Maybe that's why your scared. Your thinking
Posted By: JMO on 2008-07-01
In Reply to: You are very brave and I would love to do the - The Other Sunshine
too big (moving out of state). Money? If you've been married for any length of time - he pays you. Hope there are no children involved. Being scared is not a reason to stay with your husband. Why continue to be miserable? I feel sorry for you. Sounds like you live to please others and the heck with your own feelings.
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Now I'm scared (sm)
I suggested a trial seperation and he disagreed a little at first but then he became completely agreeable to it all of a sudden. That worried me so I told him I wasn't sure what we should do and then he said if I am asking, then I must not want to leave. My fear is that he is being so nonchalant about it all of a sudden.
not scared
I'm a rebel by nature and I simply learned to be what other posters called "sneaky." It wasn't my mom I was scared of. It was my father and fortunately he was out of town every week for about 10 years of my growing up years. He was mean in a serious way, much worse than I could post here. Took some therapy to help me deal with that after he died.
I'm not scared of authority figures, but because of my rebellious nature I tend to push my limits. This is something I was born with and I'm sure the other things that happened as I was growing up didn't teach me how to deal with it well.
I tend not to let anyone get close, but I'm very sociable and make friends easily. I do have a problem with people who act like bullies...I tend to force their hands and show them for the cowards they are.
im scared to be a mom....
Honestly I am afraid that I won't be a good one. I know in my heart I would be but I also know that I will be a constant worry-wart about EVERYTHING. more so than now and that's tough to deal with. When anyone goes on trips im like CALL ME AT EVERY STOPPING POINT. anything... even with Ally she was napping with me and i had to just keep checking her breathing constantly. I dont know how i would handle it!!!
Also Im quite selfish right now and also have no money. HA. But I also really do want a family. There used to be nothing I wanted more, and then that changed a couple of years ago and I dont feel that same yearning that I did then. I wonder if I will again... if i dont im not sure what ill do with my lonely self!
So you have no grandchildren? Apparently it's the best thing ever at least my mom says :)
And your daughter sounds awesome. I used to want to be a kindergarten teacher until I got into MThaha. Then i wanted to volunteer in the NICU back home went through the evaluation and shots and all, then moved out here... i have yet to sign up for that.
Okay here ill be honest I want babies and toddlers, but i dont want kids or teenagers!!! hahaha :)
have a greet weekend
Not scared here at all
You cannot stop whatever happens but I am still working as is my hubby and if things happen, oh well is how I look at things. Years ago when my mother was dying I tried everything to keep her around, didn’t work and learned life is like it turns out. My daughter, who is grown, tells me she is "really scareddddddddd." I told her to quit listening to all the negative things going on, especially the talk radio she seems to want to believe. My hubby is one true positive person (me not as much) but he says all this negavitivity is just wrong. It wears you down and just no use in doing so.
Let me see, in the 50s and 60s were scared and
first people were building bomb shelters, then we had the face masks for the gas bombs in case those were dropped, I hear now on Sean you can buy things called Survival Seeds. This never ceases, every so often the US just has to scare itself really bad. Did I tell you the one really scary? That was the year 2000. Everyone thought the world would probably explode then, all kinds of things predicted, computers would not change, watches not work, people were thinking end of time. Oh, wait, that is again this year with now the swine flu.
ER MT - that photo actually scared me
I was up late half awake and that photo popped up! Then I thought, you know that's a lot like me when I do ERs!!! Of course, for me it's because I'm not so smart yet and a bit frazzled. New specialty, just sometimes. Thanks for the giggle!
Thank you, I'm not scared though, just disgusted (sm)
I am not feeling threatened by him, just feeling disrespected and I am feeling disgusted. Thank you so much for your concern though. I agree that some situations are dangerous and if I felt threatened I would get help. I am scared of how he will act once I decide to leave, but I think it will be more malicious financial issues on his part, not really violence.
My ex was scared of bats
For a while we lived in an old house and a bat kept getting in. The ex would hide in bed under the covers and scream while I got a tennis racket and would manage to trap and remove the bat. How macho is that, LOL!
My mom is scared of a lot of things (bats, mice, worms), so from necessity I learned to not be afraid of them. The only thing I never got over was fear from being immersed in cold water - never learned to swim, and even being in a cold shower makes me hyperventilate.
I'm scared of BEES. -sm
One or two, I can sort of deal with, as long as I'm not in close quarters with them, such as in the car. But more than 2 or 3? I'm outta' there! Large numbers of any bug or insect creep me out. I'm also scared of sharks, seaweed and jellyfish.
I'm not scared of mountain lions, (though I have yet to meet one face-to-face). I would really like to see one someday while hiking. (At least I know not to run!) I'm not afraid of doing things alone, like long drives, flying, or traveling to other countries. In fact I prefer it that way.
I can deal with spiders. Don't like 'em but I used to live in a place that reminded me of the movie "Arachnophobia", so I learned how to get rid of them and prevent their return by targeting the nests outside the house. Nowadays I have a cat that spends her days hunting them, so I rarely see one (at least alive) anymore.
I would be much more scared of the pit bull
than someone trying to break into my house. I do animal rescues and 1 place I rescue from (animal shelter) will not let this breed be adopted by Jane or John Doe- they are just considered vicious. They are put down rather than adopted out.
When I was a scared 21-y/o I stayed - sm
in San Diego a few days by myself after a trade show had ended so I could do a few things there on my own. The company footed the rental car and I paid for the 2 extra days in the hotel, which my former boss paid maybe $40 a night for at a very nice Marriott...on the conciege floor. (he would lie and say he was a travel agent and get incredibly cheap rooms). I never made it to the beach but did do the San Diego Zoo with the bosses wife before the show....then after when I was on my own I went to the Wild Animal Park about an hour up the coast. I had the best time despite being alone. Had a beautiful drive up the coastal highway, etc. I'd never done anything like that on my own before so I really enjoyed it. I hope to take my kids out there one of these days, maybe in the next 5 years and spend a week at least out there, have 3 friends living in various parts of CA so it would be fun to visit them.
Scared Dogs
I know it's strange, but all 3 of my pugs sleep right through thunderstorms unless they're particularly violent. Only a really loud crack of thunder directly over the house will cause them to look at me with concern. Then, they go back to sleep. Good old pugs - all ya need to do is feed, bathe, water, walk and pamper them. They sleep probably 21 hours a day. And their waking hours are usually amusing. Maggie cannot stand to see a dog or horse on TV. She goes running up to the TV, sees the dog or horse disappear, then proceeds to try and look around the back of the TV to see if that's where it went. 
Have you checked with your vet to see if there's something you can give your babies so they won't get so upset during thunderstorms?
We as a nation are so scared now days
My grandmother lived to 75 and her daughter, my aunt, now 86 and both used and told me about Campho-Phenique and get this, when I had an ulcer in my mouth my aunt told me to use this. Now I do not go about swishing and swallowing but used it on the sores, got relief and well, I am writing this post. It can be used in the mouth with no problem.
Scared mom --sorry for the long post
I am the widow of a man who served his country PROUDLY in the Army for 21 years, retired and later developed cancer as a result of Agent Orange while serving in Vietnam. As a result, I have certain military "privileges", however, the VA turned around and changed his diagnosis from "cancer of the larynx" which was his ORIGINAL diagnosis made by a civilian doctor, to "cancer of the hypopharynx which was made by his VA doctor and hence, this was NOT covered by Agent Orange and as a result, I have lost monetary compensation to the tune of right now, approximately $300K, however, I do have other benefits.
I regress, but getting back to your original post, my daughter joined the Army VERY shortly before the Iraq war started and was stationed in New York State when 9/11 happened, needless to say, I was a nervous wreck as she had JUST moved with her then husband and I did not have her new phone #. Thank heavens for a Sprint directory assistance operator who understood the situation and even though they had a nonpublished number put me through to their residence anyway.
Women in the military are subjected to testing regarding vocational skills, just like their "male counterparts" -- for example my daughter was actually into more of the satellite communications end of things and NEVER saw or would have never seen combat. She PROUDLY served her country for 3 years, received the money to go to college, has remarried, has her own home, a soon to be 2-year-old daugther and is finishing up her nursing career as well as working.
The other side to this picture is that with a military career, if she decides to make it a CAREER and "advances", she can retire at a relatively early age (at least early to mid 40s) and have a lucarative retirement income for LIFE, as well as being still young enough to pursue other opportunies in the "civilian world."
Hope this helps.
Me again! I am so frustrated, scared, and upset over here. I'm sorry, but sm
my husband doesn't understand and my other friends homeschool (as do I), so I have no one to talk to about this. My 3-1/2 year old has been crying all day. What is wrong with him? Not crying, but unplugging stuff for my computer, unfolding laundry, taking DVDs and throwing them all over the floor. So, I spanked him, yet again, and nothing is working. I sincerely cannot take this. I cannot, I cannot, I cannot. I have to put him in a program somewhere.
I am crying so hard right now because my husband and I are both advocates for homeschooling and having the children at home. I am suffering having to spend the majority of my day spaking and disciplining an unruly child which gives me no time to homeschool his brothers. They (the other brothers) hate to see their little bro get into trouble, but what is one supposed to do? There are 3 of them and 1 of me. I just lost it a few minutes ago as he just started tearing things up again. Here are the options: Get rid of every single electronic thing in my household (including my work computer), tv's, Playstation 2(which is 10 year old brother loves), and everything else and go back to the days of old where it was just mom, kids, and dad at work. I'm seriously thinking he is just too distracted and can't help it. OR solution #2, put him in daycare somewhere (this makes me cringe, cry, sob- because he will be just a number there (I know - I worked for one for a long time - I don't care what anyone says), or in a pre-K program somewhere, but around here they only last for 2 hours (GA). I know, because I've checked.
Anyone else with similar situation? I'm thinking of putting them all in school so I can work since I have to work. Our expenses outweigh husband's income. I must work. I only work at night,though, so that isn't an issue during the day. I am at my wits end. I know if I work, though, a lot if it will go towards daycare. But inside my head and heart, I can't take this. I don't know why, I just can't do this anymore. 
Scared to quit smoking - sm
I have another friend who quit smoking 3 years ago and now has lung cancer. I know (and have heard of) many people who quit (ACS can tell you how your lungs supposedly improve and risk of lung cancer death diminishes compared to the general population) smoking only to be diagnosed with lung cancer after several years. This IS NOT a mental excuse for me not to quit. It really does frighten me. Been a smoker for 30 years. Seems worthless to fight to quit and die, or just keep smoking and die. Anyone have any thoughts? I have no one affected by my second-hand smoke.
Am scared of tornados and alone today and quess what?
I am here alone with my animals and we are having a tornado warning for my county. There is a rotation from a tornado that is approximately 2 miles from my home as I type. Please send up prayers, really scares me. Thanks
Want to leave my marriage but I'm scared!! Need viewpoints (sm)
I am worried about finances and insurance because I am an IC MT. I have two children and worry about them as well. But I just can't see staying in this marriage any longer. I need to hear from women who have made the decision to leave and made it!! Please?
Good Lord...this would have scared me to death (sm)
Not gonna say what state I am in but the patient went in for surgery on his kidneys and was mistaken for a neurosurgery patient and had his head shaved before they realized he was the wrong guy...he cancelled his kidney surgery and went the heck home! Poor guy!!
I'm scared to death of people in huge SUVs plowing across
It's scary!!!!!
My 19-year-old daughter wants to join the Army. I'm very scared at the thought. Any advice out th
Before the Iraq war, I would have been more excited that she wanted to do something positive with her life for a change, but this thought is scary as we know people that have lost their children in the war. I know in some ways this could turn her life around and be what she needs as she is very immature and is going down the wrong road, but are there other alternatives. A lot of people tell us it's still a good time for kids. Any thoughts out there?
That is exactly what I was thinking, HUH?! lol NM
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Thank you for thinking of others!!
   
that's exactly what i was thinking
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That is what I was thinking. At first, she might
have had some point to what she was saying...but not after all the other posts I had started reading.
Well, I'm thinking one (sm)
of the differences (and I don't think that makes it right), is that this insurance company obviously is not putting out a huge amount of money for this claim. I highly doubt that you have the same insurance company that they have, so that could be another reason why it was so easy for them. If you ask my opinion, even though I'm related to them, I think it's a little over the top. I certainly didn't mean to cause any resentment or anger here by posting this to begin with. I really didn't believe that it would turn out this way. I'm still surprised.
What are they THINKING?
Just watched Idol and am shaking my head in disbelief.
You said everything I was thinking
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Thank you for saying what I was thinking... sm
But didn't want to say. Esp. the post below about putting band-aids on the nipple and the child sucked beside the band-aids and put hickies on mom's breast? Oh, man. I'm sure it was all very innocent, but that made me nauseous.
I thought maybe it was just me, since I don't have kids, but breast-feeding that long seems a little sick to me. (I know, I know, they do it in other countries, it's perfectly natural, we're the ones with the hang-up, etc.)
Thinking??? They are not thinking.
I already have one brother in the pen and my other brother has NEVER been in trouble, he is nearing 50 years old and is facing several years in the pen for being plain brainless!!! Sorry, I am just so frustrated, I don't understand this and now I am left alone to assist our aging parents.
Thinking they can get away with it - ego. nm
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I'm thinking...(sm)
They were Brooke's eggs...so Taylor's carrying Brooke and Nick's child...and Bridgette had everything to do with it, probably not Brooke!
Wow...aint we glad real life isn't a soap!!! But sure do love indulging in fantasy for 30 minutes a day!
Do you also watch Y&R? I don't think Nick's really dead...he'll come back, Phyllis will probably be in jail, and he and Sharon will raise Summer...just a thought! 
That's what I was thinking too
for my own bedroom, which we are in the process of painting now. I want to add some color, and think that some kind of border would break the contrast between the wall and the ceiling, be it wallpaper, sponge technique, stenciling, or other. I think maybe having the ceiling the same color as the walls would be too much for me, unless a very light color.
This is the one I was thinking of! Thanks - nm
:)
LOL. Thinking the same
thing here. If anyone makes that doing this, they have to be totally working their behinds off!
Thinking about a new pet . . .
Does anyone have a ferret? Are they difficult to care for? Do you have to buy a pair or could I start out with just one in a large area where more could be added over time. What is the best type of cage that is chew proof? There are so many out there. 
i'd like to know too, been thinking about that myself lately. sm
we have recently had to have 3 different appraisals on our home. i had to pay $350, $350 and $375 for each one. the last one the lady was here at max 15 minutes, it was her second appraisal for the day and she was gone before noon and i know she was heading to do another when she left my house. sounds like descent money to me. i am sure gas expenses are quite hefty with the traveling, but still seems like much better profit than MT. she took pictures and measured a few things and that was about all other than preparing the paperwork, researching other properties in area, etc.
I am thinking... sm
One year I planted tomato plants, 12 of them. They all grew fine, grew flowers, then all of a sudden I could look out the window and actually SEE them such them down, whole plants. schlooop. gotta feed the babies. We put some screening underground and next season was better. Sorry about you punkins. It could be rabbits, but the whole plant thing going underground was definitely gophers for me.
I'm so sorry! I was thinking
about your post the other day. My dog had the same type of weird behavior. He was wandering around aimlessly and fell asleep in a closet - not like him at all. We didn't really think too much of it at the time. Then a few weeks later he was walking along and fell over into the pool. He hates the pool and is terrified of water. My mother (who can't swim) jumped in after him, but he was already swimming. He never even went completely under the water, he recovered that fast. We brought him to the vet immediately. He had no hearing loss or vision loss. The vet said that he probably had a TIA. It has happend a couple more times since then. Other then the little episodes, which only last a few minutes, he is a perfectly normal dog and plays and eats. The vet didn't really do anything for him. He just told us that if we noticed any big changes, to bring the dog in immediately. I would definitely take her to the vet and see what the vet has to say. Give your baby lots of love!!!
Well, please at least tell me what you are thinking (sm)
I know you are not a doctor and won't consider it to be medical advice but have you heard of something like this before??
Thinking of you! - sm
My PS was calling us all today asking for us to work extra because of all the MTs in S. CA who are down. At least someone at the company cares!
My thoughts and prayers are with everyone down there.
Was actually thinking about you
when I saw it on the news - actually had film on Cape Cod. Glad you are okay. I also know several other regulars are from Maine.
Thanks. That's what I was thinking.
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EXACTLY what I was thinking!
I have come to realize that my so-called "friend" is a very jealous person, and it makes me insane because I don't understand it! This is a small thing, but for example, at the beginning of this past summer, my husband and I were talking with her about GPS systems and how it would be nice to have one for our car for when we travel. She told us that she would love to get one, too, but they were just so expensive. My husband and I ended up getting a great deal on a really nice GPS system online in July, so we bought it, and when I told her about it, her exact response was, "I really have no interest in those things." I couldn't believe it! She had seemed like she wanted one ever more than we did!
Also, shortly before Thanksgiving, we were talking about laptop computers and how we both wanted new ones (we both had older ones), and she kept telling me that she was going to get one after the holidays, but I had no immediate plans to buy one. Well, for Christmas, my husband bought me a beautiful brand new HP laptop, which was completely unexpected! I was so excited, so I told her the good news and her response was, "Laptops are nothing but pains. I hate the things." Why does she do this???? I hate jealous people! It's not even like I was trying to make her jealous, but was just so excited that I wanted to share the exciting news with someone! Shouldn't a friend be happy for you and not turn completely jealous when something good happens for you?
I guess she is not really a true friend. After all of these times of blowing us off by not coming over when she has said she was going to, I am just sick of it, and I'm not going to even talk to her anymore.
Thanks - that's what I was thinking too (sm)
That at least I could try to show him a respectful way to behave, give him an example. Interesting that I am also a Scout leader :-)
I was thinking that too!!
I need to find a way to keep my arms out from under my pillow while I sleep too!!
Thanks - that's exactly what I was thinking (sm)
Thanks for understanding where I was coming from.
Exactly what I was thinking.
Don't cook, don't clean, don't wash...I guess if I didn't ever have to do anything, I may remember moving a pair of underwear to a specific different drawer 2 days before I was going to wear them. As I sit right now, when I open a drawer I'm lucky if I remember why I came in the room let alone what I opened the drawer for. Pay the lady and maybe she can buy her own soap and undies.
That's the one I was thinking of!
Rules of Engagement. That show is SO funny. Just crackes me up every time. I like the other shows on the Monday night lineup too but they have had a LOT iof repeats so I stopped recording them. Except my hubs knows if he sees Christine or Rules of Engagement he will record them for me.
Still thinking -
BBQ pork and chicken are good too. Something you can grill a few days ahead and then leave in the crock pot to finish the day you want it. I find pork roasts are relatively inexpensive and really go far without much shrinking.
I also make a mexican-type dish - my take on something Rachel Ray did. Boil (or use leftover) chicken breasts, shred, add 1 package of salsa mix (I have also used taco seasoning but like the salsa better), add some cilantro to this. I use small corn tortillas that I quickly fry in a little oil just to make them pliable. Add the chicken to the tortillas, roll up like a cigar, line them all in a 13x9 and top with Chihuhua cheese (not sure on the spelling but any mexican melting cheese will do). STick them under the broiler to melt the cheese. I serve with salsa, a salad and/or rice. Kids love them too!
Just know there are those that will be thinking
xx
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