am not that person...sm
Nor am I trying to be ugly...I think YOU come first in this situation. If not, you'll get in deep trouble with your health, then what? Your family needs you...take care of yourself, and make your husband pitch in...that's all I'm sayin'
Who is this person?
I have no clue who this person is.
I saw a person having 1 of those 1 day
and they could do like all the other people around, just ignored it. I was in a public building, guy down and frothing at the mouth, not a good scene but totally ignored.
What do you think causes a person to be --sm
unable to show feelings/compassion for anyone else? I have a friend?? who shows no emotion at all. Says it is the way she was brought up and her family are not talkers. I shared some devastating news about my son with her last night and she has shown more sympathy to her dog after it was spayed than she did to me. Just do not understand how someone can see a person as broken as I was last night and offer absolutely no comfort.
I think that person needs more than just a
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Perhaps you could help me tell if this person is just like you or not?
If not that is fine, but you could probably use your "talent" to help others, like a PI or something.
Are you the same person who
posted a month or so ago having sent an e-mail to your husband's family regarding your husband's brother who is in jail and the father's apparent favortism? Just curious if this is the same family we are talking about. I remember that husband was bipolar and alcoholic.
I don't know the legalities of the situation but you might have to go through the garbage of calling the police, the dramatics and the ER one last and final time. But then be done with it. He's not choosing to get better and you can't make him. Change the locks.
Be strong. Hugs to you. 
Mom of 3 you are one nasty person...
I hope your children dont take after you. Teaching them responsibility is one thing but pure nastiness is another.....
What a Wonderful Person
I wish I knew more people like you. It's too bad that some people are like this, but unfortunately the world is so much different thatit used to be. Keep doing what makes you happy.
The person who last had our number...sm
still uses it, so we get calls for her all the time! We got this number over a year ago when we moved and constantly get calls for her. We always tell them this is not her number anymore, but I guess lately she's been using it to give to loan places because they told us this. They apologize but it still stinks. She has a lot of debt out there, especially for school loans. We don't want to change it, though, and go through the same thing again and having to tell everyone our new number for nothing. We're also signed up at the Do Not Call website.
how condescending can a person be?
After I had a surgery 2 years ago, I gained an incredible amount of weight - not water. Last May I started going to the pool and doing water aerobics every single day for 2 months and changed to a low-fat diet. I did not lose weight, but I was replacing fat with muscle, which is the first step with the amount of weight I was dealing with. Then I started getting one URI and sinus infection/ear infection after another. All that exercise kicked my GI tract into hyperdrive. Now I have IBS and colitis. I can't exercise because I have to battle real and exhausting pain for the next 2 hours. I have pain every single day. I no longer have hunger pains as normal people do, so I really do have problems knowing when it is appropriate for me to eat. I've been with 2 different GI's during this time, failed 5 or 6 different medicines, and still can't lose weight, diet or exercise. My pay has been cut in half. I had to quit my second job and only work part time now instead of full time - all because I wanted to get healthy and in shape again.
The next time you think having extra weight is a choice, let me invite you to pay the $600/month I pay for medicines to control my GI tract issues.
I usually tip 15% because I also tip the shampoo person.,,,,
But if the hairdresser does it all, including the shampoo, etc., I tip closer to 20%.
I would say either try a contact person where the
contact may be someone in the Social Services for your state. Maybe even the Division of Child Welfare. I would look in the phonebook under government agencies. I bet a social worker may be able to help or guide you in the right direction. I knew someone who had a child with cerebral palsy that took the insurance offered from the employer, but was able to get Medicaid for the child as a supplement for things the primary did not cover. I am not sure if this is state-by-state though. Hope this helps. Good luck to you and your daughter as her children do need health insurance.
To The Person Who E-mailed Me
The calling card is yours if you want, but I didn't receive a reply address; the "From" field was blank for some reason. If you could resend, that would be great!
I think it depends on the person....
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It seems to me the person should be talking
to the person they are having dinner with and not someone on a phone. And as posted below, they usually have to talk rather loud and I do find that annoying.
To the person who e-mailed me...
Thanks so much for the information about BioSpot. I had no idea and I should have done my research beforehand. I have already ordered it but will be sending it back. I finally figured out that the Zodiac has been making my dog very itchy, so much so she has a hot spot now. Used it before but did not put two and two together. I think I will try the Frontline.
Thanks again for the warning! Hope your cat is doing better now.
Take it seriously and report to the person
you would think would be most instrumental in getting the assistance she seems to need.
U must be a wonderful person....
to have two such beautiful people in your life. Sounds like you have a great family!
This person is not a friend
You could use all kinds of psychological terms like "codependent" and "enabling" but the fact is, she is a mooch and you are a sucker.
Harsh, I know, because you were trying to be nice and help someone. But there are some people you just can't be "nice" to. They will walk all over you. Obviously, she is one of those people.
If you're angry at anyone, you should be angry at yourself for taking so long to figure this out.
But that would be a waste of time. Chalk it up to experience and move on. Cut your ties with this person as much as possible, and if on occasion you have to see her for whatever reason, practice saying "No. No. NO."
I think that person is just a LURKER, trying to
Not a person worth taking seriously, wouldn't you say?
Thanks everyone and to the person who emailed me.
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Would I be a horrible person if
I got my cats declawed? I'm totally against declawing, but my husband is REALLY mad and says either we get them declawed or they have to go. We just got brand new furniture and they have the arm of the sofa snagged up already, luckily it is the piece that is being replaced cause the delivery people broke a board on it bringing it into the house. I don't know what to do, I would never get rid of my cats for doing something that is in their nature. I already have scratching pads and a post and put the catnip on it. They must just have more fun scratching the furniture. Any ideas, suggestions? 
Compassionate pet person
Have the owners come home yet?
He is very cute and I'm a cat person
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I'm a night person
I'm more comfortable typing between 1:00-3:00 a.m. when all is quite with no interruptions. I hate mornings.
Morning person
This sounds exactly like me! My eyes pop open without an alarm clock at 4:30-5:00 a.m. in the morning. I have trouble keeping my eyes open past 9:00 p.m. It's nice to know I'm not the only one in the world. I get so many "that's weird you get up so early" statements, I was starting to believe them!
Don't worry - it was just one person (sm)
You can't please everyone all of the time :-)
Everyone is strange to someone :-)
You didn't do anything wrong!!
famous person
Viggo Mortensen as Aragorn (Lord of the Rings)...
Famous person
John Edward (psychic) so he could give me a reading.
Thanks for not telling me I'm a bad person!! (sm)
I so much wish that my kids would want to go - I would love to have her have them over as much as she wants if they were happy about it. That would be wonderful! I am kind of afraid to mention it to her because I am pretty sure she will accuse me of spoiling them or that I just don't want to share them but that is far from the truth. I want them to go - if they will go happily - but it is really hard to have them crying and begging and make them go anyway. I will try to talk to her though...we'll see what happens!
And it comes down to a lot more than what a person likes and does not s/m
like. We are talking being subjected to breathing those toxins which create a life-threatening environment. I hope I live long enough to not have to say NONSMOKING in a restaurant. It is unthinkable that we are subjected to this in 2007. I feel for you, I really do.
I know how attached a person can get
because I own cats as well, 3 of them. I have just sent a check to the ASPCA to help spay/neuter animals to cut down on the ones being born that are feral. I also have a letter from a feral place asking for a donation to help out their animals. These are 2 things I am giving to this Christmas plus have sent some money to a mother of several children and tomorrow am meeting a lady at a closeby Wal-Mart who put on Craigs List about wanting coats and shoes for her 2 sons and I hope to be able to find those for them. I am not, understand, blowing my own horn but gosh I am feeling so good about the places I have chosen to give assistance to. I read through Craigs and picked out the 2 I thought needed some assistance and then the other 2 I have been contacted about through the mail. I get more pleasure out of giving actually than I do receiving- older broad here and I have been blessed so much already.
My MIL is really a good person sm
She raised her son to be a wonderul husband and father. She is a fabulous grandmother. She has rarely tried to tell me how to raise my children, usually she just makes innocent suggestions. I really like her but she is a dingbat. A very lovable dingbat. Even my DH agrees. She just called me to ask about a gift for my daughter and while on the phone her other line rang. She said good-bye and then put me on hold. Now when I try to use my phone I hear music. I have no signal on my cell right now (typical on a cloudy day) so I can't call to tell her. ARRRRGGGGHHHH!
That's what I thought. Is this person an
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