Maybe the teacher doesn't realize his boyfriend and not dad? I would inform her immediately! sm
Posted By: Carolina MT on 2008-04-10
In Reply to: Question about son, school, teacher, and boyfriend - A bit upset
Does your boyfriend live there? Have you been together a long time? If not, he is way overstepping his bounds and I would immediately put a stop to it.
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Question about son, school, teacher, and boyfriend
Okay, please tell me I am wrong -
Today I went to my son's school for a parent/teacher conference. My boyfriend went on Monday to pick up his report card, as my son, daughter, and I were out of state at a funeral. My son did not do well at all this marking period and it is basically due to his laziness. Well, evidently, on Monday the teacher and the boyfriend had a lengthy discussion and came up with the punishment and the plan for the next 9 weeks of school. I was informed of his report card via phone call Monday night and told we needed to be there for a conference on Thursday - nope, no conference requested until now, so I mistakenly assumed he was okay in school.
Okay, go to the conference with boyfriend and from the start I can tell I am really not part of the plan by the seating arrangements. My son is at the front, they AR on each side of him and I am somewhere towards the back. Boyfriend takes control and the teacher pretty much turns all conversation to him and son. I try to intervene on several occasions and sort of get lost by THEIR dialogue. THEY decide that whenever there is a problem she will call boyfriend and let him know and then refers to both of us as "parental units" and I sort of start seething now. I try over and over to be heard and ask questions, all the time pretty mmuch brushed to the back burner.
Fast forward a bit - the teacher walk out of the room and I follow her and tell her that I am NOT a "parental unit" but his mother and that all and any conversations about my son's welfare will be had with me and to only call me. She looked at me like she was baffled
I know that I gave the boyfriend too much rope there (we do all live together) in the first place, but all I expected him to do was pick up the report card, not decide his life and the teacher never called me previously to tell me there was a problem in the first place, so why would I think any different Please advise me on this because I feel like dirt right now.
TIA!!!
It sounds like he just doesn't realize sm
that you would love for him to call you first. I don't care how many hints you drop, men just don't realize certain things unless we flat out tell them. Have been married almost 20 years to a wonderful man, but sometimes he still just doesn't get it. It is very true that "we learned everything we needed to know in kindergarten, boys are st*pid" LOL
My DH keeps coming in to inform me that...
he has today off, paid no less, for his birthday. One more time and I am going to hit him upside the head with the gnome! 
Unless your son was involved in the incident, they probably would not inform you.
If the schools had to inform all parents of every single incident that occured between students, that could be a full-time job unto itself for 2 or 3 people in some schools. It sounds like the school took proper measures in disciplining the students involved in the incident.
As far as the post below regarding the 4th grade girl and her lies, I am sure that the boy in question knew what she was saying and may or may not have told his parent(s). At any rate, that would be a matter for the families of the children involved.
You call yourself a professional, you sound more wimp than woman. Hate to inform you, your not
You are an embarassment to other work at home moms/wives/MTs. Guess you can't take care of things and earn a living at the same time. Seems your in the minority and really don't need to get so defensive since you started this. No wonder ya work at home.
I agree...go to ER immediately. sm
I knew someone who was bitten by a brown recluse. They are extremely venomous spiders and nothing to fool with. The person who was bit experienced skin necrosis for over a year. This was on her face and caused a lot of distress and disfigurement. It is like a flesh eating virus. Do not mess around with this. go to the er soon!!! good luck to you.
You said something that immediately gave you away
you said fixin to- I know what that is because I am southern- we are always fixin to do something, right?
True but then immediately tell someone and have
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And if you watched the show immediately afterwards, you
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Stopped immediately when put in hospital
unable to catch my breath, almost white-out of my lungs. Put on Theophylline, steroids, face looked like the man in the moon but the theophylline the worst. I was eating cigs before then. After 2 weeks in the hospital and being on that particular medicine, never wanted to smoke again and didn't - that was in 1998, Thanksgiving Day to be exact, so sick I didn't want the turkey and dressing.
Hey, have at it. If you want a lazy, apathetic, not affectionate, doesn't listen, doesn't make
can reach him!!! Let me know if you're interested.
tried duct tape, no go, broke immediately, thanks though, NM
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LOL! My husband came home from work and put that one on immediately! sm
I have to admit, I don't remember too many of these. But, to refresh your memory, let me tell you what's on this 2-disc set:
Three is a magic number.
Conjunction Junction
Lolly, Lolly, Lolly get your adverbs here!
Interjections!
Electricity! Electricity!
The Preamble
Interplanet Janet
A Noun is a person, place, or thing
The Shout heard round the world
There is 283 minutes of this stuff! I'm excited my kids are into this.
Mine pretty much soaks in immediately but
I have found that if you use a primer it does go on a lot smoother. BE has a face and eye primer that I like a lot. On a side note I just got the eyebrow powder in today and love it!
I would talk immediately to the landlord and complain
about the humidity, the mold/mildew and the musty smell.
A moldy apartment is actually characterized as 'not habitable', as mold and mildew are very harmful to health.
If your landlord does not make efforts to rectify this situation, I definitely think that you have good reasons to break your lease, especially since you are already getting sick.
The reason I knew immediately about the year around tan
was because I was a young lady when President Kennedy was in office and he had Addison's, remember it being discussed. I think enlarged spleen goes along with that also. Hopefully something that can be taken care of and let us hear about what happens. I do so love to play Doctor. I was at death's door today myself (not really) but in my mind, like the poster belows say, know so much and I had hypoechoic lesions on my kidneys and my thoughts were not simple cysts and after the MRI from last week heard that was exactly what they were. Yepee!
I agree also, change vets...ours put our dog on meds immediately. nm
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If you mail with bar code showing you get back immediately
love netflix... website is easy, it's cheap, large selection, and if you put the DVD back in the envelope with the bar code showing, it scans at the post office i guess!!! because the next one comes the next day!!!
I am wondering why you didn't immediately call the police
from your cell or if you don't have one go home and call and then stay there with the dog until they arrived? I'm shocked.
All forwards I put in the trash folder immediately even if I know the person.
People get mad at me for never responding, but I get annoyed when people who call me their friends send me 50 of these a day. It reminds me of telemarketing or junk mail only sent by friends! The only thing I ever do to family or close friends, is if I see an article in the paper, or on MSN, I e mail a link to the article. I do this like twice a year that's it. I had one friend actually never speak to me again, because she would send tons of these forwards and I'd never answer. She got extremely annoyed with me. Oh, well, I recently deleted my junk folder and it feels good. LOL.
It doesn't make me mad but it doesn't sound intelligent either (sm)
I am sure if all of those people who were aborted were living, some would be good and some would be bad, in the same proportion as there is good to bad now. Your statement makes no sense. So somehow the babies who were aborted were meant to be aborted because they were bad seeds? Whatever. Sorry, that's just silly.
It doesn't always work that way though - some give but it doesn't come back like that nm
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Don't know, but if he was my new boyfriend
I would try to put a stop to it or walk away. But that's just me.
My boyfriend & Sex.
LOL, just kidding!!!:)
I had a boyfriend that was gay.
I wasn't completely surprised when he told me as I think I knew in my heart he was. Little clues here and there. The best you can do is talk to him about it. Good luck to him and to you!
Only had 1 boyfriend and I married him
Starting dating at 15, got married when I was 20. I was always too shy to talk to boys ;-)
That reminded me of a boyfriend I had
once who repeatedly had to go to the ER because he superglued his eyelashes shut. He was in his late teens and liked to build model cars, and I guess he couldn't remember not to touch his eye with superglue on his hand.
He was a friend of ex-boyfriend
When I was 18, my boyfriend and I broke up. I started dating my husband, and the ex started dating a girl that hated me, who he also eventually married. I got to keep all his friends though because they liked me better than his future bride! Wasn't high school great?!? All that drama.
We are still together 26 years later and still friends with the same gang of guys. Minus the ex, of course! LOL
Doing for her boyfriend's enjoyment?
There is a real old saying, think it goes "fool's names and fool's faces are often seen in public places." She was old enough to know better. Want to act adult, let her suffer some adult sized consequences. I feel no sympathy for the girl.
high school boyfriend . . .
Emailed me through classmates.com. We talked on the phone a few times. He sent me pictures of reunions that I never went to. Turns out our lives took very similar paths. A few other classmates Emailed as well.
My high school boyfriend went on to become a
comic. While he is not famous yet, he has done pretty well and he was on CMT a few weeks ago with a couple of other comedians. So funny you ask this today, my parents are at Grocery Food convention about 7 hours from here and he was actucally the entertainment last night. He goes by Kelly Terranova.
Boyfriend always interrupts my sentences
I can almost never finish a sentence. Doesn't matter what I'm saying, or when, or where, I get cut off. If I manage to string 2 or 3 short sentences together he is already off in dreamland and either cuts me off to go to a topic he likes or else he just isn't listening. As a result of all this he doesn't hear the sometimes-critical information that I provide.
I've tried just not saying anything when he does this, just clamming up and thinking he will ask me to repeat what I said....but he doesn't. He doesn't even notice!!
I have also gotten testy, weepy and upset and at times even-tempered and sincere in asking him to please let me finish my sentences but I don't get very far because...you guessed it....he doesn't let me finish that request....
Any other ideas? I know there must be other women/men with this problem from their spouses/significant others.
My sister's former boyfriend was almost 60 and bragging that he could get s/m
a woman in her 20s. Always looking, always bragging, always wanting. What a joke. I met many guys in their 50s trying to find woman in their 20s and 30s. I guess anyone can dream. 
The operative word here is boyfriend...
which we all know can come and go. You are his mother, it doesn't matter if you all live together, you should be the one deciding and planning things with the teacer. Until he is the stepfather or has adopted him, he should have little to no input about child rearing. Is this the person who will be responsible for your children if God forbid anything should happen to you? If so, then by all means he should be more involved. Hate to be blunt, but this relationship could always end. You're the mom, he is a person who lives in the house.
Cheating spouse/boyfriend, etc.
Many years ago I was married to a cheating spouse. I was pregnant with our second child when he took it upon himself to cheat with an underage girl in the back of our brand new station wagon. Well, I learned about this when a paternity suit came up with his name on it. Apparently he was so dumb that he did not know the girl had a boyfriend and being the sucker that he was he did not know that they would pin the paternity on him, and get money from him. Too bad it wasn't in this day and time because he would have been in jail because she was only 17, and he was in his 30s. This was only 1 in a string of women that I found out after the fact, and even contracted an STD when I was pregnant!! I also suffered spousal abuse, and have the scars to prove it. After 5 years of this I got out,and the only reason I stayed was for the children, but that was a huge mistake on my part. Now, whenever, I hear or see this on a program it makes me furious that these men think this behavior is okay. It is never okay and leaves many people, including children, to suffer much heartache.
I actually think this one is cute, but my boyfriend who is actually very educated says (sm)
He gets *heart flapitations* and I thought it was so adorable I've never corrected him. Don't worry, this is during moments of *ahem* intense exercise; he does not need medical attention!
My daughter's boyfriend's hair is the
most gorgeous long blond hair you have ever seen. It just makes me sick!!!!!!!!!
haha, my boyfriend was just telling me about this....
Less than 2,000, but the cost of living and such there compared to here, wonder how much it would be if they sold it around here? But, it has no air bags, uses "adhesive" instead of welded on parts, I wonder how great and safe of a car that would really be?
I married my twin sister's boyfriend
:)
If I allowed my daughter to have a live in boyfriend I would at least
have put her on Depo. What did she think was gonna happen?
p.s.--he's NINTEEN!!
my boyfriend (who is buying the car) wants me to get a Honda - I want a convertible! nm
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My Boyfriend and I made our vacation plans last night
My Boyfriend and I made our vacation plans last night, we decided to go to a local beach (well, its 4hrs away) but have decided to make it a romantic one (close your eyes sis) So instead of spending money on gas and cheap hotels on our first vacation plan (minnesota) we decided to spend the money by going somewhere local on nice hotel rooms. One room offers a Romantic package which includes Bubble bath, Champaine (we don't drink, but one day wont hurt us) and a few other stuff to pamper yourself's with. My family and I used to go to this beach/town every summer and I haven't been there in a few years so I am really looking foward to going, plus he has never been there before so it will be really fun showing him where to go and where to eat.
Ok, here is the hard part. We are going to the beach..which we try to go at least once a month (our usual spot is 2hrs away) but this time it's different, we will be spending 2 weeks there and I want to be able to wear a bathing suit (or at least shorts and a tanktop).....so I need to get my butt into shape....This is where all of you come in (if you are willing to help) I need advice, inspiration, tips, reciepes, workout tips, prayers anything that will help me lose weight! Our trip is in August and I want to lose 50lbs I realize that's a short amount of time and a lot of weight so I am making a mini goal of 30lbs.
Just read on line that rapper JAY Z who is Beyonce's boyfriend may have sm
been in an airplane crash in the Smoky Mountains today. Praying this is only a rumor and not true. How sad that would be. I am not a fan of rap music or really even pop music, but I can't seem to find anything on this other than one big named news website. Anyone else hear anything??
Maybe they do, and you just don't realize that's what it is??
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Of course I realize that, but
Nonetheless, she looked great! I was surprised to see her showing off her "new body", but looks like maybe just a hoax? Whatta waste of a lives these young Hollywood's are...
I think you need to realize
your feelings are about a fantasy, not about a real relationship. He himself has already given you information that when it is over it is over. He obviously does not share your feelings. He can treat you very well but it is e-mail. In real life he has gas, stinky feet, cranky moods like everyone. Older men and younger women is a dangerous situation. They enjoy your adoration but don't return it. It is difficult but the longer you go the more you will be hurt and the more of your life you will waste on a fantasy. Remember when you had a crush on a celebrity when you were a young teen and felt like it was true love and would never end? It is about the same thing. I don't judge you -- I have had experiences that I look back on now and see what time I wasted and regret that I could have focused on other things in my life. I hope you don't do the same.
So, what if you realize you
have an unstable dog, but you realize it because the first unprovoked attack was a deadly one? Too late.
I think you are being irresponsible if you ever let anyone step foot in your house if it causes your dog to feel anxious. You are tempting fate, my friend.
I would not even realize if it were my
DH but the OP is having a problem with it, she probably thinks he is talking with someone he does not want her to know about, that is the problem.
I MEANT "BF" (boyfriend), not BP! egads... TYPO-LAND!
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Only 10 days til Christmas? I've only bought a gift for my boyfriend so far ...
AND I'M MARRIED!
Wow, I didn't realize
Just how lucky I was. My husband bought me wonderful Christmas presents everything that I could definitely use and want. He's a wonderful person and helps with the cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, doing just about anything and everything around the house. I couldn't ask for someone better. I didn't realize just how much I had until I read some of these posts.
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